A 22-year-old female feels tired and restless both in the morning and before bedtime every day. What should she do?

Hello, question asker. I'm happy to discuss procrastination with you.

From the questioner's description, it seems that their procrastination may have caused them to experience negative emotions. It's possible that they're feeling quite anxious in this situation. When faced with a task, even though they may want to complete it, they might find it challenging to muster the motivation to deal with it right away. They may wait until the last minute to try to rush through it, and even then, they may not be able to finish it. This can lead to feelings of exhaustion.

Procrastination can be a challenging experience. It may be uncomfortable for some. I am encouraged to see the questioner expressing a willingness to change his procrastination behavior. This is a positive step that deserves recognition.

Perhaps we could begin by defining procrastination and exploring its root causes.

Could I ask why you procrastinate? And what might help you to improve your procrastination?

I will endeavor to provide responses to each of these questions in the following sections.

Procrastination can be defined as a failure of self-regulation, which is a behavior in which one may postpone doing something they need to do, even when they anticipate potential negative consequences.

It is often thought that procrastination is caused by laziness, making excuses, or a lack of time management skills. However, research suggests that procrastination may be a complex psychological issue that stems from fear, fear of difficulty, and fear of consequences.

It could be said that procrastination is more a personal factor, such as the pursuit of perfection, lack of self-confidence, and unstable external environmental factors such as external temptations and noise.

Once the root causes and factors are understood, efforts can be focused on improving procrastination.

It may be helpful to set goals and then break them down into smaller ones.

It may be helpful to consider that, in comparison to larger goals, smaller goals are often more attainable. Achieving success with smaller goals can contribute to an increase in confidence and motivation.

For instance, if you find yourself thinking, "Someone has passed me," "Someone has passed me again," and "Do I want to keep running when there are so many people in front of me? I might as well stop," while running a marathon, it could indicate that your procrastination is rearing its head. Extended periods of running can often feel quite challenging. If you tend to view the finish line as your destination, you may find yourself feeling increasingly anxious and impatient because you cannot see the finish line. On the other hand, if you take the time to observe the terrain features before running a marathon and divide the finish line into several sub-points as smaller goals within your larger goal, you may find that the finish line is actually not very far away.

It may be helpful to consider that the larger the goal, the more apparent procrastination can become.

It may be helpful to consider breaking down the task and deciding what to do in each time period when the questioner wants to complete a task. Instead of trying to complete everything at once, it might be beneficial to divide the time period for completion. This could make it easier to complete the tasks and less likely to avoid them.

It might be helpful to consider some positive mental suggestions.

People with procrastination may find it challenging to complete tasks in a timely manner. It might be helpful to give yourself some psychological hints to help you stay motivated. For instance, you could say, "If I finish this task first, I will reward myself with two hours of gaming," or "If I get this done, I can have a big meal." These are just suggestions, but they could help you stay on track.

It might be worth noting that the same two things, in reverse order, could have a different effect.

It might be helpful to concentrate.

It might also be helpful to consider that procrastinators often lack focus. They can be easily distracted when doing something and are susceptible to emotional fluctuations. This can result in them putting aside what they are doing to do something else. If possible, it might be beneficial for the question asker to create a dedicated environment for completing homework. For example, when in the library, they can focus solely on homework and temporarily turn off their phone or give it to someone else to keep for them. By establishing a stable environment for learning and doing things, it may help to ensure the question asker's attention is more focused.

It is also helpful to practise concentration. One way to do this is to start by reading a book and focusing your attention on it. You could try starting with 15 minutes, then half an hour, then 45 minutes, and finally an hour. Repeat this cycle, and put aside all your distracting thoughts. Persistence is an important factor in this method.

There is another way to approach this. When you are concentrating on your work and suddenly you feel a shift in your emotions, and you don't want to do it anymore, then you have the option to simply acknowledge your feelings (you can allow yourself to feel angry, it will pass anyway, I'd better get back to work) or you can write down the things you want to do to take a break from your work and enjoy them, and then you can do them one by one after you finish your work.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider changing your attitude.

Some have suggested that procrastination may be considered a syndrome, but the term "syndrome" can often evoke a negative connotation. It's clear that procrastination has had an impact on many of our lives. While not everyone may be fully aware of it, procrastination can often lead to unnecessary challenges. To put it more colloquially, it's akin to the reason why someone who is focused on thinking while walking does not fall over.

Procrastination can also be a subconscious indication that there is a great deal to be done, such as "there is still time, take your time," "it doesn't matter if you do well, you won't be evaluated," or "everyone does it that way, why bother?" This kind of self-talk can be unhelpful and negative. When the subconscious mind gives us these messages, it may be helpful to consider a different approach.

If the questioner is open to making changes, there are likely more solutions than problems. By embracing a willingness to change, the questioner has taken an important first step. The future of overcoming procrastination is not far away.

I hope my answer is helpful.

Hello there!

It's so hard when you feel tired and irritable every day, both when you wake up and before you go to bed. What can you do to feel better?

It's so important to figure out what's causing you to feel tired and irritable.

Has this only started happening in the past month? Before that, the host's energy and mood were really good, right?

I'm really curious to know what caused the decline in energy and the bad mood.

I'm so sorry to hear you've been feeling this way. I'm really hoping you can tell me what happened a month ago.

As the original poster said,

When you wake up and think about all the tasks you have to do, it can be really overwhelming, right? And then at night, when you're trying to wind down, you find yourself thinking about your day and feeling tired. Sometimes you even want to play with your phone a little longer and stay up late.

I get the feeling that this task has been a bit of a challenge for you.

Hey there! I'm just wondering, what is this task?

It's hard to tell if you're 22 and still studying or working!

If it's a learning task, like a goal for graduation exams or postgraduate exams, then it should be pretty easy for the host to adjust because there's more of an element of autonomy.

