A high school sophomore, afraid to return to school after two years of suspension, what should I do?

Hello, question asker! I'm so happy to be able to answer your question!

First, give the questioner a big hug and let them know you're there for them. It's totally normal to feel lost, anxious, and down in the dumps when you're facing new challenges. From what you've shared, it seems like the questioner has experienced anxiety in the past, which has affected their studies. Now, with a new learning environment, it's natural to feel a bit nervous about the unknown.

Anxiety is actually a natural response to stress. When faced with challenges in life or studies, your body releases chemicals that make you feel anxious. So, is this feeling of anxiety something you experience often, or is it something unique to you?

I'm sorry you're feeling anxious. Is it just you who's worried about the illness causing anxiety?

It's totally normal to feel different when you're facing new challenges at school. It's interesting to think about how everyone experiences these situations differently. Do you feel worried and anxious when you're studying in a new environment? Or, do you feel anxious, but your classmates don't?

It would be great to know if there are any teachers at school who can help you deal with these pressures. I'd love to know how they help!

I'm not sure if the questioner has looked into this aspect of the situation yet, or if they're just feeling all of those emotions right now. Either way, it's important for the questioner to think about it for themselves.

It's totally normal for students to feel anxious when they're in the same situation. It's okay to feel worried about the college entrance exam or your studies! The most important thing is learning how to handle these tough situations when you're feeling pressure at school.

The questioner can also ask the teacher how to regulate in the face of pressure, or seek psychological intervention from a counselor. It's so important to remember that as long as psychological intervention can be carried out at an early stage and timely adjustments can be made, the questioner's academic pressure will not be so great, and their emotions will not be so anxious.

I'm so sorry you're feeling anxious. I wish I could give you more advice, but I'm just a regular person on this platform. I can tell you that I've been there, and I know it's tough. But you're not alone. There are people who care about you and who can help.

Take a moment to write down the worst possible outcome.

It's totally normal to feel anxious about giving a public speech. We've all been there! Try using the list method to write down all the negative thoughts that are floating around in your mind. You'll be surprised at how much better you feel once you've written them down and made them explicit. It's like having a kind of independent third-party perspective, where you can look at your own affairs as if they were someone else's affairs. This helps you to let go and relax.

At this point, you'll see that the worst-case scenario isn't so bad after all.

The questioner is feeling the pressure of schoolwork and is feeling a bit anxious. They're looking for someone to share this stress with, but they don't get a good response. Then, they can try writing down the worst possible outcome.

What's the worst that could happen? Is it something you could live without? If it does, can you accept it?

I've got a little bit of advice for you. It might be worth asking yourself: just because you can't adapt to the new learning environment right now, does that mean you'll never be able to adapt in the future? Whatever your concerns may be,

You can write them down if you want to.

Take a moment to jot down any issues that are on your mind.

Take a moment to think about the problems that are troubling you. Be honest with yourself. Write down the three problems that trouble you the most at the moment. Then, write three solutions for each problem. You can focus on the problem you want to solve the most at the moment. You can try to solve it yourself. Or, you can ask others for help solving it.

If you feel like you can't solve the problem on your own, don't worry! You can always seek help from a counselor. They'll be able to support you and help you work through it.

It's so important to learn to accept your emotions.

It's totally normal to feel anxious sometimes, and it's okay to have those feelings. Anxiety is actually a self-protective mechanism, but sometimes it can get out of control and make us feel bad. If you're feeling anxious, try to empty your mind. Since you're already feeling anxious, it might help to just let your emotions take over for a while. Don't think about anything, just let your mind empty.

It's so important to learn to accept yourself, relax your emotions, and even treat yourself to some sweets if you want to feel good! If you have a good grasp of the knowledge, you can even do something you like the day before an exam, such as finding your own way to relax, so that you can face things the next day with a good attitude.

Take a moment to jot down a few notes about your strengths and areas for improvement.

It's so important to know your strengths and work on maintaining them, whether you're studying or working. It's also really helpful to identify your weaknesses and put in the work to improve them. This will help you to complete your studies well!

Find your passion and competitive edge!

We always learn the parts that we are passionate about, that is, the parts that interest us. Find your passion, and then see if you can maintain your enthusiasm for learning. It's so important to be passionate about what you're learning! At the same time, find the parts of your learning that are more competitive than others. This will help you to be more down-to-earth when learning and know in which areas you are more competitive.

I really hope my answer helps the person who asked the question!

Dear question asker,

I have reviewed your inquiry in great detail and on multiple occasions. I can empathize with your emotional state as you compose this message. Presently, I believe you are preparing for school tomorrow. Despite your anxiety, I perceive a glimmer of hope within you.

From my perspective, you are a grateful child. Otherwise, you would not have assumed such a heavy burden in the third year of junior high school. You perceive this burden to be a form of familial love. Concurrently, I also observed the love your parents have for you. One aspect is that your parents permitted you to take a leave of absence from school and remain at home during your high school years. The other aspect is that they are currently proactively seeking a high school with a more conducive atmosphere for you.

