14-year-old female junior high school student, I feel like there is no point to me living, what's wrong?

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

It's natural to feel frustrated, helpless, and powerless when the people you care about don't understand, accept, affirm, or support you.

It's natural to feel pain when facing misunderstanding and ridicule from those you care about. This is often because you identify with and internalize their attitude towards you. It can even lead to a sense of inadequacy. What are your thoughts on this?

In relationships, how others treat you is largely determined by how you treat yourself. From what you've said, it seems like this isn't the first time your parents, teachers, or classmates have treated you this way. So, why didn't you choose to bravely and sincerely express your true feelings and needs the first time they did this to you? That way, they would've clearly realized that their words and actions had deeply hurt you and that you couldn't be treated this way.

If you hide your feelings and needs, and let them think they can treat you this way without consequences, they might keep doing it.

Of course, if you want to be able to express your feelings and needs in a relationship, you have to accept yourself fully and believe that you deserve to be treated well. If you have too much inner rejection and lack confidence, it's not going to be easy.

Right?

It's important to try to learn to accept yourself better and build up your confidence. One way to do this is to make a list of your strengths, which will help you to see your weaknesses as well as your strengths.

Another way to build self-confidence and boost your sense of self-worth is to keep a gratitude journal. And don't be afraid to explore new interests and passions — you'll gain more control over your life when you do.

Of course, you can also give yourself the support and responses you want from within. For example, you can keep an emotional diary to record your emotions in a timely manner, to better perceive, experience, and feel your emotions, sort out your emotions, and explore the needs hidden behind them, so as to seek ways and means to better respond to and meet your inner needs.

I hope that sharing my experience can be helpful to you.

Come here, my child. Let me hug you, just as I hug my inner child.

Each of us is an individual, but human nature demands that we are social beings. We need someone to share our experiences with, the good and the bad.

From birth onwards, we need the security of physical care and psychological love, which largely comes from our parents and family. I did not get that, and I'm here to tell you that you don't need to either.

I know exactly how you feel. I was once as helpless as you are, feeling as if I had been forgotten and abandoned by the world. I was filled with thoughts like: I am no good, I don't deserve love, I don't deserve friends, I don't deserve to be happy, etc. So I shut myself off, hid in a thick shell, wore a mask to show to others, and licked my wounds alone in an empty corner.

A few years ago, I encountered and taught myself about psychology. I gained a deeper self-awareness and an enlightening understanding. I truly opened myself up and reconciled with myself and the world.

Parents, friends, teachers, classmates, and even ourselves are all just ordinary people. Everyone has their own shining points, as well as their own shortcomings and flaws. What we desire but cannot obtain may be precisely what they are unable to give. Even what we knew at the time may be what they are still ignorant of at this moment. What we see in them may not be good enough, but it may be the best they can do.

It is the most straightforward truth: it is better to rely on oneself than to rely on others.

You have your own thoughts at the moment, and although self-experience is not beautiful, we have no choice but to admit that from this moment on, you have taken the first step in your growth and transformation. You are like a bird breaking out of its shell, a butterfly breaking out of its cocoon, or even a phoenix rising from the ashes.

You must always remember to love yourself and hug yourself.

Do this simple but useful exercise: face the mirror, look directly into your eyes, call out your name, and say to yourself, "I'm sorry, I love you, you're the best!" Repeat a few times.

Do your daily exercises and keep at it. You will see results.

Here's the truth: the muscles that make you smile have memory. If you keep your mouth turned up, your mood will improve.

Immersive games, including those played on mobile devices, are an effective way to release emotions. Conquer unhappy things with your skills.

Bring the happy experiences you gained from the game to your daily study and life. The problems that arise are just small problems. Use your brain to come up with big solutions and solve them in minutes. Do it.

You are the luckiest person in the world because you are confident. You are the best, and you deserve to be excellent.