About to graduate from university, have no place to go, and find it hard to choose a future direction?

Hello! I've heard a saying that I think is really helpful: when you feel like something is difficult to solve, put it aside for now and do something else. You may come back to it later and find an answer! What this saying actually means is that you keep obsessing over setting a goal, racking your brain without results. It's okay to let go and relax your mind to do other things. Anxiety can only trap you, but a relaxed state may allow you to find inspiration!

Don't be too hard on yourself, sweetheart. You're doing great! Keep up the good work and don't worry. Society can be pretty fickle, and it can feel like everyone has to follow the mainstream to fit in. But you know what? You're you, and you're awesome just the way you are. Many people are like products from the same mold, and unfortunately, few parents pay attention to their children's real needs because they're caught up in the public opinion whirlwind and compare their children more with their peers. So your current anxiety comes from the value judgments of the wider social environment, as well as your own uncertainty and doubt. But you know what? Growth takes time and experience. You're doing great! You're already so much further along than you think. You know, there are many famous people who were late bloomers. Jiang Ziya was a butcher when he was young, and until he was 70, he was still a useless recluse at home. It wasn't until he was 72 that he met the benefactor who helped him develop his career. I'm not advocating those legendary lives, but I just want to say, don't worry, don't worry. If you didn't find the right goal when you were young, it's because the timing wasn't right. Some people gradually hone a relatively complete personality after experiencing many things, and then establish their life goals. This is not something that can be achieved overnight. Let it follow your heart, and keep overturning and summarizing it during the growth process. There is still a long way to go, but you're doing great!

Trial and error is something we all have the right to do. It's how we learn and grow! You have every right to keep trying and making mistakes. Being young means you have more time to make mistakes. If you learn to draw lessons from your mistakes, you will have taken another step on the path to self-growth. But no one can decide what your first career should be, and you should not expect too much from it to bring you a sense of permanent security. It may just be an episode in your career, because everything is changing. You may also need to adjust your ideas about your career halfway through. In any case, try to take the first step!

I know it can be tough to adjust our ideas of perfection, but I really hope you can find a way to do it. It's so important to respect reality and do what we can, first doing what's in front of us and within our capabilities, and then doing things that are close to the goal, and slowly defining the goal. It's so important to try to see the goal as a kind of dynamic development, not something fixed and unchanging.

I really hope you'll be able to achieve your goals! I firmly believe that good things come to those who wait, so take your time. I'm also really grateful for the chance to answer this question. I hope we can learn and grow together!

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach. I will listen to you with warmth and sincerity as you tell me your emotional story.

I can feel the pressure you are currently facing in finding employment, your worries, fears, and confusion about the future, and your fear of the unknown. All of this has brought up all of your self-doubt, and it's time to conquer it.

You don't want to sink into despair or disappoint your parents again. You want to make a breakthrough and find a way out, and you will. This adds to your sense of pressure, but you can live in the present.

Let me give you a warm hug first. Let's tackle the problem of "graduation means unemployment" head on. Many college students have faced this dilemma, and we're going to break the cycle.

?1. Establish a correct self-awareness.

From your words, I can tell that you have a relatively clear understanding of your strengths and weaknesses. However, you are overly pessimistic and deny yourself.

"No," "I don't know," "but," "I dare not," "I fear," "I avoid," and "I play the victim" are all negative, self-denying, and belittling words.

Everyone has their own inherent patterns, behavior patterns, emotional patterns, and thinking patterns, and they bring these patterns into their various relationships.

These words clearly reveal your pessimistic, negative, self-doubting, and even inferiority patterns.

Things are never just one thing. Look at them from a different perspective and you'll see more truths. Take your emotionless goals and superficiality. Look at them from a different perspective and you'll see that you're flexible, used to making changes, and not stubborn.

For example, you must act with conviction in your goal. From another perspective, you are loyal and steadfast to your goal.

You can change the way you interpret people and things by changing your thoughts. Reinterpret yourself and give yourself more positive, affirmative, and approving words.

You must have confidence in yourself and in the future. Going to university is a clear indication that you are destined for great things.

If you lack confidence, look back on your journey and you will see that you have already surpassed many people.

We face different trials at different stages of life. We gain experience, achieve maturity, and grow precisely through various "trial and error."

