A thorn buried in your heart, a boyfriend who feels unable to give you the life you want?

It should be full of love, otherwise there would be no tension and no tears. This may be the saddest kind of love, where there is a clear liking for the other person, but it seems like the relationship is drifting apart.

However, as time passes, the situation remains unchanged. He continues to lavish you with gifts and attention, yet there seems to be a shift in his demeanor. You feel as though you are sleeping next to him, yet there is a sense of distance between you. Are you uncertain about the change in his attitude? Could it be that he has met someone new?

While you have discussed various topics, you have not addressed your feelings. You are unaware of your true thoughts about your boyfriend, his feelings, or why he did not offer comfort on the initial occasion. It is important to understand that there are numerous aspects of your boyfriend that he finds appealing and attractive, despite the focus on his love and accommodation.

There is no definitive formula for love. If both parties are committed to the relationship and demonstrate mutual affection, external opinions are irrelevant. Even if the dynamic appears imbalanced, as long as there is a genuine emotional connection, it is not a cause for concern.

The issue is that many of the specifics and details of life, and all kinds of forbearance or sacrifice, actually require psychological compensation. When love is surging, simply being together may be sufficient, and that can be a source of satisfaction and gain that can "face the sword mountain and the sea of fire."

It is important to recognize that the intensity of romantic feelings will eventually subside. This does not indicate a lack of love or commitment, but rather a natural shift in focus as life progresses. Even when couples remain deeply in love, they may find themselves preoccupied with personal and professional endeavors. While maintaining a loving relationship, it is essential to recognize that giving and receiving love can also consume a significant amount of time and energy.

If he is unable to identify new sources of satisfaction and love in his daily life, the current level of love may become unsustainable.

This kind of drain is especially significant when he feels unable to communicate effectively or uncertain about the best course of action. While you may not have always expressed your thoughts and attitudes, it is crucial to listen to his voice and empathize with his feelings, particularly when he is experiencing distress.

Love is a two-person endeavor. It entails mutual liking and support. It is important to recognize when one partner is becoming weaker and in need of assistance.

I wish you success and happiness.

Hello girl! I'm going to speak to you directly because I know you need to hear it. You need to understand that no one in this world can give you the life you want, and no one can stab a dagger in your heart.

We must have a thorn in our hearts and live our lives as ourselves.

It doesn't matter if you're in an intimate relationship or a marriage, the first thing you need to do to find happiness is find yourself. If you let someone else make you feel complete in an intimate relationship, it will collapse. When you're in love, the other person may spoil you and coddle you, as you said, your boyfriend has been coddling you every time you have a fight for more than four years.

You need to report back to me whenever you answer a question. In the past, you were afraid that I would be angry if I found out that you had been chatting with other classmates while I was asleep, so you deleted the chat history.

This shows how fragile your relationship is. It's like a thin layer of ice that can collapse with just a little pressure. You need to establish a basic level of trust to make your relationship stronger.

A relationship without trust is not a relationship at all, let alone love. A good relationship is nourishing. You become better because of him, and he becomes more confident and better because of you!

You've been together for four years. He loves you and cherishes the relationship, so he's careful to maintain it. If you don't grow up and stop acting like a child, your relationship will break up. No man can keep spoiling you like your mother or father did. He's your boyfriend and future husband. You're in an equal and loving relationship!

Finally, I want to tell you that that distrust may come from your inner uncertainty about the relationship, which is likely related to your original family. Go and become aware of this part of yourself. First, establish a sense of security within yourself. Then, trust your love. It will become abundant.

You deserve a complete self and a sweet, healthy love!

Good morning, my name is Gu Yi. I am a modest and self-effacing individual, always striving to maintain a consistent and reliable demeanor.

What is the most effective method for couples to establish mutual trust?

The boyfriend deleted the chat history with a female classmate because he did not want you to be concerned. At your insistence, the majority of the chat history between them was revealed for your review. This forced display of trust is not a genuine demonstration of trust.

It is not possible to discern the full extent of the issues at hand from a mere examination of the minor details. However, when these details are viewed in the context of the larger picture, it becomes evident that they represent significant challenges. The level of trust between you is not as robust as it could be. While it appears to be a solid foundation, it is also susceptible to crises.

