A junior high school student has a conflict with a teacher and is afraid of being picked on. What should he do?

My child, the third year of junior high school is a critical turning point, and soon you will face the middle school entrance exam. As a student, your academic performance is probably the best way to prove yourself.

From what you've said, I get the impression that you're a motivated child who takes responsibility for your actions. It's great that you're willing to apologise to the teacher. This shows that you're aware of your mistakes and willing to admit them. It's a very positive trait. Ultimately, it's up to you whether you do it, and up to the teacher whether they accept it.

Second, teachers tend to appreciate kids with good grades more, and this is understandable. After all, outstanding people deserve more respect. Of course, it's only natural that the teacher won't be able to let it go for a while when he hears you talking behind his back.

If you were in that situation, what would you do? The teacher is also a person with feelings.

So give him some time, and give yourself some time too. The key is to improve your grades. When you turn the tables one day, everyone will be impressed!

If you're still concerned, you might want to find a teacher you respect and talk to them. It's always good to have someone on your side who can help you find a solution.

I'm confident you'll be a great leader in the future!

Finally, because they don't appreciate certain behaviors of their teachers, many children dislike the subjects that their teachers teach during the summer. If you think about it carefully, you'll see that it's not so much about the knowledge being taught as it is about how it's being taught.

Or can you treat them differently?

My child, a teacher is a title, and the person who carries that title may not be right or perfect. What you receive from him is cultural knowledge, and learning knowledge is never wrong, right? Come on!

I'm sure you'll be able to find the answer!

Hello, I'm Coach Xintan. I'll listen to your story with warmth and compassion.

I can see you're worried and scared. You were disrespectful to the teacher and said something over the top, which the person who started the trouble passed on to the teacher. This caused a conflict between teacher and student. With the high school entrance exam coming up, you're under a lot of pressure. You're worried the teacher will make things difficult for you and affect your academic performance.

I can see you're worried and scared. You were disrespectful to the teacher and said something over the top, which got back to the teacher and caused a conflict between you two. With the mid-year exams coming up, you're feeling the pressure, worried that the teacher will make things difficult for you and affect your academic performance.

Take a moment to give yourself a warm hug to calm down first. When we are calm enough, our innate wisdom will kick in.

Take a moment to give yourself a warm hug to calm down first. When we are calm enough, our innate wisdom will kick in.

First of all, I want to commend you for your honesty. You were the first to realize your mistake and took positive action. Despite the teacher's initial reaction, he seems to have come around and is now appreciating your understanding.

First of all, I want to commend you for your honesty. You were the first to realize your mistake and took positive action. Despite the teacher's initial reluctance, it seems he supports you for being "understanding" in his heart.

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And if the teacher is really difficult, why bother talking to him about it? Just ignore it. Is it really worth wasting your time?

Furthermore, if the teacher is really difficult to deal with, why bother talking to him about it? Just "block" it out of your mind. Is it really worth wasting so much time on it?

So, don't worry about whether the teacher will give you a hard time. Just focus on your studies.

What do you think?

It's important to look at your emotional issues, such as stress, and find a way to relieve it.

It's important to look at your emotional problems, like stress, and find a way to release it that makes sense.

Our emotions give us energy, and they help us to protect ourselves. For example, fear can keep us away from danger, and anger can make the other person realize that they have offended our boundaries.

I can see you're feeling anxious. I bet you're facing the middle school entrance exam, and the subject you don't do well in is also putting pressure on you.

A little pressure is good because it helps us focus and prepare for the exam. But if we're under a lot of stress for a long time, it can drain our energy.

If you're scolding the teacher or worrying about them giving you a hard time, you're actually engaging in "internal conflict." Thinking too much about these things will drain your energy, so where will you find the energy and mood to study?

The best way to stop "internal conflict" and deal with anxiety is to focus on the present. That's because the present involves taking action. Think of the spectators in the stands at a football match. They're stressed and anxious, just like you might be.

Football players on the field don't get anxious because they take action.

Just do what you need to do. Study, eat, sleep, take exams – just carry on as normal.

When you focus on the task at hand, you'll naturally feel less stressed and anxious.

You need to focus on your own business, like studying, apologizing, and reviewing. Don't worry about other people's business, like whether the teacher accepts or not. Leave the business of God to God. You've done your best, apologized sincerely, and you'll leave the final result to God.

