A high school girl, too lazy to study, do I wish to be depressed? I am so confused.

Guess what! There are only two kinds of students in the world:

Are you a good student or a bad student?

Smart students and dumb students?

Oh, but there's more! There are also students who are about to collapse, and students who have already collapsed.

Hello, question asker! You will soon face the college entrance exam, and I am so excited to talk to you about what an exam is.

When it comes to exams, everyone takes it for granted that it is a selection system—and rightly so!

Let's take a moment to think.

Guess which president was selected by an exam!

Guess which celebrity was selected through an exam!

Guess what? No entrepreneur was selected through an exam!

Guess what! Even national football team members are not selected by exams (it's better if there are no exams).

In history, the imperial examination era was the only time when examinations had the function of selection!

If you pass the imperial examination, you immediately gain admission to the high officialdom! Even if you pass the county examination, you immediately gain a title and titles come with privileges!

And let's not forget the tax privileges that come with success! In the age of agriculture, these had a considerable direct economic value. It's easy to see why so many rich landowners were eager to marry their daughters off to poor scholars!

What do you get if you pass the exam today?

It's a chance to compete with even more formidable opponents!

Of course, some people will say that I have also gained knowledge, and they're right!

Knowledge is something you learn, and an exam just tests what you should have already learned!

The main function of today's exam is not selection, but elimination—and it's a thrilling process to watch!

These exams are not designed to select the president. Their purpose is to prevent certain people from becoming president, which is an excellent idea!

Who are these mysterious "some people"?

Some people just have a tendency to break down, but that's okay!

The long examination system from elementary school to university is a set of pressure testing tools. And guess what? The real test of an exam is not who is smarter, but who will crack first!

So, it's no surprise that almost all students are in the process of breaking down and struggling to hold on!

However, there are some people who are lucky enough to be immune to the stress system. There's nothing anyone can do about these lucky people, and they're not within the scope of today's discussion.

I want to tell the questioner something really important: you are not the only one who is falling apart. And don't look at some people who seem to be fine—they are just pretending!

Those who pretend to know the truth about the exam are the ones who already know. They're just waiting for the right moment to spring their trap! Their goal is to accelerate the collapse of others.

So, if you want to feel more relaxed, you have to act confident! Showing anxiety and inability is the best way to help your classmates persevere.

This has nothing to do with your sincere friendship. Friendship is friendship, and exams are exams. Everyone is really good friends, but no one will let you off the hook during exams.

If you want to see some amazing results, go encourage your friends who are on the verge of collapse like you. You will find that some people will still collapse no matter how much you encourage them, but you will gain strength from encouraging others!

Hello, classmate.

From reading your question and listening to your thoughts, I can see that you have a sensitive and sentimental side.

There was someone I liked once, and when I missed him, I could focus on my studies. When I got tired of doing my homework and thought about him again, I must have had a lot of energy.

But I didn't last long. I'm not sure if it was because he stopped making you miss him, the passion faded, or maybe it was because you couldn't touch him, so you slowly lost confidence.

So, as the saying goes, don't love an abstract person, but a concrete one. You've just entered puberty and have been brave in love.

It's normal to experience disappointments and regrets at this age.

There are always reasons to be sad.

"I was still depressed in my first year of high school, very depressed, sometimes I could cry for a whole day at school." I'm not sure what issues you were facing. Were they related to your family or friends?

"Sometimes there's no one to talk to, but at least you have someone to keep you company." I remember the first thing I learned when I was in my third year of high school was that you have to learn to eat alone and walk alone.

The pressure to study was intense, so everyone's pace of life was different. Sometimes you had to make compromises to accommodate others, or you'd face complaints when others were waiting for you. I'm also someone who cares about other people's feelings, so I try to be alone as much as possible.

It's actually pretty nice to be alone. Have you read the book "Your Loneliness is a Raging Success"?

You've come a long way since junior high. In just one year, you'll be starting a new chapter. You're ready for more than the calm you're currently experiencing.

You're looking forward to the freedom of university and meeting a better version of yourself. Then, devote yourself to your studies and focus on knowledge and joy.

Take it easy. Every successful person has experienced a period of silence. Don't be nervous when things happen. Look at life with a long-term view, not a close-up.

Let's embrace growth and work together to become better people. This is our promise.

And I hope you have a happy life.

And I hope you have a happy life.

From what you've said, it seems like you're feeling pretty confused and stuck right now. You want to make a change, but you're not sure how to go about it. You're a highly motivated individual who's keen on focusing on your studies and achieving excellent grades. Despite facing some challenges with emotional focus, you've taken the initiative to reach out to us at Yi Psychology for support. I'm really impressed by your initiative. This could very well be the start of something big for you.

It's clear you've been through a lot since the second year of junior high. Back then, your love for someone gave you a real drive to learn. That was your best period. But by the time you got to the third year of junior high and the first year of high school, that drive had disappeared. You still managed to focus on your studies in the second year of junior high, and your overall learning results were pretty good. But from the second year of high school to the third, you lost that drive completely. Your habit of focusing on your studies basically disappeared. Instead, your habit of being depressed and not studying hard had a really negative impact on you. You're still in that state now.