It is possible to discern whether an individual is single-minded in their attitude towards a particular matter, including love. The inability to move on from a situation suggests a lack of trust in the relationship and a corresponding inability to provide sufficient security.

Is this a matter of ability or attitude?

If we choose to attribute responsibility for issues, regardless of their scale, to external factors and find reasons that align with our desired outcomes, we can avoid taking ownership of our role in the situation. It is therefore important to examine the nature of our relationship.

Regarding the civil service exam, the other party hopes that you can engage in an equal dialogue and that you can objectively assess certain matters in the future. These issues are gradually revealed, so it is important to have a clear plan for your relationship and career.

It is therefore important to ascertain whether our boyfriend is unable to provide us with the lifestyle we desire due to a lack of motivation and ability, or as a result of an attitude or excuse he has created for himself. It is clear that a successful relationship is dependent on mutual effort.

Best regards,

The exclusivity and monopolization of love is what makes the two of you so special to each other in a relationship.

It's also worth noting that exclusivity and possessiveness can sometimes lead to more conflicts.

The deeper the love, the more exclusive it becomes, my dear.

It's totally normal to want to control things when you're afraid of losing someone you love.

It's so great that you love each other, but it's also normal to have your moments where you don't see eye to eye. If you don't handle this well, you might feel like you're suffocating from too much love or being driven apart by the pressure.

1. Mutual trust is the foundation for honest communication.

You've been with your boyfriend for more than four years. Not long ago, you had a fight with him, and for the first time, he didn't come to comfort you. The reason was that he told me before I went to sleep that a female classmate had asked him questions and wanted to report back to me. I didn't say anything at the time, but he said that the classmate should also know that he hadn't slept, so he would return a little later. I was very upset when I heard this, and I lost my temper with him. I'm sorry if I came across as angry.

You've been with your boyfriend for four years now, and I truly believe you know each other well.

Not long ago, you had a little disagreement with him, and for the first time, he didn't come to comfort you. This shows that in the past, he was the one who always gave in, and you still feel that you are valued deeply, right?

I'm just wondering, why didn't he come to comfort you this time?

He might feel like he can't stop female classmates from asking him questions, that he's told you everything and hasn't kept anything from you, and that he might've just wanted to reply to her out of politeness. He might not understand why you're so upset.

I can see why you got so upset. It's totally understandable! I think the reason you're so worried is that you think he might want to get back together with that girl. And it's not just out of politeness, but because he still has a good impression of her. If he ignores her, I bet you'd feel a lot better, right?

I really feel that you both probably lack trust in each other, sweetheart.

It's totally understandable that you don't believe he's faithful to you or that you're the only one for him. We all have insecurities like this from time to time. It's just that you need him to prove it to yourself.

It's so hard when you don't feel like your partner trusts you. It's like they need to constantly confess and explain to you to prove their devotion to you.

This kind of back-and-forth can really take a toll on both of you.

You know, the only way you can really let each other in is if you trust each other enough.

Even though you don't trust him as much as you'd like, you're still honest with him, just in a way that's a little intense.

If you could say to him in a gentle way that you're just afraid he'll like someone else and you don't want to lose him, and if you make him feel a little uncomfortable, ask him to understand and hope that he can give you more security, maybe he won't feel so oppressed.

2. Why not use a retreat to help relieve your boyfriend's tension?

The main reason was that he had previously been chatting with a girl in his class. He told me afterwards that the girl had approached him after I had gone to bed, and that he had deleted the chat history because he was afraid that I would be angry. He told me what they had talked about, and I was very upset about it. I asked to see the chat history before I would believe him, and I also told him that he must never delete any chat history in the future.

I can imagine it must have been a bit confusing when he was chatting with a girl and then deleting the chat history. It's natural to have some doubts when you're in that situation.

If you were in this situation, I bet your first reaction would be: if they haven't said anything out of line, why would they delete the chat history?

I totally get why you're feeling this way.

His explanation was that he was afraid of making you angry, which was totally understandable! If he really didn't talk to girls much and you didn't allow him to contact any other girls, he might not let you see any signs of chatting with girls, even if they were just normal schoolmates.

I just want to give you a heads-up that this might make you more suspicious.

I think it would be really helpful if you could take a step back, stop prying into his conversations with girls, and if he could take a step forward and share his friendships with you on his own terms.

