A year later, my friend made money, but I lost money. I felt a huge letdown. What should I do?

Hello, question asker!

You and a friend each opened two training institutions. A year later, the other person's monthly income was 1 million yuan, while your institution closed down and you started working again, earning a few thousand yuan a month and learning to make ends meet.

You feel that fate has been unfair to you in this entrepreneurial failure, and it hurts to think about it. But you're in the same business, and you weren't unprofitable from the beginning! You had a monthly income of 100,000 yuan, and you saw hope before you reached despair.

This result is unexpected, and the contrast with your friend's success has caused you to grow and learn in ways you never imagined! While it has been frustrating and stressful, it has also given you the opportunity to develop resilience and adaptability.

The teaching and training industry is facing some challenges in the current environment. But your friend's success is a great example of how anyone can make it in this field! And if another colleague succeeds, you'll be even more motivated to succeed. The fact that you can become friends and will work in the same industry shows that you are both comparable in terms of vision, ability, resources, etc.

You are on the same starting line, but after one year, the results are very different. You feel resentful and frustrated, blaming fate for being unfair. You also have the idea of wanting to stay away from this friend.

If you start a business and it fails, don't fret! You can try to learn from the experience and avoid the pitfalls in the future. At the same time, you should see the positive aspects of your situation, such as the fact that you can work again as a wage earner, rather than being unable to get back on your feet.

Your perseverance and resilience are incredible strengths that you should absolutely build on!

So, what's next for you? Do you see yourself using the current job as a transition, or do you plan to keep working? Either way, you've got this! An unexpected sharp drop in income might affect your standard of living, but it's also an opportunity to embrace a new, more frugal lifestyle.

What you plan to do next and where you are heading is really important. People who can start their own business have the courage and resources to do so, and I believe that part of their ability will not be lost just because they have failed in starting a business. So, don't let that stop you!

You can try to divert your attention appropriately. First, try to do a good job at your current work. You can also consider a new side business or a new direction for your entrepreneurial career to supplement your income. Short videos are also very popular these days, and you can also share entrepreneurial-related topics, which is also a way to build your personal IP.

In an unexpected but exciting turn of events, Yu Minhong's New Oriental has transformed into a live streaming platform! Initially, it faced some challenges, but through relentless dedication and hard work, they've now achieved remarkable success.

You may need to see some results at this stage to calm your restless and troubled heart. But don't worry! You'll get there. And remember, results don't just fall from the sky when we're in pain.

If you can make it through this tough period when no one is cheering you on, and you can believe that you can come back stronger than ever, you will be rewarded with amazing new achievements that are all yours for the taking with hard work and perseverance. Go for it!

The questioner asserts that the present is favorable and expresses gratitude for the opportunity to connect.

From your description, it is evident that you are experiencing a sense of resentment towards the discrepancy between your expectations and the reality of your current situation. Additionally, you appear to be envious of your friends' achievements and are struggling to accept and recognize the current state of your own business. It is notable that you and your friend both initiated your businesses at the same time, with comparable organizational structures and experiences. Therefore, it is surprising to observe such a significant divergence in outcomes after just one year.

This phenomenon is merely superficial. The discrepancy can be attributed to an underlying, intrinsic factor, in addition to external influences. Why do you feel the need to compare yourself to others?

If one is compelled to engage in comparison, it would be premature to succumb to despondency when the competitive landscape remains robust.

In neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), the concept of "there is no failure, only feedback" is often invoked. Despite the current unsatisfactory profitability, it is essential to identify the underlying causes.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the reasons for this unsatisfactory situation and identify potential avenues for improvement. It is likely that there are some advantages to be gained from this experience, and it could even be considered a form of wealth.

As a preliminary measure, it would be beneficial to consider modifying one's mindset. This could potentially enhance one's energy levels and facilitate the attraction of assistance from influential individuals.

I postulate that your friend's current profitability is the result of a combination of factors, including the assistance he received from a benefactor at a critical juncture. You may wish to solicit his advice, as it is not an embarrassing proposition.