From my perspective, it is evident that your child has a profound and loving relationship with his parents. While love can undoubtedly bring warmth and comfort, it can also, at times, feel overwhelming. It is notable that you have not mentioned any specific instances or examples of how parents behave in a particular manner. The reason behind your perceived pressure during your junior high school years may be attributed to the fact that you were undergoing a period of significant physical and psychological changes associated with adolescence. It is not uncommon for individuals in this developmental stage to experience a range of emotions and thoughts, and it is likely that your feelings and behaviors were a natural part of this process.

However, you have undergone significant personal growth and development in the two years since your last attendance at school. Despite being at home, you have continued to pursue your studies independently, demonstrating an admirable level of maturity and resilience. Consequently, you have evolved into a markedly different individual from the one you were two years ago. Upon being abruptly informed of the imminent commencement of your studies, you promptly sought assistance from us. This demonstrates a notable shift in your awareness and a commendable inclination towards seeking external support. You have come to recognize that seeking help and expressing your confusion can facilitate a collective effort to devise solutions that can benefit you. We recognize the immense potential inherent in the collective wisdom and resources available to us. It is evident that you have undergone positive changes, and it would be valuable to ascertain your own perception of these developments.

You have expressed concern about your ability to keep pace with the academic demands of the new school. Given that you have been acquainted with your current classmates for two years, it is understandable that you are uncertain about how you will interact with your new classmates. These concerns are not uncommon among students transitioning to a new educational environment. However, it is worth noting that in many cases, students are placed in different classes and grades when they advance to a new level of schooling. This often results in a significant change in the social dynamics of the school, with the majority of students having little or no prior interaction. Additionally, the school in question is a day school, which provides a convenient opportunity for students to return home each day. While these circumstances may initially seem daunting, it is important to recognize that with time and effort, you will be able to adapt and thrive in this new environment.

Should you require further clarification, you are welcome to visit us in the evening to discuss any concerns you may have. This provides an opportunity for us to collectively address any issues and explore ways to enhance our relationships with classmates and teachers.

With regard to the rhythm of the school, it is likely that this refers to the pace of the teacher's lectures, the pace of the school, and whether your own learning can keep up with it. These factors will undoubtedly require some adjustment when we first start school. It is therefore important to be mentally prepared for this. We have also taught ourselves at home, so we have some familiarity with the subject matter. It is not uncommon for students to initially struggle to keep up with the pace of school. It is important to remember that the knowledge taught in school may be more straightforward than what you have learned at home, and the connection may not be as immediate. With time, however, you will gradually become accustomed to the rhythm of the school.

Indeed, it is precisely as I have described. Take your time, proceed at a pace that is comfortable for you. I am confident that your parents will continue to support you, as they have been throughout this process. I believe you understand the purpose of our self-study. However, it is important to remember that it is designed to facilitate learning in the future. We must also attend school to monitor our progress and ensure that we are adequately preparing for the college entrance exam.

As the college entrance examination approaches, it is imperative that we attend school to prepare for it.

It is accurate to conclude that only by attending school can we optimally utilize our abilities and truly express ourselves, given the significant growth and development that has occurred over the past two years. It is essential to have confidence in oneself. Tomorrow, we will enter the new school with a subtle yet profound hope. I am eagerly awaiting your arrival on this platform to share the emotions of tomorrow.

It is imperative that you recall that the world and I hold you in high regard. We will meet again tomorrow night.

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to inquire about a matter that has come to my attention. Please let me know if this is not the appropriate channel for such inquiries. Best regards,

Context:

I empathize with your situation. Based on the original poster's description, if there were no issues, you would have likely started at your new school by now. I believe your current circumstances are manageable, and they are likely more favorable than you initially anticipated.

I empathize with your situation. Based on the original poster's description, if there were no issues, you would have likely started at your new school by now. I believe the current situation is manageable, and it is not as challenging as you anticipated.

Let us examine some more effective methods for adapting.

Let us examine some more effective methods for adapting.

In order to facilitate a more seamless transition, it would be beneficial to undertake a comparison of the two environments.

A comparison of the two environments

Context:

Previously, I was on a leave of absence, studying at home exclusively, without the necessity of interacting with classmates or teachers, and with complete autonomy over my schedule. While this afforded a certain degree of liberation, it also presented a challenge in terms of social interaction.

Now that you have returned to school, you will interact with new classmates and teachers and adhere to the school schedule. However, you will also have the opportunity to attend classes and participate in activities with your classmates, engage in various pursuits, and experience a more dynamic environment than you did at home.

It is important to accept yourself.

It is important to accept that you are imperfect and that your experiences during your time away from school were different from those of your classmates who remained in school. However, it is also essential to recognise that nobody is perfect, and that you have both strengths and weaknesses.

It is important to accept your own imperfections and acknowledge that there may have been some differences between you and your classmates who remained in school during your absence. It is not realistic to expect perfection from anyone, and while you may have some shortcomings, you also possess certain valuable qualities.

While you may be slightly behind in your studies, you possess the qualities that will ensure your classmates accept you. You are straightforward and sincere, responsible and sensitive, and can perceive the points that others overlook.

Adjustment of Attitude

It is important to recognize that change is a natural part of life and that it can be managed effectively.

It is important to accept the situation and work within the parameters of what can be changed, while also being open to adapting to new circumstances.

It is possible to alter circumstances that can be modified and to accept those that cannot. For instance, you have relocated to a new environment, which is an unchangeable fact. However, you can modify your attitude towards it.

