A 9th grade girl has changed teachers, her grades have dropped, and she has no self-confidence at all. What should she do?

Hello, question owner!

I think we're all feeling a little anxious at the moment, worrying that we won't do well, won't achieve the desired results, and will be criticized by the teacher. But, don't we all want to be valued?

Our teacher has two different teaching styles. One teacher is really good at encouraging you, seeing you, and filling you with confidence. This helps you to see the shining you inside, and we feel more and more convinced that we are excellent.

The teacher, on the other hand, is focusing on the areas where we need the most improvement. In the past, we could ignore these questions and just do the ones we liked. But if we think about it calmly, what can we do when faced with these questions? Can we discuss the unfamiliar knowledge points with classmates and teachers who are good at these types of questions?

We were doing so well before, but now we've fallen a bit behind. The teacher's punishment of having to write out the answers has made us worry that if we don't do well, we'll be singled out for criticism. It's totally understandable to feel this way! But, we can make our own voice heard. We can ask ourselves, "Is it really reasonable?" Perhaps at the moment we see our own vulnerability.

Everyone is different, and that's a good thing! If we can't be like the ideal teacher's favorite, then we'll be the student who makes mistakes and has his own thoughts. In fact, we've heard that this teacher has a very good teaching level, but we just can't keep up with the pace. It's important to recognize our own strengths and weaknesses, the strengths and weaknesses of this teacher, the parts of us that don't get along with this teacher, how to view the teacher's harshness, and what benefits the teacher's punishment can bring us. Since there are no gentle teachers, we can treat ourselves with the same kindness and understanding we'd extend to a teacher.

We shake hands peacefully with the parts we can't do well. I just can't do them well, and that's okay! We all have weaknesses, and that's perfectly normal. Since we can't meet the requirements and expectations, we should accept them frankly. Or when the teacher criticizes us next time, we should think about it. Even if she criticizes me, I still recognize myself. It's just that this teacher is not the best fit for me. I am still confident in my abilities. Since we can't change the teacher's mind, we should change our own thoughts and attitudes. Dare to challenge authority, and you can overcome it if you are not afraid inside.

Or when we do the exercises next time, we can do all the ones we know how to do first, and then do them in the same way as before. As for the ones we don't know, there's no need to worry too much. Our focus is not on them, but on the items we can score points for. Since it is impossible to be perfect and get everything right, there's no point in wasting time!

I'll do my best to do as much as I can, but if I can't, I won't force myself to answer anything.

Warmest wishes! I'm so sorry I'm late. I'm really grateful for your support. Love, 壹心理,

Insight into the mind, let sharing become a habit! I am talking to myself, and it's going great!

I remember when my eldest child was in the third grade of primary school, he also experienced a change of math teacher. From my perspective as a parent, I think it is absolutely true that changing teachers can have a temporary impact on a child's attitude towards a particular subject – it's a great way to keep things fresh and exciting!

Today, I'm thrilled to share some of my thoughts on this matter in the light of my own experience at the time. I hope my insights will be of some help to the questioner!

The concept of liking a teacher is a wonderful manifestation of your natural tendency to please!

Let me give you an example. Most of us have the habit of brushing our teeth in the morning and evening. We were guided to do so by adults at a very young age, and slowly this habit became deeply rooted in our hearts. Now, if no one reminds you, you'll be amazed at how easy it is to brush your teeth in the morning and evening!

The good news is that the probability is that it won't. Why? Because you're used to it!

So, if someone forces you not to brush your teeth at night, what would your experience be? It would be very difficult, and at least for a period of time you would feel very uncomfortable. But you know what? You can change!

And that's why! Someone has broken our inherent lifestyle patterns.

Absolutely! A person can change. It just takes a little courage and determination to embrace the facts of change.

Like this teacher you like, he is like our habit of brushing our teeth in the morning and evening. You are already very familiar with him and understand him, whether it is his personal preferences or his teaching skills, and you feel particularly comfortable. Learning is often most effective in this situation, which is great!

In many cases, you will absolutely love learning what you love! Think about it, what could be more motivating than what you love inside?

Naturally, in this kind of atmosphere, your learning will be brimming with endless motivation, and your academic performance will be nothing short of spectacular!

The new teacher's sternness is simply your inner rejection of her teaching style compared to that of the previous teacher.

There's an old Chinese saying that I love: All roads lead to Rome. It means that when faced with a problem, there are countless ways to solve it. The methods may be different, but the end result is often the same.

Just like the two teachers you mentioned, the former is great at encouraging students, while the latter is strict with them. These two different teaching methods are like two roads to Rome. I believe that the ultimate goal of the two teachers is for the good of their students, but the methods they use are different. Different teaching methods will inevitably make some students adapt, while some students will feel extremely uncomfortable.

Just as in the example we gave earlier about brushing your teeth, I was already completely used to brushing my teeth in the morning and evening, but now I have to only brush in the morning. Even though it feels like it has reduced the amount of work I have to do, I still can't accept it. Every night, going to bed without brushing my teeth always makes me feel uncomfortable. But guess what? I'm going to make the best of it!

So, you will have a comparison in your heart. And you know what? That's a good thing! Without comparison, there is no harm. I think this saying makes a lot of sense. When you compare the teaching methods of a strict teacher with the encouraging approach of your previous teacher, you will subconsciously agree with the current approach. You will have a feeling inside that the new approach is not as good as the previous one. And that's okay! Once you have this feeling, you will reject it, and naturally you will become a bit annoyed with the new teacher. But that's just your mind playing tricks on you.

Think about it! When you are particularly annoyed with someone, don't you naturally have a negative reaction to many things about them?

No one is perfect. And that's a good thing! Whether it's learning or life, what suits you is the best.

Teachers are human too! They're knowledgeable and have lots of great teaching experience. Each teacher has their own unique teaching methods, and as students, we should embrace this!

As students, we have the incredible opportunity to learn from a wide range of teachers with diverse teaching methods. These teachers are there to support us and help us learn in the best way possible. While it's true that it's not always possible for a teacher to give each of us the attention we need, we can still adapt and learn from their guidance.

Ultimately, students should be excited about learning, understanding, and achieving good grades, regardless of the method they use to learn. The original poster has probably accumulated a bunch of great learning methods over the years, and they've been verified by their own results, so they can keep using these awesome methods! I don't think it conflicts with the new teacher's requirements because everything is judged by results. As long as your learning methods work, there's no need to overly confine yourself to a mode that you are not comfortable with.

