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A 22-year-old girl worries about always being anxious. What should she do?

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A 22-year-old girl worries about always being anxious. What should she do? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

A 22-year-old girl, I remembered a teacher's words, "Do you always get anxious about other things too?" I replied yes. But I gave an example that I am anxious about my future, but I thought of ways to stop being anxious, I thought of how to face the challenges of my future! And I was no longer anxious. But I found that I was easily influenced by others and became anxious, especially in interpersonal relationships. Yes, I remembered the teacher's words again. I am very afraid, I am afraid that I will be someone who is easily anxious, I am afraid of believing in this perspective. No, no. I don't want to believe that I am easily anxious; I just am not very good at dealing with interpersonal relationships, so I get anxious. No, no, not everything makes me anxious. I am so afraid! I don't want to be someone who is easily anxious. What should I do? How can I accept myself, how can I become confident, and adjust my mindset?

Silas Silas A total of 5703 people have been helped

Hello!

I've read your words and I'm confused. Don't worry! What are you worried about in the future?

Let's make it concrete. Love? Work?

Or your education?

Love

Take your time with love. Get out more and meet new people.

Read more to improve yourself. If you take action, you'll feel better.

Work

What industry do you want to work in?

Think about it, then look it up online. Check out job websites and see what the industry requires. What abilities do you lack, or what are your strengths?

You can learn from each other and grow in a targeted way according to your interests, aspirations, and the requirements of the job.

About education

You can always get new qualifications at any age. There's no need to rush.

If you want to go to college, start planning now! Take it one day at a time and work hard. You can do it.

Written in conclusion

There are many good books on anxiety.

How to overcome anxiety. "Anxiety First Aid" is great for accepting and befriending anxiety.

How to let go of anxiety.

I hope my answer helps. I love you!

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Roxanne Roxanne A total of 4079 people have been helped

Hello, host.

I could see you were confused, so I thought I'd tell you about this experiment I came across. A scientist said to his seven-year-old nephew, "If you don't think about polar bears for 15 minutes, I'll give you a big ice cream." Later, his little nephew said to him with a near-crying voice, "Oh, during these 15 minutes, all I could think about was polar bears. Why is that?"

Similarly, if you keep focusing on not wanting to make yourself anxious, you'll always be thinking about anxiety. Why not allow yourself to be a little anxious sometimes? You might find it easier to relax!

No matter what kind of bad mood you're in, acceptance is the first step. Anxiety has its own positive meaning in existence. It points to the future. In ancient times, people were anxious because they had nothing to eat in winter, so they prepared a lot of food in advance in summer and winter, so that they could safely spend the whole winter.

Your anxiety comes from your desire to prepare for the future, so why not start preparing for the future you are anxious about right now? Think about what kind of person you want to become, what kind of things you want to obtain, and what kind of efforts you need to make. Take a little step forward every day, and one day you will reach your goal.

I love you, the world, and I support you.

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Alexandra Claire Hart-Turner Alexandra Claire Hart-Turner A total of 7541 people have been helped

Hello, landlord. I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

From what you've shared, I can sense the inner turmoil you're facing, particularly in relation to anxiety. It seems like you're experiencing anxiety about anxiety, which is a common phenomenon.

Indeed, modern society is replete with instances of anxiety, and many individuals exhibit a notable degree of introversion. They inquire, "Are you anxious? How do you cope with your anxiety?"

I believe that the first step is to recognize that negative emotions are a natural part of life and to accept them. When they are not severe, we can find ways to manage them. With regard to anxiety, there are several strategies that can be employed.

It might be helpful to consider some ways of understanding anxiety.

It may be helpful to view anxiety as an innate, genetically predisposed emotion. This perspective suggests that anxiety serves a purpose and is here to tell us something.

For example, in ancient times, our ancestors had no place to live, and when they encountered wild animals, they needed anxiety to alert them to potential dangers.

If we don't feel anxious, we may find ourselves in a situation where we are unable to respond effectively. Whether we choose to confront the challenge or to avoid it, it is a way to cope and allows us to deal with danger.

As evolution has progressed, anxiety has developed various levels. Sometimes we are facing a tiger, sometimes a fox, and sometimes just a kitten...

It is worth noting that society is much safer than it used to be. Despite this, the anxiety gene remains. On occasion, it may wish to come out and work, and it can even trigger anxiety similar to that of seeing a tiger when we encounter danger at the "kitten level".

It would be beneficial for us to consider whether we are perhaps overreacting to reality. Could it be that we are encountering just a kitten, but thinking we have seen a tiger?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider the meaning behind anxiety.

It might be helpful to remember that many negative emotions are meaningful. Anxiety is no exception. It can serve as a reminder to pay attention to certain needs.

When we encounter a challenge and experience feelings of anxiety, it could be an indication that we may not have fully aligned with our own confidence or may have placed undue significance on the challenge at hand.

Appropriate anxiety can be a catalyst for personal growth and development. When we recognize areas where we may lack confidence or feel undervalued, it's beneficial to take steps to address these needs. This could involve developing a sense of self-belief, affirming our abilities, recognizing our strengths, and encouraging ourselves to take on new challenges. Affirmations and positive self-talk can also be helpful tools in this process.

If I might suggest, perhaps the best course of action would be to simply do what you need to do, implement your plan step by step, not focus too much on the result, concentrate on the process, do your best, and let things take their course.

