A 34-year-old man, with no joy in life, finds living a tiresome existence, but dares not die...

Hello, landlord, I saw your description and I understand how you feel. I hope that what I'm sharing will be helpful for you.

As you mentioned in the article, at 34 years old, I don't have a partner, I don't have savings, and I have a lot of debt. I let my parents help me pay it off, and I feel bad for them. I blame myself and want to end this life, but I'm afraid.

As the saying goes, a man should be able to stand on his own two feet by the age of 30. We are now past that age, and we have nothing to show for it. Not only have we not relieved our parents of the pressure of life, we have instead added to it, and it is not theirs to bear.

We all have this thought:

"If only I were rich, I would have no worries, I would not have to think about anything, and I could do whatever I want." It's pretty clear that in this era of rapid economic development, the rich are the masters.

We've got a house and a car, and we don't have to worry about food or clothing.

I'd like to share a few thoughts with you.

But who says that adult life has to be exhausting? The person who is completely overwhelmed by life and becomes expressionless in the crowd must be someone who lacks the courage and mood to live life the way they like.

We all need to grow, and every failure is just another brick in the foundation of our lives.

We all grow up, but becoming someone we hate isn't growth. Knowing what kind of person you want to become and working hard in that direction is the true sign of growth.

Otherwise, you'll just be getting older and grayer, and you'll be as confused and busy as a spinning top with nothing to show for it.

We all have dreams. It's tough for a father to become the person he wants to be, and the goal is a bit far away, but if you take it one step at a time, you'll slowly become the person you want to be.

It's important to remember that the person who strives to live and improve is part of who we want to be. Before life becomes too stagnant, it's still full of possibilities and uncertainties. If you can take a step back and appreciate the efforts you've made, you'll smile when you look back in the near future.

It's not the truth that matters, it's you living your truth. When you feel like you've become a boring, uninteresting person, it's because you've accepted that life is boring and tasteless.

A live fish swims upstream, while a dead fish floats downstream.

Every time you look in the mirror, take a good look. Are you happy with who you see? Is your life on track?

Take a moment to think about what you really want. No matter what age you are, don't let this short but splendid life pass you by!

Believe in yourself, come on!

Hello, I'm Xin'an Zhi.

At 34, unemployed, in debt, with parents helping to pay it off, this is stressful.

Why did you get into debt? Starting a business?

Investments?

What are your parents' finances like?

Can they pay off your debts?

Are you single, never been in a anxiety/unhealthy-relationships-i-hope-to-learn-techniques-to-prevent-me-from-being-tempted-15682.html" target="_blank">relationship, or did you break up with someone?

Why did you break up?

How long have you worked? What's your work situation?

How do you get along at work?

What is an achievement? A promotion and a pay rise?

Or your own ideas?

Are you stuck at work? Have you tried to improve yourself?

Or maybe you want to leave your job and change your environment.

Why not? Why won't you challenge yourself?

Do you lack confidence?

If you lack confidence, where does it come from? Have you ever been questioned?

Have you been looked down on?

How is your family and friends?

You say you have anxiety and OCD. Have you been diagnosed?

Are you taking any medication? How effective is it?

Is it a feeling? Have you seen a counselor?

It's irresponsible to give hasty advice when you don't have all the info.

Every choice in life is yours. What's your final decision? When you calm down and face the real you, the answer will come.

Life is full of ups and downs. Failure, frustration, and disappointment are normal.

At 34, life is full of possibilities. Try more!

If you try and work hard, a ray of light will show you the way.

"I see you, I understand you, I accept you. I'll be with you, support you, and help you get through this. You can do it."

I wish you the best and believe you can make the best choice.

Hello, I'm Answerer Enoch.

The questioner seems to have a hard time coping with his environment. He also mentioned that he has obsessive-compulsive disorder.

I know someone with OCD. Adapting to life is hard for people with OCD.

Some people with OCD have symptoms for life. It's hard to cure them.

My friend has OCD and has tried many treatments, but is still taking medication. She had a boyfriend in high school, and now she is married and has her own child. Her parents helped her and her husband buy a house together, and she is now able to adapt to life and take care of her child. She is still unable to work, and sometimes she is still affected by her obsessive thoughts.

The questioner should not rush to change their situation. This kind of problem takes time to heal. The questioner should give their parents some space. Their parents want the questioner to live a good life.

Some suggestions for healing: focus on what's around you, not your thoughts. If you're struggling, help your parents with chores, cooking, cleaning, planning, and organizing your own life.

Take on some family responsibilities to feel accomplished and enhance your social skills. Learn another skill if you don't want to deal with people.

Get a job and take care of your own life.

With financial support, the questioner can think about marriage and love issues.

The main point is to change yourself gradually without rushing. This will help you achieve results slowly and effectively. I hope the questioner can gradually return to a normal state of life through self-adjustments every day.