If it's work-related or a task assigned by the company when you first started, it can be tough for a newcomer to adapt. But don't worry! It's something that needs to be done.

The host mentioned that he has procrastination disorder. Could it be that this task isn't wanted to be completed because of habitual procrastination, or is it too daunting a task that they are unwilling to take action?

If you're feeling overwhelmed by your workload or the goals you've set for yourself, it's okay to take a step back and set smaller, more achievable goals. Just focus on studying and don't worry about the results — as long as you're doing your best and staying positive, that's all that matters!

If it's a work task, don't worry! You can not only improve your own work, but you can also break the task down into small goals and complete them step by step.

It's always a good idea to ask for help when you need it! Your seniors are there for you, so don't be afraid to reach out.

The above two points are related to fatigue and irritation caused by practical factors, which we can all relate to!

When it comes to procrastination, it's often down to psychological factors. There are so many reasons why we put things off!

1. You might not be that into it.

2. Enjoyment and Habitual Procrastination

3. Being constantly rushed and forced to complete tasks. We've all been there!

4. The task is just a little too much for you right now.

5. Not knowing your own worth:

6. Other deeper psychological problems. We all have them!

You can change procrastination caused by the above reasons in the following ways:

1. If it's something you're interested in, you can always look for new things you can discover about it.

2. If you find yourself being lazy and habitually procrastinating, it might be helpful to think about ways you can increase your sense of responsibility.

3. If you often feel urged on but have some resistance in your heart, it can really help to be clear about who the task is for and what you get out of it.

4. If the task is a bit too much for you, don't worry! You can work on increasing your ability and also reduce your anxiety.

5. If you're struggling to find your sense of worth, it's time to learn how to affirm yourself. Every little bit of progress, no matter how small, is worthwhile and will make a difference.

6. If it's caused by early psychological problems and a stressful event later activates the previous trauma, it's a good idea to seek professional psychological help.

If you want to be full of energy, try going to bed early and avoiding staying up late.

Just a friendly heads-up: Checking your phone every day can really mess with your sleep.

When it's time to rest, it's really important to put everything else to one side. Don't worry about what you did today or what tasks you still have to complete. Rest time is all about you, and tasks are related to work or study, which are related to you but only at a certain time. Learn to separate time and tasks.

I really hope my answer can help you!

Hi, I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor. Wishing you all the best!

Dear questioner, I see you're up to something. Let me give you a gentle hug first. From your description, it's clear you don't want to do the challenging tasks every day when you get up. Even if the way to relax is to brush your phone and stay up late to relieve anxiety, you still feel very tired at the end of the day. When you experience this kind of procrastination, you seem to be afraid that time will just pass by, and you want to become diligent and energetic, right?

I am confident that my answer will be of some help to you.

First, you need to identify the real reason why you are acting in such a tired way.

Think about it. Is it work, something specific, or a remark that has hit home and made you irritable?

You start to protect yourself, so you exhibit externalizing behaviors such as avoidance and procrastination.

Identify the root cause of your fatigue and address it directly. Share your thoughts with others, not just in your mind but out loud. Spend time with friends and kind people instead of relaxing with electronic products. Talking to others can relieve pressure and help you feel better.

Second, remind yourself that tiredness is only temporary and that you can and will get through this.

You are allowed this period of adjustment. Don't blame or worry too much. Everything will disappear as your state of mind improves.

When you let your mind wander, you can calm down and get a clear perspective on yourself. You will know what you want and what you don't want.

You need to do three things: work hard, take stock of your skills and talents, and regain the courage to face the pressures of life.

Read Sheryl Sandberg's "Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy." It will motivate you and fill you with strength.

The best way to deal with procrastination is to break down your goals into smaller, more manageable ones.

If the overall goal is difficult to achieve, divide it into smaller goals and systematically arrange the steps to achieve each one.

I will read it every day and put it by the bed. I will glance at it and flip through a few pages, rather than closing it and putting it in the bookcase to read when I feel like it.

From another perspective, doing sports is like a fresh start. First, you turn on the switch in your body, which will bring you a sense of satisfaction. It will help you establish a positive mental state and a confident image.

My name is Yixin [Xiaona Xinxiang].

The world and the one I love. We will face the challenges of life together!

Hello there!

When you make a clear plan and start challenging your goals and yourself, you might find that the difficulty actually lies not in accomplishing things per se, but in the unstable emotions that come with it. Our subconscious is more aware of our inner thoughts and dilemmas than we are, so it can be tricky to break out of a fixed pattern of coping with problems. But don't worry! You can do it. First, you just need to clear your emotional cycle.

When we first set a goal, we have a rough idea of what it is and where it's going. But as we work towards it, we might feel a bit distracted by things going on around us. Our minds might even start to think, "I want to escape"! This is totally normal. But if we give up on the goal and return to a state of physical and mental freedom, we might feel a bit uneasy and empty inside. This is because when we lose sight of a goal for a long time, we enter a stage of "spiritual emptiness." This means our cognitive level doesn't improve and our brain doesn't get new development. As a result, our naturally secreted emotions might also decrease. For example, happy emotions brought on by a challenge. But when we adjust our emotions and re-enter the concentration of accomplishing a task, we can gain new insights. This will help our brain secrete dopamine, which will increase happy emotions and reduce negative stress.

It's totally normal to be a bit slow to realize things and to not always be aware of our true inner needs. We're all human! Sometimes, our goals can get a bit lost in the shuffle, especially when we're checking our phones, following the latest news, or paying attention to Weibo. These distractions can make it tough to stay focused on what we really want and to take action to satisfy our inner desires.

If you want to change the situation but find it hard to concentrate on your goals, don't worry! You can start by learning to control your body and mind. This can be as simple as clearing your mind and body. This will help you to focus more effectively and let go of any pent-up emotions during the task completion stage.