I'm not sure if this understanding is biased.

We can only change little by little. First, accept yourself, accept your emotions, find your own internal motivation to learn, develop the habit of learning seriously, and slowly improve your ability to concentrate.

First, now that you've recognized your depressed mood and repressed personality, accept yourself. You're the only you there is. If you feel like you'd be happier if you made a few changes and expressed yourself a bit more, try expressing yourself. If you feel okay being alone, that's great.

Another option is to try singing or drawing to express yourself. Just do it in a way that you're comfortable with and that you enjoy!

Second, think about what learning can bring us. Find your own internal motivation to learn, for example, by going to the university and seeing the beautiful life that comes after hard work. If we really can't get into studying, we can read books to improve our knowledge, see what others' world is like, and learn what studying has brought them. Or think about it this way: the person you want to find in the future should be a good person, and maybe you have to study hard to meet a better other half.

If you're struggling with your current learning, it might be worth thinking about whether you could benefit from some extra support. This could be in the form of tutoring or another method that allows you to build your knowledge gradually from the basics.

We truly believe that making small changes each day will help you to concentrate better. This will have a big impact on your studies and your future.

I'm sure your future will be brighter and brighter.

Hello, dear question asker!

After reading your question, I can tell you've had a rough time in the past few years, from the 8th grade to the 11th grade. I'm here for you, my friend!

In recent years, just like your stage of youth, we know that adolescent boys and girls will experience various physical and psychological conditions due to hormone secretion. It's a process of growth that everyone goes through, and it's totally normal!

I noticed that this means that your emotions started in the second year of junior high school. Maybe it had something to do with the one you liked! Although he also gave you motivation to study, it didn't last long. It's totally normal for your cognition to not be perfect, your emotions to not be stable, and you to face pressure during the middle school entrance exam. It made the third year of junior high school not an easy year for you, but you did great!

But it's just not that easy, sweetie. Your academic performance is still excellent, which shows that you are really very good. First of all, I have to give you a big compliment!

From you, it can also be seen that appropriate sadness and appropriate depression really do not pose a problem for our growth and learning. You see, your grades from the second year of junior high to the first year of high school were consistently excellent, which also shows that we can coexist with negative emotions in a healthy way.

It's great that you've realized you need help! It's so important to find the right balance, and I'm happy you've taken the first step by seeking help. In psychology, we often say that being aware of yourself is the first step to healing. So, you're already on the path to healing!

You see, you've come so far since you were in the second year of junior high school. You've grown so much in just three short years! And you've also learned to ask for help when you need it. I think this is three years ago, and you probably couldn't have imagined it. This shows that you are a thoughtful person who will ask for help and is brave enough to improve yourself. I give you a big thumbs up!

I can also see your motivation from your question. For example, you keep saying that you don't want to be so aimless, that you don't want this kind of peace, that you'd rather be sad, that you'd rather let your emotions go to the extreme, and that you'd even let yourself become depressed. In fact, I think the subtext behind this should be that you want to study well and improve your grades.

I think this is probably because when you look back, although you were sad and depressed in the past few years, your grades were always great. But now, for some reason, you are calm, but your grades have dropped. This makes your heart even less calm. I think that the fact that you have come here to ask a question proves that there are already ripples in your heart, that it is no longer calm, and that you want to change the current state of affairs. In fact, you are already changing, and I think you're doing a great job!

I feel like sometimes before a big wave is set off, it may first be calm. I get the sense that now you are so calm. You say you are confused, you say you copy homework, you say you don't want to study, but I sense that your heart is suffering, your heart is in turmoil. So I feel that on the surface you are calm, but in fact your subconscious mind is working on a big movement.

I really do think that this is a period of time for you to regain your strength. After all, you've been through so much in the last few years, and it's taken a lot out of you. But I truly believe that once you've regained your strength, you'll be able to achieve amazing things, just like the ancient Chu king.

You are so smart! I know you can find a way to change the current situation that suits you. I wish you an early escape from this predicament and admission to your dream school next year!

I love you, world! And I love you too, my dear friend!

Hello, questioner!

Your words have me on edge. I can feel fear, helplessness, hopelessness, and resistance.

I'm going to give you a good hug. It'll bring you comfort and strength.

I want to know exactly what happened in your past that made you set such high standards for yourself and unable to accept your current state. Do your parents know about your state?

If you know, tell them! If you don't know, tell them!

I am anxious and distressed while typing. My child, you have worked hard.

Let's go through your description together.

♦️ "I'm a second-year high school girl who is too lazy to study. I'd rather be depressed. I'm confused, but I know what I want."

You prefer to be depressed. What do you get if you become depressed? What is your current situation?

Tell me what you're confused about.

From a psychological perspective, it is our instinct to seek out benefits and avoid harm, and to seek out pleasure and avoid pain. You "prefer" to be depressed, so I am certain that your current state of mind is causing you more pain. Depression would undoubtedly be better for you.

I was young and didn't know I had to study.

Tell me, what was your state of mind at that time? And how were your academic results?

Tell me about your family life.

