A 26-year-old woman, has been wanting to vent recently, afraid of being called a hypochondriac?

Good day, question asker.

After reading your title, I feel you may be experiencing a communication block. It seems you want to speak but are unable to, want to say but are unable to rest, and still have a desire to communicate with others. Could I inquire as to whether these difficulties have been present for some time?

You indicate that you are unable to identify the appropriate individual with whom to communicate or the suitable rationale for recording your thoughts in a diary. Additionally, you are uncertain about the most effective approach to take, as though there are numerous issues requiring resolution. A vehicle with an excess of weight cannot travel a significant distance. At times, it is beneficial to release the burdens you are carrying and embark on a journey with a positive outlook.

Are you concerned that others may perceive your concerns as whining and find them unworthy of acceptance? In the adult world, challenges are inevitable. Everyone will face problems at some point. The issue is not the problem itself, but rather the way you approach it.

Many people are in a similar position, including myself. We all encounter challenging situations, and the key is how we respond to them. Seeking assistance here is a valuable step. Many individuals are providing answers, with the aim of offering support.

Please indicate whether you feel the warmth here as well. What caused you to feel sad?

The Yixinli platform offers a variety of support options. Selecting "Talk" on the homepage will direct you to the listening channel, where a team of professional listeners is available to assist with any issues you may have.

Additionally, you may choose to document the issues that cause you the greatest distress. There is no obligation to embellish your responses; simply record whatever comes to mind, provided it is comprehensible. Please note that these responses are intended for your own benefit and that no external judgment will be applied. It is important to remember that everyone possesses unique expertise and that there are always potential solutions to challenging situations.

Take a moment to collect your thoughts and approach the situation with a calm and measured approach.

I wish you the best of luck. Please do not hesitate to contact me if I can be of assistance. Take a moment to relax and I am confident that everything will work out for the best in time.

Good day, question asker.

You might consider talking to your friends.

You mentioned that your friends don't typically bring up work or life issues with you, which suggests that you may not have been someone who often complained to others in the past. It's possible that your friends also wanted to confide in you, but, like you, they felt that you never complained to them, so they also didn't feel comfortable sharing their concerns with you.

If you haven't previously shared your thoughts and feelings with them, you might find that doing so on an occasional basis could actually strengthen your relationship. While it's true that a friend who constantly complains about something can sometimes be a bit annoying, the normal frequency of sharing confidences between friends is actually the fastest way to strengthen your relationship. As long as you don't overdo it (don't complain every day, don't keep complaining non-stop), it will help you get to know each other better. And just like sharing your joys together, it will increase the bond between you.

Your family can always be a safe haven for you.

If you're not sure who else to turn to, your mom might be a good option. She'll always be there for you, and you're 26, so you've probably been working for a while now. Perhaps she'd be willing to listen if you're looking for someone to talk to.

If you were to talk to your mother about your worries, you might find that you can relax on the one hand and spend more time with her on the other. As an older person, your mother may have a broader perspective on some issues than we do, and you may get some unexpectedly useful tips.

I believe that anonymity can be beneficial in certain circumstances.

The questioner may wish to consider posting anonymously on some communication platforms to express what they want to talk about. This could be a helpful way to record their mood and also to receive feedback and empathy from others in the comment area.

You might like to consider getting a pet.

If circumstances allow, it might be beneficial to consider keeping a small pet. Even though they cannot speak, they are still capable of sensing your emotional state. If you are feeling down, spending time with them, talking about your feelings, or playing with them can be a great way to lift your spirits. However, if you do decide to get a small pet, it is important to be responsible and ensure they are not abandoned.

I hope my answer is helpful to you, and I wish the questioner the best.

Dear host,

From your description, I can understand how you feel in this situation. It seems there are many things you want to tell someone, many feelings you want someone to understand, and much helplessness you want someone to support. It's understandable that you feel no one can pick up on your needs.

It might be helpful to consider how others around you behave. Do they seem to express this need to anyone? If so, it's possible that expressing this need to them might not lead to the response you're hoping for.

I can imagine that it might feel a little lonely and cold when you're in that situation. It can feel like the world is a noisy, bustling place, but it can sometimes feel like it's not really connected to you in a meaningful way. People might exchange pleasantries, busy themselves, and laugh, but it can feel like they're separated, alienated, and on guard from one another, right?

I'm not sure if my assumption is correct, but if it is, I can empathize with your sadness so much that I would like to offer you a hug.

I believe you may have similar needs and feelings. I also find writing ✍️ to be an effective way to relieve sadness, as the original poster has done. I will share my own writing style here for your reference.

I typically record my emotional fluctuations as the primary focus, rather than the procedural aspects of my daily work and life. Given that not all experiences evoke feelings, the events we encounter daily in our hectic lives tend to be ordinary and may not elicit any distinctive emotions. I believe this could be the reason why the poster feels there is nothing to record in her diary.

In the context of emotional recording, I tend to focus on my negative feelings, as I believe they may be a reflection of unmet needs. Additionally, my inclination to record more negative feelings may be influenced by my deeper needs, such as a desire for self-exploration and self-growth. I believe that understanding my needs and pursuing personal growth can potentially contribute to a greater sense of fulfillment.