[Set goals and divide them into specific objectives]

Picture this: It's morning, and you're setting your alarm. Some folks just set one or two alarms, while others set one every half hour. There's no right or wrong way to do this. Some people just have better control over their bodies and are able to wake up early on their own. But for those of us who need a little extra help, it's okay! We just need to take that first step and start building a good habit. So, don't be too hard on yourself. We all need a little encouragement sometimes.

Have you ever thought about setting goals like you would an alarm clock? It's a great way to stay on track! We all need to set reasonable and breakable goals for ourselves. That means, before we feel tired, we should work hard to achieve the small goals within a certain period of time. When we achieve the first small goal through further efforts, it's a great feeling! It encourages us and raises our self-confidence, which helps us reach the next goal. This also helps us avoid spinning in place and having unstable emotions, so we can feel the joy of accomplishing things!

[One day, treat yourself to some fun and relaxation!]

It's so important to learn and improve, and to soak up new knowledge. But first, we need to give our minds space to accommodate it. Before we even start doing things, our minds don't care too much about our internal goals. They're more interested in information that makes them feel excited, relaxed, and happy. That's also why we can't seem to put our mobile phones down! There's just so much inside them that draws our attention. When we try to suppress it and force our attention elsewhere, it's like an "invisible elephant" in the room. Our minds always think of the elephant, so we end up feeling tired at the end of the day. We just can't read ourselves and don't know how to get along with ourselves. But we can! The mind and body have their own needs, and they both want to be relaxed.

Take some time for yourself! Set a time and make a list of the things you want to focus on and the information you're interested in during that time. Relax your body and mind. After relaxing, randomly shift to the things that need to be broken through. You've already relaxed enough, and your body and mind are ready to move on to something new. When you get started, you'll feel more relaxed and enter the state more easily!

[When you encounter a bottleneck, meditate for 5 to 15 minutes]

It's so important to remember that the more rigid the plan, the higher the probability of encountering a bit of a hiccup along the way. Our thinking has a natural tendency to bounce back, so trying to control it can sometimes feel like it's tying us up in knots! This can lead to feelings of interference, anxiety, irritability and even depression. The best thing you can do is to learn to briefly "stop" and do a 5- to 15-minute meditation. This is a great way to empty your mind, stop paying attention to all the thoughts racing through your head and just observe them without analyzing right or wrong. This state of acceptance allows you to withdraw from that tight thinking mode, make any necessary adjustments and then re-enter work after the meditation is complete. Your emotions will have been soothed, and you'll be ready to get things done in a friendly manner, generating positive energy to break through existing bottlenecks!

Your body is a wonderful thing. It's like a huge piece of mechanical engineering! It's so important to learn to recognize and understand it, and to know what to do to keep it running at its best. And don't forget to relax and get enough rest, so you can develop more of your potential!

Take your time, my friend.

Come on, you can do it! Wishing you all the best!

When there is a significant discrepancy between our aspirations and the reality of our circumstances, and we are uncertain about how to navigate this gap, it can lead to feelings of helplessness and a sense of being unable to make a difference.

If you find yourself feeling tired and irritable every morning and every night for a month, you might find the following tips helpful in coping with the situation and finding ways to relieve the symptoms:

It might be helpful to go to the hospital for a check-up to rule out the influence of physical and mental illnesses.

It is possible that when our body feels tired, it is not necessarily due to external pressures affecting us as individuals. There may be other factors at play, such as physical lesions or other changes in psychological state, including but not limited to abnormal hormone secretion in the brain, poor transmission of serotonin and dopamine, etc.

If you are experiencing a lack of joy in life, fatigue, and irritability, and these symptoms are not attributable to external factors such as medication, it may be beneficial to seek the guidance of a psychiatric hospital or the psychiatry/psychological department of a highly regarded medical facility to rule out potential underlying conditions such as depression.

It might be helpful to consider whether you have any interest in life.

It might be helpful to consider whether there has been a change in appetite.

If you find yourself sleeping more or not being able to sleep as much as you usually do, it might be helpful to consider the following suggestions.

If you find it difficult to concentrate on everyday activities such as reading the newspaper or watching TV, it might be helpful to speak to a professional.

It might be helpful to consider whether you are experiencing any of the following: 1. Constant negative and pessimistic thoughts 2. Withdrawal and isolation

It might be helpful to consider whether low self-esteem and hopelessness could be contributing factors.

It might be helpful to consider whether you have been experiencing any thoughts of suicide or wanting to harm yourself.

It might be helpful to examine your life events to see if there are any significant stressors that could be affecting you.

If all the above factors are ruled out, it may be the case that the current situation is caused by an imbalance of cortisol in the body.

It is thought that when we are stressed, it triggers the release of cortisol. It seems that the greater the stress, the more cortisol is released.

It is thought that this substance may also affect our physical health and increase fatigue.

If high stress levels persist for an extended period without proper regulation and improvement, when the individual leaves the stressful environment, the body may become accustomed to this sense of preparedness. Prolonged fatigue can contribute to elevated cortisol levels, a reduction in hippocampal volume, and potentially even memory loss, creating a challenging cycle.

It would be beneficial to identify the current stressful events that may cause fatigue and irritability as a first step in neutralizing the harm caused by cortisol. One comment mentioned that it might be helpful to review the day when you feel tired before going to bed at night.

It would be beneficial to identify the current stressful events that may cause fatigue and irritability as a first step in neutralizing the harm caused by cortisol. As mentioned in the message, it might be helpful to review your day and assess your feelings of fatigue before going to bed at night.

You may then wish to consider which work and life events have affected your state of mind during the day.

It may be helpful to consider what adjustments you could make to these stressful events from a practical perspective.

As an example,

1. Perhaps you could consider negotiating with your supervisor about the arrangement of your work content.

2. You might consider using your annual leave to give yourself a break.

3. It might be helpful to talk to someone close and trustworthy...

On the other hand, you might like to consider making some conscious adjustments to your daily routine and schedule.

