23-year-old guy, unable to trust others, even his girlfriend, paranoid?

Thank you for your inquiry.

From your question, I can discern the conflict and dilemma you are facing.

First and foremost, you want to trust your girlfriend. You say, "Even a girlfriend." You believe that trust is necessary for such an intimate relationship.

First and foremost, you want to trust your girlfriend. You say, "Even a girlfriend." You believe that trust is necessary for such an intimate relationship.

Therefore, you also consider it unreasonable to pay close attention to every minor detail your girlfriend does, yet you find yourself unable to refrain from doing so.

Secondly, you have faith that you can obtain assistance, even from numerous individuals on the website. You believe that there are professionals available, and there are people who are willing to help you. However, exposing yourself to others is "always suspicious, full of thoughts, and painful." Without a certain level of trust, it is challenging to proceed.

Additionally, you aspire to resume your typical routine and are concerned that your condition may be more serious. "Paranoia" is a pathological evaluation. On one hand, when we are unwell, it appears that certain extreme behaviors have a logical explanation. On the other hand, we have also deviated from our usual way of life and lost the ability to adapt. This may be both reasonable and concerning.

The aforementioned factors contribute to a state of conflict.

The aforementioned factors collectively represent your current state of conflict.

The objective is to address the issue of pain.

You have identified that your difficulty trusting others is a result of painful experiences, including encounters with unscrupulous individuals and prolonged exposure to a challenging social environment.

It appears that your sensitivity has transformed the distressing experiences conveyed in other people's narratives into your current perception of them as "unrealistic."

You are aware that your current state of being causes suffering, which is indicative of your sensitivity. This sensitivity stems from the trauma we have experienced, and the constant sensitivity to life experiences and feelings to resist trauma has resulted in secondary suffering.

This may appear to be a viable solution, but it ultimately leads to the opposite result.

The most effective approach to trauma is to confront it directly. Without further context, it is difficult to provide a specific recommendation.

However, this is not an issue. Given the sensitivity of the topic, it is advisable to seek professional assistance.

I believe this demonstrates your capacity to address this challenge.

It would be advisable to seek the assistance of a professional. It would also be beneficial to establish a relationship of trust with the other party.

I would like to assist you in gaining a different perspective on society.

I hope this information is helpful to you.

I hope this information is helpful.

Good morning, question asker.

I would like to commend you for your awareness, reflection, and courage in speaking up.

There is a saying in psychology that talking is healing. You have taken a courageous step by sharing your confusion. When you start seeking answers to your questions, this could be a promising first step towards change.

The questioner is 23 years old and has some difficulty trusting others. Even his girlfriend is sometimes suspected, which causes him some concern. Is that right?

The questioner suggests that their distrust may be influenced by the prevalence of unscrupulous characters in television dramas, or perhaps by their prolonged exposure to the complexities of social interaction.

If I may enquire further, could you kindly tell me when you first started having these thoughts? And what happened the first time you had these thoughts?

Could you please describe how you felt when you didn't trust others and your girlfriend?

Could I ask you to consider what might have happened to make you start trusting others and your girlfriend? And when you start trusting others, do you feel or change in any way?

Who might be the first to notice a change in you?

It seems that the questioner's distrust of others may be related to a lack of inner security, which could be influenced by the questioner's experiences. When we first enter this world, we are naturally very insecure. We rely on the protection of an "omnipotent" mother, but if this mother is unable to meet our immediate needs, this feeling can leave a lasting impression on our minds.

As a result, it is natural for us to desire care, love, and value. When these needs are not met, it can lead to discomfort. Have you found this to be true in your experience?

It might be the case that the poster has experienced betrayal before, but of course it is all based on the poster's feelings.

I'm not sure of the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I hope that some of these tips on relieving negative emotions might be helpful.

It might be helpful to consider that appropriate exercise, such as yoga, aerobic running, walking, etc., can relieve mental and physical tension.

It might be helpful to consider some alternative ways of expressing your feelings. For example, you could try talking to someone you trust about your experiences. It can be beneficial to find a way to transform your internal language into external language and release it all at once.

Mindfulness meditation can be a helpful practice for those looking to empty their minds, reflect on themselves, examine their inner selves, clear up their complicated thoughts, and calm their restless moods.

It might be helpful to seek the support of a professional counselor. You can also explore psychology on your own.

It is often expected of us to be emotionally stable adults. We may sometimes feel hesitant about expressing our negative emotions, and we have gradually learned to suppress and hide them.

It is thought that if emotional energy is suppressed and accumulated in the body, it may turn inward and attack the body's organs.

It is often said in traditional Chinese medicine that many physical ailments may have their roots in psychological factors.

It is thought that fear may have an adverse effect on the kidneys, sadness on the lungs, thinking on the spleen, joy on the heart, and anger on the liver.

It would be beneficial to give each emotion the attention it deserves, and it is also important to learn how to release emotional energy in a constructive way.

Give yourself a boost by reassuring that part of you that's feeling insecure.

First of all, you said you've met too many scumbags, which suggests there are a lot of possibilities or possibilities in your mind. You're only 23 years old, and you've already met too many scumbags, which is unusual according to common practice. But why are you so sure?

It might be related to your experiences, and you also mentioned that you've been around in society for a long time. But just because you've seen, heard, or even experienced a lot of things doesn't mean that it's the case for everyone.

Second, 23 is still young. When you're facing your girlfriend and your future life, it always makes sense to believe in and hope for something.

If you're full of doubts about love, family, or other things and you spend every day in suspicion and conflict, it's not good for you or anyone else. What do you think?

Third, you might have experienced being cheated on or something that made you stop trusting others, or something that made you feel unsafe and frightened. Take some time to think about what it was.

To build self-confidence, you have to be able to face this society with full trust. That's the only way you can work with others at work and in your studies to accomplish things together.

If you want to trust others, you've got to trust yourself first. You've got to understand your own strengths and weaknesses, and believe in your own way of thinking and doing things, before you can trust others.