It might be helpful to consider transforming anxiety into anticipation and excitement.

It might be helpful to know that the brain areas for anxiety and anticipation and excitement are in the same area. If you feel anxious about something, you might like to consider switching your thinking to anticipation.

You may find that the state is quite different.

For instance, if you are feeling anxious about an upcoming exam, you might try to look forward to it instead. Think about how far you have come in your studies and what kind of questions you will encounter. Is there anything you can do to make it a little easier?

It may be helpful to consider adopting a more positive approach to dealing with anxiety.

Anxiety can impact people in many ways, affecting their physiology, psychology, and behavior.

There are a number of ways to cope with anxiety, which can be broadly grouped into three categories.

The first type is a physiological response to anxiety.

You might find it helpful to change your breathing pattern and practice using abdominal breathing.

It may be helpful to persist in progressive muscle relaxation training to give the body a sense of peace and relaxation.

It may be helpful to consider engaging in regular aerobic exercise at an appropriate intensity to help relieve anxiety.

Another approach to psychological coping with anxiety is

It may be helpful to identify any thoughts that could be causing anxiety and then to question them in order to replace them with more rational thinking that is in line with reality.

If we are feeling too overwhelmed to calmly change our thinking, we can try the anxiety delay method to distract ourselves and pause our anxiety.

You might find it helpful to practice meditation and introspection as a way to relax your mind and reduce anxiety.

The third type is behavioral coping methods for anxiety.

It may be helpful to consider exposure therapy as a way to eliminate avoidance behaviors and overcome anxiety.

It may be helpful to consider establishing a good lifestyle, setting aside free time for yourself, and learning to care for your own well-being.

It may be helpful to consider ways to simplify your life, reduce the burden, and find inner peace. This could involve simplifying your material possessions, relationships, and chores, and finding ways to reduce stress.

Additionally, it is worth noting that hugging can be an effective way to relieve anxiety.

Hugging has the potential to produce oxytocin, which can contribute to feelings of happiness and contentment. This effect can be experienced almost immediately. When you hug someone close to you for a few minutes, it may help to reduce feelings of anxiety.

It is important to remember that when we experience negative emotions such as anxiety or depression, it is natural to feel afraid. However, it is essential to acknowledge these feelings, address them, work through them, and use the opportunity to grow and understand ourselves better. By doing so, we can emerge as a better version of ourselves.

I wish you the best.

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Damariss Damariss A total of 3819 people have been helped

The questioner is absolutely wonderful!

"Are you always anxious about other things?" It feels like the teacher is expressing concern, not accusing.

Then, surely, we can gain a sense of care for ourselves and be truly happy. You deserve to be cared for and loved, my friend.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling anxious. It's hard to pinpoint exactly what's worrying you, but I'm here to listen.

I don't want to believe that I'm easily anxious. I just need to work on my relationships. From this sentence, we can see that the questioner has a great sense of self-awareness. You will remind yourself that you want to improve your self-confidence.

Or, just go for it! Don't worry about success or failure, and you'll be amazed at how much you can achieve.

It's said that there are several layers in Leonardo da Vinci's famous painting, Mona Lisa. Maybe he wanted to keep improving his work, too! How much did he love this painting later on?

Even if the royal family offered a high price to buy it, he would never sell it for money.

Because he wasn't afraid of failure, he kept on painting layer after layer, not afraid of repetition or mess. And he didn't measure his success by the monetary value of his work.

Leonardo da Vinci was a curious person. If the questioner can also shift some of that anxiety to curiosity, they will surely be able to reap the rewards of a bright journey in life.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step! Now that there is a high-speed railway, it is much faster to travel from one place to another than in ancient times.

We can all learn so much from the wisdom of the ancients! They have so much to teach us about life cultivation and the realm of wisdom. Let's take a page out of their book and become people who love wisdom!

We've put together a reading list that we think you'll love!

Let me tell you about Du Fu!

I'd like to suggest we read "China Transcends."

The Divine Comedy

Hi, I'm 3cats, a psychology author who's really grateful to the original family healing story on Yixinli.

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Poppy Anderson The pursuit of erudition involves exploring the unknown in many areas.

I totally understand where you're coming from. It's really common to feel anxious about the future and relationships. Maybe focusing on what you can control and setting small, achievable goals could help ease those worries.

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Adelaide Thomas The measure of success is not in avoiding failure but in overcoming it.

It sounds like you're already taking steps in the right direction by thinking of ways to face challenges. That's a great mindset! Building confidence comes with time and practice. Try celebrating every little success along the way to boost your selfesteem.

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Rose Anderson The secret of growth is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.

Anxiety can be overwhelming, but remember it's okay to have these feelings. Consider talking to someone you trust about your fears; sometimes just sharing them out loud can make them seem less daunting.

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Mace Davis A well - informed and learned person can contribute more meaningfully to society.

You're not alone in this. Many people struggle with similar concerns. Perhaps seeking advice from a counselor or therapist might provide some useful strategies for managing anxiety and improving interpersonal skills.

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Jonas Jackson A person of extensive learning is a discoverer, unearthing hidden treasures of knowledge in different domains.

Feeling easily influenced by others is part of being human. It might help to set boundaries and learn to say no when necessary. This can empower you and reduce unnecessary stress in social situations.

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