This will not only prevent you from learning well, but it will also affect your learning. I think you should definitely talk to the teacher in private about your thoughts! They will understand.

And now for the final word!

You are still a student, and you will have to face the world in the future. Whether you are a student or in the workplace, we should all remember: people need to have their own ideas, and not be swayed by other people's ideas. (Just like your approach to doing problems.) If you think a certain method is more suitable for you, then use it! The ability to make choices at any time is also a kind of ability.

I wish you nothing but the best in every way, and I'm excited to see you make progress in your studies!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, and I'm here to help. I'm Fei Yun, your coach.

It's important to recognize that when a teacher changes, it can create a lot of pressure, which can lead to fear about studying and exams. It's natural to worry and feel afraid, but it's also important to remember that this can make it more likely to make mistakes, which might affect your grades.

Let's take a moment to embrace each other and explore the challenges you're facing, along with some potential solutions.

? 1. Identifying your own concerns and apprehensions

You were fortunate to have a previous math teacher who encouraged you and helped boost your self-confidence, which contributed to your good grades. A positive teacher-student relationship can greatly influence a student's interest and enthusiasm in learning.

You have a new teacher who is very strict. You hear about him before you meet him, and you are filled with an intangible sense of awe, which might be perceived as fear by some.

You are taken aback and feel a sense of trepidation, which in turn leads to a vicious cycle: the more you fear, the more you worry, the more you worry, the less you can focus on studying for exams, which ultimately leads to a decline in grades.

It's not so much the teacher who frightens you, but rather the "demon within" that is at work. You are worried that you will not do well and will be punished by the teacher, such as having to copy out a passage or being publicly criticized.

It's a bit like riding a bike. If you see a small stone on the road, the more you try to avoid it, the more you ride right into it. Why might that be? It could be because "attention will be strengthened." Let's do an experiment: "Don't think about a white elephant." Is it not precisely an elephant that appears in your mind?

When you focus on worrying, it can often lead to a magnification of that worry. It can be challenging to know how to deal with such feelings, and they can also consume two units of energy. Given the limited nature of human energy, it can be difficult to maintain focus on studying.

2. How might we approach our concerns and apprehensions?

It can be helpful to remain mindful and attentive, allowing us to perform tasks more effectively. However, excessive tension can lead to feelings of anxiety.

Teachers can be thought of as tools on your learning journey. They can help you to successfully complete your studies and ultimately achieve success.

It's similar to a pen or a book. Have you ever had any concerns about these tools?

Anxiety is often a concern about the future, often imagined in the mind. Even if you miss an exam, the worst that can happen is that you get a scolding and have to write out the answers. This kind of result can be more conducive to strengthening your understanding and mastery of the knowledge points.

If we are unable to change what happens, we can always try to change the way we perceive it.

When fear reappears, you can acknowledge it by saying to yourself, "This is just an idea/thought in my head," and then let it go. You can even say this aloud when you are alone. I would also like to suggest reading "Jumping Out of the Head and Into the Life," which explores how human thoughts affect our lives.

"Strict teachers produce outstanding students," "management is strict love," and "what is reasonable is training, what is unreasonable is tempering." It's important to remember that the teacher is not targeting you alone; strictness and severity are just the methods and means he uses to achieve the teaching objectives. He treats everyone the same way, and even if you are being punished, you are not alone.

If I may suggest, it might be helpful to set aside 10 minutes every day to meditate and reflect on your thoughts, your perception of fear, and your anxiety. When you are able to observe your emotions, you may find that new possibilities emerge, and change can begin.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. I wish you well in all your endeavors.

If you would like to continue our dialogue, you are welcome to click on the "Find a coach" link, which you will find in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I would be delighted to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Dear Sir/Madam, I note from your query that you are a junior high school girl, and that this semester you have a new math teacher who is very strict. However, you feel very awkward because your previous math teacher often encouraged you, which resulted in your math grades being pretty good. I hope this message finds you well. Best regards, [Name]

However, the new instructor this semester has a very strict approach. She requires strict adherence to her instructions for each exam, and severely punishes students who leave blanks or fail to write out the answers. You believe her approach is unreasonable.

Each time you are required to take an exam according to the new teacher's standards, you experience a sense of panic. The coping mechanisms you previously relied upon are no longer effective. You experience a sense of panic from the outset to the conclusion of the exam, which affects your mentality during the exam, and your grades have declined significantly.

Previously, you were able to complete all the questions in the final exam. However, you currently lack confidence and experience significant anxiety. You are seeking guidance on the best course of action, and I am attempting to provide answers to your questions.

I can see that your biggest problem at the moment is that you feel very anxious when doing exercises. In the past, you were very relaxed when doing exercises and followed your own rhythm. Now, you feel that your previous rhythm and state of mind have been disrupted. You have not yet adapted to the new teacher's teaching requirements, so your bad mood directly affects your state of mind during exams and thus your exam results.

Cognitive therapy posits that it is not the occurrence of an event itself that determines one's emotional and behavioral responses, but rather one's perception of the event, feelings, and thoughts associated with it.

To illustrate,

The fact that you have a new instructor and must adapt to a new teaching methodology represents a significant change in the learning environment.

You perceive the instructor's standards to be excessively rigorous and anticipate severe consequences should you fail to meet them.

Your emotional responses during the exam included worry, panic, unease, anxiety, and fear.

Anxiety can negatively impact performance on exams, resulting in lower grades. This is a behavioral response.

One method for addressing anxiety is to make it more tangible. What is your primary concern? How would you respond if the worst-case scenario were to occur? What would be the optimal outcome? What is the most probable outcome?

What steps can you take to adapt to the new teacher's teaching methods? The previous teacher provided encouragement to students, and you felt no threat, so you were very relaxed and were able to achieve good results.

The current generation of teachers tends to be quite strict, and their teaching methods can often make students feel nervous. It is advisable to discuss this with your parents and request that they communicate with your teacher to see if they can encourage you more and make you feel more relaxed, which should help you to learn better.

The individual in question can typically engage in breathing exercises to relax and relieve anxiety, or consult with the school's psychological counselor or a trusted friend or relative about their innermost thoughts, which can also help relieve anxiety.

I hope you are able to resolve your issues in the near future. Best regards.