Prior to this, you may have been experiencing feelings of anxiety and depression, which made it difficult for you to attend school. Now, you have the opportunity to adopt a more positive outlook and implement minor adjustments. For instance, you could try to develop a positive attitude towards a subject, identify an intriguing aspect within it, and seek clarification from your classmates and teachers on any concepts you find challenging.

Previously, you may have experienced anxiety and depression, which made attending school an ordeal. Now, you have the opportunity to adopt a more positive outlook and implement incremental changes. For instance, you could try to develop a positive attitude towards a subject, identify an intriguing aspect, and seek assistance from classmates and teachers on topics you find challenging.

It is important to take the initiative.

It is important to take the initiative.

In a new environment, everything is new, which means that you are new too. This presents an opportunity to start over.

In a new environment, everything is new, which means that you are new too, because no one is familiar with your previous experience. This presents an excellent opportunity to start anew.

In a new environment, everything is new, which means that you are also new, because no one is familiar with your previous experience. This presents an excellent opportunity to start anew.

For instance, if you were previously introverted and lacked the confidence to interact with others, you may be keen to make changes but are concerned that others may perceive this as unusual.

Given that you are unknown in your new environment, you have the opportunity to act in an extroverted manner. You can greet your colleagues and superiors with a smile or a nod as you pass them in the hallway.

Only when you take the initiative will you feel in control of your surroundings and be able to manage the situation effectively.

Only when you take the initiative will you feel in control of your surroundings and be able to manage the situation more effectively.

It is recommended that you seek professional assistance.

If this maladjustment (attempting various methods with no success in adapting over an extended period, remaining highly anxious) has impacted your daily life and persisted for an extended duration, you may wish to consider consulting with a psychologist or counselor at your local community center or school.

I hope that my answer will be helpful to the questioner and that they will be able to meet a better self in the near future.

I hope my response will prove useful to the inquirer and that they will soon be able to achieve a more positive state of mind. I am confident that they will succeed.

Hello, my dear friend. Sending you lots of hugs!

It's totally normal to feel a little unsure about the new school. But remember, life goes on, and you'll get through this!

Let's take a moment to go over your story together, shall we?

1. Sixteen years old, second semester of second year of high school

2. In the first semester of the third year of junior high school, I took a six-month break.

3. You failed the entrance exam, but don't worry! You went to a regular high school instead.

4. Since then, you've been feeling a bit reluctant to go to school and it's understandable that you're having a hard time accepting that you're not as good at it as your junior high school classmates.

5. I took a year and a half off school and taught myself at home.

6. I got some great news today! I can transfer to a new school!

7. The new school has a class-based system, which I think you'll find is better than the current school.

8. The students at the new school have been together for two whole years!

9. You're feeling a bit worried that you might struggle to fit in if you join the school halfway through the year.

10. You're also feeling a bit worried that you've been away from school for so long that you might not be able to keep up with everything that's been going on.

11. All of this is really worrying you, isn't it? It's totally understandable to feel anxious and at a loss.

From what you've told me, I think your story can be divided into three parts.

I'm really sorry to hear you didn't do so well in the high school entrance exam.

*The high school just isn't quite what you were hoping for.

You're feeling a little panicked and worried about the opportunity to go to a new school.

You're not happy with the school you got into in the high school entrance exam, and you don't agree with it at all. You don't even want to go to school because you feel like you're worse than other students and you've failed.

Now you have the chance to go to a better school, and you're ready to go for it! You're hoping to make a change and see things improve. But you're also feeling a bit nervous about how you'll do academically and in your relationships.

My dear friend, you are only 16 years old and you've already had to face so many challenges.

It's totally normal to feel a little nervous about starting a new school. It's a big step, and it's natural to have some worries. But it's also a chance to start fresh and make new friends. You're hoping to fit in with your classmates and have someone to spend time with every day, working together towards a common goal.

It was really good!

Let's take a moment to close our eyes and breathe slowly together. Let's take some time to connect with that part of ourselves that longs for love, friendship, growth, and progress. Let's feel his presence in our hearts.

2. We had a lovely chat about how we could give our inner selves a helping hand with their desire for friendship and growth.

* We studied at home, and even though we were far from the school environment, we still had access to books. We were still familiar with the content of the books, which was really helpful.

* Even though my score on the middle school entrance exam wasn't what I'd hoped, I didn't let that get me down. I went on to high school and worked really hard. I'm super resilient and determined, and I've got the strength to make it through anything.

* My parents and relatives were so caring and concerned about me. They used all kinds of resources to help me transfer to a new school. They love me, and that's also very important.

* Even though I wasn't at school for a year and a half, I didn't just stay home and waste my time. I kept in touch with my family, neighbors, and a few friends, which was really important.

I'm really excited to share some of my hobbies and interests with my new classmates and friends!

3. Let's imagine, under normal circumstances, how classmates usually react to a new transfer student.

They'll be curious and want to know who I am and why I transferred to their school.

*They may not care much about it and just keep on with their own thing, and I might not get much attention or care from them.

* They may also be busy with their studies and not have much time to get to know me as an outsider, which is totally understandable!

* I may make a few friends and get to know the people sitting in front of, behind, and to the sides of me.

* I may be able to integrate more easily with the people around me, and I might even be a little more distant from the other students.