It is possible that your friend could become your benefactor and provide you with an opportunity. In addition to seeking advice from your friends, you can also learn some successful business practices and become your own benefactor.

In conclusion, it is advisable to examine one's own actions as a means of identifying the underlying causes of the situation. It is also important to take greater responsibility for one's own actions and to operate from a position of moral rectitude, without any self-serving motives and for the benefit of others. With these principles in mind, it is likely that one will be able to identify a method that is suitable for one's own circumstances.

I wish you the utmost success in your endeavors.

I get it. You feel lost right now. But you can get back up on your feet. Failure isn't scary. What's scary is letting failure knock you down and never getting back up again. I hope you can pull yourself together. To cheer yourself up, try the following:

1. Take a look at your experience as an entrepreneur and see what you can learn from it.

All that resentment and frustration comes from your last failed entrepreneurial experience. You need to get up off the floor and figure out why it didn't work so you can avoid making the same mistake next time.

2. Don't blame others, pull yourself together.

It's not a bad thing to fail. Don't blame others, and move on from it as soon as you can. Set a new goal for yourself, cheer up, and go for it.

When you focus all your time and energy on your new goals, you won't even have time to feel sad.

3. A friend to cherish

Having a friend who makes a million a month is a great resource. You don't have to get financial value from him, but you can learn a lot from his business methods, connections, and business acumen.

From what you've said, it seems like you and he are on a similar level, but at the crucial moment, his benefactor helped him, so he really stood out. Who knows, maybe the next time you start a business, your friend could be one of the people who helps you out.

Having an extra friend means having an extra way out, especially a good friend, who can often lead to more than one way out.

Dear questioner,

I'm grateful we had the opportunity to connect here.

You previously opened two training institutions with a friend almost at the same time, but encountered a few challenges along the way and were on the verge of closing down. Your friend was fortunate enough to receive assistance from a benefactor, and things are improving. However, you were not as fortunate and your business did not succeed.

There was a significant difference between being my own boss and working for someone else, both mentally and financially. Although I still have a good relationship with my friend, I often find myself thinking of my past failures whenever I think of him, which can be quite painful.

I also experienced a setback in business at one point, and I empathize with your situation. If you'd like, I'd be happy to offer you a supportive hug.

It's natural to feel that life isn't always fair. Many people feel this way, especially when they look at their loved ones and friends. They may observe that some people have achieved success without having to work very hard. They may have found opportunities to make money, saved more energy, had more time, better material conditions, more respect, and some may even have more attention from the opposite sex.

I had also been deeply involved in such troubles before, feeling that the world was not always fair, that life was difficult, and that I was embarrassed when I saw old acquaintances. But then, from this discomfort, I realized that I needed to make a change.

At first, I noticed that this pain, although not very heavy, was chronic and had a negative impact on my life. I began to pay attention to the people I envied.

In the past, I had only observed the aspects of their lives that made me envious. However, from that point onward, I began to pay closer attention to their actual lives. As it turned out, without exception, they all had their own challenges.

And these problems were often more complex than financial issues could address.

From that point onward, I came to perceive that our world is, in fact, quite fair when viewed from a particular angle.

Many of us are concerned about financial matters. Despite the challenges, we have the opportunity to devote more energy to improving the aspects of our lives we would like to change, such as organizing our lives and embracing the joy in life. For those who have already achieved success, their concerns are often more complex. First, because money cannot solve everything, which makes things more challenging. Second, if their success depends on their own efforts, they may have to dedicate a significant amount of time and energy to maintaining this success, which can indirectly impact their ability to maintain other aspects of their lives, such as spending time with their family or prioritizing their health. If their success depends on luck, they may also face the worry that they may lose this success at any time or may find themselves in a challenging situation.

And perhaps some concerns.

Of course, it is not our intention to see others living in a way that we perceive as less than ideal. Rather, it is to gain a broader perspective on the different circumstances and resources that others have access to, and to reflect on our own experiences and aspirations. In doing so, we can gain valuable insights into the lessons that our challenges are trying to teach us.