Hello, I hope this message finds you well. I just wanted to check in and see how you're doing. Take care, -Your friend

Reading your message really struck a chord with me and brought back memories. My daughter was in a similar situation three years ago.

It's the last semester of junior high school. Out of the blue, after the semester started, the homeroom teacher was replaced, as was the child's favorite English teacher.

The math teacher has changed. My child and her classmates were not used to it at first because they live in the school dormitory. After learning that the teacher had changed, they started to complain on the phone about how the new teacher was no good and that there were only a few months left before the entrance exam.

It's a stressful situation for everyone involved. The kids are anxious, and so are we parents. We've been in touch with the older students, the headmaster, and the previous teacher, but ultimately, we have to follow the school's lead. The school's response has been to report the issue to the education bureau, and even if the teacher is changed immediately, it will be the next semester.

What can we do?

Ultimately, it's about adapting and finding what works best for you. We need to adjust our children's and our own attitudes.

It's time to accept that the teacher isn't going to change. It's time to change your own attitude.

If you can adapt to the teacher, great. If not, just get the homework done. If you can afford it, you can also hire a foreign tutor for one-on-one tutoring or learn in your own way. What else can you do?

We need to adjust our mindset. Think about what you want.

This school is just a stepping stone on the path of life. Problems are there to help us grow, so focus on your needs.

Treat problems as resources. Face them head-on.

Keep an eye out for opportunities in the midst of difficulties.

Ultimately, the class where the child is in has the most students admitted to the key high school, and my child has also been successfully admitted to the key high school in our city.

There's more to life than just passing the entrance exam. Let's talk about how to improve our interest in learning for the sake of future learning.

First of all, learning is a long process. Don't expect instant success.

We should treat ourselves with a humanist approach. What exactly is humanism?

We should think about how happy we are and our overall outlook. What is natural and inborn is reasonable, for example, our intelligence, character, gender...

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So, we should think of ourselves as human beings.

Ultimately, teachers and parents want their students to excel in their chosen field. So, where does academic success come from?

You can't do without the hard work of your teachers. The most important thing is your own motivation to learn. So, where does this motivation to learn come from?

It all comes down to our interest in learning. Interest in learning is the foundation of learning, just as soil is to trees.

If we don't have an interest in learning, we won't study on our own initiative, let alone achieve good results. So cultivating an interest in learning is the first thing we need to do.

So, how do you cultivate an interest in learning?

First, stop talking about how hard studying is and don't make it seem like it's worse than it is.

Our Chinese nation has always placed the greatest value on learning. From ancient times to the present, there have been countless inspiring sayings about the importance of education.

Parents often say, "My child, there is a path through the mountain of books, and the sea of learning is a boat for which hard work is the oar. Only those who are willing to put in the work can become outstanding people!"

"Ten years of hard work at the window of winter can make you leap over the Dragon Gate!" "Study as if your life depended on it, study as if your life depended on it!"

Some people even say you should "learn by hanging your head from the ceiling and piercing your skull with an awl!"

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This kind of education is pretty common among our parents. It's probably the result of not understanding psychology.

One thing these educations have in common is that they make studying seem like a really unpleasant and unfortunate task.

Second, we need to boost the positive feelings about learning and cut down on the negative ones.

How many people remember that learning often involved being beaten, scolded, nagged, and criticized? Do you really enjoy learning?

If kids have a negative emotional experience of learning, it's unlikely they'll be interested in it. It could even lead to them being put off.

What's the best way to go about this? Look to the Jews for inspiration.

Jews are known around the world for their love of learning. In fact, the number of Jewish Nobel Prize winners is the highest as a percentage of the Jewish population.

Make learning as enjoyable as possible. Connect learning with positive emotions.

Or you could try to reduce the negative emotional experience of learning. For example, the Jews put honey on their books and let their children lick it.

The third thing to remember is to treat learning as a reward, not a punishment.

How can we use learning as a punishment tool? If you make a mistake, you have to write the words 100 times. This can cause serious psychological trauma.

They'll think that learning is a bad thing for life and hate it.

Another Jewish practice is to say, "My child, what have you done wrong this time? You're not allowed to do your homework!" This makes learning a reward rather than a punishment.

You can see this in students at the 985 and 211 universities. Many of them have a tough time learning and try hard to push aside their negative feelings about it. They grit their teeth and go to a well-known university. Then they slack off and don't care about learning. Very few people like to really dig into knowledge.

Even if you have a master's degree or a doctorate, you still have to think rationally if you want to earn a living in the future. That's why there are so few Chinese Nobel laureates compared to the number of Chinese people.

Fourth, using your own interests to guide your learning helps you link what you're learning to positive emotions.

The consistency effect is also worth mentioning.

The consistency effect is when you make an effort to maintain consistency between what you say and what you do after you've made a serious commitment to your actions or choices. I like to learn, I love to learn, and learning makes me happy.

Guide your child to say this and say more and more things about loving learning yourself. Stick with it for 3, 5, or even 10 years, and there's a good chance you'll come to enjoy learning too.

Sixth, professional psychological techniques – hypnosis.

This method is only practical for professionals. It's the fastest and most effective way to cultivate an interest in learning. But in life, nagging by parents is basically a kind of hypnosis.

There are lots of ways to get more interested in learning. Find the one that works for you and stick with it. Have you thought about linking learning with positive emotions?

Give it some time and you'll see what works best.

This is just my two cents.

Hello, my dear child. I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

You might feel that you like your previous math teacher better because she often encouraged you, which made you feel very confident during exams and your exam scores were quite good. However, the new teacher is very strict and has different requirements than your previous teacher, which makes you feel uncomfortable. So, every time you take an exam, you panic from beginning to end, and your grades have plummeted. You feel like you've lost all confidence, right?

Don't be discouraged, don't be afraid. You've got this! A temporary lack of adaptability won't keep you from doing well in school. We can make some adjustments according to our own situation, seek some support and help, help ourselves see the current problems, and find the right way to gradually build up self-confidence.

I really want to help you, so here's my advice:

Take a moment to feel the encouragement and support that your former math teacher gave you. Close your eyes and picture that confidence and your previous success. Find that same feeling inside you that makes you feel confident. If you can, try contacting your former math teacher to seek her support and encouragement. If not, you can always give yourself support and encouragement in her tone of voice.