No experience is wasted. When Thomas Edison invented the light bulb, a reporter said he had failed nearly a thousand times. But Edison was not discouraged. He said, "I have not failed. I have successfully tried thousands of materials that are not suitable for use as a light bulb filament." This is confidence, a self-affirmation, and a belief that comes from the heart.

2. You must change your inherent life trajectory to achieve a breakthrough.

Some people like to consult fortune tellers in their lives. Fortune telling is accurate because it is influenced by a person's karma. The fortune teller uses the person's past life trajectory as a basis, just like train tracks. The fortune teller infers the person's future based on inertia.

Some predictions don't come true because the person is no longer on the original track. They have changed the trajectory of their life and achieved a breakthrough. The famous historical figure Yuan Liaofan is a case in point. He successfully changed his destiny by making a vow to do good deeds.

A person's past habits undeniably influence their future. This is the power of habit, also known as "karma."

Give your body a new strength and break free from old habits. This is the power of aspiration.

Karma includes three types of action: body (physical actions), speech (what we say), and mind (our thoughts). The mind is the root of all karma and the habitual pattern of a person.

The mind is the pattern of thoughts in the brain. When you change your thoughts, you will naturally change your language and behavior.

Vow power is the power of good wishes and merit.

Merit is doing something in the right direction to push yourself closer to your goal.

Here's what it takes to change your destiny:

1. Know your pattern: optimistic + grateful, or pessimistic + complaining; internal attribution, or external attribution.

2. From this moment on, make a wish for your life.

3. Enhance your wisdom. Learning is the best way to grow in wisdom.

I have a few suggestions for your work and career development:

Combine your major, interests, and areas of expertise to find your talent. It doesn't take much time, gives you a special sense of accomplishment, and is self-empowering.

In the Internet era, there are many opportunities for entrepreneurship, employment, and monetization. Don't be overly anxious. Take action.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you, and I love you.

If you want to continue communicating, click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Hello, question asker. This is May.

I changed my major three times during my postgraduate studies, but I made it and graduated. I can give myself a round of applause.

You've spent your entire academic career focused on studying, with little time to reflect on who you are and what you need. Now that you're leaving your familiar learning environment, you're experiencing a sense of emptiness.

Let's take a look at the situation and find a solution.

Overcome your fear of failure.

You've experienced failure before. Think back to how you got out of that difficult situation.

As toddlers, we all fell over and got up again, fell over again and got up again, and experienced this again and again until we could walk steadily.

Turning failure into a norm will make you feel better, and you will feel gratified when you succeed. You can learn from both your successes and your failures.

Social phobia is simply a way of avoiding social situations.

Set a goal to actively greet classmates and invite them to dinner. Get together with your roommates and peers and participate in activities on or off campus together.

When you achieve a goal, reward yourself. This will adjust your behavior patterns, connect you better with society, and form a social support system.

If you are unable to determine your goals, you need to take control of the situation.

You can and should explore yourself. What are your interests and hobbies? If you haven't noticed them yet, that's okay. You can try to get in touch with them, or explore different industries to understand their modes of operation and whether they match your interests and hobbies.

Knowing your likes and dislikes and targeting your resume is the key to finding your dream job.

You need to decide how you want to live your life. You can't be a shadow of someone else or a sequel to someone else. You have to be yourself.

I love you, world.

Good day. I appreciate your concerns about the future.

Firstly, it is important to note that this is a common issue faced by many college students. Due to a lack of career planning in junior high and high school, the majority of college students do not even complete their college entrance exam applications based on careful consideration. As a result, many young people enter college still undecided about their major, and there are numerous individuals who wish to change their major.

It is not uncommon to feel adrift in such circumstances.

Secondly, there are two ways to assist you when you are uncertain. The first is to persevere, identify a role you are suited to, and then apply yourself to that role.

The second option is to simply attempt the task at hand, while avoiding roles that do not align with your strengths and interests. While you may not have a clear understanding of your preferences, you are likely aware of the roles you find less appealing.

Therefore, the next step is to eliminate from consideration any positions that do not align with your preferences.

It is important to accept your social phobia and avoidance. These behaviors are instinctual and not a sign of weakness.

