18-year-old female, why is my emotional reaction different from others? This is distressing to me.

Hello, girl. I see the confusion you are facing now, and I'm here to help.

You are experiencing emotional problems. Allow me to give you a warm hug again.

Your current problem is likely related to your family of origin.

You can recall when you were a child, you won a place in a school competition and told your mother when you got home.

What was her reaction?

She'll likely tell you not to be proud because there weren't many people in the competition, which is why you got a place.

If that's the case, you'll feel that you shouldn't show any happiness, even if there's a reason to be happy.

In second grade, I told my mother I almost got a perfect score on a math test.

My mother told me, "There's nothing to be proud of. If it weren't for me reviewing with you, you wouldn't have gotten such a good grade on this test."

I decided then and there that I would never tell her again, no matter how well I did on tests.

You need to change your mindset.

You deserve something beautiful.

Tell me, how are you going to change?

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I am confident that you will solve the problem you are facing soon.

These are the only things I can think of at the moment.

I am the answer, and I study hard every day. I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you, girl.

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Hello, I'm Phil.

You are right to be sad that you have encountered such things.

Your description indicates that your emotions are distinct from those of other individuals.

When someone is happy, they are happy and carefree.

When they encounter unhappy things, they worry, feel sad, and even cry.

However, this situation is not at all clear to you.

And when something happy happens, they are not as happy as other people.

But when encountering sad things,

You also remember all the annoying things from the past.

This bothers you, and you need to figure out what to do.

There are several reasons for this.

They are, for example, naturally very sensitive and react more strongly to these things.

For example, they have encountered something unpleasant like this before.

Such as having high psychological expectations or being clever.

The first one is the easier to understand. Some people are highly sensitive.

They are sensitive, even with a glass heart. They are highly sensitive.

These are the characteristics of such people, or they have such situations.

They are acutely sensitive to the emotions of those around them and to the emotions of certain things.

They are more likely to pick up on bad emotions and be affected by them.

This often results in a situation where others may not think much of it, but it is difficult for them to let go.

The second example is when you have had a bad experience in the past.

These are the annoying things you mentioned from your childhood that you can remember.

In some people's cases, these so-called annoying things

There are, in fact, specific rules at play here. They all relate to learning.

Mentioning interpersonal relationships will make people anxious and unhappy.

This is the second situation.

The third situation is distinct from the first two.

This means that the judgment and psychological prediction of an event are different.

Then you see the result.

Then, when you see the result,

Those who did not anticipate this result are in a different position.

You will not be as happy as you think.

Let's be frank: you know what to expect.

And for those things that are unexpected or not what we expected to happen,

Our emotional reactions will become more obvious.

The way to deal with it is always the same, regardless of the reason.

Treat it with a normal attitude. The past is already in the past.

It has no offensive power, apart from affecting our mood.

You can and should learn to relax and look to the future.

This is a good habit to have in the third situation.

I am certain that my answer will not make you feel bad or want to change.

My answer will help you.

The world and I love you.

Hello! You feel that your emotional reactions are different from those of other people, and that's great! You don't show great joy when you encounter happy events, but you will feel sad and distressed when you encounter sad events. So, you will feel distressed, is that right?

When you encounter something happy (such as being praised or achieving a small success), what are your thoughts? What is your emotional experience at that time?

I'd love to know what you think is the reason you didn't show your happiness!

For example, could it be that you're a reserved person and so different from others?

Or perhaps you weren't as happy growing up as you could have been because you were ignored when you were praised and your inner needs weren't met?

Or do you already know all about these things, feel that this is within your control, and not give you enough satisfaction?

I'd love to know which one you are!

#When sad things happen, I feel even more sad than other people. Even some annoying things that happened in elementary school I remember. #

Do you think you are a character who likes to focus on sad things? You care a lot about sad things, and that's okay! It is because some unhappy things that happened to you have left a shadow, so you easily associate them with things from your childhood.

I'm sure this incident from your childhood has also had an impact on you now. It's something you can think about.

If you want to know what to do, I've got some great suggestions for you!

1. The amazing opportunity to grow up with you as a child!

Maybe things from your childhood have a bigger impact on you than you realize. That's okay! You've grown up and are not the child you once were. You have the strength to face the sad things from the past.

2. Express your emotions in a timely manner!

Feeling sad and upset is also a process of self-healing. It's totally normal to have some negative emotions, but you can let them go! Try exercise, relaxation, meditation, etc.

3. Embrace your uniqueness! You are different from others, and that's a wonderful thing.

It's amazing how different growth environments, families, and heredity can affect a person's character! The different emotional reactions you and others have are precisely the differences in your personalities and ways of behaving. Don't worry about your differences. Just like Lin Mei and Xue Baoshi, their personalities are different from birth, so their ways of dealing with things will also be different!

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!