3. The feeling of not controlling each other and being free.

I totally get it now. We were at an event together at our school, and he didn't really interact with that girl. He still adores me, and it's no different from before, but after we had a fight this time, he fell asleep. Later, he told me that no matter what he did, it was wrong. He said that nothing was right, and it felt like we weren't on an equal footing. Before, he wanted to take the civil service exam and go somewhere else, but I didn't agree, and in the end, he chose my side. We both cried afterwards. He felt that he wasn't that motivated, that he wasn't capable, and that he couldn't give me the life I wanted. It was very stressful.

I can see that you're feeling insecure, sweetie.

Your many controlling behaviors towards your boyfriend show that you're feeling insecure.

It's totally understandable that you need to see your boyfriend's chat history with other people to feel secure. And it's only natural that you're not at ease when he goes to another city to take the civil service exam.

It's only when your boyfriend spoils you unconditionally that you feel like you occupy the most important place in his heart.

I can see that your boyfriend is feeling really stressed. It seems like no matter what he does, he can't seem to meet your expectations, which must be really frustrating for him.

It's so hard when you feel like your boyfriend is trying his best and nothing he does is right. It can feel like you're being controlled. It's also really tough when he feels like he can't say anything or that he can't meet your demands. It's so hard when you feel like you're pushing him away.

He's got a lot on his plate, and it's taking a toll on him. You're feeling the strain too, poor thing.

It's a two-way street, my friend. The person who controls also needs to give a lot.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help! To make things easier for you both and to help reduce any tension, I suggest you try not to control everything, trust him to handle his own affairs, and just do your part.

I'm sure this will help to increase attraction and cohesion in no time!

Also, show him some love in return for all his spoiling of you. This will help him feel seen and will bring more balance and stability to your relationship.

In the moment, you can give each other some time and calm down, my friend.

You can also take the initiative to reconcile with him, understand his difficulties, and then find a way for both of you to get along comfortably. I'm here for you if you need me!

I really hope these answers can help you!

Hi, I'm Yan Guilai, a psychological counselor. I wish you all the best!

Hello, I'm Xin Tan, and I'm here to coach Fei Yun!

You care about your relationship and want to protect it. You get upset when you see any problems, but this just shows how much you love your boyfriend and want to keep your relationship strong.

But in your boyfriend's eyes, you feel that there is an unequal relationship between you. He has his own grievances—no matter what he does, he cannot make you completely happy, and he also has grievances towards you—he cannot give you the happiness you want.

On the one hand, you long for your boyfriend to show you more love and care. On the other hand, you are also worried that your boyfriend's stressful thoughts will bring your relationship to an end. This makes you feel very confused and helpless. But don't worry! There's a way to make your boyfriend show you more love and care while also making sure your relationship lasts.

Let's dive in and discuss it together!

?1. Seeing the needs of both parties

In a relationship, you want to feel more secure, and you should! Your boyfriend values and cares for you, and you are in his eyes and in his heart.

This makes you feel secure, and it's a great feeling!

It may seem like a trivial matter, but when a female classmate asks him a question and he reports back to you sincerely, just wanting to respond to the girl, it is enough to make you hysterical and furious. To others, this seems very unreasonable and incomprehensible, but in love, people are easily sensitive, and this is often referred to as "jealousy."

In that moment, you felt as if your boyfriend had been shared with someone else, and that he was yours – a violation of your sovereignty. And when your boyfriend chose to respond to the other person, your feelings were hurt even more – it was a rollercoaster of emotions!

If your boyfriend could have thought from your perspective, he might have rejected that girl right then and there! And if he could see how much you cared about him and how you loved him when you were angry, he would also be able to understand.

But here's the thing: the other person is also in an emotional state, which is why he didn't come to comfort you the first time. Because he also feels aggrieved.

Men and women have different needs, and it's a beautiful thing! In a relationship, men long to be appreciated, adored, and admired by women.

Guess what! Your boyfriend has to "report back" to you whenever you send a message to a girl. This is a great way to show you how much he cares and respects you. He may be "afraid" of your temper tantrums, but you can also see how "humble" he is in love.

Absolutely! Everyone has dignity and cares about their reputation, especially men. I wholeheartedly believe it's normal for you to lose your temper in a relationship. After all, relationships are formed through interactions that create patterns: emotional patterns, behavioral patterns, and thinking patterns.