Well, through imagination, we find that whether they are curious, not too concerned, or indifferent, they basically have no ill will towards me. It's only natural that it will take time for them to get to know me, since we've only just met!

4. Let's imagine what it would be like after we've entered school.

* In the first class, the teacher introduces me to the class and arranges my seat.

* I open my bag, take out my books, and start a busy but fulfilling day of learning.

*I'm sorry, I don't have much energy or time to think about my friends.

I got lost in my notes, did my homework after class, and wrote the test papers.

If I don't know the answer to a question, I might just keep studying at home like I usually do, thinking it over and looking things up.

*Maybe at school, I can have a quick chat with my classmates sitting next to me, or ask the teacher during recess.

I was really eager to find out more about my classmates. I wanted to know what they were up to, what their names were, and a bit about them.

I love listening to my classmates when they're chatting. It's a great way to get to know them better!

During breaks, I love chatting with my classmates about games and anime. It's so fun to find out what they're playing and what they're into these days!

5. It's okay to feel anxious. We all feel anxious when faced with uncertainty. You're not alone in this!

Hug your anxious self. You're doing great! In the face of the uncertainty of the future, you haven't retreated into a safe zone, but have bravely faced this uncertainty. This is really a very brave display.

You are such a brave student! We never know what challenges we'll face on our journey through life.

All we can do is be our own best friend and face life head-on with courage.

I truly believe that you, who have already taken this step, can feel the bravery within yourself. So, with expectations for the future, give yourself a big pat on the back for being so brave!

You deserve a bright future, so believe in yourself!

And now for a little tip:

1. It's so lovely when you show someone else kindness and they show it back to you!

When you first arrive in a new environment, take a moment to look around and appreciate the beauty around you. You'll find that your classmates are just as lovely! I believe you will gain friendships of your own.

2. Learning is a matter of daily accumulation, and it takes time to make progress, but you've got this!

If you find that you can keep up with the new school's pace, that's great!

If you find that you are lagging behind a little, don't be discouraged! You can absolutely surpass that goal.

Don't worry! There's still a year and a half before the college entrance exam, so there's still time!

I really hope my answer has been helpful to you!

I wish you all the very best!

Hello, I am Shu Yiqingzheng, and I am here to share my thoughts and provide you with the support you need.

Hug yourself again. You are not confused when you feel anxious. Stress and love are not holding you back.

You can reflect on your feelings and needs objectively and analyze your learning. You have continued to learn during your time off school. You sought help from psychology and grew as a person.

01. About stress

Psychologically, stress is a series of physiological, psychological, and behavioral responses that a person produces when faced with a stressful or stimulating event. It mainly brings about changes in emotions, cognition, and behavior.

Stress is a normal reaction to challenges. It's related to animal instincts and evolution and adaptation. It's a natural human reaction.

As the saying goes, "Every family has its own difficulties." This means that everyone has their own pressures and dilemmas.

Stress can make people feel a range of negative emotions, including anxiety, fear, frustration, and powerlessness. However, it can also motivate people to become better versions of themselves.

Stress contains needs and motives that are in line with psychological development.

In psychology, there is a story about former US President Abraham Lincoln called the "horsefly effect." In short, it says that even the laziest horse will become energetic and run fast if it is bitten by a horsefly.

The term "horsefly" is used to describe motivational factors in business or individual management. Identifying the right motivational factors will stimulate an individual's drive to develop and realize their potential, thereby achieving greater self-worth.

It's normal to feel some anxiety about new learning. You want to have good coping strategies and take responsibility for your own growth.

Transform this anxiety into a driving force for improvement. Focus your energy on studying hard and pushing yourself to achieve great results.

02. About anxiety

Anxiety is a common negative emotion in modern society. It is similar to fear and triggers our stress response when faced with threats. This allows us to adopt rational strategies in dangerous situations, survive, and grow further.

People often define uncomfortable emotions as negative, but they should also understand that they are an important part of the body and an important way to perceive the world.

You can recognize, accept, and understand these so-called negative emotions in depth. The key is to decide whether you want to change your previous patterns.

Anxiety about a new and unfamiliar environment arises because you feel that there is some unknown uncertainty that threatens your learning and development.

Anxiety makes you aware of your shortcomings, which is crucial for learning and improvement.

You must accept it. It is a normal physiological reaction. Learn to recognize it, understand it, and accept it.

Negative emotions are like a spoiled child who craves attention. Destroying things is a means to attract your attention, not the end. Pay attention to them and they will stop causing trouble.

For example, talk to it directly: "Hello old friend, what do you want me to do now? Thank you for your help before. It made me see different parts of myself. I accept that I have some vulnerable and inferior parts, but I also have many strong and courageous parts!

For example, you must learn to see your own anxieties as a slow-flowing river. Let it slowly flow into your body, and then let it slowly flow out of your body again.

It's like the white clouds floating in the sky. Just let them float over and let them float away. There are many white clouds, and our sky can be even wider.

Acceptance calms our hearts. Peace is the ultimate comfort.

03. So what?

When you arrive in a new learning environment, maintain your calm and sincerity towards your studies and classmates, and you'll be fine.

You are responsible for yourself and your own learning. Don't worry about what others think or expect.

I studied hard, treated my classmates sincerely, and didn't get outstanding grades or everyone's approval. So what?

We are not "Renminbi," and we don't need to please everyone.