And what might I still need to achieve success?

I am eager to provide answers, to listen to your thoughts, and to offer guidance offline. I hope to be of assistance by sharing knowledge and experience to help you navigate life's challenges.

Dear Sir/Madam, After reading your question, I empathize with your discontent with your present circumstances and your predicament in the face of misfortune. It is possible that only those who have experienced a similar situation can truly comprehend the anguish associated with it.

The causes of one's present circumstances, however, can be classified into several categories.

The pressure resulting from one's current income and the predicament of life.

This aspect of the situation has the most significant impact on the individual and is also the source of the greatest inner disappointment. It is indeed a shock to go from earning tens of thousands of yuan a month to actually earning thousands nowadays.

This discrepancy arises from the process of transforming the quality of life that was previously attainable into a situation of mere subsistence. It is often observed that it is relatively simple to transition from a state of frugality to one of luxury, but considerably more challenging to reverse this process.

The feeling of being unable to alter one's circumstances, despite the desire to do so, is a common source of distress. However, individuals who have experienced setbacks in training institutions but have subsequently achieved the same or higher income in other industries may be less likely to experience this distress.

The pressure caused by setbacks in launching a business venture.

The causes of entrepreneurial setbacks are multifaceted and cannot be attributed to the provision of assistance alone. It is plausible that the benefactor in question is a friend who has also invested significant effort. However, this remains uncertain and is ultimately a matter of personal knowledge.

The resulting stress is a consequence of excessive investment, including but not limited to financial, temporal, and energetic resources. These investments must have an anticipated outcome, and the reality is that the outcome is becoming increasingly unattainable. Persistence in investment may result in further losses, leading to the decision to abandon the venture.

This is the optimal course of action.

The development of any event is invariably the result of a complex interplay between unique reasons and objective conditions.

Those who were previously aligned are now experiencing a discrepancy between their current circumstances.

Training institutions that previously operated in parallel would ostensibly be in a similar situation, but in practice, no two cases are identical. If a friend also encounters difficulties in starting a business, this will not alleviate the current pressure, but rather create the illusion that this industry is not viable.

It is challenging to entirely negate the influence of this kind of discrepancy. The economic situation has led to a division between the same platform and a different platform, which is a reality that few can accept calmly.

The following section will present a series of recommendations for addressing this issue.

It is imperative to allow oneself a period of respite.

Irrespective of the underlying cause, the current situation is undoubtedly painful. It is therefore imperative to recognise that painful emotions can severely limit personal growth. It is also important to acknowledge that the laws of nature, as well as the actions and reactions of others, will not necessarily align with one's emotional state.

One must take measures to avoid inflicting unnecessary suffering upon oneself.

It seems reasonable to posit that you are also suffering from these seemingly uncontrollable emotions.

Forgiving oneself entails distancing oneself from these emotions. One has already achieved a degree of success, if not more, as these experiences have furnished one with invaluable resources. Persisting in immersing oneself in these activities that consume one's time, energy, space, willpower, and personal value will inevitably result in further distress.

This creates a vicious circle.

One should endeavor to base one's actions on objective reality.

Although accepting objective reality is often painful, it is important to remember that humans are fallible and that there are often many factors beyond one's control. Therefore, it is possible to find a sense of calm within this process. In the event of outstanding debts, it is advisable to settle them as a priority before embarking on the remainder of the process, which may include tasks such as positioning, investment, marketing, and development.

Experience is the most valuable asset an individual can possess. It is an arduous process, yet it has the potential to enhance one's personal growth and development.

It is imperative to alter one's focus.

Currently, you believe you are fully cognizant of your circumstances, yet you are reluctant to acknowledge or accept them.

At this juncture, it is imperative to alter one's focus.

1) It is advisable to refrain from making comparisons with the other person. This kind of comparison is of little practical value.

However, there is much to be gained from observing the manner in which he manages his business.