In the second year of junior high school, I had a crush on someone who motivated me to excel in my studies. When I missed him, I felt depressed, but I was able to push through it and improve my grades significantly. However, it didn't last long.

Tell me, was this the first person you liked? What kind of feelings did he bring you?

Tell me, did you confess your love? And how did it feel when you missed him, and what kind of feelings did it bring you?

Tell me, what consequences did depression bring you? And how did you manage to concentrate on your studies in this state?

Tell me what motivated you to concentrate on your studies and improve your grades. And why didn't you continue for long afterwards?

Tell me what happened.

When we like someone, we make a conscious effort to attract their attention through our words and actions. We also look up to them as a role model and strive to be like them.

In the third year of junior high school, I lost my ability to concentrate, which bothered me a lot. I couldn't get things done, my grades dropped, and I was devastated. I was crying every day while studying, but my grades...now it seems that I was actually very good.

I want to know if it was because the motivation you got from the person you liked was gone, or if something happened, or if you were unclear about your study goals.

Tell me, what bothers you when you can no longer concentrate? And how much have your grades dropped?

Tell me, what makes you feel overwhelmed and depressed? And why do you try to study even though you are crying?

Tell me, did your parents, teachers, and friends know how you felt at that time? How did they react?

Tell me, what are your expectations of your own grades? And which grades do you think you can accept, and which grades can't you accept?

Tell me how your parents view your grades and studies.

There are external and internal standards for excellence. If outsiders think you are excellent, but you don't, ask yourself if your excellence is endless. If you feel you are not excellent, identify who or what is making you feel that way.

If so, it's a sign of low self-esteem and self-evaluation. You need to work on improving your self-esteem.

I was either in high school or depressed, feeling very depressed. Sometimes I could cry for a whole day at school, but my grades were still pretty good. I knew that if I could just feel better, I wouldn't have to study so hard.

I want to know if it was from the third year of junior high school to the first year of high school, or if there was a period of improvement followed by another depression. I also want to know what the source of the depression was.

You should have sought professional medical examination, diagnosis, or professional psychological counseling. Why do you care so much about your mood?

Tell me, what did you expect to happen to make you feel better?

I want to know how you managed to maintain a good grade in such a bad mood.

You did it! You managed to maintain good grades despite being depressed and depressed. It seems that you have made even more efforts and suffered hardships. I know you can't imagine how you got through it, but you did. It must have been very difficult!

You've worked hard, my child, and you should be proud of yourself! Let me give you another big hug!

My mood improved later on.

Tell me, what circumstances made you feel better? And what were you like at that time?

♦️I'm about to enter my senior year of high school, and I've fallen from the top 30 to the top 100. I'm not paying attention in online classes these days, and I'm copying all my homework.

I want to know what caused the decline in performance. I also want to know how you view your own performance and state.

How is it different from when you are depressed?

Learning during the pandemic has changed from face-to-face classroom learning to online classes. It is a challenge for adults to control their self-discipline and concentration in the face of a computer, let alone children. It is therefore normal for them to sometimes appear to be disobedient. If they always refuse to listen, there is a motivation behind it that you need to discover and reflect on for yourself: what is wrong with you?

When you stay with friends, there's often nothing to talk about, but you have company. The mood is usually peaceful.

I don't want to be lazy. I want to be active and social. I want to go back to the way things were. I want to embrace my moods and be extreme in all the right ways.

I can't go back.

Having company can make you feel calm. Do you usually have little company?

You don't want the peace and quiet of being with someone you don't like. It's the company of someone you don't like. It's not the peace and quiet of being by yourself. You're uncomfortable with that. You'd rather go back to the old state of affairs.

Tell me, what kind of feelings did the original state bring you? And why can't you go back?

If you find yourself in a state you don't want, you may lose touch with your own existence. This can make you feel scared, fearful, or disconnected from others.

I need to figure out what to do. I can't keep going like this. I wish I could be depressed. I don't know what to do. I don't have any other way out. I really want to cry again.

I'm bored. I'm going to be sad and see if that makes me feel more fulfilled.

If you want to cry, do it! Look up a video of Fang Xin on Bilibili. She'll show you how to cry and release all your pent-up emotions.

From your description, it's clear you can't accept your own confusion. So, tell me, what are your expectations of yourself? And who has influenced your expectations?

Tell me, what were your parents' expectations of you growing up?

As I follow your description, I keep asking questions (you don't need to answer me, but I want you to think about what I'm saying). In the process, I've noticed a lot of similar patterns, and I've lost track of what's going on.

Pause. I'm going to sort this out.

I have some suggestions for you.

1. Review your ups and downs and identify whether the same reasons triggered your emotions.

2. Get a professional doctor to examine you at a general hospital to check your hormone secretion is normal for your physical development.

3. If you are unable to control your own state, you should seek immediate professional psychological or psychiatric care.

4. Talk to your parents about your growth process, ask them for help, and get their support! You can also ask for help from teachers, relatives, and friends you trust and get their support.

5. Keep asking yourself questions or find a listener or counselor for help. You can also find one locally.

Read The Mindfulness Way through Depression and The Courage to Be Disliked. They will teach you about yourself and how to resolve your depression and other states.

