A 29-year-old woman suddenly developed a desire to commit suicide, which became increasingly intense...

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from afar to you.

It is evident that you are experiencing a sense of grievance, pain, and helplessness as a result of the family changes and the abuse you have endured at the hands of your father. It is clear that you are seeking support, understanding, and acceptance.

It is important to allow and accept oneself to experience painful and uncomfortable emotional feelings and experiences when facing such injuries and changes. These painful emotional feelings are appropriate for the situation one is in.

One must then attempt to coexist with these distressing emotional sensations, acknowledge and perceive these uncomfortable emotions within oneself, and discern the underlying needs that give rise to them. Should the emotions prove overwhelming, one may seek to mitigate the physical and mental distress caused by the intensity of the emotions by engaging in deep breathing exercises, thereby facilitating a more nuanced experience and expression of the emotions.

It is also possible to record emotional feelings in writing by maintaining an emotional diary. This can assist in perceiving and understanding emotions more clearly, developing self-awareness of emotions and the capacity to care for oneself, and identifying more suitable responses and methods of meeting one's needs.

The primary cause of your distress is the tendency to ascribe the harm caused to you and your mother by your father, as well as the series of changes the family has undergone, to the belief that you are inadequate or have done something wrong.

Indeed, the reason for the father's behavior is largely attributed to his own internal struggles and inability to cope with them, particularly during a period of significant family transition. This internal turmoil ultimately manifests as a lack of emotional resilience, leading him to externalize his distress through his interactions with his children.

It is imperative that you accept the notion that you have not transgressed and that you are not inherently flawed.

I am Lily, the principal interlocutor of the Q&A Museum. I extend my love and best wishes to you all.

Hello, question asker.

Thanks for having the courage to come here and ask a question.

A true warrior faces challenges head-on. You are a warrior!

People who are weak often turn their frustrations on those who are even weaker. It seems like your father is unhappy with himself, but he's afraid to express it, so he lashes out at you.

This is domestic violence. There are only 0 times and countless instances of it.

It's unlikely that your father will repent in front of you.

So, should you go to the police or the judicial authorities, or should you just be patient?

If he loves you, will he hurt you again and again?

So, when you're faced with someone who doesn't love you, do you want to act impulsively and risk your whole life?

Yes, he is a domestic abuser, which is a crime. You should call the police and the judicial authorities. Why should you risk going to prison for such a person in case of manslaughter?

Please love yourself. It's really tough to watch!

So, remember, it's not your fault you're alive. You and your mother are both victims.

So don't play the victim. Do you like being mistreated? Does it not hurt?

Don't you think that's a bit unfair?

It's unfair that the criminal is seen as righteous and the victim as humble.

It's obvious that people who hurt others are wrong. Even if they're related to you, that doesn't change anything.

☘️ Besides, why base your self-worth and sense of purpose on someone who is a domestic abuser? Does it mean you have no meaning if he doesn't like you?

It's normal for him not to like you. If someone who is a domestic abuser likes someone, they're probably similar.

So, this is a good thing! It shows that you are normal and not a criminal.

Your sense of purpose and self-worth come from within. Nobody is responsible for another person's life. If someone claims to be responsible for yours, don't accept it. If they can't be responsible for their own life, why would they be able to take responsibility for someone else's?

Don't you have your own life to live?

So, remember, you're not at fault here. It's the abuser.

You're a regular person, and it's hard to feel comfortable after going through domestic violence.

But please, love yourself. Don't punish yourself for the abuser's mistakes.

We've seen how you've been hurting and suffering. We're with you, supporting you through this tough time and working towards a brighter future.

Please call the police and report the situation to the relevant authorities.

Just make sure you stay safe. We don't want to see your name in the news as a domestic violence victim.

The abuser won't back down until there are serious legal consequences.

Girl, love yourself and take care of yourself.

We're here for you.

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world, and I love you too.