2) Adopt a focus on the present situation. It is, in fact, challenging to transition from an entrepreneurial to an employee role, and it is likely that one's identity will not be constrained by the limitations of an employee status.

However, the current situation does not allow for the taking of risks. It would be more prudent to utilize this time to maintain the status quo.

3) Cultivate a robust spirit. Neither success nor failure will be easily attained.

This necessitates a robust personal foundation of spiritual fortitude. Attaining spiritual growth can also result in considerable fulfillment.

An individual with a positive outlook can navigate the various facets of life, work, and personal endeavors with greater ease, rather than becoming a person adrift in the currents of history.

If one survives, one has the opportunity to pursue further endeavors.

I wish you the best of success!

Good day. I am Strawberry.

In response to the confessions and difficulties expressed by the questioner, the questioner and her friend have established a training institution operating within the same category. In the context of the ongoing epidemic, many individuals are experiencing significant challenges. Following the closure of their business, they have limited options. Otherwise, they may face further losses.

The decision to terminate the training institution was not a reflection of failure on the part of the question asker. Rather, it demonstrated an ability to assess the situation and make an informed decision, which allowed for the prevention of further financial losses.

The distinction between the two is significant.

The questioner and her friend operate a business of the same type. Initially, her friend was also facing closure, but she was aided by an individual who provided financial support, which enabled the failing business to be salvaged. The business is also highly successful. It can be said that the questioner's friend encountered an individual who possessed the expertise to manage a business, and with the assistance of her friend, the business has been revitalized.

Although two individuals may be engaged in the same business, they may employ different strategies. Similarly, friends may utilize disparate approaches, and even if one secures the assistance of a benefactor, the requisite fortitude and aptitude to transform the enterprise remain elusive.

It is important to acknowledge one's own capabilities.

Even in the same environment with the same teacher, students may not necessarily comprehend the same thing. It is possible that the questioner feels that she has more friends because she has benefited from the help of important people. However, it must be acknowledged that if she does not possess the requisite abilities, then regardless of the assistance she receives, she will be unable to succeed.

It is important to note that acknowledging one's limitations does not imply failure. Each individual possesses unique strengths and abilities. It is possible to take a temporary break from a task and resume it at a later point in time when circumstances are more conducive.

A different focus

The questioner is currently disinclined to engage in further social interaction with this friend, but this is largely due to the perception of a significant discrepancy between their respective lifestyles. This comparison instills a sense of insecurity, leading the questioner to believe that their abilities are not as commendable as those of their friend.

It is precisely because they are in the same category that the questioner can gain a deeper understanding of her friend's experiences, learn from her expertise, and identify areas for improvement in her own business.

The questioner's concerns are shaped by his unique perspective and circumstances. After experiencing a business failure, he has become a wage earner, while his friend earns a substantial income. He is concerned that whenever he encounters his friend, he will be reminded of his failed business.

This is the questioner's analysis of the situation. With regard to friends, it is possible that they care more about the questioner, but her concerns are not of this nature. She does not gain a sense of superiority by comparing herself to her friends, and thus speculation is unproductive and causes unnecessary worry.

The following are methods for alleviating stress:

1. Learn about the subject: The questioner is aware of his own shortcomings and those of his acquaintances, which can lead to feelings of inadequacy. In his leisure time, the questioner can arrange to learn how to run a business so that he is equipped with the skills to handle challenges when they arise.

2. Self-acceptance: As previously stated, recognizing one's own abilities is tantamount to self-acceptance. Only through self-acceptance can one live a life devoid of comparison to others and without the burden of excessive expectations.

3. A Fulfilling Life Rhythm: The practice of engaging in activities such as watching comedies, exercising, tidying up the house, spending time in nature, and communicating with a trusted individual can facilitate the alleviation of emotional distress. When individuals adopt a more structured and organized approach to their lives, they tend to experience a greater sense of fulfillment and motivation.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the questioner. Best regards,

Let's gain some insight into the mind and make sharing a habit! I'm talking to myself.

Let's get to the point and get straight to the problem, shall we?

