A middle school girl recently feels very tired. What should she do?

From your written description, it is evident that you are experiencing feelings of anxiety and helplessness. I extend my support and encouragement to you.

You indicate that you perceive yourself to be living for the benefit of others. Do your parents typically have elevated expectations of you? Alternatively, do you have elevated expectations of yourself, anticipating that achieving certain goals will result in greater recognition and approval from others?

It is evident that you frequently experience feelings of guilt and a strong inclination to prioritize the opinions and actions of others. This internal conflict is a significant and potentially debilitating phenomenon.

I commend you for your diligence and perseverance. You are a model of perseverance, motivation, and integrity.

In order to adjust oneself, one can begin by considering the following:

1. It is important to recognize that misunderstandings are a normal aspect of interpersonal communication. Complete understanding between individuals is an unlikely outcome.

Given the inevitable differences in upbringing, personal experiences, and knowledge base among individuals, it is unsurprising that misunderstandings are a common occurrence. What others do reflects their own thoughts, and what others think is their own business. It is therefore imperative to focus on one's own responsibilities and actions, regardless of external opinions. This concept can be likened to a coin, which has two sides and can be perceived in various ways.

2. It is advisable to maintain a healthy equilibrium between work and leisure. This will enhance your efficiency. When you feel fatigued, it is beneficial to disengage from your tasks and engage in restorative activities. These may include socializing, listening to music, watching a film, or simply relaxing. When you are physically and mentally replenished, you will be better equipped to concentrate on your studies or work.

3. It is advisable to identify one's own interests and hobbies and to concentrate on activities that are personally enjoyable. In considering the requests of others, it is important to take one's own circumstances into account. If there is a discrepancy between one's preferences and the task at hand, it is possible to express one's thoughts in a constructive manner and to avoid engaging in activities that do not align with one's strengths.

It is my sincere hope that the aforementioned advice will prove beneficial.

Let your mother hug you more often!

You say you feel anxious because you think about the future. Do you think about what will happen to things that haven't happened yet?

What makes you feel worried, scared, or nervous about the uncertain outcome? Your classmates say not to think about it, but you feel more and more anxious.

Maybe these thoughts just come up on their own? You even think you might have a mental illness.

All these situations make you feel tired, sad, and hurt. Your classmates and friends don't believe you. You really have a hard time. You are aware of this and have thought about talking to your teacher. You have the courage to face difficulties and are willing to find a solution.

You say, "A small action from others makes me feel guilty. I feel like I can't do anything right."

I can feel your guilt after being rejected. I can also feel how much you want to be recognized for trying hard. Despite this, you have continued to work hard.

You're a hardworking child!

Rest when you're tired.

Or talk to your parents, go for a walk, or meditate. Tell yourself you've worked hard.

2. Talk to your parents. Tell them how you feel.

Your parents might reject you, but that's okay. Speak up about how you feel and ask for their support.

3. Stay the same person who perseveres and strives. It's normal to have emotional problems or anxiety during middle school or adolescence.

Persevere with the support of your family, teachers, and classmates. You still have a long way to go.

You'll thank yourself for being brave and persistent today!

4. Thank you, my child! I'm more aware of what I should do for my daughter now.

I wish you peace of mind!

The world and I will be with you!

Hello, friend. I'm so sorry you've been through a lot. I just wanted to give you a big hug and let you know I'm here for you.

Be the best, strongest person you can be on the inside. Treating others well is easier when you're feeling good about yourself.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. Let's work together to reduce your anxiety and figure out what's really causing it.

And don't forget to take care of yourself! Make sure you're getting what you need in a way that's right for you.

For example, anger is a normal emotion, and you can relieve your anger through exercise or helping others. According to Ellis' ABC psychology, emotions come from unresolved issues, so go solve the problems!

And don't forget to give yourself a little treat! Even if you don't get any recognition from others right now, you can encourage yourself until you've achieved enough to get that recognition. So work hard, be strong, and don't be sensitive like a glass heart!

Write down your strengths, give yourself a little pat on the back, and watch your achievements pile up! It's a great feeling, isn't it?

