A junior high school student who has been diagnosed with depression and is currently on leave from school should or should not take the final exam.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm a modest, self-effacing person who is consistent in my actions.

Take a fresh look at some of life's necessities.

It's time to get out of that depression. Your life experience is already much more exciting than most people's. Maybe the experiences you've had have made you feel a lot of pain, or maybe they've made you more insightful. Regardless of whether they're good or bad, they're all experiences and assets at this moment.

Learning is how we get the skills we need to earn a living. Exams are a kind of test. They test our ability to learn new things, but they also test our mentality. The final score is not the most important thing.

This way, we can keep a more balanced outlook. We can simply accept the exam result as a result, without dwelling on the other factors involved. This makes it easier to accept and face the situation more naturally.

A broader view of life.

As junior high school students, we haven't tapped into our full potential in terms of our views on the world. Many of our perceptions are still hazy, so in addition to our immediate experiences, we can also gain a richer understanding.

School days are full of tests that we can't really avoid. Since we can't change these things, we can look at it this way: since we have to go through it, why not make ourselves a little happier?

Dear child, Our lives will become more resilient through our repeated explorations, and we'll also find more happiness in our repeated experiences that we never knew existed. Go ahead and experience and break through.

Wishing you the best.

Hello, question asker!

My heart goes out to you. When I read your question, I felt so sad. You said that you were diagnosed with depression in the second semester of the second year of junior high school. I can only imagine how hard the past two years of junior high school must have been for you. Sending you lots of hugs!

I saw that you said that after being diagnosed with depression, you had attempted suicide twice, but you are now fine. I think it is possible that you cannot accept this reality! This should have been your emergency response at the time, but now you are taking medicine and receiving psychotherapy. I think that you have been able to get through the past six months of your life and get yourself to where you are today, and that your teachers and doctors have recommended that you take the final exam, which shows a very positive side of your life. Let me give you a big compliment first!

I totally get where you're coming from! I got the same impression from your question description.

First of all, I think what you said:

Tomorrow I'll get a notice from school that I have a final exam. I'm feeling a bit torn. I'm not sure if I want to take the exam. On the one hand, I know my grades have dropped and I'd rather not face it. Plus, I'm starting to dislike school a bit. What this shows me is that even though you're not in school now, your studies haven't stopped. You've been persevering with your studies. The fact that you haven't stopped studying despite the difficulties in your life shows how great a student you are. You've also said here that sometimes you really hate studying, and that's totally normal! We can ask this question to anyone, regardless of grade level or school year.

I think it's so important to remember that 95% of 100 students will probably hate studying at some point. So let's treat this one normally, not just ourselves, but everyone else as well.

Second, you say you know your grades are dropping and you don't want to face it. I really believe that if we can still learn and perform better than usual in this situation, and can still be an especially outstanding student, then we can help other students too!

We've got to give others a way out! Can we think like this?

It's totally normal for grades to drop. It would be pretty unusual for them not to! In our current situation, as long as we can enter the school and take the exams, and finish each one, that would be our greatest victory! What do you think?

Break through! You can do it!

I truly believe that we have the ability to break through. Why? Well, your teacher, doctor, and so many other people have said that you should take the exam. I think that's what I'm thinking.

The doctor said you should take the exam. He thinks you're already able to go to school and complete it based on how you've been communicating with him and taking your medication. What about the teacher?

I think so. The teacher is in control of the learning situation, and perhaps he should know that you have been studying even though you are at home. So, he feels that if you go to the exam, you will definitely be able to test your current level. Can't we think like this? I know that you can't not think about the results of the exam. Who doesn't want something to have a result?

Let's try to think about it this way: We've been expecting a decline, and that's totally normal. Otherwise, we'd feel bad for all the classmates who've been studying so hard! Let's give ourselves a break. And here's another way of looking at it:

If we don't take the exam, then all of our grades will be zeroes. But if we take the exam, it's a breakthrough from zero to one! So it's better to take the exam and achieve something!

I truly believe that if you use all your strengths to take this exam, you will be the best!

I believe in you! You can do it!

But I have to say one more thing. No matter what, you can do it!

No matter what, if you think it's impossible, we'll listen to your heart and remember this together!

I love you, world! And I love you too, my dear friend!

Hello. From what you've said, I can see you're feeling confused and conflicted. You're unsure how to handle the exam tomorrow, whether to go or not. You don't want to go, you can't bear to go to school, and you can't bear the double pressure of a decline in your exam results. But it seems that someone thinks that going to school or taking the exam can help you more. You're in a tough spot.

I'm a hospital psychotherapist, and I'd like to share my understanding from a psychological perspective.

It's great that you were diagnosed with depression in the second year of high school and have been taking medication and psychotherapy. Getting formal treatment can help you relieve symptoms and get out of the negative emotions that you can't express.

You applied for a leave of absence and haven't been to school for a while, but you were told to take the final exam. I'm not sure if the school made this decision or if your teacher decided on their own.

I can tell your teacher is really worried about you. Were you a good student in junior high and also worked hard and behaved well? The teacher didn't want to give up on you, but you couldn't face being sick for a while and unable to study, so you accepted the regressing you. You can talk to your parents and choose to take the test papers from your teacher back home to do, understand, and evaluate what you have mastered, but not take the school's final exam, which is also a way of responding to your true inner thoughts.

When we're sick, we need to calm down and heal. Taking a break from school allows us to adjust and gives us the strength to express repressed emotions.

It doesn't matter if it's your teacher, what she thinks, or your doctor, what he says. They're just suggestions, and you should respect your own thoughts. You're the one in charge of your life and body. Not going to school now is because you're not ready and don't have what it takes to challenge yourself. So, respect your own thoughts and do what you want to do. That's the most important thing!

You can also talk to your therapist about this. What if your therapist suggests that you take a school exam? As psychotherapists, we aim to look out for our clients' best interests, so we would never advise them to do so. You should discuss this in the consultation room.

If it's your psychiatrist who's suggested it, you should also ask what's behind his advice. It's all about communication and exchange.

All problems can be expressed in words, and this is part of the treatment. The article doesn't mention the parents, and you should also be aware of your relationship with them. They helped you accept formal treatment, and they should also support your ideas. Family therapy can also be used to reshape your family relationships, maximize your interests, and is part of your self-growth!

I think the world would be a better place if you loved yourself a bit more. I'm happy to help you with my professional knowledge if you'd like.