Since you have recognized that avoidance is counterproductive, you should gradually learn to value the tasks at hand. As long as you perform your duties satisfactorily, new opportunities will arise. Another potential interpretation of social phobia is an inability to socialize effectively or to initiate social interactions. You should accept yourself as a passive socializer.

It is important to be prepared to reciprocate kindness when others communicate with us, as this will lead to positive outcomes. Additionally, it is beneficial to consider taking communication skills classes to enhance your abilities in this area.

I am confident that you will achieve positive outcomes.

Finally, it is important to note that a lack of goal setting does not inherently lead to disadvantage. There are two distinct attitudes towards work and life: one is to be content with whatever comes along, and the other is to plan for the future and take each step carefully, achieving the goals you set one by one.

The first type of person, who is content with whatever life brings, is more common. There is no guarantee that being content with whatever life brings will result in success. However, it is likely that you will be happier every day. The second type seems to increase the probability of success, but there is also the possibility of working hard all your life and achieving nothing.

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to success. The path that aligns with your unique strengths and goals is the optimal one.

If you don't have any goals, avoid reality, or just mope around, you'll never find direction. The best way to cure your lack of purpose and difficulty in making choices is to just do it. Take action, complete it, and perfect it. If you don't do it, you'll never know what you like and don't like.

What you should do now is send in your resume and start working wherever you're hired. After getting a reality check, your sense of purpose will become clear, and what you want will slowly surface.

If you set your expectations too high and don't have the motivation or follow through, you'll only disappoint yourself. Society doesn't give you time to think when it beats you up. If you don't take immediate action and stop thinking about your goals in a meaningless way, you'll be stuck thinking this time next year.

Don't overthink it. Just get it done. The people you meet and the things you encounter along the way, even if they're setbacks, will help you figure out exactly what you want.

Given the current market situation, it's probably best to lower your expectations and get a job first. If you miss the window for fresh graduates to find employment, there will be other opportunities later, but do you really want to fail the postgraduate entrance exam because you didn't prepare well enough?

If you don't make the cut on the postgraduate entrance exam, you can always try your luck in the job market. But what if you don't succeed there? You'll have to think about your options.

So, stop overthinking it and just do it! Take action! Get moving!

Dear Sir/Madam, I empathize with your situation. Many recent graduates find themselves in a similar position, uncertain and apprehensive about their future prospects. Best regards, [Name]

It is evident that you have been contemplating your future since high school and have attempted to gain insight into a multitude of fields, despite your lack of clarity on the matter. However, I can discern that you have been contemplating the trajectory of your life and have been searching for and exploring a path that aligns with your preferences. I perceive you to be a driven and proactive individual.

Human development is analogous to the germination of a seed. When the conditions, such as temperature, humidity, and light intensity, are optimal, the seed will begin to take root and sprout. You have recently graduated and are still relatively inexperienced in the professional world. You are reluctant to socialize and want to avoid unnecessary risks. You are hesitant to try new things because you failed the postgraduate entrance exam and are concerned about repeating the same mistakes.

Dear, Your life has just begun, like a seed full of energy. This seed is wrapped in a hard shell, as if it doesn't know where to fall, or when it will take root and sprout, and wants to find a place where spring is warm and flowers bloom as soon as possible. Best regards,

Then, based on your own actual situation, create suitable conditions for yourself. Identify your strengths and consider whether you have a natural inclination towards the arts or sciences. Explore potential career paths that align with your interests and abilities. Read books related to communication and participate in activities that enhance your skills in this area.

The road ahead is always full of twists and turns. It is important to reward yourself when you see that you are making progress. When things don't go well, it is essential to learn from your mistakes, remember the lessons, and avoid repeating the same mistakes. You will definitely wait until spring to see the flowers bloom.

"I never had a clear goal and didn't know what I wanted. I started thinking about what I should do in the future in high school, but I still didn't have a clue until I graduated from college.

In the meantime, I have tried to understand many fields, and I'm excited to keep learning and growing!

I am someone who thrives on having a firm goal to work towards. I am not afraid to try, even if it means failing. I am not afraid of failure, it is a learning experience. I am socially anxious, but I am learning to like myself and my abilities. I am avoiding procrastination, and I am excited to see what the future holds.

