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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello! Just wanted to send you a warm hug from afar.
I'm grateful you reached out for help. I hope my input can be useful to you.
I just want to say that when you become aware of your inappropriate behavior, you'll be guided by this self-awareness and try to make certain adjustments and changes through your own efforts. Maybe because you want to change so badly, you can't see the changes and progress you've already made.
It's also important to understand that inappropriate behavior patterns often continue to recur, even when we've become aware of them and are trying to change them. This is because our brains are wired to respond to certain needs in certain ways, and these patterns can be hard to break. For instance, the desire to relax, to be cared for, understood, listened to, affirmed, accepted, encouraged, comforted, and accompanied...
When you can be aware of what's driving your inappropriate behavior, you may find ways to respond to and satisfy this part of your inner needs in a more constructive way.
First, accept that you'll have the psychological need to want to play with your phone. Then, find better alternatives to respond to and satisfy that need. For example, try doing some appropriate exercise, developing new interests and passions, or spending time outdoors with classmates and friends to distract yourself from your phone.
I'm Lily, the little answering machine. I love you, and I'm here to help.
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I understand how you feel, it's tough when you see your grades slipping. It seems like finding a balance is key right now. Maybe setting small goals for studying and rewarding yourself with phone time could help. Also, remember that progress takes time, so be patient with yourself as you work on improving.
Feeling the pressure is hard, especially with grades dropping into the 60s. It might be useful to look into what triggers your distraction and address those points. Sometimes, just cutting back on phone usage isn't enough; finding an alternative activity that engages you might do wonders.
It's great that you want to study harder despite the struggle. Have you considered seeking support from teachers or forming a study group? Surrounding yourself with supportive people can make a huge difference. And hey, every step forward is a step in the right direction, even if it's a small one.
The pull of the phone is strong, but imagine how much lighter you'd feel without that pressure hanging over you. Perhaps try setting strict limits on phone use or using apps designed to block distracting sites during study times. With consistent effort, you can regain control and start seeing those grades improve.