In all relationships, you must put yourself first. Accept and care for yourself, and you will have true love for yourself. When we have a lot of love for ourselves, that love will overflow and nourish all kinds of relationships.

Tell yourself, "I allow myself to be imperfect, and I am grateful for my imperfections." This allows you to become aware and awaken, adjust yourself, change some old patterns, and encounter a better self.

04. When you feel anxious, take control. Press pause, take a few deep breaths, try mindfulness meditation, go outside for a walk, look at the grass, the trees, the sky, or keep a diary, write whatever comes to mind. Chat with a trusted teacher, classmate, or friend and pour out your heart.

Read some psychology books on personal growth. They will nourish and enrich your heart, allowing you to think independently and become a better version of yourself.

Read these books: "Thank yourself for your imperfections," "Have a life where you call the shots," "wooP thinking psychology," and others.

The world and I love you. I hope this helps.

We developed an anxiety disorder in the third year of junior high school. After taking a six-month break, we failed to get into a regular high school. The psychological gap caused by not being able to go to high school made us continue to choose to take a break from school. The experience of taking a break from school for the next year and a half only added to your anxiety.

Not knowing how to deal with new classmates and teachers, or if you can keep up with school, can make you anxious. You might feel worried and uneasy right now.

This sharing is for you. I hope it will help you feel better.

Anxiety disorders cause a lot of our current anxiety.

Your anxiety comes from anxiety disorders, not from your mind.

Anxiety disorders affect everyone in every part of their lives. It's like having a cold.

Psychological illnesses are not as obvious as physical illnesses, but they affect us just as much.

We will develop

Not knowing how to deal with new classmates and teachers, or if we can keep up with schoolwork.

This kind of thinking causes anxiety because the illness affects the individual.

Tell yourself:

The anxiety is back. Relax, I need to deal with the anxiety, not the thoughts.

Focus on past ways to cope with anxiety. Take your medicine and think about ways to calm your mind.

When the things that make you anxious are less, you will feel less anxious.

1. Relax your body and mind to feel peaceful.

Relax your body and mind to feel peaceful.

Body relaxation

People with anxiety often get muscle tension, sweaty palms, and tremors. If you have these too, try body scanning or focusing on breathing to relieve your body. Here's how to body scan:

You can do this either sitting or lying down.

b. Scan your body from toes to eyes, noting where it is comfortable, uncomfortable, tense, relaxed, and whether there is any soreness, pain, swelling, itching, or numbness.

c. Feel and experience them.

d. If you can't handle it, tense and relax each part of your body for three seconds.

Cognitive relaxation

For the two thoughts that worry you, take the example of "not being sure if you can keep up with the school rhythm after a long break."

Ask yourself:

What's the worst that can happen if you can't keep up with the school rhythm?

When we imagine the worst, we often feel less anxious because we know it won't happen.

2. Use the miracle question to cope with your worries.

"If I go to school tomorrow and my fears disappear, what will have happened?"

When we're stuck on an idea, we're lost. By thinking about how to solve the problem, we can find new solutions.

I'm a psychologist, not an explorer of human nature. I wish you well.

Good morning, dear students.

I am grateful for the opportunity to meet you, and I hope that our paths will continue to cross in a positive way.

If I may suggest, perhaps taking a deep breath, especially a long release/exhale of the accumulated internal gas, and then giving your classmate a warm hug might be beneficial. You could also do a "butterfly hug" yourself if you feel so inclined.

Upon reading the description, I came to understand that the student in question was in high school at the time. It is often the case that moderate anxiety can serve as a source of motivation for us. However, the student mentioned that he was dealing with "anxiety disorder" due to the "heavy love" of his family in the third year of junior high school, which led him to take a leave of absence from school. I am grateful to the student for being self-aware, as this has made it easier for me to recognize and understand my own experiences with anxiety.

I hope that by sharing my thoughts and ideas, I can provide some inspiration and new ideas to the questioner.

I wonder if I might suggest that we consider the possibility that the stories we have heard from our classmates about themselves might be open to interpretation.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to sort out the stories about ourselves that our classmates have recounted and experienced themselves. Once we have done that, we can interpret and analyze them.

I was 16 years old, in the second year of high school. When I was in the third year of junior high school, I experienced some anxiety due to the heavy pressure and the love from my family, so I decided to take a six-month break from school. I didn't succeed in passing the high school entrance exam, and I ended up attending a very ordinary high school.

As a student about to face the high school entrance exam in the third year of junior high school, I wonder if I might be carrying the family's expectations, which could be somewhat high. Perhaps this is the "stressor" in our psychology? Or maybe parents say things like "Don't stress yourself/Relax and study..." every day, but in fact they can't stop talking about school and studying?

Could this be what classmates mean by "heavy love"?

It is understandable that when we face challenges, our bodies may naturally become tense. Before our bodies become tense, it is possible that our minds may also feel tense, restless, or unable to concentrate on our studies. If this "heavy burden of love/pressure" is not relieved, it could potentially lead to "self-fulfilling expectations," which might result in an unexpected failure to enter a regular high school.