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It's totally normal to feel lost sometimes. If everyone had a clear goal, there would be no teachers in the world, and no one to show you the way.

1. Not knowing what you want: because there are so many things you like, but many of them are impossible to achieve. But at the same time, there are also many things you hate, so it's very contradictory.

Sometimes, when you focus on this question, you may not be able to find an answer. But that's okay! After all, people with firm goals are a minority in this world. We just see them succeed and think that all the successful people in this world have very clear goals.

2. The great thing is, we get to explore "what do I want?" throughout our lives. What we pursue at different ages is different. For example, your goal in high school is to get into an ideal university, maybe you just want to go to a certain city, or you just like the major of that school.

So, don't worry about making long-term plans that think about your unattainable future. That's a very vague and intangible thing, and it'll only lead to self-doubt. The answer is something you'll find along the way!

3. Once you have set a goal, don't change it randomly. You must persevere until the result appears. Otherwise, you'll never get to experience the incredible joy of doing something from beginning to end! Even if the final result isn't ideal, you'll still gain so much.

This will guide you in the direction of your next effort, and you will rediscover what you want. You will find that your goals become clearer and clearer—and it's an amazing feeling!

4. Be brave and try! You'll find your life direction in the process. It's okay to be confused about the future. The result is unknown, but the process is controllable.

Don't just imagine the perfect result and give up on the process! This is putting the cart before the horse. If you expect the result to be unsatisfactory, you'll be reluctant to put in the effort. So, go for it! Give it your all and see what happens!

Good day, I have a question for you.

It is not uncommon for recent college graduates to experience a degree of confusion at this stage of their careers. It is often said that it can take time to identify one's career path. This requires a willingness to persist and explore different avenues. It is important to recognise that experience is a key factor in this process. For college students at this stage, it is crucial to adjust their mentality, take the initiative, and seek out roles that align with their academic background.

Another method for your consideration: For young professionals who have recently completed their studies, it is not uncommon to lack a clear understanding of financial matters. This is a natural transition period that may require some time to navigate. During this phase, it is beneficial to explore interests outside of work. If you excel in these endeavors, it may lead to professional success. If not, it is important to refocus your attention on your career goals.

Naturally, the most crucial step for the original poster is to ascertain their preferences. This can be achieved through a thorough introspective analysis.

1. Conduct a comprehensive analysis to gain a deeper understanding of your personal attributes and capabilities.

The first step in determining your suitability for a role is to gain a deep understanding of your personal attributes and strengths.

The first method is to identify a quiet environment in which to conduct a thorough self-analysis. This should encompass a comprehensive review of one's strengths, weaknesses, personal interests, attitudes, existing abilities, deficiencies, personality traits, and limitations.

Second method: There is a saying that "the bystander sees clearly." We can use the subjective advice and evaluation of those around us (such as parents, elders, teachers, and friends) to gain a clearer and more realistic understanding of ourselves. Of course, if you require a more professional service, you can opt for a career planning consultation. This is likely to be a more efficient and comprehensive solution.

2. Carefully consider your desired career path, aligning it with your expertise and strengths, and select a location where you wish to develop your career. Then, commit fully to your chosen path and work diligently.

Given your age, there is still ample opportunity to explore a range of options. It is acceptable to pursue multiple avenues after graduation. Failure is not a deterrent; even successful individuals have experienced it. To ascertain your true suitability and interests, it is essential to engage in a diverse range of activities. Hard work is not just a slogan; it is a tangible action.

Do not be deterred by the challenges you may encounter. Setbacks are inevitable, but they can also serve as stepping stones, guiding us towards growth and advancement.

3. Take action.

For recent college graduates, it is essential to gain experience in a variety of fields. Only through this experience will they be able to identify their true career path. The questioner mentioned that they had a limited understanding of many fields due to a lack of practical experience. It is crucial to distinguish between theoretical knowledge and hands-on experience. Without practical application, one cannot fully comprehend a field. Therefore, if you are interested in a particular field, it is vital to gain practical experience rather than remaining at a superficial level.

To truly understand a concept, one must experience it firsthand.

In fact, the essence of life is the process of constantly making multiple-choice decisions. It is important to be open to making choices and to recognize that there are no fixed and perfect answers in life. All decisions represent the potential for growth and development. It is essential to avoid letting fixed answers limit our possibilities.