It's a common misconception that you should live for others or for yourself. In fact, you should grow up and live each day well, making yourself better, more outstanding, and more tolerant.

Don't worry too much about the little things, okay? You've got this! The purpose of worrying is to do a good job or to make up for what is wrong and improve it.

It's so important to establish your own standards and principles for doing things. You don't need to do something that you're not capable of doing just to meet other people's expectations. It will be so much easier for you to do things within your abilities and responsibilities.

You can absolutely grow by looking at things in a positive light! When you have the ability in the future, you can do the things that others ask you to do.

It's totally normal to feel guilty about not being able to do something well. It just means you're a kind person with empathy. This is a strength, so don't doubt yourself. Be more confident!

If you can't do something well, that's okay! Just let yourself grow until you can do it well. And remember, don't stop doing things because of your emotions. Keep working hard at the things you should do!

It's so important to make sure you get enough rest, and to balance work and rest to keep yourself in good condition.

I hope you're doing well! Please feel free to leave a comment.

Hello, questioner! After reading your statement, I know about your efforts, loneliness, and fatigue. You long for understanding from those around you, but no one can understand you. You're still persisting in your efforts, and I admire that! Dear child, I see you. It feels like you're right in front of me. I feel so sorry for you, and I want to give you a big hug!

While they feel for you, I also see your amazing cleverness, kindness, independence, initiative, and resilience. You are so aware of your own feelings and the reactions of those around you. You have a great sense of boundaries and would rather inconvenience yourself than disturb others.

I admire you so much! I want to give you a big thumbs up!

You feel like you're not living for yourself, but for others, living according to their demands.

Guess what! You feel guilty when you think you've done something wrong, even when it's just a small thing.

You feel like you can't do anything right, and you can't meet their expectations — but you can!

You share your moods on QQ, and they all think you're addicted to the internet, which is pretty cool!

You sometimes wonder if you have a mental illness, which is totally normal!

You try to tell your classmates and friends about your discomfort and tiredness, but they don't believe you. They always tell you not to think too much! But you know what? You're going to keep trying to tell them. You're going to keep sharing your feelings. You're going to keep being your authentic self. You're going to keep shining your light, even if they don't believe you.

But why is that? Could it be that your classmates and friends just don't know how to help?

Or maybe they just don't know how to show it?

Oh, they're not unsympathetic or unconcerned at all! They just don't think the problem you're talking about exists.

You clearly feel that the problem is serious and you are suffering and in pain because of it. So, let's dive in and find a solution!

My child, I have a fun exercise for you! Take a look at the above questions and see if you notice anything. Do you feel that each question is phrased as "I think" or "I suspect"?

Children are fascinating creatures! They experience different things in life, and as a result, they have different perspectives and expectations. This makes them unique individuals with their own feelings and ways of processing information. People usually believe the facts you describe, that is, the event itself, and then respond according to their own feelings. This is a great thing! It means people are in touch with their own feelings and can process information in a way that resonates with them. It can be challenging to believe other people's feelings, but when we do, it's a beautiful thing. People who have received special training, such as a psychological counselor or therapist, are able to tap into their own feelings and those of others in a profound way.

So, it's not that your classmates and friends don't care about you. They do! It's just that their ability is limited and they cannot empathize with how you feel. This reality makes you feel lonely and helpless. But there is something you can do about it!

I'm excited to share some ways we can make it better!

First, when communicating with them in the future, describe specific events and the feelings they give you, rather than just talking about your own feelings. This is a great way to really connect with them!

The second thing you can do is find someone who is empathetic and can listen to you. Look for someone who can empathize with you especially, such as a suitable counselor or psychology teacher.

And the third thing you can do is add self-empowerment to your life! Don't worry about pleasing others, do things according to your own needs, be strong inside, and live freely even if no one around understands.

Dear child, you are absolutely amazing! I'm in awe of your incredible intelligence and resilience. I'm so happy to be able to help you. Please know that you are also always welcome to come to the psychological platform to talk to me anytime.