Maybe you're not used to the way your teacher treats you. You like encouraging teachers, not strict ones. An encouraging teacher will make you feel more at ease and more confident, while a strict teacher will make you nervous and not so sure of yourself. But there's nothing we can do to change the situation now, because there's no way we can replace the new math teacher. And the new teacher will also have her own characteristics. We just can't get used to some of her rules and teaching methods for the time being, but we'll get there!

So, let's see, what can we do in the face of the current situation? We need to do something we can change, something we can adjust.

If you're feeling a bit unsure of yourself right now, why not try contacting your former math teacher? You can tell her how you're feeling and ask for her support and encouragement. This will help you feel stronger and more confident. You can also think back to when you did well in math and remind yourself that you can do it again.

If you can't get in touch with your old math teacher, don't worry! You can just imagine what kind of encouragement she would give you. Then, you can imitate her tone and words to give yourself support and encouragement.

2. You can also talk to your new math teacher about how you're feeling and what you need. Using non-violent communication, you can let your teacher know how they can best support you. This will help you build a stronger relationship with your teacher and might even influence some of their teaching methods!

I think it's so great that nowadays, education places more emphasis on student autonomy. It's really important to me that if students have some needs, they can actually feedback and express them to the teacher. After all, in the end, everyone's goal is for students to master the knowledge. So, if there is a better way to motivate you to learn and improve your academic performance, then the teacher, after understanding the situation, will also consider making some adjustments. I really encourage you to try to express your feelings and needs to the teacher.

You can use non-violent communication to avoid conflicts in your communication and instead allow you to understand each other better through communication. That is, without criticizing or blaming, you can express your true feelings and needs, as well as specific requests to the teacher.

You can say to the teacher, "Teacher, I'm really struggling with this exam. I only got ** points, and I feel so sad and uncomfortable. I have no confidence anymore. I feel very panicked every time I take an exam, for fear that I won't finish writing the answers. And when I encounter some difficult problems, I can't write them down even after reading them over and over again. My math grades have dropped a lot now, and I'm very worried and anxious. I hope the teacher can give me some guidance and suggestions, and see what I can do to adjust and improve. Also, I don't understand why the teacher insists that we write down the content of the big questions at the end. Can the teacher explain?"

Then you can listen to the teacher's feedback and response, and see why she did it that way. I'm sure you'll understand better. In fact, she definitely did it to improve your academic performance and learning ability. You may experience setbacks in exams for the time being, but developing this answering habit will be of great help to you in future big exams. Through this kind of communication, you may be able to resolve some of the doubts and misunderstandings in your heart. When you can accept her teaching style more, and your relationship with her improves, then you will definitely have more confidence in mathematics and motivation to learn.

3. You can chat with your classmates and see how they've adapted to the new teacher and teaching methods. This is a great chance to see if you've hit any new learning snags. Once you've got through those, I'm sure you'll be able to adapt to the new teaching methods and get great results again!

Do all students' grades drop because of the arrival of a new teacher? If not, then how did they do it?

You can talk to them and see how they view the matter that is troubling you, and how they adjusted themselves. This can also become your experience. And the new teacher's emphasis on answering the big questions at the back may also be because the focus of your semester is to develop good habits of answering big questions. Big questions are the focus of your studies and where the bulk of the points are, so it's really important to get them right!

For example, in second grade, the teacher may not have placed much emphasis on composition, but in third grade, they do. Many students then begin to find Chinese difficult, and this is when they encounter a learning block.

It's totally normal to hit learning blocks, and this is a great chance to explore and figure things out. You can find out why you're so afraid of answering big questions and why you can't write anything down even though you've read the questions over and over. Have we done enough practice? Do we have a clear solution to this type of question? You can go buy some reference books to read or ask your teacher, classmates, or parents for help. When you can break through this block, you'll no longer be troubled by answering big questions and can quickly have a solution to the problem and know how to answer it. Then you'll believe that you can do well in your studies!

Come on, little girl, I know you can do it! You can do it!

Good day. My name is Evan.

According to the questioner's own account, prior to the change in mathematics teachers, the questioner's grades in mathematics were still satisfactory. However, the new teacher's requirements, which were perceived as overly strict, made it challenging for the questioner to adapt to the pace of instruction. Is this an accurate representation of the situation? When an individual has achieved results in a specific environment or rhythm, it is indeed difficult to adapt to a new environment or rhythm.

From a broader perspective, it is challenging for students to adapt to their teachers' requirements while maintaining their grades. When faced with a new teacher's teaching style, there are strategies to facilitate a smooth transition. It is not necessary to rush the adaptation process. The key is to progress at a pace that is comfortable for the individual and to deliver quality work to the teacher in a timely manner.

In light of the questioner's decision to seek advice on this particular platform, I am limited in my ability to offer more complex solutions. However, I hope that the suggestions I have outlined below will prove beneficial.

It is recommended that the current situation be accepted.

What factors contribute to the questioner's negative outlook and inability to accept the current situation? Some negative thoughts are readily apparent, while others are more elusive.

It is recommended that any negative emotions that arise be recorded in a few words.

It is important to ascertain the root cause of the negative emotion. Is it due to an inability to adapt to the teacher's teaching methods, or is it a result of the teacher's approach to answering questions? To illustrate, consider a scenario where a teacher mandates that each topic be written about. If a student is unable to meet this requirement, they are subjected to a punitive measure such as copying. This situation, in particular, has the potential to elicit a negative emotional response.

Given that the punishment of copying is causing distress and that it is a requirement of the new teacher that is difficult to change, it would seem that the questioner should attempt to accept this requirement and to complete the last question.

If so, is it necessary to punish the questioner by requiring them to copy? And if the question is not understood, would copying the answer be more conducive to the questioner remembering the steps to solve the problem?

It is essential to ascertain the rationale behind the disciplinary action. Does the questioner comprehend the teacher's objectives?

The aforementioned punishment of copying appears to be directed not at students who perform well in their studies, but rather at those who are struggling and in need of additional support to enhance their understanding of the subject matter. Once the questioner comprehends the rationale behind the teacher's instructions, it is expected that they will be able to accept the teacher's requirements and their current state.

It is imperative to halt the progression of negative emotions.

Once the source of negative emotions has been identified, it is possible to overcome them by offering oneself encouragement. To illustrate, if one is pessimistic about the morning ahead, it is helpful to remind oneself that the day will improve after the morning has passed. This approach helps to maintain a positive mindset.

