A 22-year-old woman, the feeling of oppression is very painful, can anyone empathize with me?

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing. Have a great day!

Let's take a moment to recap your situation.

1. You would like to cultivate good friendships with people and seek recognition.

2. You may not always feel confident and find yourself questioning your abilities, but you recognize that this state of mind is not ideal.

3. You are committed to making positive changes in yourself and striving to become a better person.

4. You are able to identify the root of your emotions and proactively seek a solution to the problem.

5. You have recently been experiencing some self-doubt, which has understandably caused you some distress.

You come to understand that in the past, you would often wait until you had calmed down before sharing your feelings.

"It seems that her annoyance led her to make the unfortunate remark about my spiritual beliefs."

First, you were taken aback by your classmate's remark: "You're a spiritualist! How did you learn about Marxism?"

It's understandable that you feel resentful because it offended you! It made you feel belittled, and when coupled with the accusations of your roommates at the time, you felt excluded and "labeled."

Secondly, it seems that you are dwelling on past events because you are currently experiencing feelings of self-doubt. This intense mental struggle is understandably troubling for you, and you are struggling to cope with it. You are associating this state of mind with recent events that have brought you psychological shock, and you are seeking ways to improve your current situation by reversing and/or re-recognizing the "shock events."

At that time, you also considered reopening the discussion with your roommate about the past for a "reversal or re-recognition" for the same reason, but you felt you had reached an impasse.

Now that you have had time to reflect on the situation, you can see that your roommate's behavior may have been influenced by her own emotions and that there may have been certain things that annoyed her.

I believe your question is:

1. Could you please tell me how you are dealing with your current emotions?

2. How might you regulate your feelings of unease and self-doubt in the future, in order to avoid making the same mistakes again?

I would like to suggest the following:

1. It would be beneficial to work on building self-confidence and sorting out your confidence. It might help to think more about your strengths and good qualities, be tolerant of your bad qualities, first embrace and accept them, and then slowly improve them.

2. It would be beneficial to learn to express yourself in a timely manner when you feel unhappy about something in the future, while also learning to express yourself in a more harmonious way at the same time.

3. If you find that some emotions are due to your own personal reasons, it might be helpful to be tolerant of yourself (it is normal to have these emotions, and anyone in the same situation as you would probably feel the same way). Then, it could be beneficial to re-examine the cause of the matter.

I hope that I have helped you to understand this matter in a new way.

4. You might find it helpful to take notes or tell a listener, while expressing your emotions again, to re-evaluate the event and thus mediate your emotions.

I would like to wish you the best in the future and hope that you will continue to grow in confidence. I encourage you to go for it!

Hello, sweetheart. I can see you're feeling a bit confused right now, so I'm here to give you a big, warm hug!

Don't worry, sweetheart. What you're going through are just some normal interpersonal issues. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you another warm hug.

I'm not sure if this is your first time living in a dorm, sweetie.

It's also possible that you had conflicts with your roommates when you were in the dormitory before.

Then when you had another conflict with your roommate last semester, it brought back all those hurtful memories from when you lived in the dormitory before.

So you isolated your true emotions, sweetie.

I know it can be tough, but try to remember that as long as you keep your true emotions hidden, you'll never be hurt again.

That's just your body's way of protecting you!

But those painful emotions you felt when you had a conflict with your roommate last semester? They won't just disappear or go away if you don't deal with them.

That bad emotion was just tucked away in your subconscious, sweet girl.

I know it can be tough, but the next time you encounter that roommate with whom you have a conflict, try to remember that those painful emotions will reappear.

So, sweet girl, what do you do the next time you feel negative emotions?

I've got a few tips for you!

First, I don't know if your dormitory has a multi-purpose activity room. If it does, it might have a punching bag or sandbag!

If you have one, you can go into the multi-purpose room the next time you feel negative emotions. Why not punch the punching bag as hard as you can, or kick the sandbag?

Another great idea is to go for a nice, relaxing run around the school playground.

Another great technique is the "empty chair technique." All you have to do is sit in a chair and imagine that your roommate, with whom you have a conflict, is also sitting in an empty chair.

Then you say everything you want to say to her, and you'll feel so much better!

If you're not sure how to do the above, don't worry! You can always seek help from a professional counselor.

We're happy to offer a 50% discount on our counseling services to students like you! All you need to do is fill out a quick form and submit a proof of enrollment as a current student.

I really hope the problem you're having gets sorted out for you soon.

I'm really sorry, but I can't think of anything else to say.

I really hope my answers are helpful and inspiring to you, young lady. I'm the respondent, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too! Wishing you all the best!