As an example,

1. Moderate exercise: It is recommended to arrange for no more than one hour of exercise every day. It may be beneficial to find a sense of happiness through the secretion of large amounts of endorphins and a small amount of dopamine, while also counteracting mental fatigue through physical fatigue.

2. It may be helpful to consider consuming a diet high in protein and carbohydrates, reducing coffee intake, supplementing vitamin C, and reducing the physiological secretion of cortisol through diet.

3. It may be helpful to try going to bed and getting up at relatively fixed times. It might also be beneficial to ensure that the physical environment is dark before going to bed, and to use the bed only as a sleeping carrier, not for carrying out functions such as playing with the phone or chatting.

I am not probing human nature, but rather seeking to understand the human heart through the lens of a psychologist. I wish you well.

Greetings!

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is the body's greatest treasure.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a profound sense of exhaustion, irritability, and discomfort, as well as a strong desire for change.

The subject reports experiencing feelings of fatigue and irritability upon waking and prior to retiring for the night. Without delving into the specifics, three recommendations are offered for consideration:

First, it would be beneficial to consider the events that have transpired over the past month or so that have led to feelings of fatigue and irritability.

Given that you are a 22-year-old female, that the elderly gentleman has exhibited these behaviours for the past month, and that you experience fatigue upon waking and contemplating your tasks, it is imperative that you identify the underlying causes.

The question thus arises as to whether the task in question is perceived as being overly challenging, beyond one's capabilities, and thus inducing feelings of stress, fatigue, and a desire to avoid it. Alternatively, it may be that the individual holds the standard of "perfection" for the task to be completed, with the belief that if one is going to undertake it, one should do so to the best of one's abilities. However, the individual may feel unprepared and perceive the pursuit of perfection as being difficult to achieve, leading to a reluctance to commence the task. The longer the task remains unstarted, the greater the internal frustration may become. It is, however, possible that the underlying reasons for this inability to take action may be different. In summary, it is essential to identify the underlying reasons for the difficulty in taking action when faced with a task that requires completion.

It is only when the underlying cause is identified that a solution can be implemented.

Secondly, it is recommended that a rational consideration of the aforementioned reasons be undertaken.

A rational perspective enables a more nuanced understanding of oneself and one's circumstances.

To rationalize, one must perform the following three tasks:

It is imperative to comprehend that the task can only be accomplished through action.

In other words, it is essential to comprehend that tasks necessitate incremental completion through action, despite the potential for stress.

Secondly, it is important to understand that completion is of greater consequence than perfection.

It is possible that you are employing the concept of perfection as a means of evaluating the task at hand. At this juncture, it is essential to recognize that the attainment of completion holds greater significance than the pursuit of perfection. This realignment of perspective may contribute to a sense of ease in your emotional state, thereby providing the necessary motivation to take action.

Thirdly, it is important to recognise that the status quo can be altered if one is willing to make the necessary changes.

Once action is initiated, the individual will become the energetic and diligent person they aspire to be. However, there is a prerequisite to this, which is a genuine desire for change. It can be reasonably assumed that the stronger the desire for change, the more likely it is that change will occur.

When viewed through this rational lens, the various negative emotions may be mitigated to some extent.

It is recommended that you focus on yourself and consider what you can do to improve your emotional state.

Upon rational consideration of the aforementioned reasons, an individual may also ascertain the appropriate course of action. At this juncture, it is imperative to prioritize self-care and strive for excellence in one's endeavors.

One strategy is to employ the "small steps principle," which entails dividing the task into smaller subtasks. Rather than focusing on the final outcome, it is more beneficial to concentrate on the process and observe the results. This approach is likely to diminish resistance to procrastination because completing smaller tasks is relatively straightforward. Gradually, after each small task is accomplished, one's sense of self-efficacy is likely to be enhanced, which in turn makes it more appealing to take action. Consequently, one is more likely to become a diligent individual.

Additionally, one can encourage oneself to commence a task, even in the face of perfectionism, by asserting that the importance of completion outweighs the pursuit of perfection. This assertion may prove motivating in initiating action. Furthermore, the act of initiating action may also lead to an improvement in one's emotional state.

One may also choose to limit their phone usage by setting aside the device and engaging in alternative activities, such as reading. Given that reading can facilitate sleep, this may help to reduce the likelihood of staying up late. Over time, this should lead to an improvement in energy levels and a sense of well-being.

Additionally, one can cultivate a sense of personal accountability, contemplating the potential consequences of failing to complete a task. These consequences may include disciplinary action, criticism, or even negative perceptions from others. After considering these possibilities, one may be motivated to take action, thereby improving the current situation.

Once action is initiated, the various negative emotions that have been experienced will be resolved at a gradual pace. This is because action can be considered the antithesis of the negative emotions that have been experienced.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to you. Should you wish to engage in further communication, you are invited to click on the "Find a Coach" link at the foot of this page, which will enable you to contact me directly.

It's been like this for the past month. When I wake up and think about the tasks I have to complete, I feel tired and want to escape.

If you've been feeling this way for a month, it's time to take a step back and assess the situation.

If you're in a negative emotional state for a long time, you're bound to experience a lot of stress and anxiety.

And stress and anxiety can also lead to physical and mental symptoms.

For instance, you might have no appetite, feel like your digestive system isn't working properly after eating, experience chronic pain in certain areas of your body, develop mouth sores, have a decline in sleep quality, become irritable, or experience increased hair loss.

And what do stress and anxiety tell us?

How we handle stress and anxiety can show whether we have the skills and resources to tackle problems when we're under pressure. This can make it difficult to achieve or solve tasks.

So you can look at these two aspects from your own perspective.

What about your tasks is making you feel so tired? Are they individual tasks or team tasks?

Are you trying to avoid something or someone?

Is it the pressure of the task itself, or is it the pressure of having to deal with other factors brought about by the task?

