A girl in the second year of junior high school has just finished her exams at the end of the semester, and she gets very annoyed when she thinks about her mistakes in math?

Good morning, host. Today's follow-up is about the psychological techniques you can employ to achieve a positive outcome.

There is a peculiar formula that states, "Disagreement = You are right."

I acknowledge that I created the wording for this formula, but there is a professional term in psychology called "reverse identification is the greatest identification."

To illustrate, consider a female student in your class who is neither overweight nor underweight. However, her mother or other individuals in her life frequently assert that she consumes an excessive amount of food, is overweight, and should lose weight. This student may exhibit two distinct reactions. First, she possesses her own perspective on her physical appearance. She does not perceive herself as overweight and is therefore indifferent to external opinions on the matter. She simply dismisses them with a laugh.

This indicates that she does not align with the opinions of others and is not concerned with their input. She will continue to consume food and drink as usual and maintain a positive outlook.

If the individual in question is not clear and firm in their view of whether they are fat or thin, and if their mother and others around them keep reminding them that they should lose weight because they eat too much and are too fat, they will have a second reaction: "You're talking nonsense. I'm going to weigh myself to prove that I'm not as fat as you say!" The underlying meaning is that they have agreed with the view that "you should lose weight because you eat too much and are too fat" that their mother and others around them have conveyed to them.

While we may be aware that others are incorrect in their assessments and strive to demonstrate that we are not as they have described, our subconscious (the part of our mental activity that we are not aware of) is actually in alignment with these judgments.

I believe you can apply this example to your own mathematics learning. If you consistently seek to prove your competence to your teacher and mother, your actions may inadvertently convey the opposite message, indicating a lack of proficiency. This may explain why you invest significant effort in the subject.

You have identified a key issue: your mentality affects your ability to perform at your best. I agree with your assessment that your energy is unconsciously allocated to the thought of "I want to prove it," which prevents you from focusing on the task at hand. This is not about learning mathematics and taking a mathematics exam; it's about dancing a pas de deux with the subject matter, cooperating with it to complete the judgment that "math is not good!"

It is therefore important to understand the equation "disagreeing = you are right". Once this is understood, it is possible to "unlink" one's own ability in mathematics, how to learn mathematics well, and the judgments made by teachers and parents. This is arguably the most important psychological construction to undertake.

The phrase "never believe them!" or "untie" signifies that I will elect to rely on my own judgment, whereas your judgment can serve as a point of reference for my own assessment. I can concur (when your judgment aligns with theirs) or disagree (when your judgment differs from theirs).

It is important to note that self-assessment should be based on objective information from external sources, such as long-term statistical data on the mathematics scores of a group of individuals. This information can be used as a reference point to gain insight into one's own objective standing.

However, this self-judgment must also originate from your own understanding of yourself. One method of doing so is to use grades as one of the clues to help you understand your true strength. For example, if you believe that a negative attitude affects your performance, this is an example of this. It is important to note that other people cannot truly understand this feeling. After all, the feeling is yours, and they cannot feel what you feel. Therefore, they have the right to draw a conclusion based solely on the test results.

If the admissions process still has to consider which students performed poorly and did not show their true abilities, it raises the question of whether the college entrance exam admissions process can continue. It is not possible to judge whether a person has performed poorly.

In order to ensure fairness, we can only use objective scores to determine which candidates are eligible for which schools. Scores can, to some extent, reflect the learning status and abilities of candidates. Even if a candidate performs poorly, the score can sometimes indicate the psychological ability that affects their performance. This psychological ability is also a component of learning ability and test ability. What are your thoughts on this matter?

In other words, "never believe them!" or "untie" means, at the same time, to allow others to have their different opinions about you, whether they are right or not.

It is important to note that we are often dissatisfied with the judgments of others. This reaction can be interpreted as a disagreement with the other person's opinion. However, there is a deeper underlying issue, which is that we do not allow for differing opinions. This leads to a further consequence, which is that we expect others to have the same judgment as us. When we cannot get others to agree with us, we must agree with them. This is the key to understanding the concept of "disagreement = you are right."

Once you understand this secret, you can free yourself from expending energy worrying about how they perceive you and feeling sorry for them. Instead, you can direct that energy toward the exam itself. After each exam, you can minimize the energy you spend feeling frustrated and angry. Instead, you can direct that energy toward understanding what you did wrong and what you can improve.

I believe this is an effective method for adjusting one's mindset to achieve better performance. Such self-directed effort can enhance one's mathematical abilities and also have a positive impact on future test results.

It is important to remember that you should focus on your own actions and not on trying to prove yourself to others. Acting as if you believe their judgment of you is a waste of energy.

From: The World Sent: To: Subject: Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to express my love for the world. Kind regards, The World

Hello, landlord!

I can relate to how you're feeling. I heard a story yesterday about a young female college student who went to college to study philosophy. She did well in her classes, but when she was asked her age, she got nervous when she went to the market to buy food and was scared when she heard about math class. Hearing this story also made me think that I am similar to her. Today, I saw your question. Look, you and I are not the only people who have encountered this situation and have such a bad feeling. We are not alone. I'm sending you a hug.

I went into a bit too much detail, so I'll answer in two days. Today I'll talk about whether you should believe in others' comments about you, and tomorrow we'll discuss what psychological preparation you can do for yourself. I hope you can read it slowly.

I'd like to share with you the words that the Austrian psychologist Alfred Adler's father once said to him: "Don't believe it! Resolutely don't believe it!"

Adler's childhood story is available to read on Baidu here. As a child, he was weak and had to overcome many illnesses. Rickets was common in Europe at the time, and because of this illness, his bones were weak and he was slightly short. He didn't learn to walk until he was four years old.

This also meant he couldn't take part in activities that required a lot of physical fitness.

He had some pretty rough experiences growing up. At five, he got pneumonia and was close to death. He heard the doctor say, "Your son is dying." He was also hit by a car twice, like he was constantly crossing the threshold of death. He was deformed, ugly, and small due to rickets, and he was still less than 1.6 meters tall when he grew up.

You can probably guess what he would have faced at school. Not only did he always fail his early math exams, but he was also regarded as a poor student and teased and mocked by his classmates and teachers. This made him feel very inferior. In fact, the teacher even found a shoemaker and said to his father, "It's better for your son to learn a trade, so that he can earn a living as a shoemaker."

His father was having none of it, though. He told his son, "Don't believe it! Resolutely don't believe it!"

What do you know about what happened next?

He didn't choose to believe the teacher's evaluation or the ridicule of his classmates. He chose to believe his father. He worked hard and got great results in math. He also grew up to become an excellent psychologist. He founded individual psychology, and his famous book, "Inferiority and Transcendence," has influenced and inspired many people.

How do you feel after reading this? I really want to tell the teacher who called you stupid that he's probably as wrong as Adler's math teacher. I also really want to tell your mother that she's not helping you by telling you that it's normal to do poorly on tests because you don't usually do well. It would be better to tell you, "Good job, don't believe it, never believe it!"

Take a moment to calm down and regain your confidence.

So, I'd like to say to you, don't believe these judgments of others, ever!

I'll have to leave the above incomplete for now...

I love you, and so does the world.