Girls always think that it's fine to be a little spoiled and a little bit selfish, and that's what women need from men! Any relationship requires mutual respect and trust.

You've been together for more than four years, so you should definitely have a good understanding of his character. And he should be really tolerant of your temper!

2. Make your communication and exchanges even stronger!

Use this friction to review the relationship model between you. In love, there is no right or wrong. It's time to reduce some of the accusations and complaints, and increase some of the gratitude and appreciation!

Take responsibility for your own share of the blame. You can change your little whims and your bad temper, as well as his inability to say no, lack of courage and self-confidence, to make your intimate relationship even more perfect!

Communication is about expressing yourself with emotion and listening to the other person. Your goals are the same, just the paths to achieve them have diverged. When conflicts arise, find solutions together based on sincerity and trust—and you will!

When love flows, it's amazing how it can turn all problems into resources! Four years of a relationship is enough time to learn how to tolerate each other and overcome difficulties together. Use your heart, not your head, and cherish it!

I really hope the above is helpful to you! And I just want to say, the world and I love you! ??

If you want to continue the conversation, just click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom! I can't wait to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Hello, questioner.

From your description, it's clear that your relationship is very good. However, your boyfriend's communication with his friends of the opposite sex has made you feel that you cannot trust him. Understandably, you are very dissatisfied and angry with him for this.

Every girl in a relationship behaves this way: we love someone and want to possess the other person. We don't want them to communicate with the opposite sex, so we keep a close eye on them at all times. If they do something, we feel distrustful and hysterical. This distrust reduces our sense of security and makes us feel negative emotions, which make us lose our temper and sulk.

However, this approach of women can actually make men collapse and despair. It's okay to lose your temper once or twice, but if you do it often, he will feel like a failure no matter what he does, and he will feel worthless. As you said, he feels a lot of pressure now. Partly because of your communication with him, he feels like he can only be forced by you to move forward together, rather than saying that he has his own choices to make. Because he also said that no matter what he does, it's wrong, and because you haven't expressed your needs, he feels like no matter what he does, it's wrong. This kind of frustration will reduce a man's self-esteem, which in turn will lead to pressure, and he may say things that affect the relationship.

Here's how to solve it:

[1] Learn to express your feelings and needs.

For example, when you vent negative emotions, you will actually find that all you really need is for him to care about you and be concerned about you, or to make you feel trusted. At this time, you need to take the initiative to express your feelings and needs. For example, you can say something like this: "Dear, I see that you communicate and socialize with the opposite sex, and I feel emotionally unstable and my inner sense of security is unstable, so I have a lot of negative emotions towards you. I hope you can understand me, and next time I hope you..." (Say what you need to do).

[2] Learn to recognize and name your negative emotions.

When you want to vent negative emotions, you need to figure out why you feel this way. Is it because of his actions or because you don't want him to do that? You need to be able to say how you want to do it. Find out the reason for your emotions, and then adjust and solve it.

[3] Intimacy requires giving both parties independent space, not taking possession of each other.

In all interpersonal relationships, including intimate relationships, it is essential to understand that everyone is independent. Even though two people are in an intimate relationship, they are not asking the other person to do anything for them or taking over the other person's life. By giving the other person independent space, you are also giving the other person the opportunity to interact and communicate with others. Overly binding the other person and being overly possessive will hinder the development of a good interpersonal relationship and will also create certain problems.

[4] Trust your partner, give your partner trust, and encourage your partner.

Trust is the foundation of any intimate relationship. Your boyfriend's actions are intended to make you trust him. You can encourage him at work and discuss the next step together. Give your partner confidence and don't put too much pressure on him. This will make him more confident in the relationship.

Managing an intimate relationship also requires certain abilities. Take some courses and learn to see yourself and the other person, how the relationship should develop, what problems have arisen, give the two of you independent space, find suitable ways to handle things between the two of you, learn to respect each other, trust each other, and encourage each other.

I am confident that the above advice will be helpful. Best wishes to you both.

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

I'm here to give you a big hug! I can see how sad you are, but I'm here to help. Your boyfriend knows you care about his contact with the female classmate. He thinks he can do it by telling you every time and not deleting the chat history. But he doesn't know what you really care about deep down.