The solutions to these situations vary.

You can only figure out if you need to brush up on your skills by taking a good look at the problem. You can build your abilities through learning and practice.

If you improve your abilities and can solve the problems you're facing, you'll naturally feel less fatigue and less inclined to escape. Moderate stress can actually help you grow.

If it's a lack of resources, it depends on how you get them and who you ask for help. This still involves certain abilities. For example, there are problems with interpersonal communication, problems with establishing contacts, and so on.

If you're feeling stressed because you lack certain abilities, you can relieve that stress by improving and enhancing your abilities.

When you're winding down at night, if you're looking back on your day and feeling tired, you might find yourself wanting to play with your phone a little longer or stay up late.

If you can't handle it, but you have to face it, you'll feel tired and want to escape.

So this sense of fatigue may come from two sources: frustration and exhaustion from doing a lot of work with little to show for it, and psychological fatigue caused by a lack of internal motivation, fear of continued failure, and worry and anxiety.

If you watch a little TV or play with your phone, it can be a good way to unwind and relieve brain fatigue.

However, these methods only work in the short term. The longer you use them, the more uneasy and panicky you'll feel. You'll think time is being wasted, that you're not growing, and that the problem is still there.

It's time to break the habit of staying up late.

It's easy to see why you'd want to stay up late. After a long day, it's rare to have time to relax. So when you do, you hope it'll last longer. You don't want to go to sleep because you're afraid of facing the day again when you wake up. It's natural to be afraid of the next day.

But the trouble caused by staying up late may be much worse than playing with your phone, and the effects are immediate.

Staying up late affects sleep quality. If you don't sleep well, you're likely to have a bad temper, get angry, feel impatient, irritable, slow thinking, lack concentration, get headaches, and so on. These problems will probably show up the next day when you haven't slept well, and they'll make it even more difficult to cope with the tasks you're worried about.

It also tends to create a negative cycle: the more you avoid it, the more worried you become, the less sleep you get, the less able you are to think straight, the more mistakes you make, and the more you want to avoid things.

I'm aiming to become the energetic and diligent person I want to be, rather than the procrastinator I am now.

Actually, the way you procrastinate now isn't really procrastination. It could be seen as a self-regulatory mechanism or a psychological defense mechanism.

It's just that your current approach to self-regulation isn't the most effective.

If you want to be more energetic, focus on two key areas.

First, make sure you're getting a good night's sleep.

The ability to sleep well despite stress is pretty amazing. It's something you need to learn and practice.

The second thing you can do is make sure you're regulating your own stress levels. Switch from playing with your phone to sports and fitness.

You might be wondering, "I'm already so tired, how can I find the energy and motivation to exercise?"

First, get the most important task done. Then, when you feel better from getting enough sleep, add exercise to your routine.

You don't need to push yourself to the limit, but any exercise that lasts about 30 minutes and makes you break a little sweat can help you feel better mentally and sleep better. If you get into a good routine before exercising and going to bed, you'll have the energy and strength to handle whatever comes your way.

Another benefit of exercise is that it can help your brain think more actively.

If you have enough energy and strength, and your brain is working well, you'll be able to be diligent.

If you have enough energy and strength, and a more active mind, you'll learn new things and gain new skills more quickly. As we mentioned earlier, stress and anxiety often come from feeling like we can't do something. If you keep improving your abilities, your stress and anxiety will naturally gradually diminish.

You're 22, and you've only just started your journey in the real world. It's normal to feel the pressure and face challenges along the way. If you're open to growth and change, you can view these as chances to develop your skills.

Don't worry about what other people think of you right now. You'll get the chance to show off your talents when the time is right.

And what you need to focus on is your ability to handle stressful challenges and what you can achieve in the face of them.

I'm Bo Sir.

I once watched an amazing video about irony and introspection. There was this incredible employee who was always the first to arrive at work and the last to leave. She was always the first to turn in her work reports and loved nothing more than meetings. She took criticism from her boss as a personal honor.

Even the dark circles and blemishes on her face were her medals. In the end, such a person was eventually fired by her boss because she was so hardworking that she didn't seem like a normal person. We all have our own emotions and desires, and our own lifestyles—and that's a good thing!

A 22-year-old woman feels tired both when she wakes up and before she goes to bed.

● You feel very excited about the idea of getting things done!

● Very tired and ready to escape! Review tiredness before going to bed.

?️?️?️?️Tired

?️?️?️?️ Irritable

You can be tired, you can stay up late, you can play with your phone, you can be a part of the "culture of despair," but there must be a limit that can keep you within an acceptable range. And you can absolutely do this!

☮️☮️☮️☮️It's time to take a good, hard look at your lifestyle and see how you're doing!

❎❎❎❎ Do you go to bed before 11 pm every night?

❎❎❎❎ Do you exercise three times a week?

It's time to make our lives more regular! This is the key to becoming more stable and playing with our phones without worry. If we can make sure our phone habits are not excessive and don't continue, we'll be on the fast track to a more stable, worry-free future!

But if you do, you might find that you end up overdoing it and not being able to cope. And if playing with your phone is the only fun you have, then it is inevitable that your life will become virtualized and your eyes will strain.

So, you absolutely must regularly let yourself look out into the real world and gain all the life and inspiration you could possibly want from it! You can stay full of energy and become as diligent as you like.

But here's the exciting part: you get to start a new bedtime routine! You'll no longer be able to delay going to bed, and you'll have to turn your phone off and on with a timer. You'll even get to learn how to rest your phone! You definitely need to rest too.

If you can, it's a great idea to get some psychological counseling. It'll help you figure out the best way to move forward. Or, if you're not interested in counseling, you can talk to a heart exploration coach or a psychological listener. They can help you map out your future plans and make them a reality! I'm rooting for you!

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Hello, It's like seeing you in person when I read your post.