Just keep doing what you're doing. Study, eat, sleep, take exams – just carry on as normal. When you are engaged in doing specific things, naturally there will be no more stress or anxiety. Manage your own business (study, apologize

On top of that, the campus is a small social circle, so what you say matters. At the same time, work on your emotional intelligence. What you say can cause problems and harm people.

I hope this is helpful to you, and I want to let you know that I love you and the world loves you too.

I hope this is helpful to you. The world and I love you.

If you want to keep talking, just click "Find a Coach" in the top right or bottom of the page. I'll be in touch and we can keep chatting one-on-one.

Hello!

I totally get where you're coming from. Hugs!

I'm happy to see that you're someone who can reflect on themselves, admit their mistakes, and be self-critical.

You're currently in adolescence, and you might be a bit rebellious. A lot of people at this age will do this: if they don't like a teacher, they'll also dislike the classes taught by that teacher. As you grow up, you'll realize that learning is your own business. It's actually your loss to delay your own work in this subject for the sake of a teacher you don't like.

It's also worth noting that the pressure of studying can be a significant factor in this situation. If you don't know how to release your pressure, you might find yourself doing things you'll regret.

You've realized you messed up by scolding the teacher. You wrote a sincere review to apologize, but it seems like the teacher hasn't forgiven you. You're worried the teacher will give you a hard time next time and that being punished and having it recorded in your file will affect your future. Your worry is reasonable, so you can make some more efforts to prevent this from happening. You can find the teacher to apologize in person, express your sincere remorse for your wrongdoing, or ask another teacher to intercede for you. Anything that can be done to salvage the situation is fine.

Ultimately, whether the teacher can forgive him is up to him, and there's nothing you can do about it. You just have to accept the consequences of this incident, and we all have to take responsibility for our actions.

I hope you can see that making a mistake isn't the end of the world. We just need to recognize our shortcomings and make positive adjustments, and it won't affect our future development.

It might not be what you were expecting, but the teacher didn't forgive him and he probably won't put it on your file.

We all experience stress in life. How can we best manage it? How can we best approach studying and teachers?

How do you strike a balance between interpersonal relationships and learning interpersonal communication skills?

This has clearly been a difficult issue for you, but you have the capacity to reflect on it and the courage to do so. If you can consider the above issues in this matter, it may be very helpful for your growth.

Once you've dealt with this, I hope this matter will soon be behind you because you still have more important things to do. Right now, your main focus should be on studying.

I hope Hongyu's reply helps you out. Thanks for asking!

Hello, question asker!

I read your question as a junior high school student very carefully. One thing I'm puzzled by is the time you wrote and sent it. Was it between 9:00 a.m. and 10:00 a.m.? At that time, you should have been in class. How could you have used your phone then?

This makes me a bit uneasy. Has something happened recently that has made you suspicious of this matter? I think the things you mentioned, such as complaining in the dormitory, relieving stress, and writing an apology letter to the teacher, have been going on for quite some time.

Why did you come here to ask a question at this point in time?

I also think you have a great deal of knowledge. You're already familiar with this platform and know to come here for help. I'd like to commend you for seeking help and finding resources to support yourself!

You seem like a great middle school student. You're good at reflecting on yourself and realizing what you did wrong. You also have the courage to communicate with your teacher and write an apology letter. Not all your classmates can do that. That's a strength of yours, and I want to give you a big thumbs up!

If nothing else happens in the meantime and you're still stuck on this, I have to commend you. I'm afraid this incident might lead to other problems.

Next, I'd like to share my views on this matter. When an incident occurs, it will be resolved, and the secondary incident will naturally disappear.

I'd like to start by addressing your concerns about having a record filed against you and being victimized. As far as I know, when junior high school graduates write their records, it's the homeroom teacher who does it. As the leader of the school, I don't think it's very likely that this subject teacher would go to the homeroom teacher just for this one thing and exercise his rights.

Your job is to study, and I don't think he can stop you from doing anything else! So in my opinion, is he going through puberty?

You're overthinking this.

I think it'd be good for you to let go of some of your worries. Here's why: that teacher might not be what you think he is. Maybe he didn't accept your apology, or perhaps the time hasn't passed yet. It's been less than 24 hours, so he might not have had time to react to what happened. He might not have expected things to turn out like this, so he might not have handled the situation very well. It's just like you, who now deeply regret shouting at the teacher in the dormitory. Then, after some time, you want to write an apology to the teacher.