I believe that the sadness of the original poster may be driven by a deeper need. When we feel that there is no suitable person to listen to us, it can be a desire to expect others to meet our needs.

If you feel you have no one to talk to, writing can be a helpful way to listen to yourself and meet your own needs, even though it is not a substitute for being listened to by others. When no one can see, understand, warm, and support you, writing can at least give you the feeling of understanding, warmth, and support from yourself.

If you persevere, you may find that your dependence on and expectations of others become less intense and long-lasting. This could help you to feel less sad when you have no one to talk to.

This process is also one of self-discovery and personal growth. You may be surprised to find that it is challenging to know yourself and to grow yourself. However, along the way, you will gain the strength to embrace loneliness and learn to enjoy the beautiful moments of solitude.

In the event of experiencing sadness, I typically take note of my feelings and thoughts surrounding them. This process allows me to gain insight into the underlying needs that may be present, identify potential actions to meet those needs, and consider the choices I have made. To illustrate this approach, I will reference the original poster's description of feeling "quietly sad." This example demonstrates how I might analyze this type of sadness to gain a deeper understanding of myself.

I can see that you have concerns about wanting someone to listen to you but not doing it. You're worried that others will think you're complaining for no reason and won't understand how you feel. You're also afraid that if others listen, it will affect their mood. You've noticed that others never complain when you get along with them, so your concerns are not unfounded or an illusion in your mind. They're based on facts.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to consider that by not inviting others to listen to you, you can avoid the potential discomfort of being perceived as a hypochondriac without being understood, as well as the possibility of negatively affecting the other person after you have confided in them.

It is understandable that you might choose to avoid confiding in others in order to avoid experiencing the negative feelings that can result from doing so. This can lead to feelings of loneliness. However, it is important to recognise that maintaining distance from others can also have positive benefits. By avoiding mutual harm and damage to the relationship, and giving yourself a sense of security, you can ensure that your relationship remains stable and harmonious.

Opening up to others does come with the risk of being hurt. The more you expose yourself to others, the more opportunities they have to hurt you (as the saying goes, know thyself and thy enemy and you will be invincible in battle). So it is important to be cautious when confiding in others.

However, it is important to note that suppressing these needs can have negative consequences. It is understandable that your needs are being suppressed, but it is crucial to recognize that this can lead to detrimental effects on both physical and mental health.

It would seem that psychological research has indicated that people who are chronically lonely may be more likely to suffer from various physical diseases and psychological disorders. This may be because humans are a social species, and connecting with others is a basic need. Therefore, your needs are completely justified, and you should not feel ashamed of them.

I came across an interesting observation in the study materials for the One Psychology Whale membership. It suggested that the underlying cause of loneliness may lie in our inability to communicate our most important feelings with others. This raises an important question: if the people we can reach out to are limited to a small group of individuals in our immediate vicinity, the decision to connect with them becomes a challenging one. Regardless of which option we choose, there are likely to be negative consequences that we may not want to face.

It is important to understand your own needs and make your own choices. At the same time, it might be helpful to consider making a different choice.

Perhaps there are other ways to satisfy your needs. For example, you might consider finding a counselor to listen to you.

Perhaps you might consider trying to confide in someone. How do you think the other person will react?

How do you feel? Perhaps you could consider what these feelings might reveal about yourself.

After all, we can learn a great deal from others. It is not always easy to be understood by others, but their different perspective can often bring new experiences. Even if it is a little sad, it is possible that it will bring you more understanding and growth.

It's important to remember that even though everyone is trying to maintain distance, they still have the same basic needs as you. It's possible that one of those needs is to feel close to someone. If you're willing to take the first step and let your guard down a little, you might be surprised at how quickly a friendship can develop.

I believe that reading and watching movies can also be beneficial activities for those who are alone. They can also help to maintain a writing practice. For instance, if there is nothing to record in an ordinary day, one might consider writing a book or movie review. Reading and watching movies often provide rich emotional experiences and can inspire reflection. This can help to avoid feelings of lack of inspiration.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to you.

That's all for now. I hope the world and I have been able to bring a little love to you today.

Everyone has their own story, but not everyone is the right person to confide in.

Everyone has their own issues, and it's not a bad thing to want to find someone to talk to, gain recognition and comfort, and thus calm your mood. Our emotional backlog can even affect our normal work and life. It's only a good thing to find someone to talk to, of course, but it's also a good thing to be able to find someone to talk to.

A diary is simply a record of your inner world. It doesn't have to be anything major or significant. Even a small thing that affects your mood can be recorded.

Reading is a great option. You can find your own friends in books, record your feelings about the books you read, and discover your own Hamlet.

Everyone has their own life. If they're not like-minded friends, they might be open to your confessions at first, but over time, they might also feel uncomfortable. You can actually find a suitable confidant through a platform like Yixinli, or you can learn some psychological knowledge to improve your mental health literacy and gain more perspectives on life.

We all feel lost at times. We live our lives alongside others, going with the flow. When you start living your own life, you may feel lost about your past and your life. This is a good time to think seriously about your true meaning.