After reading your post, I can see you're feeling anxious and irritated about the status quo. You want to make changes, but it seems like you're stuck in the same pattern and unable to move forward. Let's discuss your current situation:

When you wake up and think about all the tasks you have to do, it makes you feel tired and like you want to escape.

Take a moment before bed to reflect on your day. If you're feeling tired, try to identify what you've done that day that you feel good about.

If you want to change your procrastination habits and become more diligent and energetic,

You're probably just starting out in your career, whether or not you've finished university. I suspect you're probably still single.

These are the best years of your life, when you have plenty of time to take control and do what you want. You should be the envy of many people at your age and in your situation.

But why has life become so exhausting and seemingly meaningless?

1. Take a look at your daily routine and how long you sleep and exercise each day. What do you think you've done during the day that you consider meaningful?

2. Is there anything about your work that you find annoying? Is it boring or tedious?

3. Do you have your own interests? How much time do you spend on your hobbies each day?

4. Do you have close girlfriends and confidants? How often do you catch up with friends about work and life?

5. Do you have any plans for your life in the next three to five years? What is the one thing you most want to achieve in the next three years?

If you've answered the above questions, I suggest you set yourself short-term and long-term goals. Apart from work, spend an hour every day focusing on what you're interested in or working towards. Spend some time each week going out to meet friends and see a different side to life. You should be excited about life when you're young, and life is so beautiful that you should enjoy it.

Good morning, Thank you for reaching out. I am happy to discuss this with you further.

Upon waking, I immediately feel inclined to avoid the tasks at hand.

I am immediately fatigued upon waking.

At night, I find myself engaged in activities on my mobile phone that extend beyond the recommended time frame.

The situation has persisted for a month.

I believe you may be experiencing a sense of dissatisfaction with your current lifestyle. Have you considered the underlying reasons for this?

Was there a sudden increase in pressure, or did I encounter an unexpected challenge?

For a period of several months, I was in a similar situation. To put it mildly, I was operating with a last-minute approach. My schedule involved going to bed at 3 or 4 a.m. and not getting sufficient rest during the day, which had an impact on my physical fitness.

I was unable to implement the effective strategies I had devised for myself, and I even felt as though my identity was at risk.

I now recognize the value of time and youth, and am committed to making the most of them. I avoid wasting my energy on unproductive thoughts and actions.

It is recommended that you go for a few laps to release your worries and stress. It would also be beneficial to adjust your state of mind.

It is recommended that you go to bed early at night to ensure that you have sufficient energy during the day. Gradually adjust your bedtime to be half an hour or an hour earlier than today's time.

The key to a successful day is to start it off on the right foot. Begin your morning with some calming music and take the time to regulate your emotions.

Set yourself a small, achievable plan with a big, challenging goal. Hard work is addictive, especially when you taste the sweetness.

It is important to love yourself, embrace this wonderful age, and ensure you are not placing undue pressure on yourself.

If you are experiencing feelings of loneliness or confusion, I would encourage you to read some classic novels. You will find the plots engaging and the characters inspiring. Additionally, the novels offer valuable insights and guidance.

I extend my best wishes to the inquirer for a happy life and a wonderful realization of self in this beautiful age. 161 Mental Health Counseling & Mutual Aid Association, Global Community & You >> https://m.xinli001.com/qa

Hello, question asker!

"Every morning I wake up tired and irritable, and I feel the same way before going to bed. This is so unlike the person I want to be. What should I do?" Let's sort this out together.

Your morning state is directly related to your bedtime and sleep quality. Staying up late or worrying about unfinished tasks will undoubtedly affect your next-day state.

Don't let your mood get the better of you. You're not good at everything, but you're good at plenty of things.

This vicious cycle between sleep and work efficiency must be broken. Follow these suggestions to move from a vicious cycle to a virtuous one.

If you want to get up early, you have to go to bed early.

We all know this, but forming the habit is difficult. Many people don't go to bed at 12 midnight, indulging in self-entertainment, such as surfing the Internet for short videos, playing games, etc.

It is a simple fact that at 11 pm, all of our body's organs are running at low capacity. They need time to rest and recover, but we artificially keep them working overtime, which will affect their physiological functions over time. The main manifestation is a sub-health state of low energy and fatigue.

You can go to bed on time before 11 o'clock. It's simple: go to bed on time, do nothing after going to bed, leave the mobile phone alone somewhere else, turn off the lights, close your eyes and lie in bed.

Do a body scan relaxation exercise in your imagination. Relax every part of your body from head to toe and surrender yourself safely to the bed. Or do deep abdominal breathing. Inhale for 5 seconds, slightly inflate your stomach, and exhale for 6 seconds, 15 times.

Once the body forms a connection with the bed, we will develop a conditioned reflex. As soon as we lie down in bed, sleepiness will set in, and we will fall asleep.

Reflecting on your work and life before going to bed shows that you are a self-reflective person. Reflecting is about doing better the next day. Focus on your strengths and find ways to deal with your weaknesses.

Make a list of what you need to do tomorrow and get ready for it.

(2) Positive mental suggestion

After some soul-searching, encourage yourself: "You did well today. Get a good night's sleep and keep up the good work tomorrow!"

When you wake up in the morning, say to yourself, "A beautiful day is beginning!"

Give yourself positive mental suggestions and you will get what you want.

(3) Stick with it and keep exercising.

You can improve your mental state by persevering with a sport. Take a walk after dinner or go for a run in the morning. When you exercise, your brain secretes chemicals that make you happy. Being outdoors before 9 a.m. increases serotonin, leaving you feeling refreshed for the rest of the day.

(4) Develop self-discipline.

"I want to become that energetic and diligent person," which requires us to improve our ability to "self-discipline." We can do this in the following ways:

First, learn to love yourself.

We know that many bad habits affect our health, and we know we can change them. We just have to want to cherish our bodies.

When you feel tired, your body is telling you that you need to make changes. You must be aware of this and respond to your body's call. Love your body.