7. From now on, find and record three small things that make you happy every day. When you're feeling down, look back at them often to recognize and encourage yourself!

8. When you're feeling down, look yourself in the mirror and say, "Hello, I'm sorry, thank you, I love you! Smile from the bottom of your heart!"

Do it for at least 21 days.

My advice may be a bit much or not much, but either way, take what you need and start with it!

I'll give you a hug and wish you well.

I am a counselor. Happy Cow is new, and I love you.

Hello! I really want to hug you so that you can cry without restraint and then dry your tears and be the person you like. Your words make me truly feel your dissatisfaction with your current situation, but also your helplessness in being unable to change it. Being in your third year of high school must make you anxious, but it can also be an exciting time of growth and discovery!

I can see that you have been lacking motivation since the third year of high school, but you've still managed to maintain a relatively good position, which is fantastic! I'm curious about how you've managed to cope with these emotions and still maintain a relatively stable level of learning. I suspect that you must be a person with a very strong ability to learn, which is so impressive! Although you describe not paying attention in class and referring to other people's homework, it seems that this has not completely deprived you of the ability to master knowledge, which is great! You are amazing!

If you saw the person who used to do her homework while wiping away tears, what would you say to her and what would you do? I'd give her a big hug and tell her, "You're amazing! You've been persevering, and I'm so proud of you!"

I bet you want to persevere better! Otherwise, you wouldn't have come here to talk. I hope you can think about what happened after the person you liked in the second year of high school that caused your once studious attitude to change.

And what happened along the way? What seized your inner drive?

Go on, explore it, find it, and tell it! You want to say goodbye to it properly.

Oh, do you have a favorite city? I'd love to know which one! And is there something that particularly interests you? I'd love to hear about it!

Senior year is your time! You're closer to all of this. Are you willing to find out everything about that city? Are you willing to do something for what you are interested in?

Absolutely! Let's think about what you can do now to awaken your motivation that has not disappeared at all, even a little bit!

My dear, don't rush! Take your time, accept yourself just as you are, and start looking for the sunny, confident self. You will return to your former glory!

Good day, From your description, I can discern your confusion and pain.

It is distressing to observe a young woman of your age experiencing such profound internal distress.

Your description indicates a state of aimlessness and lack of direction, as if the individual may lose control at any time and become unproductive. Consequently, you anticipate that depression will impede your progress.

In this state, you require a secret that is solely yours and resides in your heart. It is akin to the secret you held for a person you liked in the second year of junior high school. This secret can also serve as a guiding force, enabling you to better align your studies and life with reality.

I am going to reveal a secret to you, but first, you must remember that you can only do this in secret, without disclosing it to anyone around you, including your parents, classmates, or friends.

This information must remain confidential and known only to you. This is the only way it will be effective.

It is essential to familiarise yourself with the Analects of Confucius, a classic of traditional culture. You are encouraged to spend half an hour each day copying the content of the Analects, from beginning to end, repeatedly.

It is not necessary to fully understand the words; simply copy them carefully. This task should be completed independently, without assistance from others.

If you maintain this practice until the college entrance exam, it will undoubtedly enhance your mental state. Best of luck!

I would also like to extend my best wishes to you.

Zhu Rong, Counseling Psychologist, Wang Chunguang

Hello, high school student. I'm sorry to read about your struggles.

I'm here for you.

From your writing, I know you're confused and dissatisfied. This shows you can reflect on yourself and have self-expectations.

These are the foundations for change. You didn't understand studying when you were young. In the second year of junior high school, you became interested in studying because of a crush, but you didn't last long.

From junior high to high school, you did well in school but were depressed.

Wait.

You relaxed in your second year of high school, but your grades slipped. You want to go back to your old ways because you think that will help your grades. Is that true? No.

You don't have to study in a depressed state. With your talent, you can improve your grades.

I'll share some views and suggestions below, hoping they'll help.

First, accept yourself. Spend some time with your weak and helpless self. Try to sense her feelings, hug her, and tell her it's okay. Everyone has times when they are down. It's temporary.

Do something other than study. Find a sport you like and do it for an hour every day. Exercise is good for your mood.

Learning requires energy and enthusiasm. Depression is not good for learning.

Finally, find the motivation to learn. Maslow's hierarchy of needs shows that, on the basis of having their basic needs met, every individual has other needs.

Humans have a unique need for self-fulfillment that only comes into being during adolescence. This may be a motivation for learning. If you have a good parent-child relationship, you may wish to talk to your parents about this problem.

You can also get professional counseling.

Good luck! Get back on track and fight for your youth!

Hello, question asker.

I'm happy to answer your question. From reading your description, I know you're worried about your current studies. After all, you're in your third year of high school!

From your description, it's clear you didn't study much when you were young.

In the second year of junior high school, you liked the opposite sex and used this as an incentive to study harder, and your grades improved! You have a strong ability to learn and make rapid progress.

In my third year of high school, I was depressed and overwhelmed. I couldn't focus on my studies, and my grades suffered. But now, when I reflect on that period, I'm proud of my past results.