I totally get it. You're probably wondering why you keep thinking about this failed entrepreneurial experience.

I can see you're still struggling with this. Why do you feel that you can't let go of this failure?

I'm so happy to tell you the answer is:

You're eager to succeed, but also afraid of being looked down upon by others and being hurt in this world of cutthroat competition. We've all been there!

But please don't forget that no one can say they are 100% successful when starting a business, and no one can guarantee that you will only make money and never lose money in business.

As long as you're involved in entrepreneurship, you'll probably face some challenges along the way. It's totally normal to feel like you're the only one facing these difficulties. But remember, many other entrepreneurs have been in your shoes and have made it through. You've got this!

Adler once said something really lovely. He said that if you want to eliminate your worries, you just need to exist in the universe.

What do you think? Is that something that could be possible for you?

We all know that if you want to succeed in a field, it's not enough to have courage, hard work, and the ability to endure hardship. Since ancient times, there has been a saying that I think is really helpful: "The right time, the right place, and the right people are indispensable."

It doesn't matter why your business failed. The important thing is to learn from it and move on. If you want to make a comeback, it's time to reflect on what went wrong and how you can do better next time. Don't be discouraged by the success of other people's businesses. You have your own unique strengths and experiences to bring to the table.

Behind every successful business venture, there are probably more than just one or two reasons why it might not succeed. There are probably more advantages for others to succeed than there are for you, and I really hope you can find them!

I know it can feel a little harsh at first, but comparing your own shortcomings to the strengths of others can really help you see where you need to make improvements. It'll also help you avoid failure in the long run!

I read in your essay that you mentioned an unfair fate. I'm so sorry to hear that.

If you feel that God is being unfair to you, I really want you to know that I don't think you've ever seen anything that's less capable than you are. After living for more than 40 years, I personally feel that God is relatively fair to each of us.

In this world, there are no absolutes, including the word "fair." I know it can be tough to accept that, but it's true. At this time, lamenting the injustice of fate is really just finding an outlet for yourself.

It's great to be fearless, but don't use it as an excuse for your failures. That would really blind you to the limits.

I'd love to chat with you next about self-affirmation and self-acceptance.

I'd love to tell you what self-affirmation is.

Tell yourself, "Hey, if you get 60 points, it was just bad luck. Your true self can score 100 points, no problem!" This is self-affirmation.

On the other hand, working hard to think about "how to get closer to 100 points" on the basis of honestly accepting a 60-point self is a great way to embrace self-acceptance!

I think the questioner might still have some work to do before they truly accept themselves from the bottom of their heart.

I don't think so. It seems like you're still stuck in a state of self-affirmation. You always think that your true ability is to score 100 points, but life isn't always fair. Sometimes, we're let down by circumstances, and we don't get to achieve what we set out to.

You might be wondering: how can I truly accept myself?

It's really not as hard as you think! Accept the things you can't change (like the failure of your business this time), and accept who you are right now. Then, when it comes to things you can change, you can absolutely learn from your experience and start over.

The courage to change is the true acceptance of yourself. And remember, no matter how many times you think about it, the fact that you failed in your business will not change.

It doesn't matter how much money someone else makes if it's 1 million a day. That money isn't yours. If you feel capable, you can relax, learn from your mistakes, stand tall, and start anew.

And finally, a few words of encouragement:

If you don't want to start a business again, I just want to leave you with one thought: being ordinary doesn't mean being incompetent.

If you're thinking about starting a business again, I've got some advice for you! Don't view life as a straight line; instead, see it as a series of wonderful moments.

Hello, question asker! I'm Jia Ao, and I'm here to help in any way I can.

After reading your post, I could tell you've been through a lot. It's clear you've had some difficulties and confusion when starting a business. It's a tough journey, and I'm here to support you. It seems like your friend's business was revived because he met a benefactor, but yours didn't have the same luck. This has led to some financial challenges, which I can imagine are making you feel quite uncomfortable. I'm here to listen and help you work through these feelings. It's natural to feel like fate is unfair and to feel blocked emotionally. I'm here to help you adjust your mentality and find a way forward.