As a partner, when your other half expresses concern, it's a great opportunity to take a step back and observe why they're concerned about your behavior or interactions with the other person. The questioner didn't mention that she objected to her boyfriend's normal interactions with other people of the opposite sex, so it seems that this female classmate's concern was caused by some interaction between them that made her feel uncomfortable.

It's all about perspective!

Men and women think differently, and that's a beautiful thing! When a woman has countless thoughts racing through her mind, a man has no idea what his partner is thinking. People need to communicate with each other. Even if they have been together for a long time, they may not be able to guess what the other person is thinking every time, but that's okay!

The female classmate asked her questions, and her boyfriend reported back to the questioner, thinking that he had already told the questioner, so there would be no problem replying to the female classmate. The questioner was blown away when she heard what her boyfriend said. It's clear that at that time, the questioner and her boyfriend had different understandings precisely because of their different thinking — and it's fascinating to see how their different perspectives led to such a dramatic response!

Perhaps the questioner believes that by expressing her concern about their contact, her boyfriend can take the initiative to reduce contact with the other person or not contact them at all, rather than just feeling that contacting the other person to report to her is enough. However, for her boyfriend, he has done everything she has asked, and he's doing a great job!

Behind the concern, there's a lot going on!

Even if a person is confident in themselves, they may still doubt their partner's ability to resist temptation. But here's the thing: although they know that they have no connection, the questioner does care! And guess what else? The time the other person contacts her boyfriend is during sleeping hours, and she even knows that her boyfriend has not gone to bed at this time. If they were just classmates, I believe most people would not be able to accept being disturbed by their boyfriend at this time. So, you see, the questioner's emotions are not unreasonable!

Behind the concern, there may be a hidden lack of self-confidence or distrust of her boyfriend. But here's the good news! If he can maintain a good distance and sense of boundaries with other members of the opposite sex, and also give the questioner the sense of security of being the only one he loves, then where will it cause the questioner to care?

? Seeing the problem

After the argument, my boyfriend was really open and honest with the questioner. He told them about all the compromises he'd made, which showed how much he loved them and wanted to make things right. In this relationship, my boyfriend did whatever the questioner wanted, and they did everything together. This is why it's so important to communicate and compromise in a relationship!

During the trial period, when we taste the sweetness in the process of experimentation, for example, when our partner does not do what we say, we will get angry. But here's the good news! The purpose of getting angry is mostly to let our partner see our emotions and points of concern. And we can also hope that they can take the initiative not to touch the parts we care about. When they appease us, we feel that our partner already understands our thoughts. And then we can continue to get along in this way!

But in the process, the real problem is not solved, because both people only see the surface emotions of the other, but do not understand each other's true emotions. One person vents, while the other person tolerates and hides. For the boyfriend, he always wants to be the one who satisfies the questioner, but he finds that no matter what he does, he will make the questioner unhappy. This kind of unstandardized mode of getting along with each other has made him start to feel tired. But there's hope!

In real life, it's an exciting opportunity to explore whether it's your boyfriend who is unable to give you a sense of security, or if it's you who lacks a sense of security. You have the chance to take from your boyfriend the sense of security you lack.

There's a limit to everything, and when it's exceeded, it's time to make a change! When it exceeds their ability to bear, the other person will most likely choose to escape or withdraw.

☀️ Face it together!

It's time to communicate more with each other, listen to each other's true thoughts, and face and solve problems together! After all these years of being together, you actually already know each other well, and you don't want the wrong way of getting along to continue affecting your relationship.

"It turns out that understanding is more important than love," and "The Management of Intimate Relationships" are highly recommended to the questioner. You can learn with your boyfriend how to get the right mode of getting along and how to deal with problems encountered in intimate relationships. When we can master everything well, we are the ones in control, and naturally we will not let emotions control our behavior.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner out! Best wishes!

Hello, sweetheart! I totally get where you're coming from. When you're in a disagreement, it's natural to want your boyfriend to be your knight in shining armor and smooth things over. But if that's the only way you know how to resolve a conflict, it might not be a long-lasting solution.

First of all, remember that arguing is something that two people can work through together. While it's not always easy to see eye to eye, it's important to remember that neither of you is always right or wrong. If you find yourself in an argument, try to focus on the problem at hand and how you can work together to find a solution.