The questioner is excellent!

In high school, you were depressed and crying for days, yet your grades were excellent. The questioner is excellent!

My grades in my third year of high school dropped more than 100 points later on.

I'm thinking about what happened here. It's clear that my past academic performance was not affected by depression. It was because I wanted to get a good ranking that I studied so hard and felt so much pressure that I had these emotional reactions. And what was it or who was it that gave you such a strong motivation to study?

Tell me, have you become lazy and unmotivated, or has your interest simply waned?

The original poster wants to return to the past state because they have depressive moods, so they study very hard. It's that simple. Or is it because they study very hard and are stressed about their studies that they become depressed?

I need to know what I should do now.

No matter what the reason was in the past, you can find motivation from within! Motivate yourself to study hard every day, and praise yourself for your efforts. Affirm your abilities by recognizing your potential, because you know you can improve your academic performance.

You will make progress. Believe in yourself!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. If it is, please click "useful" to let me know. Thank you.

Dear student, I admire your courage in facing yourself and analyzing yourself. I also admire your wisdom in asking for help and offering a reward for answering your questions.

I admire that your academic performance has remained in the top 10% of your grade despite the challenges you've faced with depression. Your resilience and determination are admirable, and I can feel your positive desire from the bottom of my heart.

From what you have shared, it seems that you have been experiencing depression since the second year of junior high school, and that you were particularly affected in the third year. It is understandable that you are now concerned about whether you may also be depressed. I empathize with your situation and wish you well.

However, you have been feeling depressed for so many years, so I'm not sure if you've ever been screened for depression at a psychiatric department.

If a psychiatrist confirms that you have depression (it is important to note that only psychiatrists in hospitals are qualified to diagnose depression, so it is best not to jump to conclusions), then you are a patient. Your inability to concentrate and your belief that you are too lazy to study are both likely due to your illness. Therefore, it may be helpful to stop blaming yourself and forcing yourself, and instead actively cooperate with the psychiatrist's medication and the psychotherapist's psychological treatment.

If a psychiatrist says you are not depressed after diagnosis, it is possible that what you are experiencing is simply a depressive mood. If you are unable to identify the root cause of this mood, it might be helpful to seek the guidance of a counselor. They can assist you in facing this mood and in understanding the underlying causes of your depression. As the saying goes, "seeing is healing." With the right approach, you can find the most effective way to address your depression and move forward with a positive outlook.

I believe that with your intelligence, as demonstrated by your academic achievements, your courage to self-analyze, your desire to be positive, and the right way to face it, you have the potential to move out of your current depressed state and live the student life you want.

Hello, I read your description. You've been working hard and persevering, but I'm curious about what motivates you. Studying should be very important to you! Do you feel some positive and controllable strength?

I also want to be honest with you. I'm worried about you. I'd like to know how your diet and sleep are, if you can concentrate, if your memory has declined, and if you feel no sense of joy. How long have these problems lasted?

If it lasts more than two weeks, see a doctor. Your heart can get sick too.

You're in your second year of high school. Soon, you'll take the college entrance exam and start university. Have you chosen a university?

Is it Beijing, Shanghai, Xi'an, or Xiamen?

It's in a city you like!

What major do you want to study? Do you want to become a teacher like Dong Yuhui, or do you want to study IT or battle-related subjects?

You might be more interested in literature. Does it touch your heart?

You've imagined this before. Hope and hard work will take you over the hills and through the mud, show you the wind in March, the rain in June, and the scenery in September. They'll give you long-lasting companionship and a refreshing experience for your body and soul.

You understand, right?

Hello! Thanks so much for your question. I'm studying quietly, but I'm here for you if you need anything.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're a very studious child. But at the same time, it seems like you don't really understand why you should study or what studying is for. You like to be with your friends because it makes you feel like you're not alone. You can't study when you're alone, and then you feel pain again.

It's okay to feel a little down sometimes. We all do. But when you feel like you can't find any meaning or sense of value, it's time to take a step back and ask yourself: what's really going on? It's okay to feel sad. It's okay to feel angry. It's okay to feel helpless. But it's also okay to recognize that there's more to it than that.

Has something happened? I'm here to listen if you want to talk. What other secrets are you keeping inside that make you feel depressed and in pain?

Then I'd like to talk to you about this:

1. When you don't want to study, just let it go and make yourself happy first, my dear.

I can imagine it must feel pretty rough to study while crying, right? So, you might want to put down your studies and go out for a walk with friends, talk, and let out the secrets in your heart. You're in your second year of high school, facing the college entrance exam, and you'll probably feel some pressure, right?

It's totally okay to take a little break, whether that's for a day, two days, or even a few weeks. Once you've had some time to recharge, it's good to think about why you're feeling sad. What can you do to feel a little happier?

It's totally okay to feel sad. We all feel that way sometimes! But it's also important to remember that you're not alone. Do your parents and friends know about your situation? Do you have a best friend you can talk to?

Is your best friend there for you when you need them? It can be so helpful to have someone you can talk to about your worries. It can really help to talk things through and feel heard.