Everyone has the potential to be a beacon of light, whether you ask a question or answer one, your words can illuminate the hearts of many people. This is our shared energy.

Hello, dear one. I'm Coach Fly. I can sense your physical and mental fatigue. You are clearly an independent person, but you don't have much freedom to make your own choices. It seems like there are always external influences affecting your decisions, making it feel like you're not in control.

Let's take a moment to explore the challenges you're facing and some potential solutions together, starting with a warm embrace.

?1. When needs are not met, it can lead to feelings of depression and frustration.

You may be experiencing feelings of depression and a desire for independence and freedom. It's natural to crave understanding and to seek ways to escape feelings of loneliness. However, it's important to recognize that not everyone may fully comprehend or empathize with these feelings.

It would seem that academic pressure is still quite high in junior high school, especially after the implementation of the double reduction policy. It is perhaps understandable that both teachers and parents consider getting into a good high school to be an important path that will determine a person's future and destiny.

In this environment, it is understandable that teachers and parents may feel nervous and anxious, and that children may also feel pressure. This may be why terms like "withdrawn" and "chick" have emerged.

It is also worth noting that junior high school students are still in the age stage of exploring their own youth, which can often lead to challenges in interpersonal relationships and self-perception. It is not uncommon for this age group to place a great deal of importance on the opinions of others, particularly those of the opposite sex.

It would be beneficial to pay closer attention to the physical and mental health of this age group, given the changes that occur in the body (puberty, rapid hormonal changes) and psychological changes that are very obvious at this stage.

Everyone has a need for independence and autonomy. However, the daily demands of studying can sometimes feel overwhelming. It's not uncommon to feel like you're spinning around like a top, feeling a bit suffocated and oppressed, wanting to scream and break free from the pressures of academic life.

It might be the case that you feel your parents are controlling you, arranging everything for you, and manipulating your life.

It may be helpful to recognize your needs and find an outlet for your emotions.

From your personal feelings alone, it is indeed stressful. However, everyone has their own life issues at different stages, such as focusing on studies during their student years and focusing on their career as young adults.

It might be helpful to consider academic pressure from the perspective of parents and social development. You could also imagine what your future self might think of your present self in 5 or 10 years' time. What would you most like to do for yourself?

It might also be helpful to strengthen communication with your parents and let them know your true feelings. Parents are the people we trust and rely on most, and it's possible that some of their actions might not be accepted by you. However, it's important to remember that behind their actions is their care and love for you.

It would be beneficial to communicate with emotion, express your views and feelings directly, and listen to their feelings. If possible, within the limits of each other's abilities, try to satisfy each other's needs, such as the relative freedom you want, emotional companionship, and the ability to plan your own summer vacation.

It is important to remember that for parents, their children's health is of the utmost importance, even above their studies. It is also helpful for parents to recognize their own need for attention and growth.

If you feel it would be helpful, you can consider speaking with a psychological counselor. They can offer insights and suggestions that may be beneficial in finding a healthy outlet for your emotions and maintaining a positive outlook, which could in turn enhance your learning efficiency and overall well-being.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. The world and I love you.

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After carefully reviewing your self-statement, I have identified several key issues. It is evident that you are experiencing feelings of loneliness and helplessness, as well as fatigue and weakness. Despite these challenges, you are still striving to maintain your resilience. I extend my support and encouragement through a gesture of physical comfort.

Please describe the situation in detail, including how you felt at the time.

Despite my attempts to convey my feelings of sadness and hurt to my classmates and friends, they have been unable to accept my perspective. I have invested significant effort into trying to be believed, accepted, and understood, but my efforts have not been reciprocated.

I have been sharing my feelings on QQ, and it has been perceived that I am addicted to the internet. I am consistently advised not to dwell on my thoughts. You have demonstrated courage in opening up to the world and sharing your feelings, but you have encountered resistance, neglect, rejection, and even obstruction from others.

Furthermore, I had considered seeking the guidance of the school psychologist, but ultimately decided against it. This experience has led to a sense of doubt regarding the availability of individuals in this world who can provide genuine acceptance, understanding, trust, and approval.

