A 29-year-old woman was betrayed and mocked by friends nine years ago, leading to her feeling despondent.

Give the questioner a simple hug. It's okay, this isn't your problem. You don't need to punish yourself for someone else's mistakes.

1. You can really get to know someone through one little incident!

It's natural to want to protect someone from getting involved with the wrong person. But sometimes, we can only see clearly after experiencing something ourselves. So, at the beginning, the questioner told her best friend about her conflict with the other person. She was looking for understanding and support.

However, the other person didn't keep the matter confidential. They also made the whole thing public, which caused the OP a lot of harm. It's understandable that the OP is a bit world-weary and has developed a distrustful attitude towards everyone around her.

I'm really sorry to hear that their teasing has caused you another layer of hurt. But you know what? You can reflect on what you did wrong in the previous handling process, or what your own problems are, and pay attention to them in the future to avoid making the same mistake.

2. Don't worry, there's no need to give up the whole forest for a single blade of grass!

It's so easy to see things as good or bad, but they're not always that simple. Lots of people just want to know what's going on, but they don't always get the full picture. And then there are those casual comments we all make sometimes, before we really understand what's going on.

Take, for instance, the current state of the news and social media. It's become quite common for events to unfold in unexpected ways. So, it's important to be careful about what we believe and accept that what someone says might not be the absolute truth. The person who asked the question simply chose to block others, which is a perfectly valid way to handle a tricky situation.

I'd like you to think about this: if your best friend encountered such a situation, would you casually change your opinion of them based on their word alone? How much energy would you devote to someone you don't know well?

It's a great idea to leave someone who's hurting you. But remember, the world isn't full of just one type of person. Learn to be at peace with yourself and try to open your heart.

I may be a small frying pan, but I love you, world, and you love me, too!

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post, I think I would have had the same thoughts and feelings. The poster also faced her feelings and sought help, which helped her understand herself and adjust.

I'm sharing my thoughts to help the original poster understand the situation better.

1. Thank yourself.

The poster was betrayed and teased. I feel sorry for her.

The original poster knows why he closed himself off. I was still in school then.

Betrayal from friends and teasing from classmates is a big blow.

We didn't know what to do. We could only protect ourselves by shutting ourselves in.

Don't let others hurt you.

Thank yourself for protecting yourself.

Thank yourself for protecting your fear.

2. Say goodbye to the past.

Thank the old self, then say goodbye to the past. The old self didn't have much knowledge or resources to protect itself.

We don't have enough ability to protect ourselves. But now we've grown up, we have more ways to protect ourselves.

The situation has changed. Is our old way of protecting ourselves still good?

The host can try to communicate with others, see their feedback, and see if they hurt others. You will see that not everyone is like that friend. You can now identify dangers.

You'll feel like things have changed.

Tell the little girl inside you who is afraid of being hurt that you can protect her. No matter what, you will protect her.

When we do this, the inner child will grow up. We will also become more powerful.

3. Look at the bright side.

That year really hurt the host, but did it also show the dark side of human nature? Once we see this, will we be more careful in the future?

Will we avoid our regular friends? Will this help our future relationships?

It's good that we learned about human nature so we won't make the same mistakes. Will this help us in the future?

We can't change what's happened, but we can change how we think about it.

I hope these words help the original poster. I am Zeng Chen, a certified psychosynthesis coach.