It's true that you both started out at the same time, started a business together, and even chose the same business project. But why is the outcome so different between you and your friend? I can see how you might feel resentful, but I also sense that you're doubting your own abilities, aren't you?

Oh, why is God so unfair to me? Why can't I succeed just once?

It can be really tough when you're starting a business and you lose money yourself while your friend makes money. It can feel like the gap is particularly large. How can you adjust yourself?

I'm here to help! Let's take a look at your concerns together and sort them out.

1. [Be kind to yourself and accept your emotions as they are]

In life, there's success and there's failure. You can't always fail, and you can't always be unsuccessful. It's okay to feel disappointed. Just try to accept your emotions as they are. Whether you're happy or sad, you can learn to face it with an open mind.

I know it can be tough starting a business. It takes a lot of experience and effort, and it's not always easy. It's totally normal to feel disappointed when things don't go as planned. I can see you're feeling a bit down because your friend's business did well, but you're struggling. I'm here to help.

2. [Take a deep breath and look at the problem objectively and calmly]

It's important to remember that no one ever said that starting a business is a surefire way to make money. Some people are lucky enough to make money, while others unfortunately end up losing money. It could be that they don't have the relevant experience to start a business, or maybe they don't manage their money well. Some people's personalities just aren't suited to doing business. It's easy to watch others do business and think it looks simple, but we don't always see the hard work and effort that goes on behind the scenes. It's not as easy as it seems!

It's natural to envy your friends' good fortune. After all, you've always felt that fate has been unfair to you. But have you ever considered what your friends have sacrificed to achieve such success? It's important to believe that God is fair and that we reap what we sow. Don't let temporary disappointments discourage you. Instead, view them as tests from God. He is testing you to see if you are ready for greater responsibilities. Your current failure is simply a stepping stone to future success. So, take a deep breath, look at the situation objectively, and learn from it.

3. [Nurture your inner self]

It's totally okay to admire other people's success and to feel inspired by those who have benefactors to help them. But don't let it make you feel down. It's important to believe in yourself and to keep working hard and striving, so that you can become more and more confident.

It's so important to remember that when you feel inferior to others or like your fate is bad, it can really affect your confidence and motivation to succeed.

It's so often the case that if you think you can do something, you really can. If you think you can't, then you won't be able to do it. There's a lovely saying that goes, "If you bloom, the butterflies will come." If you become confident, strong, and brave, and radiate light, how can you be afraid of all the difficulties and challenges ahead? Go for it!

Believe in yourself! You've got this! You're strong and capable, and you don't need to belittle yourself. You're your own best supporter! Once you've accumulated a certain amount of capital, if you still want to continue your entrepreneurial journey, go for it!

You'll be more composed and confident than before, I'm sure. And don't worry, I wish you all the best!

I really hope my answer helps! Sending love to the world and to you ?

Hello!

Thank you for sharing your story. It's real and heartfelt.

Beethoven's "Symphony of Fate" has a questioning tone.

Dare to start a business.

When starting a business, you imagine a better future.

The company went bankrupt for various reasons. We can learn from these to avoid making the same mistakes.

These reasons will help you face life better.

The pain of going from earning 100,000 yuan a month to just a few thousand.

Expressing yourself in a safe environment is good self-care.

Don't want to meet this friend.

The external environment can support or harm people.

Take care of your own feelings first.

"I resent fate for treating me this way" is an attack on oneself.

We can't win against fate.

The original poster wants more control over life. When life is peaceful and healthy, you can also receive praise and positive comments from those around you.

It's hard to change other people's opinions. Everyone reads a book differently.

Erich Fromm said it's wrong to think you understand a writer's thoughts by understanding a few sentences.

It's meaningful to get to know a whole book.

Life is a long, enjoyable journey.

Sometimes we should be understanding and forgiving when we're not doing well.

To be happy, you have to love yourself. Money can't buy happiness.