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A 17-year-old girl often gets lost in her daydreams and can't help it. What should she do?

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A 17-year-old girl often gets lost in her daydreams and can't help it. What should she do? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I am a 17-year-old girl who often gets lost in my daydreams. To put it simply, if I like a boy, I'll imagine myself looking incredibly beautiful and having a perfect figure. Then, when I talk in front of him, he keeps focusing on me and gives me some feedback. During these daydreams, I'll also talk to myself and can't help but laugh out loud. This fantasy continues constantly, even when I'm in class, eating, or taking a bath. Just thinking about it excites me immensely. My friends say I'm often absent-minded, and I'm quite troubled by it myself. I want to change this situation and return to reality. I've been trying to control myself and not let my imagination run wild, but sometimes I just can't help it. What should I do?

Levi Levi A total of 519 people have been helped

Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

You may feel inferior, lacking in confidence, and desiring acceptance, affirmation, and a sense of belonging.

We all need a little fantasy to help us avoid feeling powerless in the real world. What do you think?

So, it's okay to have a little fantasy. As long as it doesn't get in the way of your studies or life, there's no problem. But if it's starting to affect your studies or life, you might need to make some changes.

It's actually pretty common for teenagers to fantasize. This is because they're trying to figure out who they are and match their ideal self with their real self.

If these two don't align, there'll be a big gap between the ideal self and the real self. This will make the individual feel inferior, which will affect their development.

The idea is that the ideal self and the real self are in sync. In other words, you have a good grasp on who you are and what you're capable of. A little bit of narcissism can help you move past any internal doubts and become the best version of yourself.

So, you're using fantasy to avoid facing the reality of your less-than-perfect self and to avoid being rejected and disliked by your less-than-perfect self. In other words, the most important thing for you is to try to accept your true self.

It's important to recognize your own shortcomings and deficiencies, as well as your strengths and advantages.

I'm the little ear of the Q&A Pavilion, Lily World, and I love you.

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Omar Davis A well - read and well - learned person can engage in diverse conversations.

I understand how you feel, and it's great that you're trying to stay focused. Maybe finding a hobby or activity that really engages you could help channel all that creative energy into something tangible.

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Jordy Davis Knowledge from different domains combines to create a more complete world - view.

It sounds like you have such a vivid imagination! Have you thought about writing down these fantasies? Turning them into stories might be a fun way to keep your mind active without drifting off during important times.

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Hieronymus Davis Time is a tapestry, and we are the weavers of our own stories.

Daydreaming can be hard to control, but setting small goals for yourself could help. Try focusing on the present moment for just a little bit longer each day. It might make a difference over time.

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Romero Davis To be honest is to respect both yourself and others.

Your ability to imagine things so vividly is a gift. Perhaps exploring mindfulness exercises or meditation could assist in managing those moments when you want to be more present and less in your dreams.

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Bella Davis Forgiveness is a way to break the cycle of violence and hatred and replace it with love.

It's okay to daydream sometimes; everyone does it. But if it's affecting your daily life, talking to a counselor might give you some strategies to balance your rich inner world with the outside one.

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