A middle school graduate girl feels very tired and confused. Am I sick?

Hello. I am confident that my answer will be of some help.

I can tell you're under a lot of pressure, and you're carrying a lot of weight that doesn't belong to you. It seems like your father is unreliable, and you feel like you're the only one he can count on. Your younger brother still needs your help and support. You're very responsible, and you're afraid of burdening others because of your current situation. Even if you have a boyfriend, you're holding back because of your circumstances. I hug you because I want you to know I'm here for you.

I know this is difficult, but I also know it won't be this way forever. We can get through this. We can't solve everything at once, but we can change what we can change now. Let's focus on that. For the things we can't change, we won't dwell on them. We'll put them aside for now. We'll take care of ourselves and not let them bring us down. We'll take back control.

You must see the predicament as temporary, believe that everything will be fine, believe in your own abilities, and use some ways to release your emotions and adjust your state of mind. This will also give you more expectations for life and the future and create more possibilities.

I advise you to:

Use methods to reduce stress, release emotions, and relax.

You need to recognize that sometimes the pressure is external, but often it's self-imposed. Identify what you're putting on yourself and let it go. You don't have to bear it.

You don't have to repay the family debt alone. You can solve it together with your father.

Seek support and resources. The government may have subsidies for your situation, or it may provide channels to help you obtain financial assistance. Relatives and friends can also support you.

Additionally, you must develop the habit of regularly releasing pent-up emotions. When we are always trapped by emotions, we have no energy to solve problems and create value. Find the right people to talk to, those who can give you understanding and support. Develop the habit of keeping an emotional diary every day, writing every day, and your heart will become more and more unblocked. Go do your favorite sports, which is also a good way to relieve stress and will give you a lot of strength.

2. Focus on the positive aspects of life. Growth occurs where attention goes.

You seem to be focusing on the negative aspects of your life, but there are undoubtedly some positive elements as well. When we dwell on the negative, we become more desperate and feel less meaningful. However, if we shift our focus to the good, we'll see that while there are many unsatisfactory aspects, there are also plenty of reasons to be happy and look forward to the future.

Record three good things that happened that day before going to bed every day. Keep a gratitude diary. This will enhance your inner sense of well-being and make you feel more of the beauty and happiness in life. What you pay attention to grows. Focus on the positive and attract more positive and beautiful things.

3. Believe in the power of belief, accumulate energy, and your life will undoubtedly be richer and more exciting.

You will get what you expect. What you get is not what you want, but what you expect. This is not just some cliché; it is a law that has been confirmed by many empirical studies. If you are interested, you can learn more about the Rosenthal effect and the hope experiment in psychology.

Expect with confidence and believe that things will go well, and they will. Conversely, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, then these hindrances will arise.

Yes, if you expect with confidence and really believe that things will go well, they really will. Conversely, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, these hindrances will arise.

We become what we expect ourselves to become. We must continue to work hard in the direction of that expectation. We will eventually become that expected self. However, if we always feel that we are not good enough and that we can't do it, we will remain stagnant and make no progress.

We become what we expect to become, and we will continue to work hard in that direction. We will eventually become that expected self. However, if we always feel that we are not good enough and that we cannot do it, we will remain stagnant and never improve. We must see what our beliefs are and decide if they are positive or negative. We must understand that these beliefs are not facts. We are the masters of our own beliefs. We choose our thoughts. We must choose positive thoughts, which will lead to positive actions and a positive life.

Therefore, tell yourself these things: My life is worth looking forward to. I can create more beauty. I deserve a happy life of my own.

To truly grow and change, you must learn to love the people and things in this world. This will help you avoid or alleviate negative emotions.

To truly love others is to wish them happiness and to forgive them, including the outstanding, the ordinary people, and even the weak. If they make mistakes or have shortcomings, they can be corrected. Everyone has the right to happiness, regardless of the relationship, whether it is right or wrong, gain or loss. We all hope that others can be happy and improve. People can bring comfort and joy to each other. It is good to love and accept others and oneself, to tolerate shortcomings and lack of ability, and to be kind at heart. This means being beneficial to others or society, not disliking or rejecting ordinary people, and not being jealous or intolerant of outstanding people.

If you don't get along with most people, it will lead to negative energy and negative emotional problems. You must correct your energy field to truly love others and adapt to people and things. This will make it more likely that you will find and have a loving and suitable relationship and career. You can also share and exchange what you see, hear, think, feel, or are interested in with others in real life and on the Internet. This could include books, movies, music, etc. You can do this with others in real life and on the Internet, such as the Douban community.

Love your life and be content with the little things.

Negative energy affects your physical health. Keep your body comfortable and healthy with a full-body massage. The head massage includes the forehead and face, which also have meridians. Massage the head with deep, firm strokes, and massage the stomach with a firm massage brush. Do not massage the stomach on an empty stomach, and then take a walk.

If you have negative emotions, thoughts, or behaviors, you will not feel comfortable physically or mentally. You will often encounter unhappy people and things, interpersonal conflicts, relationship and marriage problems (which will affect your magnetic field), and even problems in your academic or career life. This is because when you are too self-centered or pursue self-interest, you accumulate a lot of negative energy. The more self-centered you are, the more your magnetic field will be out of sync with other people's. You need to learn how to truly love others and adapt to people and things, correct your energy field, resolve conflicts, improve your emotions and interpersonal relationships, and better solve the above problems. In addition, if you know how to truly love the people and things in the world, you will not be too attached to love, reduce negative emotions such as separation anxiety and pain, and will not feel a lack of happiness inside. Only in this way can your life become fulfilling and meaningful.

They can also help those around them grow and change together, if necessary.

Excessive self-centeredness manifests itself in different ways for different people. It can take the form of pursuing self-satisfaction, striving for self-interest or repressing self-deprecation to please others, blindly giving in to gain, being afraid of losing, or disregarding the gains and losses of self-interest and emotions. It can also take the form of being too narcissistic or inferior, paying too much attention to oneself, generating pressure and worry, social phobia, being caught up in one's own emotions and thoughts, attaching too much importance to what others think of oneself, not accepting one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, demanding one's own perfection, forcing, controlling, possessing others or demanding that others satisfy oneself, otherwise resenting and being unable to let go of oneself to forgive and forgive, brooding.

If you pursue the self, you will become anxious, depressed, and tired, and you will be unable to adapt to the people and things in your school or workplace environment. If you truly love others and adapt to people and things, you will naturally look down on the self and restore positive energy.

In short, do your best, have good intentions, and don't harm others. Nobody wants to suffer.