In the event of encountering negative emotions, it is advisable to refrain from dwelling on them or discussing them at length. Instead, it is recommended to adopt a positive outlook and engage in constructive discourse. With consistent practice, this approach can facilitate a shift in one's mental state.

It is essential to ascertain the source of these negative emotions.

What are the underlying causes of the negative emotions? Is it a concern about academic performance, or is it a disapproval of the instructor's pedagogical approach? Alternatively, is it a sense of being a former exemplary student who has fallen behind due to an inability to adapt to the instructor's pace?

This necessitates a meticulous examination of the subject matter, aimed at discerning the specific factors that are influencing the questioner's emotional state and giving rise to negative sentiments. These observations are then documented in written form.

It is essential to ascertain the source of the negative emotions and to identify the underlying cause. To illustrate, if the questioner believes that the teacher's expectations are not sufficiently reasonable, it is crucial to understand how other students perceive these requirements.

Has the student's academic performance improved since they began following their teacher's advice? The student consistently asserts that their previous mathematics instructor was a better fit for them, and that the current mathematics teacher's pedagogical approach is not aligned with their learning style. Thus, it is essential to ascertain whether the student can adapt independently.

If the questioner is concerned about their ability to adapt, will this prevent them from focusing on their studies? What are the underlying concerns that the questioner is trying to address?

It is unclear whether the issue is inability to adapt to the teacher's pace, inability to meet past academic standards, or fear of plagiarism. It is essential to conduct a thorough self-assessment.

Prioritize the issue that requires the most immediate attention.

The inability to adapt to the teaching pace of the new instructor, the decline in academic performance, and negative emotional states such as anxiety have left the question asker in a state of uncertainty. The question asker may benefit from a process of self-reflection through the use of journaling, wherein they can document the challenges they are facing and identify the most pressing issues to address.

Subsequently, the relative importance of the issues should be determined according to one's emotional state, with the most pressing issue being identified.

Once the most pressing issue has been identified, it is advisable to ascertain whether a solution can be found independently. In the event that this is not feasible, it may be beneficial to consult with a knowledgeable individual who can provide guidance and assistance. One potential avenue for seeking assistance is to engage in a discussion with a former mathematics instructor, with the aim of identifying a viable approach to addressing the problem at hand.

The state currently demonstrates a high level of attention to students' psychological issues, and there is always a readily available psychological counselor. Students are encouraged to communicate with their school's counselor about their personal concerns to determine the most effective course of action. It is important to recognize that there are always more solutions than problems.

It is recommended that each day be approached with a positive attitude.

It is recommended that each day begin with a positive outlook. When waking, it is advised to consider five positive aspects of the day ahead.

Such positive occurrences may be minor events in one's daily life, such as listening to a pleasant melody, watching an engaging film, experiencing a delicious meal, or learning an additional half-hour of knowledge the previous day. It is beneficial to reflect on these positive experiences and verbalize them aloud to initiate the day with a positive outlook.

A positive attitude serves as the foundation for commencing a new day, thereby impeding the proliferation of negative emotions.

One might be reluctant to vocalize positive affirmations, yet research indicates that verbalizing these statements can foster belief in their veracity. This practice has been linked to enhanced happiness, focus, and a reduction in negative thinking.

It is essential to establish personal objectives.

In order to facilitate learning or adaptation to the teacher's pedagogical approach, it is essential to define a clear objective. It is crucial to consider the desired outcome of the objective in question.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the desire is for teacher approval, to control the rhythm of the examination, or to achieve a specific result. Once this has been determined, a detailed action plan can be created.

It is recommended that individuals follow their own rhythm, implement minor changes on a daily basis, create an action plan, refrain from concerning themselves with the opinions and ideas of others, and pursue their plan independently. Upon completion, individuals may choose to reward themselves with a purchase of their choosing. As they achieve incremental learning objectives, the act of rewarding themselves will serve as an effective internal motivator, enabling them to regain their motivation.

It is recommended that you seek external assistance.

Should the aforementioned methods prove ineffective, it is imperative to seek external assistance from a qualified psychologist or counselor. These professionals can provide invaluable guidance and support through psychological intervention. It is recommended to openly and candidly communicate with them about the negative emotions and their associated effects.

It is important to articulate with clarity how these negative emotions affect you, to describe the typical occurrence of these emotions, and to explain how you respond to them. If necessary, it is advisable to maintain ongoing communication with these professionals until these negative emotions no longer impact you.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the questioner.

Dear Questioner, You have inquired about the best course of action for a middle school girl who has changed teachers and experienced a decline in academic performance, accompanied by a lack of confidence. What would be the most effective solution?

I commend you for your awareness of your learning situation. You demonstrate a keen awareness of and attach great importance to your studies, which I believe will enable you to make progress again. Let's take a look at your question together.

As a junior high school student, you have recently been assigned a new mathematics instructor. This individual is renowned for maintaining a strict academic environment and has consistently produced high-performing students. However, you find yourself experiencing a sense of discomfort due to your affection for your previous mathematics instructor, who also frequently offered you encouragement. Consequently, you were highly confident in your ability to excel in mathematics examinations and consistently achieved commendable grades.

However, this semester is distinct. The new instructor is notably strict. The aspect you may be least aware of is that she requires students to document the content of all questions on exams, with the understanding that the content must receive points. If any student leaves a question blank or does not provide an answer, they will be required to copy the answer. This is not mere speculation. In the initial exams, every student who did not complete the exam was identified and criticized by the instructor, resulting in the need to copy the answer. Is this truly reasonable?

As a result, when you are required to complete a multiple-choice question at the beginning of an exam this semester, you experience a sense of panic, fearing that you will be unable to finish writing it. Similarly, when you come to the more challenging questions at the end, you are unable to skip them as you previously could without feeling undue pressure. Now, you find yourself reading the questions repeatedly in a state of panic, but still unable to write anything. During the exam, you experience a sense of panic from beginning to end. Additionally, your grades have declined significantly. Previously, you were able to complete the last question with only one question remaining, but now you lack confidence.

The law of conservation of energy states that energy cannot be created or destroyed, only transformed.

Please indicate your level of satisfaction with the original mathematics teacher and the extent to which you anticipate experiencing feelings of loss, sadness, grief, helplessness, powerlessness, hopelessness, and resistance to the new teacher. Describe the quality of the original teacher's instruction, the level of care and attention she provided, and her role in encouraging you. Please indicate the extent to which you anticipate feeling loss and disappointment when the original teacher leaves, given the principle of energy conservation.