Perhaps we could consider an alternative perspective on the concept of "heavy love." If love is expressed in a way that is perceived as positive, it could contribute to a sense of happiness and relaxation in our bodies and minds. Conversely, if we experience difficulties in this area, it might lead to feelings of inefficiency at work and a tendency to worry excessively about repaying our family's love. This could manifest as anxiety, which can manifest physically as a tense and irritable body. It's as if our body is sending us a signal to reduce stress and avoid overwhelming us. When we fail to recognize these changes and continue focusing on academic performance, the anxiety that could have been addressed at an earlier stage might intensify and develop into an anxiety disorder. This could be seen as an invisible escalation of the appropriate anxiety.

Since then, I have been hesitant to return to school, feeling that I may not be as proficient as my former classmates. Over time, this has become a challenging cycle. I decided to take a leave of absence from school, and it has now been a year and a half since I stopped going to school. I have been studying at home on my own.

Could I ask you to clarify why you don't want to go to school? I'm wondering if it's because you feel you're not as capable as others, or if it's because you're afraid of failure, or if it's because you're concerned about what your family will think, or if it's because you're worried about getting unsatisfactory results?

It may be the case that, given the generally smooth nature of our studies, we have developed a somewhat idealised image of ourselves and a tendency to respond in a way that is perceived as positive. In order to avoid an outcome that we may perceive as imperfect, our subconscious mind, which we typically use to inform our decision-making, activates a strategy designed to protect us. This may result in us feeling the need to regress, or take a break from school. If this fixed pattern is not challenged, it may prove difficult for us to make significant changes. Over time, even the prospect of entering society may become daunting.

It might be a good idea to study at home, as long as it can stand the test of reality. For example, if you can pass the first or second big exam, or get a satisfactory grade, then it's OK. This may be considered a kind of "self-adjustment" at a certain stage, or a way of studying on your own. It's important to consider whether you really want to study at home, whether you are focused and attentive, and whether you enjoy it. It's also helpful to think about whether your motivation is primarily about what your parents will think of you, or if it's something you truly want to do.

Could you please let me know the result of the exam? If this is the case, would you recommend focusing on the love of my family?

It seems as though I may be experiencing a different form of anxiety.

I was recently informed that I have the option of transferring to a different school, which begins classes the day after tomorrow. The new school has a flexible class system and a more relaxed pace, which I find appealing. However, I am concerned that I may not fit in with my classmates, especially given that we have not had the chance to get to know each other. I am also unsure if I will be able to keep up with the school's pace after being away from school for so long. I am feeling a bit anxious about facing new students and teachers and wondering if I will be able to keep up with the school's pace. What should I do?

Could you please clarify the author's thoughts on the "temporary day-release system/more flexible transfer"? It seems he has already started worrying about various things before he has even gone, such as being rejected by his classmates/not being able to make friends/worrying about not being able to keep up with his studies. This seems to be a typical case of "anxiety," i.e., worrying in advance about things that have not yet happened, and often worrying in a negative way. Is this the way classmates have always thought?

Could I perhaps inquire as to whether there is a time to think positively, optimistically, with hope, or with good expectations?

Since the future is not yet here, it might be helpful to consider changing our mindset. For instance, day school offers more freedom, including the opportunity to eat well, sleep well, and study without as much interference from classmates. It can be beneficial to think positively about things that haven't happened yet. Would you be interested in trying this approach, classmate?

I'm not sure what the best course of action would be here.

In response to the situation described by the student, you might consider approaching it in the following way:

[1] It may be helpful to accept the anxiety emotions/anxiety states/anxiety disorders that already exist within yourself. Regardless of the specific emotions involved, it can be beneficial to simply accept them and explore the underlying truth of each anxiety. Once identified, it may be possible to engage with the anxiety in a constructive and positive manner.

All the challenges we face on our journey of growth are there to help us grow better! By recognizing, understanding, and then forming a friendship with these challenges, we can learn and grow from them.

[2] Perhaps it would be beneficial to modestly lower expectations for the future, including academic performance, making friends, and how family and others view you. It is important to remember that expectations of others are their business, but whether we meet the expectations of others is our own business. It may be helpful to try to separate the two types of expectations. No matter what others think, I just follow my own body and mind to take "active action" at a "comfortable level" that I can bear.

[3] How might I respond when anxiety arises?

It might be helpful to set aside a fixed amount of time, perhaps five minutes, to notice the anxiety and look inward to see what this anxiety is reminding us to do. Is this my psychological expectation? If not, it might be beneficial to simply let it go or turn the page.

Another option is to set aside a specific time each day or week to address your concerns. You might try setting aside 30 minutes from 8:00 to 8:30 pm, for example, to focus on one or two worrying topics. This could be a way to turn your worrying into a constructive, productive activity.

When you have managed to gain control over your anxiety issues and have a plan in place to maintain this, it is possible that you may experience a return of your worrying and anxiety. In such a situation, it can be helpful to consider changing your previous coping mode. One way to do this is to simply act, without dwelling on the issue. You could go for a run, exercise, play a sport, talk to someone, or watch your favourite entertainment programme. In short, you could try to avoid immersing yourself in the previous anxiety.

It might be helpful to try to adopt a more positive outlook as you transition to a new school. Whatever challenges arise, we can meet them together. It's possible that our concerns are simply the result of an old pattern of daydreaming or fantasy. Instead of seeing them as obstacles, we can view them as opportunities to adapt to the new environment and gain a deeper understanding of what we truly fear or anxiety-inducing. Even if things don't work out initially, we can always return to where we were before.