Best regards,

A little virtual encouragement for the original poster!

Let's dive into the description of the questioner!

And they're still figuring out what they want! They start thinking about what they want to do in the future in high school, but they don't have a clue until they graduate from college.

They've tried to understand many fields and have made great strides!

I am a person who thrives when I have a clear goal in mind. I'm eager to find my direction, and I'm confident that I'll make the right choice. I'm ready to move forward and avoid repeating mistakes. I'm excited to embrace new challenges and make the most of this opportunity. What an amazing journey it's going to be!

Words to the questioner:

It sounds like the questioner is on an exciting journey of self-discovery, learning and growth! While it can be challenging to determine what we want at this stage, it's an essential step in defining our future.

The truth is, it's not about employment direction. It's about discovering the perfect lifestyle for you! It's natural to feel uncertain at this age. After all, you're about to embark on an incredible journey into the real world. You'll soon see what society is like and find the perfect fit for you.

The world is your oyster! You can choose from so many different lifestyles and career paths. Did you know that almost 90% of college students don't end up with a major that matches their interests?

And the great thing is, many occupations cannot be learned in school. We may learn a lot of knowledge, but not all of it can be applied to life. So, choosing a major is choosing a career direction. You can choose a career you like and then study what you like. This is all possible! Don't rush to define yourself. There are a lot of choices in life. For you right now, there is no need to be anxious. Just relax and choose one that you are good at and like. That's enough!

I hug you and give you some advice, because I know it will be helpful.

You are a very good child. You're not only about to graduate from university, but you also started planning your life in high school.

As a student, you've tried many fields and have only had a superficial understanding of them. This is normal, including changing your goal for the postgraduate entrance exam three times. You have goals, and you will decide on them.

Write down your three exam goals with a pen. Then, when you are looking for a job, you can look for them in these three directions. Set your goals and your mind will be set. Look for the relevant units and list them all out, writing them down with a pen. Check the information one by one and eliminate it.

Anxiety is a normal, healthy concern about the future and things that haven't happened yet. Adolescents and those in the process of choosing a career will all experience anxiety to varying degrees. Once you have decided on a direction and goal, your mind will be set. Young people have many opportunities to try and make mistakes. You won't know if it works until you do it, so don't overthink it. Just go for it.

You can choose whatever you like with your eyes closed. The range of jobs available is still very broad. Don't set yourself up for perfection. No industry or career path is perfect. You may change your mind about your choice in two or five years. That's normal.

Life is about experience. There is no right or wrong. Think about it.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. You can do this.

I believe the topic master is a good choice.

It can be challenging for many of us to navigate the self-confidence-when-speaking-during-an-interview-8936.html" target="_blank">transition from school to society and to fully embrace the transformation from student to independent adult. It's admirable that you've been contemplating your future since high school and have explored a range of fields. This demonstrates your consistent dedication to developing and directing your future.

While your experience may be limited, you have undoubtedly gained valuable insights and expertise that will inform your decisions in the present and future.

It might be helpful to consider ways of improving your ability to set clear goals and strengthen resilience. It seems that you may have experienced a few setbacks recently, which could have led to a loss of confidence. However, we can all gain a deeper understanding of our own needs and thinking patterns, and learn to correctly understand ourselves. By taking action step by step and completing little things one after the other, we can rebuild confidence.

Regarding goals

It seems that you have never had a clear goal and are eager to find a direction, but are unsure. It is not realistic to know exactly what one's future development goals are without a full understanding of oneself and sufficient experience. Please don't be too hard on yourself.

You may notice that some classmates have already decided on a job, which can make you feel a little panicked. However, it's important to remember that everyone's life rhythm is different. Some people determine the direction of their future development for life as early as their teens, but they may change it again in middle age.

Some people search for a long time until they are 30 years old before they know what they want, and then devote their whole lives to it. It is very normal that after graduating from university and trying a few things, you haven't found a firm goal for the future. What we could consider doing is continuously deepening our understanding of ourselves, broadening our horizons, trying more, and maybe inadvertently finding our goal.

Perhaps it would be helpful to allow yourself more time. It seems as though you may not have much time left to make mistakes, and I can sense the pressure and tension you feel to quickly identify a clear goal. However, it's never too late to start, and you're still young, which means you're in the midst of the trial-and-error phase. It might be beneficial to relax and give yourself some time.