When comparing the current teacher with the original, those who prefer the latter will likely be dissatisfied with the former. It is important to consider that when a school changes teachers, there is no guarantee that they will revert back to the previous one.

It is unlikely that the school will change teachers again, so you may need to adapt to this new teacher. The same law of conservation of energy applies: how painful it is for you to adapt to her now, how comfortable it will be after you have adapted.

It is important to learn to empathize with the perspectives of others.

Have you ever considered the rationale behind the decision to assign a new math teacher to you during your third year of junior high school? It is widely acknowledged that this is a pivotal period in a student's academic journey. What factors led the school to make this particular arrangement?

The school must have its reasons for making this arrangement. The fact that this new math teacher was able to be temporarily assigned to your class in the third year of junior high school shows that this new math teacher must also have her own merits. If you are not satisfied with one of the requirements she has proposed, you are encouraged to take the initiative to go and talk to her. You should explain your situation and state that you prefer a more liberal, democratic, understanding, supportive, and encouraging approach to education.

If you are a model student, you should communicate with your new teacher in a patient and respectful manner. She should be able to understand you and consider whether she should adjust the rules she has set for herself. It is possible that she is unaware of the extent to which her rules apply to the whole class. She may also be uncertain as to whether the person who questions the rules she has set is genuinely unable to comply with them, or whether they are attempting to challenge her own rules and avoid responsibility.

It is important to demonstrate to your new teacher that you are genuinely interested in understanding her rules. By doing so, you will give her the opportunity to make any necessary adjustments, which will allow you to adapt more quickly to your new teacher and ultimately benefit your studies.

I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you find my answer helpful.

I extend my best wishes to you and yours.

It is important to recognise that each teacher employs a unique pedagogical approach. While it is essential to adapt to a new teacher, it is also crucial to assess the situation of the individual student.

Firstly, during the examination, it is not necessary to adhere to the teacher's instructions; instead, it is preferable to complete the questions in accordance with one's own established methodology. It is advisable to bypass questions that are beyond one's current capabilities and to return to questions that are more straightforward at a later point. It is more beneficial to attempt a greater number of questions than a smaller number. Previously, it was possible to complete all the questions on the examination paper. Therefore, as long as one reverts to one's previous approach, there should be no issues.

The subsequent and pivotal phase is the post-exam process, which is often the source of distress. It is essential to maintain composure and resilience. If one is unable to do so, it is advisable to seek counsel from one's parents, who can then engage with the teacher on one's behalf.

First, it would be advisable to ascertain whether there has been a decline in your grades. This can be achieved by examining your previous mathematical scores, including those from monthly examinations, midterms, and finals. Additionally, it would be beneficial to review your mathematical scores subsequent to the arrival of the new teacher. In addition to the scores, it would also be helpful to consider the major questions on the examination papers, your previous completion and error rates, and the completion rate subsequent to the arrival of the new teacher.

The objective of this step is to ascertain which methodology is more aligned with your examination procedures and proclivities. It is also imperative to recognise that, apart from the mandatory criteria for evaluating the examination paper, you are at liberty to adhere to your own methodology.

I must profess a certain ignorance with regard to the matter of copying. Might I inquire as to the precise nature of the material that is to be copied? Is it the formulas, for example?

One might simply copy the major questions that were not completed. It seems preferable to impose a penalty for reviewing the questions.

It is important to note that mathematics is not the same as Chinese or English, where repeating the same question multiple times may prove beneficial. The key to success lies in grasping the fundamental principles of formulas and engaging with a greater number of similar questions. It is encouraging to observe that you have also identified the issue of irrationality.

The final step is to respond to the instructor in a manner consistent with his approach. In the event that, according to your personal practices, a question remains unanswered after an examination, and the new instructor begins to penalize you for copying the question, you may present the compiled data (including score changes, completion rates, and error rates) in a private meeting with the instructor.

First and foremost, it is imperative to maintain a respectful and courteous demeanor towards the instructor. One can initiate the conversation by greeting the instructor cordially and stating, "Teacher, I have a question that has been persisting for some time. It pertains to the implications of reproducing the questions. Could you kindly elucidate the significance of these questions? Despite my efforts to comprehend the material, I remain uncertain. My understanding remains limited to merely replicating the correct responses, even when I have committed them to memory. However, when the questions are altered, I am unable to accurately respond."

Let us consider this problem collectively. What motivates the teacher to adopt a particular pedagogical approach? Is there an aspect of the learning process that offers benefits not previously considered? If the teacher provides an explanation and you find yourself in agreement with the rationale presented, this is a positive outcome. It is likely that you will not experience undue anxiety during the examination, as you have come to recognise the legitimacy of the rationale provided and the potential benefits for future examinations.

Furthermore, it is imperative that no questions are left unanswered during exercises. All answers must be provided, regardless of the reason, whether it is due to time constraints or a lack of knowledge. Initially, it is advisable to convey an understanding of the instructor's perspective, which is that they anticipate improvement in speed and completion of the examination.

It is also important to consider the varying rhythms and methods of problem-solving among students. At this juncture, it may be beneficial to present the compiled data to the teacher for review. The perspective expressed is that, according to each student's rhythm and habits, it is possible to occasionally answer one question incorrectly. However, in the presence of nervousness, students may become overwhelmed and unable to complete the exam paper.

The notion of "teaching students according to their aptitude" implies that a one-size-fits-all approach to teaching is inadequate. If there is still time or if the questions are familiar, it is unlikely that a student would submit a blank answer sheet. There are numerous methods for enhancing the speed of answering questions. Some students respond well to pressure, while others do not.

Additionally, the purpose of an examination is to identify areas of weakness and implement corrective measures, rather than merely completing the entire examination and leaving one or two questions unanswered. If a question is left unanswered due to a lack of time, it is necessary to improve one's speed. Conversely, if a question is left unanswered due to a lack of knowledge, it is essential to revisit the relevant content.

If you are reluctant to confide in your teacher, you may wish to discuss your concerns with your parents. Given that you are now in your third year of junior high school, it is crucial to address any underlying issues that may contribute to exam anxiety. Failure to do so could have significant implications, particularly if these issues manifest during the crucial middle school entrance exam.