Perhaps, when you face it bravely and are mentally prepared, a feeling different from before will occur. This could be considered the real experience of growth.

[4] You may find it helpful to read and study in order to gain a deeper understanding of the ins and outs of your "anxiety/anxiety state/anxiety disorder." When you are able to identify the source of your physical and psychological reactions, you may find that you have achieved "knowing yourself and the enemy and you will win every battle." It is important to note that this process of "healing" yourself must be experienced for it to be effective.

You might find it helpful to read some books on the subject, such as Embrace Imperfection, Hello, Anxiety, A Thought Away, and Control Anxiety. You could also consider speaking with a professional psychologist. There are many ways to seek help and support, including the Yi Xinli platform.

I hope that my understanding, interpretation, and analysis of the problem of my classmates will be seen as a source of positive and useful inspiration. I believe that anxiety is not inherently scary; rather, it is how we interpret and respond to it that matters most.

My name is Dr. Yang Guang, and I am a medical counselor. I hope that I can be of service to you and the world.

If you were away from school, it was probably because you avoided things. You missed the chance to adapt. Now you are already a sophomore.

Your memory is stuck on the junior high school entrance exam. The next thing you need to face is the college entrance exam. You must change your position. You may not want to go to school because you will be afraid.

You don't know what high school is really like. You've become more skilled at applying the lazy Buddhist school's skills. You haven't tried to return to that school. The good news is that you can transfer to a better school.

Use this chance to get to know yourself better. Even if others reject you, it's just a small thing. Don't let a few bad people ruin your life. Don't lose sight of your mission just because of one part of it.

You still have to keep up with school, even if you're behind. If you don't, you'll fall behind. Go to more lectures and take extra courses. Treat your teachers and classmates with respect.

You may still have some worries. You must see what you need and try. Everyone has things to face, so we must work hard.

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Hello, question owner! It's so nice to meet you. I can tell that you're feeling a little nervous and anxious about the future.

Because of the heavy pressure of the third year of junior high school and the overwhelming love of his family, he developed anxiety and took a six-month break from school. This vicious cycle resulted in him failing the high school entrance exam. I'm sure the questioner is very sorry and remorseful, and feels like he doesn't measure up to his former classmates. I can relate to that feeling, too.

But, as someone who has just graduated from the college entrance exam, I want to tell you that you've made it through the toughest part. You'll see that you'll meet your amazing friends again at the end.

I'm so happy for you! You can transfer to a better school now. I can imagine the questioner is feeling a little bit of everything right now — half happy, half worried.

The school has a great learning environment and lots of helpful resources, which is wonderful! However, the question owner hasn't been in touch with the school for a while and is feeling a bit out of the loop. It's totally understandable to feel a little strange, nervous, and worried about starting at a new school.

I'm really happy for the OP! This is a great opportunity. We can't run away from reality forever. Most students at good schools are really great. I'm sure the OP will make lots of friends if they treat people politely and are friendly.

I can see that you're feeling worried that your classmates will reject you. I'm sure that's not going to happen! You're going to be welcomed with open arms. In fact, I think you'll receive a lot of care from others. If someone rejects or hurts you, please speak up and protect yourself.

I totally get it. It's totally normal to feel like you can't keep up with the pace of school. It's unavoidable, but you've got this! Give yourself a little time to adjust. A week or two is all it takes. Believe in yourself!

I know you can do it! Prove yourself with your abilities because you previously had the strength to take the exam for key high school, and I know you can do it again. This time, senior year is also a critical period. I hope the questioner can seize the opportunity and believe in themselves.

If you're having any trouble with your studies, don't hesitate to reach out to your teachers. I'm sure they'd be happy to help!

I really hope the person who asked the question will make great progress in their studies and have a wonderful, happy life!

Hello, questioner!

Many children will encounter various situations during their studies, and each experience will test their resilience—and they'll come out stronger on the other side!

First, let's tackle the problem head-on!

I'm going to transfer schools in the second semester of my second year of high school, and I'm so excited! I have experience of suspension from school, but I'm ready to take on whatever comes my way. School starts tomorrow, and I'm currently worried about two things: whether I can keep up with the school's pace, and whether I can integrate into my teachers and classmates.

2. Solutions:

Let's dive in and understand the source of your anxiety!

Your assessment of the situation of returning to school seems to be a bit risky: "I might be rejected by my classmates and won't be able to make friends when I go to a new school," and "I'm not sure if I can keep up with the school." Does returning to school mean being rejected and not being able to make friends?

Does it mean that you can't keep up with the school's pace? Is this a fact or an idea?

Your perception and associations with suspension from school, "I may not be able to keep up with my studies when I resume school, what will the school teachers think of me?" The resulting panic may be the source of your anxiety. But don't worry! You can overcome this.

Let's adjust your perception!

Taking a break from school does not mean failure. This is a kind of black-and-white cognitive distortion that you can easily overcome!

"I didn't pass the entrance exam, and I feel like I'm not as good as my former classmates." It's also a kind of cognitive distortion to think that a small mistake means the whole thing is wrong. But it's not! It's just one small mistake. And it's not the end of the world. You're still the same person you were before. So, don't make big conclusions about your entire life based on one small mistake.