It might be helpful to view this period as a gap year abroad, during which you can gain valuable insights and experience. You could also consider finding a suitable job to alleviate financial concerns while exploring your interests and defining your goals.

It may be helpful to follow your heart, as this can help you to devote yourself to the things that matter most to you. However, it is also important to ensure that you are mentally prepared for the challenges ahead.

It might be helpful to take some time to reflect on your strengths and interests. In the past, you may have focused more on studying and exams, without thinking deeply about what you are really good at and what you like. Now that you are at the point of graduation and job hunting, you can give yourself some time to get to know yourself better. It could be beneficial to review the areas in which you have been successful and immersed yourself in the past, as well as the areas in which you are better than others.

You might find it helpful to take some personality tests to gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

It may be helpful to create a career plan based on your understanding of yourself and your strengths. You can then consider the corresponding career options and learn more about the specific situation in related fields. This can help you develop a clearer understanding of what you need to learn and prepare for. If you feel it would be beneficial, you can also seek guidance from a professional career planning teacher.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to consider making a plan. Once you have selected an area you would like to try, you might find it helpful to make a rough plan that clarifies your current situation and the state you would like to achieve within a certain period of time. You could set different milestones in between. Perhaps you could make a list of what you can do, and then start with what you can do with a bit of effort, gradually improving your abilities.

It is important to have perseverance.

It seems that you have a good understanding of your actions and inner thoughts. You have tried many things, but perhaps you haven't fully committed to any of them. It can be challenging to take action without a clear goal in mind. It's understandable that you might be afraid of failure. These beliefs about yourself and your capabilities can prevent you from fully committing to a direction when you find one, because you might think, "I don't have to succeed. Maybe this isn't what I want." Every field has its own set of advantages and disadvantages. If we approach things with these beliefs, it's easy to focus on the challenges and overlook the opportunities.

It may be helpful to consider adjusting your mindset when persevering in a particular activity. Focusing on the aspects that bring you a good experience and trying your best to overcome the less desirable aspects could be beneficial. It's also important to remember that, after choosing an activity, it's not always necessary to think about whether it is the ultimate direction of your life. There are often many unknown factors involved, and even if you firmly believe it is your direction now, you may find it doesn't suit you after a few years. It's natural to experience uncertainty and unknowns in life.

It might be helpful to make a plan. Once you've selected an area you'd like to try, you could make a rough plan that clarifies your current situation and the state you'd like to achieve within a certain period of time. You could set different milestones in between. It might be beneficial to make a list of what you can do, and then start with what you can do with a bit of effort, gradually improving your abilities.

It can be helpful to set yourself a reward after achieving a milestone, such as going out for a walk or buying something you really want, to boost your self-confidence and sense of achievement. If you don't complete something as planned, it's important not to be too hard on yourself. It's understandable that it's challenging to get things done overnight, but it can be beneficial to do something that's good for you but that you've always been resistant to doing.

Regarding self-confidence:

In the face of long-term setbacks and frustrations, it is understandable that self-confidence may be affected. It is also easy to see how one might blame themselves for everything, especially when parents have also expressed disappointment in you. These are all common emotional and psychological states when facing setbacks. To improve self-confidence, it may be helpful to consider changing your perception and taking action.

It may be helpful to view the past in a more objective manner and avoid self-attack. The past is something that has already happened and cannot be changed. What we can do is accept what has happened in the past, analyze it from all aspects, learn to reconcile with ourselves, accept ourselves, and refuse to belittle ourselves. It may also be beneficial to view your own efforts and attempts, as well as mistakes and faults, in a more constructive light. Learning from experience and drawing lessons from it can be a valuable approach.

Consider taking the first step by finding something you are interested in and enjoy. You might even start with a small task. It's okay to stop overthinking and over-hesitating. It's better to take action once than to think about it a million times. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just get started.

Perhaps it would be helpful to compare only a little progress from yesterday's self, and to avoid comparing yourself with others.