If I'm understanding correctly, I still have this thought: Is it necessary for you to communicate with this teacher again? Show your sincerity, or, with the help of your homeroom teacher or another teacher you trust, mediate in the matter. I think if things are explained, everything will be fine.

I also want to talk about what happened. You said you cursed at the teacher, but how many words did you curse? And what did your classmates tell the teacher?

The real question is, what was your attitude when the teacher spoke to you at length? I'm just wondering, why did the teacher speak at length?

Were you upset at the time? Did you have a negative attitude?

It seems to me that it's just a bad attitude on both sides. It doesn't matter because we're in adolescence, and adolescence is for making mistakes. The key is to be able to change after making a mistake and to take responsibility for your mistakes. This is how we grow and what we have to do.

If we're reflecting on what happened and feel like we did something wrong, we should apologize to the teacher. We should also try to get good grades in this subject, even if the teacher is still upset with us. We just have to work hard at this subject. No matter how much time there is, if you put in the effort, your grades will rise quickly. As long as you put in the effort and work hard at this subject, you can use your anger towards the teacher for the mistakes you've made in this subject to make amends for this unhappy incident.

Finally, I just want to say that, in case we run into a stubborn teacher who won't reconcile with us and will do everything in his power to get us written up in the file, even if it means sacrificing his own integrity. I think we should just stand up straight, send an apology, find someone to ease the tension, do it with sincerity, and then what more do you want? Just accept it and move on. What can they do by writing us up in the file?

It's like a prodigal son who's been to prison: there's no price that can be paid to return. It's okay, this is really all a piece of cake. Once we've dealt with this, we'll have a lot of experience to draw on for the road ahead.

Best of luck with your dream high school!

Come on, the world and I think you're great!

Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a platform heart exploration coach. I've read the post and can feel the poster's worry and anxiety.

The host has also expressed his distress on the platform, which will help him see things more clearly and make good changes.

I will also share my thoughts on the post.

1. We take responsibility for our mistakes.

The poster has conflicts with the teacher and is afraid of being punished. I understand your concern.

I would be nervous too if I were you. But I'd like to discuss this with you.

The host wrote a review the next day, apologizing. He didn't accept it.

I don't know if the teacher really didn't accept it or if he just pretended not to. You did everything you were supposed to do, didn't you?

You know you made mistakes and you're taking responsibility, right?

Schools teach us to admit mistakes and correct them.

If the teacher doesn't accept it, I doubt his ethics. He may also be pretending. He may want to maintain authority and pressure you to study.

Many teachers believe criticism leads to improvement.

2. Focus on the present.

We can't control what teachers think, but if we do our best and take on our responsibilities, we can't control the rest.

It's useless to think about it. The more we think, the more anxious we become.

If we focus on the present and study hard, it can help us.

You can get over the anxiety and improve your learning. I think the original poster can do this.

The teacher is often under a lot of pressure. If they write something truthfully, other teachers might not like it. Believing that they are still picking on a student is very damaging to their image.

We can also ask him for feedback in the future. He ignored himself, so we can treat it normally.

Sometimes we have to realize that our thoughts are just thoughts and not necessarily true. We have to learn to seek proof instead of getting anxious and restless.

I hope these words help and inspire you.

Hello, host!

I get why you're worried and anxious about this.

It's actually pretty common for students to talk about their views on teachers with each other. Maybe your words were a bit harsh and you've now crossed a line with that teacher, making him unable to accept your apology and telling you at the same time that the relationship is over.

Since the incident has already happened and you've recognized your own problems, written a serious self-reflection, and sincerely apologized, I don't think he should continue to argue with you over this matter or even deliberately target you. He also has to consider his image among other students and will not lose his composure or professional ethics because of this incident, nor will he try to get back at you.

I believe that other people's opinions, even if they are negative or offensive, can help us understand ourselves better. From this perspective, if we ignore the fact that your approach was inappropriate, he should even thank you.

I'm saying this because I don't want you to blame yourself too much for what happened. In fact, I think it was really brave and responsible of you to admit you were wrong, accept the consequences, and apologize to someone you don't like.

You've done everything you can.

As Mr. Luo Xiang said, be careful with what you can control and stay optimistic about what you can't.

We all have limits to what we can do, and we just have to accept that. The best way to deal with it is to stay optimistic.

Take a deep breath and get ready for the entrance exam. When you walk into the high school of your dreams with an impressive transcript, you'll look back on this incident and realize it's nothing more than a blip on the radar.

I wish you the best of luck in your studies and in achieving your goals.