Should the new teacher express displeasure upon hearing this, an apology would be in order, not to address the teacher's pedagogical approach, but to demonstrate a clear understanding of effective study methods and a willingness to comply with reasonable instructions.

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing in response to your recent inquiry. Best regards,

I am pleased to have this opportunity to assist you.

First, I will analyze your description of the situation. The main problems include the following:

1. The new math teacher is more demanding than the previous one and is less inclined to offer encouragement when I am frustrated.

2. The new math teacher requires that I provide written responses to every question, which is a significant departure from my previous experience. This new approach is causing me undue stress and anxiety, particularly when I am under time constraints. I am also struggling to maintain my previous level of comfort and confidence in the testing environment.

3. My math grades have declined. What is the recommended course of action?

I would like to offer a few suggestions for dealing with this situation.

First, acknowledge the unchangeable fact.

The decision to change math teachers is a fact that the school has already made and implemented, and there is no option to change it. As a first step, you may choose to accept this fact. The previous math teacher was an excellent fit for your needs, but the change is a done deal. There is no going back.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to identify the positive aspects of the current mathematics teacher.

Everyone has both weaknesses and strengths, which are related to a person's growth experience, growth environment, and other factors. Your new math teacher has a strict side, but it is undeniable that he also has his own strengths. For example, the school arranged for him to teach the 9th grade class because his teaching skills are up to standard and trustworthy. Another point is that he requires you to write a little about each topic and punishes you if you don't because he is worried that you will forget this during the exam and thus lose the opportunity to get more points. Although it is not a good idea to punish you for not doing it, it is also a way for him to motivate you, and his intentions are still good (my previous teacher also asked us to pay attention to the exam time and leave about ten minutes to do this).

Third, view the change in mathematics teachers as an opportunity to demonstrate resilience and adaptability.

After re-examining this matter with your math teacher, you should experience a reduction in stress, nervousness, and other negative emotions. Should you wish to pursue this further, you may also choose to view this as a challenge. Following a change in math teachers, stress and negative emotions have increased to some extent compared to before. However, if you can overcome them and work hard to achieve better results, it can also prove the opposite: you have made progress and grown, you have become stronger than before, and you know how to deal with real-life stress and your own negative emotions.

Therefore, this situation presents an opportunity for personal growth.

Fourth, muster the courage to reach out to your previous mathematics instructor.

Please take the initiative to contact your previous math teacher to inquire about the matter. I am confident that she has a comprehensive understanding of your situation, given the duration of her tutelage, and can provide tailored guidance.

Best regards,

You have a new strict math teacher this semester. You don't understand her teaching requirements, which causes you a lot of psychological pressure every time you take an exam. You are very distressed about this.

We get it!

Sorting out the issues

You would have preferred a gentler teacher. Your previous math teacher encouraged you, so you are confident in math exams and get good grades.

The new teacher is strict. You don't understand her teaching style.

You know you'll be punished if you can't fulfill the requirements, so you're under a lot of pressure.

The pressure made you nervous, which affected your performance.

You have no confidence in this situation. You already have a heavy academic workload in your third year of high school. This unexpected difficulty has caused you trouble. You don't know how to deal with it.

Digging to the root of the problem

You seem to need encouragement to feel confident. Do you lack confidence?

Do you find it hard to accept yourself and your own value?

Maybe you grew up with a strict parent who criticized you to motivate you to improve. You've been used to being supervised since childhood, which has made you cautious and afraid of being rejected if you make a mistake.

As you grow up, you may always feel that others are watching you and that they disapprove of you. This kind of pressure is also a fear that you always carry with you.

A kind teacher makes you feel relaxed. A strict teacher makes you feel stressed.

The stress of childhood can overwhelm a child. They may feel angry and resentful towards a strict teacher.

The teacher's feelings affect your brain, making it hard to learn and take exams. You avoid them, just as you would avoid that stern teacher.

Adjust your state.

It's hard to face these challenges in the third year of high school. I'm here to support you! To overcome these difficulties, you can try to adjust your state.

It's tough to face these challenges in your third year of high school. I'm here to support you! To overcome these difficulties, try to adjust your mindset.

First, you need to relax. You can ask the school counselor for help. You can talk about your fear of being strict. With their help, you can separate your feelings from your teacher. You can accept your teacher's teaching style.

Next, accept your current situation. As we grow up, we encounter many things, and they're all part of who we are.

You have value. You solved problems before because of yourself, not the teacher. Believe in your abilities.

Your grades have dropped, but it's still a good thing. You can use your current grades as a starting point. Every bit of progress is the result of your hard work.

You can learn relaxation methods online and practice them after studying. It's best to become proficient in them so you can use them in the exam hall.

You can also talk to a psychologist about mindfulness exercises. Don't worry about the bad things. Think about your strengths, how you've improved, and your future. Think positively and give yourself a boost.

All difficulties are temporary. When we face them, we can find solutions.

I'm Teng Ying, a counselor. I hope this helps!

Hello!

Now, let's look at the difference between these two math teachers. The previous teacher encouraged you and you loved math! In this situation, you'll keep your interest in math alive and well, and then you'll study hard and make continuous progress.

This math teacher is known for being strict, and for good reason! She sets high expectations from the start, requiring you to write out your thinking for every problem. If you don't, you will be punished, called out in class, and required to copy the problem. This teacher uses punishment to motivate you to improve—and it's a great way to learn!

It's tough to say which teacher is better or which method is better. All I know is that some students love the first teacher's style, while others prefer the second teacher. If you don't believe me, just watch the other students in your class. See if you can spot the ones who are excelling in math!

As students, we often don't get to choose our teachers at school. But that's okay! It's not realistic to expect the school to change a teacher just because one student says the teacher is bad. We have to face this reality, but there's no need to fret! Let's look at it from this premise and see how you can get your math studies back to normal.

When the previous teacher was teaching, if you didn't know the answer to a difficult question, you could easily skip it. This meant you could focus your energy on the questions you knew the answer to, which is a great way to get good grades!

And after a new teacher came and announced her strict rules, you were so nervous from the start of the exam that you panicked from beginning to end, and your grades dropped drastically! It can be seen that when under high pressure, you panicked so much that you couldn't answer the questions normally.

Your panic is actually an overreaction, an exaggerated reaction to the strict demands of this math teacher. Think about it again. What if you don't know how to solve a few major problems?