Second, you must improve your ability to "delay gratification."

Late-night sleeping and procrastination are habits that must be broken. They are a form of negative reinforcement that only provides temporary pleasure without solving any substantial problems. This can lead to an undesirable vicious cycle between mental state and work efficiency. To break this cycle, you must intentionally restrain your temporary need to satisfy yourself and control the time you go to bed.

You can achieve better self-discipline by deliberately exercising your awareness.

Old habits don't form overnight. You can change them, and you will. Be aware of the change, and encourage and comfort yourself along the way. Believe that you will succeed.

The above suggestions are for reference only.

I am confident that these suggestions will be helpful. Best regards!

Hello! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

We all procrastinate sometimes. It's usually because we're avoiding something that we know will make us feel bad. We just want to escape! So, it's worth asking yourself if the tasks you have to complete every day are really necessary. Or are those tasks too difficult for you?

Do you ever feel like you're under a lot of pressure? And you want to play with your phone more, stay up late, because you gave yourself too little time during the day, and at night you want to make up for it?

From what you've said, it's clear you've tried your best. But it can be so hard to be satisfied with ourselves, can't it? If we want to feel more energetic and diligent, it's so important to avoid internal conflict. And it's also really helpful to set ourselves appropriate goals, learn to affirm and empower ourselves, and recharge ourselves in time.

We all get tangled up sometimes. It's only natural! But when we're too entangled, it can leave us feeling depleted. The good news is that we can reduce this feeling by identifying the cause of our entanglement. Once we do that, we can free ourselves from the knots that are weighing us down and feel our best again!

When we stop worrying and let go of the things we can't change, our hearts will feel lighter, and our lives will be full of energy!

I'd love to know what we can do to feel full of energy every day!

1. Let's try to reduce internal friction and let go of those "tangles" that we can't change.

Most people are torn between three things: whether they should do it, what others will think of them, and whether they will regret it in the future.

It's really not that hard to deal with these tangles! All you have to do is figure out what you can control and what you can't, and then just do what you can and let go of what you can't. That's what we usually mean by changing what you can and accepting what you can't.

It can be really tough to know which things we can change and which we can't. Sometimes we even try to change things that are difficult to change, and it can leave us feeling worried and stressed.

As it says in "A Change of Heart," there are only three things in this world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. It's so easy to get caught up in worrying about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven, isn't it? But the truth is, you can't control other people or their actions. You can only control your own actions and your own affairs. So, take a deep breath, relax, and focus on you. You've got this!

It's so important to remember that other people's behavior and thoughts are their own business. If someone doesn't want to change, it can be really challenging for us to change them. After all, the reason why they are who they are now is due to the combined influence of factors such as their genes, upbringing, educational background, and living environment.

He's got his own independent personality and way of thinking. He's in charge of his own actions and thoughts.

But, sadly, there are still a lot of people who want to control others. Many wives always try to control their husbands' words and deeds, many husbands always have various demands on their wives, and many parents treat their children as their own possessions and hope that their children will "obey their every command"...

But here's the thing: having more control doesn't necessarily make things easier. In fact, it can often make things more difficult. Why? Because when we try to control another person, we're really trying to control someone who is an independent individual, someone who is different from us. And the truth is, no one in the world will ever think exactly the same way as another person. So, when we try to control someone else, we're often oppressing them and making ourselves feel troubled.

So, my dear friend, let go of these "tangles" that cannot be changed, and do the things you can control. You can express your feelings and needs, as well as your expectations and desires. But more importantly, accept the other person for the way they are, and understand the differences between the other person and yourself.

When you understand that you cannot control other people, you'll feel so much freer! You'll be free to do what you want, and you'll also stop seeking approval and caring about what other people will say about you.

You know, other people are other people, and there's nothing we can do to control what they say or do. But we can control ourselves! He can say and do what he wants, and we can just not listen, not approve, and not react, so that he can't hurt us.

You'll feel so much better! You'll walk with your head held high because you're free from these burdens. You'll find that you can please yourself more. This is the key to getting rid of internal conflict.

2. Be kind to yourself and set achievable goals.

We all have an ideal self inside us, and it's totally normal to have self-doubt and feel dissatisfied sometimes. It's when the gap between our real self and ideal self is too wide that we start to feel like we're not good enough.

It's totally normal to feel anxious and procrastinate when we set our expectations at an ideal self. We often feel like we're not good enough and that we can't do a good job. It's totally natural to lack motivation to work and study when we feel this way. It's okay to feel this way! It's just that our expectations are often set too high. This makes it difficult for us to achieve them in the short term because they're beyond our current capabilities.

It's so easy to set our expectations at an ideal self, but this can lead to procrastination and anxiety. We often feel that we're not good enough and can't do a good job, which makes it tough to find the motivation to work and study. Because we've set our expectations too high, it can be difficult to achieve them in the short term, as they're often beyond our current capabilities.

So, it's really important to be kind to ourselves and to take a step back to see things objectively. We need to give ourselves a reasonable position, set goals that are suitable for us, and gradually grow in a step-by-step manner.

It's so important to set ourselves tasks that we can accomplish through our own efforts every day. If we set ourselves tasks that are difficult to complete, we'll end up feeling frustrated every day. We need to make sure we have a "successful experience" every day!

For example, when I first started studying psychology, I thought that if I knew some psychology, I could become a psychological counselor. I was so excited to pursue this goal! But as it turned out, there weren't many cases in the studio, and even if I did encounter one, I didn't have the ability to solve the problem. I was so confused, entangled, and anxious during that time!

I later learned that it takes about ten years of growth and learning to become a qualified counselor. The first three years are spent learning the theoretical foundations, the next three years are spent practicing and growing as a person, and the next three to four years are spent learning one or two schools of thought, so that one can be comfortable and at ease when doing counseling.