2. What do you like to do? Find something that you can do happily.

Hey there, high school girl! Do you have any hobbies? I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. Try spending half a day not thinking about anything, not caring about anything, putting down your studies for half a day, and quietly doing the things you like to do. This will calm your emotions or mood. You've got this!

If you're not ready to talk about it, that's okay! You can always write down your emotions or thoughts. You can hide them or even tear them up if you want. Your secret is only known to you. Try writing it down and feeling how your mood changes after writing it down.

First, take a moment to cheer yourself up, and then think about your studies.

3. Don't be afraid to ask your parents or friends for help!

It's totally up to you, but it might be a good idea to tell your parents about all the emotional and mood changes you've experienced.

Or you can talk to your friends. They'll be there for you, and you'll feel a little warmer inside.

4. If you need a little extra support, don't be afraid to reach out to a professional counselor or listener.

If you feel like your parents or friends aren't enough, have you ever thought about finding a professional counselor or listener? 1xinli also has many heart exploration teachers. You can consult them, talk about your confusion, and get professional help. You will find the cause and adjust it as soon as possible.

It seems like your mood problems have been going on for a while, and it would be great to find a way to help you feel better! Seeking professional help is a great way to start feeling better right away. In just a month or two, you'll probably see a big improvement. Then you can focus on studying hard for the college entrance exam and everything will be okay! I'm sending you lots of love and hope you feel better soon.

The little girl wants to give you a hug first. From the second year of junior high school to the second year of high school, you have been experiencing some challenges.

Even in the midst of a challenging period, you demonstrated resilience in your studies and maintained your top grades. You have shown remarkable strength and have done exceptionally well.

Now that you are in your senior year, you are feeling better, but your grades have dropped and you are bored. You would like your days to be more fulfilling.

I appreciate that you are in your senior year and facing the pressure of going to college, and that you would like to improve your grades. It is understandable that you do not want to go on aimlessly, but rather live a more conscious life.

This suggests that you are a person with aspirations.

How might one prevent oneself from drifting?

Perhaps it would be helpful to look at your past experiences and think about how you managed to stay so successful. It might also be useful to consider what you have learned from maintaining good grades and a fulfilling life.

It might be helpful to consider what is beneficial for the present and to repeat it if it is possible.

Perhaps you could set yourself a more realistic goal. Despite the decline in your grades, you have nevertheless managed to maintain a position within the top 30.

Your ability to maintain a grade in the top 30 demonstrates your proficiency as a student and the solid foundation you have built in your academic pursuits.

It may be helpful to set a clear goal and work hard towards it, as this could potentially lead to a significant change in your state of mind.

Third, you might also consider seeking the guidance of a professional counselor. In most cases, high schools will have counseling offices available.

It might be helpful to know that school counseling is free. Even if there is no counseling office at school, you can still talk to your close friends about your worries and ask your teachers for advice on how to improve your studies.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask those who have always studied hard and lived a fulfilling life for advice on managing time.

If you're unsure of the best course of action, it might be helpful to observe the people around you who embody the way you want to live your life and see how they approach things. Even if you choose to emulate their actions, you can still benefit from the positive impact it has on your mindset.

I hope this is helpful for you. Please remember that the world and I love you.

Hello, question asker! I could sense your feelings of powerlessness and helplessness even though we haven't met in person. You mentioned that your life is rather uneventful and that you're struggling to find a sense of purpose. It seems that you're facing some challenges in understanding the meaning of life and the value of studying.

You mentioned that intense emotions, including profound sadness, indicate a sense of emptiness within you. It seems that you're searching for something to fill this void and to fully embrace the weight of being alive.

It may be that what you need now is not a simple hug, because you are so light, as if floating in the air, unable to settle down. What you may need is to make your life more substantial, so that you can make a soft landing and take root on the earth, embracing the joys and sorrows of life.

Perhaps we could consider the possibility that a heart may be empty, or that the quality of life could become diluted.

The road ahead is not yet clear to me. What would you suggest I do?

I believe the answer lies in the real world. Many of us, including you, me, and him, regardless of age or background, may not have fully experienced the real world. We may have been supported by others in various aspects of our lives, or our living, learning, professional, and family environments may be too simple, and the people we interact with may be too straightforward, which could lead us to perceive the real world as somewhat dull and uninspiring.

When our eyes no longer focus on ourselves and the three-acre plot around us, we may come to realize that the real world is not as simple and boring as we imagine. This world is also full of heartache, complexity, trade-offs, helplessness, heaviness, frustration, surprise, longing, happiness, and so on. It is a world of mixed emotions, of sweet and sour, bitter and spicy. This world includes not only ourselves, but also family, classmates, colleagues, partners, and all kinds of strangers. There is love, there is hate, there is anger, there is obsession. After we have walked through the real world, our lives gradually become profound. We have experienced all kinds of feelings and been impacted by all kinds of perspectives. Our feelings are no longer boring or numb, but rather relieved and detached.

It could be said that when a person lives to the end, life is profound, and the soul is indeed light.

As a high school student, you may not fully understand what I mean. If you were to take one action to experience the real world, I believe your heart would be filled a little bit. Perhaps you could consider spending some of your free time outside of schoolwork, exploring new places and meeting new people.