I don't think that's fair, sweetheart. If this continues, the relationship will become unbalanced, and if the relationship isn't adjusted, it might eventually collapse.

I think we can all agree that an unbalanced scale doesn't end well.

Secondly, it's so important to give everyone their own personal space. And respect really means being willing to tell the other person about your interactions with the opposite sex.

It's so important to remember that wisdom is not to inquire about the other person's normal interactions with the opposite sex. As long as you are confident in yourself, it will be whoever it is meant to be!

On the other hand, if you're feeling suspicious, you might find that the ghost is actually there! Home is meant to be a warm and welcoming place, but if it becomes a place where people feel fearful or cold, they'll probably start to avoid it.

Finally, do your best to let your partner make their own choices, unless they really need your help. It's totally normal in emotional relationships for one person to want to help the other person make the best choices they can.

When something happens, it's always a good idea to talk it through together. It's also a great way to think about the pros and cons of the situation. And of course, both of you need to be involved if the relationship is going to last!

For men, their career will seem more important. This is not male chauvinism, but it's the pressure society puts on men, which can be tough to navigate.

It's so important to recognize that men are often only recognized for their ability to earn money. So, show your boyfriend some love and support, and together you can share in the glory of the future!

I really hope my little opinion will make you think, and I wish you all the happiness in the world!

Hello, I'm June.

From what you've said, I can tell you're feeling pretty anxious and helpless. It's clear you're worried about losing your boyfriend and feeling insecure.

I'll give you a hug to try to calm you down.

1. You're concerned that he might be cheating on you.

I've been with my boyfriend for over four years. Recently, we had a fight, and he didn't come to comfort me like he usually does. He told me before I went to sleep that a female classmate had asked him questions and wanted to report back to me. I didn't say anything at the time, but he said that the classmate should have also known that he wasn't sleeping, so she should have returned the call. I was very angry when I heard this and lost my temper with him. The main reason was that before, he had been chatting with a girl in his class. After the fact, he told me that because the girl had approached him after I had gone to sleep, he was afraid that I would be angry, so he deleted the chat history. He told me what they had talked about, and I was very bothered by this. I insisted on seeing the chat history before I would believe him, and I also told him that in the future, he could not delete any chat history. Later, I was able to see all of their chats. We went to an event together at our school, and he didn't have any interactions with that girl. He still dotes on me.

In this text, you describe your boyfriend chatting with other girls after you fall asleep. I believe that he usually also has contact with other girls. Why did you get so upset about this?

Can you tell me why you had a "hysterical" fit?

I think the main reason is that it happened after you fell asleep. There are two factors here:

1. Talking to a girl late at night can make you feel a bit unsure.

2. Concealment: Chatting with a girl after you fall asleep makes you think he's trying to avoid you. Deleting the chat history makes it seem like there's more to it. Your boyfriend's explanation doesn't help, does it?

From what you've written, it seems like your boyfriend still treats you pretty "spoiled." You should also be able to tell that he has strong feelings for you.

2. You're concerned that he'll leave you.

It seems like your anger is actually a sign of your lack of confidence in the relationship. Are you worried that he'll fall in love with someone else and leave?

From your message, I get that the reasons are as follows:

1. "Before, he wanted to take the civil service exam and move away, but I advised him to stay, and he chose to do so."

Your boyfriend gave up taking the civil service exam to stay with you. Are you worried that if his career doesn't work out, he'll regret it and blame you?

2. "He feels like he's not motivated enough, that he's not capable, and that he can't give me the life I want. The pressure is really intense."

Does staying with you mean buying a house? Or are your material needs high?

If he can't meet these needs, is there a chance you'll leave him? (Leaving him may be passive, like with family members, etc.) If you leave him, will you feel guilty?

You love your boyfriend and don't want to leave him. If you stay with him, you'll have to face the "guilt" that may arise in the future, so you're feeling anxious and irritable.

I think that's right.

You should really communicate with your boyfriend properly, using the method of "non-violent communication." That means no blaming, no attacking, and no denying. You should express your concerns, express your emotions, listen to his thoughts, and respect his explanations.

If the two of them are really in love, they can also try to see what resources each of them can obtain, for example, the support of family members.

Love is about completion, not possession. If a breakup is inevitable, it's better to part on good terms and keep the good memories than to part ways when the love has faded.

I hope this helps. All the best!