It's time to learn how to evaluate your self-worth in a more reasonable way! Get to know yourself from multiple perspectives, and don't just use grades as the sole criterion to evaluate yourself. When you see and recognize your own advantages in multiple ways, you'll be able to look more lightly on a past experience. Even if you've had an experience of taking a break from school, it doesn't mean you're worse than others—you're just different!

Everyone's life is full of ups and downs, and everyone has imperfections. But you can absolutely get along with your classmates more confidently with a reasonable attitude towards this experience!

When you reach 35 and 45, you'll look back on this experience of taking a break from school and realize it was just a minor setback in life. Setbacks are inevitable, but they're also opportunities for growth! From taking a break from school to returning to school, this is a remarkable process.

I can see your patience and resilience, and I can see that you have never given up, which is why you have come this far. You have just completed the process of self-correction and healing during the period of suspension, and have successfully entered this stage of resuming your studies. Well done!

Now for some great coping strategies!

Personally, resuming school may mean facing pressure from studies and interpersonal pressure, and it is normal to feel anxious. But don't worry! You can do this!

In high school, everyone's energy is focused on studying, and in the third year of high school, the task of reviewing is very heavy. This means you have the opportunity to really excel in your studies! Since school starts tomorrow, the key is to use a calm state of mind to actively face the next phase of your school life and try to focus your main goals and energy on your studies.

(1) Now that you're back in school, you've got this! The key to handling the pressure of academic studies is to talk to your teachers and parents as much as possible. Let them know what kind of help you need, and they'll be there for you.

2) Once you're back at school, you can chat with your parents about how to respond to your classmates' questions about your leave of absence in a reasonable way. You should also look at your leave of absence experience in a positive light and give yourself a confidence boost!

3) Once you're back in school, be ready to rock! It's normal to take a little time to adjust to the new learning tasks, but you've got this!

4) If you are used to going to bed late at home, you will need to adjust your schedule when you return to school. But don't worry! You can easily make this change to ensure you get the sleep you need to adapt to school and campus life as soon as possible.

5) If the anxiety disorder still causes you a lot of distress, then you can absolutely overcome it! All you have to do is seek medical treatment or a follow-up consultation in a timely manner to eliminate the symptoms as much as possible. This is the basis for ensuring a normal school life.

6) It is a great idea to talk to your parents about the challenges you might face when you go back to school. You can work through them together! Ask your parents for their understanding and support.

7) You can also ask your parents to speak with the school to help them understand your personal situation. This will help you prepare for your transfer and return to school!

I really hope my answer can help you return to school better!

I wish you the absolute best of luck with your studies and your life!

Hello? Question owner, I can relate to your confusion and helplessness when I read your description. I'm here to support you in any way I can.

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In the third year of junior high school, I found the academic workload somewhat challenging and my performance in the exams was not as strong as I would have liked. I joined a school that did not meet my expectations and I felt I was caught in a cycle of negative thinking. I was very conscious of how others perceived me and this affected my self-esteem. I came to realise that it is important to have a positive self-image and to focus on my own abilities rather than on the opinions of others.

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It is possible that we are not as important to others as we think. The way we interact with others may not be as crucial as we believe. It is understandable that parents may experience pressure, and they may also put pressure on themselves. When we are under a lot of pressure, it can be tempting to overthink and take fewer actions.

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It is worth noting that you did not attend the old high school as often as you would have liked, even though you knew your classmates. This is something to consider. What if you were to attend a new school and did not know any new classmates?

Perhaps the most important thing to consider is that you may not be able to get past this hurdle. If you study hard, would it be beneficial to try to make connections with your classmates?

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I also experienced the challenges of high school. When you feel overwhelmed, taking a break and staying at home can be an effective way to relieve some of the pressure. I have observed this in others as well. High school is a demanding environment, and just because you work hard doesn't necessarily guarantee positive outcomes. Many students find it difficult to align their expectations with the reality of the academic journey.

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Going to school is not just about making friends; it's also about starting from scratch. It might be helpful to take learning a bit less seriously and not put too much pressure on yourself. Playing with your classmates when you should might also be beneficial. Friends are a valuable connection to the outside world, so when that connection is made, it could help to ease emotional stress.

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When we are under too much pressure and can't handle it, it's easy to doubt ourselves, our abilities, and what other people think of us. I would like to suggest that you read (The Power of Self-Growth) or just listen to it. You might also find it helpful to watch the TV series (The Psychologist). It offers valuable insights into your situation and your views on the world.

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It is worth noting that school is just one aspect of our lives. Whether you excel or face challenges at school does not define you. There are many paths that lead to success. Even if you don't do well at school, if you find the right platform in society and work hard, you will also have the opportunity to excel, because God is fair. Work is also an important aspect of life. In fact, to put it simply, doing well at school is just one of many choices.

I believe that the purpose of learning is to find a good job, which will allow you to make a better living. It is important to remember that your performance in school is not the only factor that will determine your future success. As long as you are healthy and happy, you can still do a great job!

I believe that the purpose of learning is to find a good job, which can provide a better quality of life. It is important to remember that academic performance is not the only determining factor in success. If you are healthy and happy, you can still excel in any field, regardless of your academic background.

I would like to extend my heartfelt congratulations to you on your success! I truly hope that my sharing has been helpful and inspiring for you.