I'm not sure if there are any public welfare organizations in your city, but if you have the opportunity, you might consider visiting those in need and those who are helping others during the summer and winter vacations. It could be a rewarding experience to see what their lives are like. I'm from Beijing, and I've had the chance to volunteer in migrant schools and help blind people record audio books and give guided tours of exhibition halls. These experiences have allowed me to meet more people and have been impacted by a variety of complex emotions. In the process of helping others, I've also had the opportunity to reflect on my own value and the purpose of life.

As a high school student, you may feel pressed for time. One way to gain a different perspective is to simply observe. You could, for instance, observe the life of a courier at a nearby express delivery station or the life of a worker at a nearby restaurant, if conditions permit. By observing the lives of people in different occupations, you may gain insights into the kind of life you want to choose and the kind of life you want to experience.

Furthermore, your current high school studies will broaden your range of choices and enhance your bargaining power in the future. Should you wish to transition to a different life status and experience, you will have the ability and qualifications to do so, rather than passively accepting a life you don't like.

I once had the opportunity to study for a postgraduate degree in business administration at a 985 university. After graduation, I was fortunate to work for an international conglomerate and also had the chance to work for the headquarters of a state-owned enterprise. I also volunteered. I continued to work while studying for a postgraduate degree in psychology because I felt it would be beneficial to gain more life experience and more opportunities to choose, to fill the empty heart I once had, just like you. I am happy to say that my heart is gradually being filled. It is in the process of constantly and deeply engaging with the real world, seeing more people, serving society more, and constantly increasing my knowledge and skills, which has helped me to find more meaning and purpose in life.

You may feel that you are in your final year of high school and that there is little time left. However, I believe that when a person finds direction and motivation in life, it can be a positive experience. Growing up and maturing can be a gradual process, and this process can illuminate the challenges and difficulties you may face in life, helping you to persevere through them.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that you will be able to find your light soon.

Dear Questioner, My name is Peilü.

Firstly, I would like to offer you a hug.

There is a lack of motivation to study.

It is my hope that I can assist you in improving the current situation.

—Data interpretation—

The individual in question stated that, despite lacking a passion for learning, he was able to consistently find motivation or rely on his own willpower to persevere throughout junior high school. While the process was often challenging, he was able to achieve satisfactory grades through hard work. However, this depressed state persisted until the first year of high school. By this point, there had been a notable shift in his mentality and learning state. His emotions had transitioned from depression to calmness, and he displayed a lack of interest in his surroundings. He no longer possessed the initial motivation to strive for improvement, even if it meant facing challenges, and his academic performance declined significantly.

You dislike this lack of focus and stagnation, but you are unable to take action to change it. You recognize that your current situation is unsustainable, yet you lack the motivation to make a change. Studying is, in fact, a challenging task. From your description, I understand that you are still a driven individual. I empathize with you and offer encouragement as you navigate the difficulties of this transition.

The following is a reason analysis.

Please describe the major events that have occurred.

While the information does not explicitly mention the reason for your transformation, major events in life can have a significant impact on a person's thoughts and actions. Let's review the past year to identify any important turning points that may have contributed to your change.

It may be helpful to consider whether the source of the stress is familial, social, or relational, or if it is a personal health issue.

Please describe the level of difficulty you anticipate encountering in the course.

The curriculum at the high school level is more challenging than that at the junior high school level. As you mentioned in your previous correspondence, online classes are not conducive to learning. Some schools are now requiring students to take online classes at home due to the epidemic. A lack of a conducive learning environment may result in reduced learning outcomes for students who lack self-control. Once they become accustomed to a relaxed learning state, it may be challenging for them to maintain strict self-discipline.

Are you experiencing stress related to the college entrance exam?

The entire high school curriculum is designed with the goal of preparing students for the college entrance exam, which has recently received significant attention from all segments of society. From an early age, students are taught to study diligently, pass the college entrance exam, gain admission to their desired university, and take the first step towards a successful career.

I also experienced the pressure of studying as a high school student. I will not delve into the incessant demands of parents and teachers, and the overwhelming academic pressure we place on ourselves often leads to a state of physical and mental exhaustion. The inner voice of dissent often manifests as a desire to escape the confines of the academic environment.

I would like to offer some personal advice.

It is important to find a reasonable way to relieve stress.

Regardless of the reason for your current state, it is certain that you are currently under great psychological pressure. It is important not to rush to blame yourself and feel dissatisfied. Instead, accept your current situation and any feelings of helplessness or panic that you may be experiencing. It is advisable to try to maintain a calm and quiet state, as this is more conducive to rational thinking. It is also important to ensure that negative emotions do not control your body and mind. Psychological pressure needs to be relieved and released, rather than ignored or suppressed. One way to achieve this is by exercising.

In addition to strengthening the body, exercise also activates relevant brain areas, making it an effective method for alleviating depressed moods.

Identify your key motivators for learning.

Interest is the most effective motivator. Identify your primary interests and use them as the driving force behind your learning.

For instance, an individual who held a romantic interest during one's junior high school years can serve as an excellent source of role models.