I feel as though I am not living for myself, but for other people according to their demands. I feel so tired... You, the intelligent person, are aware of how you are being treated and experience the exhaustion of not being able to live for yourself.

I experience feelings of guilt when someone makes a small gesture that makes me feel as though I have done something wrong. I feel as though I am unable to perform tasks correctly and that I cannot meet the expectations of others. This situation has led to a heightened dependence on information from others to verify the appropriateness of my actions.

I am eager to implement a change in the situation. I am also keen on taking a break and resting, but I am unable to do so during the school year or the holidays.

Fortunately, I persevere daily. You remain resilient.

You are to be commended for your resilience in supporting yourself. I extend my sincerest regards to you.

What are your needs, and how can they be met?

The past and your current feelings are signals that help us understand your needs. You need to be in charge of yourself but must live according to other people's expectations. You experience loneliness and fatigue, require rest, and need to be understood and supported by others, but don't receive the desired response.

To take control of your life, use the strength gained from supporting yourself to study hard, complete high school, gain admission to the university of your choice, and become independent.

It is important to remember that you are still a teenager and do not yet have the ability to live independently. There are currently no opportunities within society to help you live independently in order to protect minors. You are required to complete nine years of compulsory education under the supervision of your legal guardian. Even if you do not feel like studying is for yourself, it is important to understand that studying is for yourself. It is the foundation for a person to ultimately be able to find independence and live their lives on their own terms.

It is important to persevere. It is crucial to remember that you are studying for yourself. It is essential to differentiate between feelings of mistreatment caused by inappropriate treatment and feelings of not knowing how to appropriately treat your own feelings. It is vital to ensure that these feelings do not extend to developing a dislike of studying itself.

If you require understanding and support from others, we advise you to seek help from the school's psychological counselor. Should this not be a suitable option, we suggest communicating with your parents to find a psychological counselor who is a better fit for your needs.

Despite repeated attempts, the host has been unable to secure the desired response. Instead, he has faced disbelief, denial, indifference, and rejection.

It is important to note that individuals who do not believe in or support a particular idea or initiative are not necessarily cold-hearted. Their lack of belief or rejection is often a reflection of their past experiences and personal feelings, which may differ from those of the idea's proponents. Their disbelief and dismissive attitude may, in fact, be a form of kindness, intended to comfort and reassure.

It is therefore evident that they lack the requisite professional training and expertise to convey their understanding and support in a manner that is genuinely helpful. This is a classic illustration of how well-intentioned individuals may not always act in the most beneficial ways.

It requires professional expertise to express understanding and support in an appropriate manner. Psychologists are trained professionals who possess these skills.

We recommend that you consult with the school's mental health teacher. They have received professional training in this area and are well-positioned to provide you with the guidance you require.

Furthermore, a professional can assist you in identifying the underlying causes of your distress and in developing strategies to mitigate these feelings. This process can facilitate personal growth and enhance your resilience in navigating the complexities of the social environment and future challenges.

It should be noted that there are various schools of psychological counseling among professionals, and there are different levels of expertise. It is also possible that you may encounter a counselor who is not a good match for your needs. In such a case, it would be advisable to change your counselor and seek assistance from a more suitable professional.

It is recommended that, where possible, family system therapy be conducted with your parents (or the guardian who raised you). Without a change in circumstances, some problems are difficult to solve, and it is also difficult to eliminate painful feelings.

It is also beneficial to maintain a written record of your emotions. Select a notebook or other method of recording that is accessible only to you and document instances of distress.

There is no need to set limits on what you write. You can express yourself freely. When emotions arise, there is an instinctive need to express them, and writing is an effective way to do so.

Additionally, as evidenced by today's responses, recording can assist in identifying and prioritizing personal needs, assessing current resources, and determining how to meet unmet needs in the future.

You may record your grievances, your anger, and your wishes. Make a wish for yourself: When I can live independently, I want to...

In any case, it is important to maintain a positive outlook and never lose hope for the future. You are your own person, with your own unique set of strengths and abilities.

It is up to you to ensure that your expectations are met.

I extend my warmest regards to you and the world.