And then, you get to be called on and write it out! What happens then?

It would be very embarrassing, and you would waste even more time, right? And then what happens?

Once you overreact, you're so caught up in imagining all kinds of dire consequences that you don't have any mental energy left to answer the questions. This affects your performance on the rest of the questions, so it's important to stay calm!

How can you overcome this panic? First, we must realize that even if I don't write the thought process for answering a few major questions, the consequences are not particularly serious, nor will they cause extreme harm, death, or anything!

Second, let's answer the questions seriously. And if you feel a little bit panicky, it's okay! You're allowed to feel this way. Tell yourself that you are indeed a little bit panicky, and let this panic stay with you. After a few more exams, you will get used to it and then it will be fine. A moderate amount of tension is good for focusing our attention, improving efficiency, and helping us make progress.

Hello, Jiang 61. Thanks for trusting us and telling us what's wrong.

You ask, "What should I do if I'm a junior high school girl, I've changed teachers, my grades have dropped, I've lost all confidence?" I can feel how badly you want to change the situation.

First, give her a hug. There's always a way out.

1. Switch teachers.

1⃣ Teachers with different styles

You said: I'm in 7th grade, and this semester we got a new math teacher. She's strict, and her students always get top grades. But I feel awkward because I liked my old math teacher. She encouraged me, so I was confident during math tests and got good grades.

Your new math teacher is strict and good at getting top grades. You don't like her because you want to be encouraged.

2⃣️, strict teacher

You say, "This semester is different. The new teacher is really strict. She makes us write the content of all the questions in every exam. If we leave a question blank or don't write anything, we have to do a penalty copy."

Requirements

The new teacher requires that every exam answer include the main topic. Students who fail to do so will be punished.

Penalty rules

If you don't follow the rules, you have to copy the questions. This helps students develop good answering habits without wasting time.

3⃣️, Confused

You say: And this is not just talk. In previous exams, every student who didn't finish the problem was criticized and had to write it out again. Is that reasonable?

This kind of criticism is good for students. It helps them think clearly. It also helps them get a good score even if they don't finish the problem.

This kind of criticism and punishment is justified for students who do not follow the rules when doing the exercises. You should stop someone from doing something wrong the first time.

Purpose

This rule is good for students. It helps them think clearly. It also helps them get a good score even if they don't write the answer.

The teacher's goal is to ensure students get the marks they deserve. This is also how he gets outstanding results.

4. Grades decline

You said, "I panic when I write the multiple-choice questions at the beginning of the exam, fearing that I won't finish. I stress about the difficult questions and can't skip them. I read the questions over and over, but I still can't write. I panic during the exam, and my grades have plummeted. I used to be able to finish the last big question, but now I have no confidence."

Worries

You're worried you won't be able to finish the questions under the new rules. You can't skip the questions you don't know. The more you do, the more unsure you feel.

and fear of punishment.

Fewer good grades.

Because of exams, you worry about not finishing on time, which makes it hard for you to focus and your grades drop.

The real reason for the decline in grades

1. Learning methods

Your grades are declining because your learning methods can't keep up with your learning needs.

The third year of junior high is different from the first. There are more subjects, so the learning methods should change.

It's important to review after class. If you learn in class, you'll keep up and become more confident. If you don't, you'll become less confident.

2. Worrying too much

You were nervous before and during the exam. This made you think about what to do if you didn't know the answer, rather than how to solve the problem and answer the question.

If you worry about something, it's more likely to happen. This is your mind playing tricks on you. You worry that you won't finish. When you get stuck on a question, you panic and get even more nervous. Your mind goes blank and you're even more at a loss.

Your worry and nerves have affected your grades.

3⃣ Psychological factors

You lack mental strength. You don't have confidence to meet challenges. You don't believe you can overcome difficulties. You are stubborn and conservative. You don't accept new teaching methods or change your way of answering questions.

3. What to do

1. Be more confident.

Confidence frees you from nervousness and worry, and allows you to study positively.

Find a way to learn.

Find a learning method that works for you and adapt to new methods and subjects.

Be confident.

Once you find a learning method, your grades will improve. You'll be more confident, and you won't be afraid of exams or harsh teacher requirements.

2⃣️, try it.

Your teachers' exam methods are based on their experience and work for all students. If you're unsure, try it and see the results.

Take the exam in a different way.

3. Improve your mindset

Face pressure.

If you think you might fail the exam, ask yourself what you can do to prepare better.

Come again next time. You won't worry about failing.

I don't care about comparisons.

Many people worry that they will be mocked or despised if they don't do well in the exam. If you think like this, it has nothing to do with me.

I will try my best to catch up. This way, you won't be affected by other people's attitudes.

Be responsible for yourself.

Your success or failure is your own business. You are responsible for yourself. Don't let others distract you.

There are ways to learn and ways to take exams. Trust your teachers and yourself. Adapt to new ways of learning, boost your confidence, and give yourself more room for improvement.

I hope the original poster makes progress in his studies!

Hello!

Good job! There's no rush.

My new math teacher is very strict. It's hard to keep up with them. I get frustrated and anxious. I can stay calm when I have a hard question, but now I panic. I can't answer questions.

This is normal. The teacher is the same, but students are different. They have different levels of understanding and ways of thinking. This is why the teaching method says to teach students according to their abilities. This allows students to see their problems but also their strengths. They can think about themselves in an objective way. When they have problems, they can face them bravely and ask for help.

If the relationship is just tense, don't worry. It's normal to be sensitive to the atmosphere. Don't criticize yourself because the teacher wants to improve grades, and you want to improve grades too. As long as you can communicate and adjust, you can learn better.

First, communicate and seek help. The questioner can tell the teacher what's going on and ask for help. Maybe the teacher is strict, and the questioner is afraid. But any teacher wants students to learn, so they'll be happy to help.

For example: "Teacher, my grades have dropped because I get stuck on difficult questions, which makes me anxious. How can I improve my learning methods?"

Letting go of your worries and sharing your thoughts will make you feel better.

Be true to yourself and don't worry.

As learning gets harder, students will feel pressure when doing assignments and exams. If they have always tried to cope with pressure by doing their best, then facing greater challenges will easily trigger anxiety and increase self-defeating behavior.

There are many ways to solve problems. You can relax while you solve them. Talk to other students or your parents about your problems. This will help you feel better and more confident.

Take your time.

Good luck! Stay strong!