It is advisable to alter your learning methodology.

Given the wide range of personality traits and learning habits among individuals, a suitable learning method can be twice as effective. However, it is important to note that not all methods are universally applicable. To identify the most effective approach, it is beneficial to explore a range of options and determine the one that aligns with one's unique needs and preferences.

Seek assistance when needed.

It is a sound decision to seek assistance when faced with challenges. You may post a message on the platform requesting help. At times, we may become fixated on a single issue, hindering our ability to grasp the full complexity of the problem and identify a solution. In such instances, seeking guidance from an experienced professional could offer a new perspective and a channel for communication.

Please let me know if you have any further questions.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my love for the world and for you.

Hello, I'm Huang Xiaolu.

From your description, it's clear that studying isn't a challenge for you. Despite your low mood and limited study time, you consistently perform well academically. You may have slipped by more than 60 places in your senior year, but that was during your online classes.

You have friends, but you have no one to talk to. You feel relatively calm, but there are no ups and downs. You will pursue something and face life and study more actively. You will not stay in this slump.

You're doing great. You're taking the initiative, and we're here to support you in achieving even more. Since the second year of junior high school, you've been trying to overcome your low mood. You must have a very powerful motivation supporting you to keep studying. Despite the challenges, you persisted. I'm curious about what supported you. This must be very important to you, and this strength can definitely support you now.

You should be commended for your perseverance. Is there anything, anyone, or any event that helps you learn better? There must be, and we can replicate these techniques to help ourselves get in the right state.

You're in your senior year of high school, taking online classes, with a tight schedule, heavy workload, and little company. It's normal to feel anxious and stressed. Keep the pressure at a certain level to become more efficient.

Get help from the school's psychological counselor. Open up and share your thoughts and feelings.

Adjust your own learning pace. Use the Pomodoro technique to manage it. Concentrate for 15-30 minutes on each topic. Use the most productive part of your time wisely.

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Hello, my name is Flower.

In light of the questioner's mention of feelings of sadness, I empathize with your situation. I wish I could offer you a comforting embrace and some strength.

I encourage you to recognize your own excellence.

"You are actually very good now."

As the questioner himself mentioned, you are actually excellent. At times, when making comparisons, you may feel frustrated and find it challenging to make progress.

I just wanted to say that I think you've already done a great job! It takes a lot of courage to face difficulties head-on, and I admire your bravery.

You are also very hardworking and motivated, and you will plan for your learning goals. I encourage you to recognize your own excellence.

You might like to consider praising yourself more.

Perhaps it would be helpful to allow yourself to make slow progress.

"If I'm in a better mood, I may be able to work more effectively at learning.

As time passed, I began to feel more positive. Now that I'm approaching my third year of high school, I've found myself moving from the top 30 to the top 100. I must admit that I've been less engaged in online classes recently and have relied on others for my homework.

I believe that high school courses are indeed more challenging than those in previous years. In particular, the third year of high school requires a systematic review of a significant amount of knowledge to effectively solve problems.

When we see the grades on the report card dropping, it might be helpful to consider that it could be a sign that we're in a less than optimal frame of mind. It's clear that the questioner is motivated to improve their grades, but it's also possible that they're facing some challenges in their studies and might benefit from some extra support.

Perhaps I could benefit from some methods and patience to allow myself to make progress at a slower pace. For instance, let's set aside the topic of rankings for the time being. It's important to note that the current ranking does not determine the outcome of the college entrance exam.

It might be helpful to try to let go of comparisons with others and compare yourself with yourself. It can be challenging to face so many subjects and have to review them.

It might be helpful to consider the following strategies: First, identify a subject that you find easier. Then, identify which types of questions you keep getting wrong. Analyze the key points and difficulties of each exam. Find out why you didn't do well. Then, slowly work out your own revision methods based on the question types and knowledge point systems. Allow yourself to make slow progress. When you encounter difficulties, you can also seek help from your teachers and classmates.

Perhaps it would be helpful to let it out. There might be a stormy side to the repressed calm.

I would describe my mood as calm, but I feel that it is somewhat lazy, which is not what I am aiming for.

I would prefer not to be so calm. I would prefer to return to how things were. I would prefer to be more extreme in all my moods and everything. However, I cannot go back.

I'm unsure of what I should do. I don't think this is the best way to handle things. I wish I could be more open to feeling depressed. I'm not sure what else I can do. I really want to cry again.

I must admit that I am feeling somewhat bored. Perhaps sadness will help me to feel a little more fulfilled.

I can almost see the storm behind the calm, and I can sense the emotions that are being held back by the questioner. If you feel like talking about it, you might find it helpful to speak with a professional who can help you express your feelings and work through them.

If you would prefer not to be seen crying, you might consider finding a place where you feel safe to do so. If you would like to cry but are unable to do so, you may wish to try watching a touching movie and allowing yourself to cry.

We have the option of crying. It is not necessarily a sign of weakness to cry. In fact, it can be a courageous act. If you feel the need to cry, then by all means, do so.

If you feel the need to cry, please do so. Allow yourself to cry your heart out.

It might be helpful to let it all out.