So, I adjusted my position and began to study with peace of mind, accumulating theoretical knowledge and constantly putting it into practice. I was so happy to see that as I extended the time frame for achieving my goals, I became less anxious. Instead, I followed the plan step by step, and indeed made progress every day, getting closer and closer to my ideals. It was so encouraging to see my own growth and accumulation every day, and it made me feel more and more confident in myself and more and more motivated to continue.

3. Take some time to recharge and empower yourself!

Our energy is limited, and we all need to give ourselves a little time to replenish the willpower we've used up so we can keep going strong!

It's so true that emotional depletion can really drain our willpower. The good news is that we can reduce most of this depletion through the two methods we just introduced. But, of course, in our daily lives, we'll still encounter many things that need to be resolved. These things that require us to make choices and expend energy will all deplete our willpower. When a person's willpower is depleted too much and not replenished in time, then their state will be very poor. So, it's really important to recharge in time.

We all know that getting enough sleep and exercising regularly are great ways to recharge your batteries. But let's face it, many of us don't have the time to fit in a good night's sleep or a workout during the day. So, I've got a great alternative for you: do what you like and get into the flow!

Have you ever been doing something you love and then suddenly you're in this amazing state of flow? You're totally absorbed in what you're doing and you just lose track of time! It's such a wonderful feeling, isn't it? You feel so accomplished and happy, and you just feel so rejuvenated.

So, when you feel tired at work, do something you love to recharge your batteries and then get back to it!

So, when you feel tired at work, do something you love to recharge your batteries and then get back to work!

For example, I have to admit that I don't really like doing housework. But here's what I do: while I'm doing it, I listen to psychology courses. When I'm engrossed in the psychology, I feel a strong sense of pleasure and accomplishment, and I forget about the tediousness of the housework. Sometimes, I'll watch it at noon.

For example, I don't really like doing housework, but when I do it, I listen to psychology courses. When I'm engrossed in psychology, I feel a strong sense of pleasure and accomplishment, and I forget about the tediousness of housework. Sometimes, I watch an hour of variety shows at noon, and after laughing a lot, I shake off the tiredness and happily re-engage in the work in the afternoon. Sometimes, I read a few pages of my favorite book, and I always come across a few sentences that resonate with me, which rekindle my inner passion.

I truly believe that when you stop dwelling on the things you cannot change, focus on the things you can, set reasonable goals according to your abilities, and grow gradually and consistently, you can definitely get rid of internal conflict, shake off fatigue, and have a full day every day, just like I do now!

It's so important to give yourself a little pat on the back every day. Take a moment to review what you've done and celebrate all your efforts. You've got this! Look at all you've achieved and how you've grown. Then, go to bed feeling proud and satisfied.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, question asker! Let's discuss this together.

I don't want to do my tasks when I wake up.

I feel exhausted when I wake up.

At night, I play with my phone.

It's been a month.

I think you must feel bad about living a meaningless life. Have you ever thought about why?

Was it pressure or a problem?

I was in the same state for a few months. I went to bed at 3 or 4 a.m., didn't get enough sleep at noon, and my physical fitness declined.

I couldn't follow through on my plans, and I felt like my soul didn't belong to me.

I don't want to waste time or youth.

Go for a few laps to release your worries and stress!

Go to bed early to have enough energy. Start by going to bed half an hour or an hour earlier today than tomorrow.

The key to a good day is the morning. Wake up to music. Regulate your emotions.

Set a small plan with a big goal. Hard work is addictive.

Love yourself. Relax. Don't stress.

If you feel lonely and confused, read some classic novels. You will find them interesting and inspiring.

I wish the original poster a happy life and self-realization in this beautiful age.

Dear poster, I'm sending you a big, warm hug! I can feel through your words that you're going through a rough patch.

It's great that you're aware of this and that you're open to making changes. This is a wonderful place to start, and I truly hope that what I'm sharing can help you.

I'm just wondering if you've heard of this saying?

Specifically, it's all about how our physical energy and mental development are connected.

I know it's a bit of a cliché, but the respondent also feels that this premise is based on the understanding that they are mutually causal.

If you feel like your body and mind are lacking energy, there could be a few reasons why.

Not getting enough exercise can lead to a lack of physical activity, which is expressed as a lack of energy.

And when our energy isn't moving around as it should, we feel tired and run down.

We all know how it goes. If we don't get enough rest and sleep, it can really throw our whole day off. It's so important to make sure we're giving our bodies the rest and sleep they need!

The respondent thinks that procrastination is basically determined by several factors.

We all have to start somewhere, and it can be really hard to get going when we're worrying that things won't turn out the way we expect.

If you don't feel like you're worth much, you might think that you don't deserve better.

It's totally normal to feel like you're not making much progress when you're just starting out. It's like you're still at the beginning of your journey, and you can't see the road ahead very clearly.

The next step is to tackle the root of the problem head-on and then treat it.

The specific advice from the respondent is:

It's so important to develop good habits! For example, try writing in a diary for 10 minutes every night before bed. Just write down your feelings from the day—joy, anger, sorrow, happiness—and then try to maintain an empty state of mind.

2. Treat your body and mind to some well-deserved rest and relaxation. Spend more time in the great outdoors and focus on nurturing your inner sense of stability and awareness. With these two simple steps, you'll be amazed at how your self-discipline gradually improves, leading to a surge in motivation.

3. Read more, expand your knowledge, and improve your understanding of the meaning of life. We all need a little help sometimes! As the saying goes, if we are always stuck in our own little world, we often lack the breadth of mind and courage, and we always feel that our problems and issues are difficult to solve.

4. Find your life goals and make a simple plan and list. You've got this! Celebrate your small successes along the way, give yourself a pat on the back, and figure out the direction of your life. You'll feel less lost in no time!

I really hope the answerer's sharing can help you. I wish you a feeling of progress every day and the ability to feel the beauty of each day!