It might be helpful to consider your own needs and learn to love yourself. If you find yourself doubting yourself, not approving of yourself, and afraid of failure, you might benefit from taking a moment to calm down and think about these emotions. This could help you to identify what your heart truly needs. For instance, you might realize that you crave care and support. Once you've identified these inner emotional needs, you could explore ways to meet them. This could involve building a closer relationship with parents or friends.

Additionally, self-doubt can be viewed as a form of self-rejection. It is possible to learn to love oneself more, to remind oneself in everyday moments to pay attention to the good things one does, and to accept one's imperfections. If necessary, one can find relevant audio courses to practice in the mirror.

I would like to suggest that the original poster consider loving and accepting herself more.

Hello, question asker! I can feel your inner confusion, anxiety, and self-blame from your description, but I'm here to help!

You're on the brink of graduation, and it's an amazing time! You've got this! You've got a clear goal in mind, and you're ready to take on the world. You're eager to seize every opportunity and make the most of this chance. You're feeling confident and excited.

Your parents were very disappointed in you, and you also feel remorse and guilt, thinking that you have let them down and that you have no confidence in yourself. But you can turn this around!

It's so great that you care so much about your parents' feelings! That's probably the root of the problem.

You've been so focused on meeting your parents' expectations that you've neglected your own true thoughts and feelings. This means you don't know yourself at all, and you don't know what you really want. But there's so much potential for growth and discovery!

This is the key to finding your way again!

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I am a person who thrives on having a firmly believed goal to work towards. I am not afraid of trying new things, even if they don't work out. I am not afraid of failure. I am not severely socially anxious. I am not one to shy away from a challenge. I have been slacking for a long time, but I am ready to get back to it!

You can try to be aware of who set your goals in the past. It's an exciting exercise to think about who it was! Was it your parents, or was it you?

If your parents set your goals for you, what was the situation like and how did you feel if you didn't achieve your goals? It's great you're asking these questions! It shows you're ready to take control of your life. So, tell me, what was the situation like? And how did you feel if you didn't achieve your goals?

Maybe your parents will be disappointed or even angry, and you're afraid of seeing their disappointed expressions and accusations.

On the one hand, perhaps because you care too much about your parents' feelings and are used to listening to them, you rarely have the opportunity to make choices on your own or do the things you like.

This makes you very indecisive, not knowing what you like, and not good at making choices for yourself. But there's no need to worry! You can easily overcome this challenge.

On the other hand, if you listen to your parents, but can't do it well enough to satisfy them, you'll have the chance to prove yourself to them!

This makes you feel worthless and incapable of doing anything well, and you feel inferior and self-blame. But you can change all that!

Parents are not the standard answer to your life. You are the star of your own show! You get to decide how to choose.

So, start with the little things, make your own decisions, find your own feelings, and be your own master!

☻️Everyone makes mistakes! And that's totally okay! The key is how you view them.

You feel that after graduation, there is no time to hesitate and make mistakes. You are afraid of failure, but you're also excited to tackle new challenges head-on and avoid problems.

It's great that you're so demanding of yourself and so afraid of making mistakes!

Maybe you think that making a mistake means you've failed, that you're incapable and incompetent, and that you've let people down.

If you don't start, you'll never make a single mistake! If you don't do anything, you'll never fail! You'll never have to face that inner sense of failure, nor the self-blame and guilt that comes from seeing your parents' disappointment in you.

If you change your perspective, you'll see that mistakes are the surprises and gifts that life brings us!

On the one hand, after graduation, you can of course spend more time trying and exploring your preferences and areas of expertise.

Guess what! Everyone in the world makes mistakes. It is inevitable to make mistakes, and no one can be perfect.

On the other hand, it is precisely making mistakes that allows us to see our own shortcomings and gives us the amazing opportunity to improve and make up for them! This allows us to become a better and more perfect version of ourselves.

Every mistake is an opportunity to become stronger and more powerful!

☻️ Give yourself the freedom to let go of your parents' expectations and embrace the exciting opportunity to separate the issues for yourself!

You are the master of your life! You get to decide how to live it.

Your parents are not the be-all and end-all of your life. You don't have to give up control of your life to meet their expectations.

You and your parents both have your own incredible life journey to embark on!

Parents have expectations of you, and that is a subject that parents need to face and accept. The good news is that by letting go of your parents' expectations, you can go into battle unburdened, more relaxed, more at ease, and clearer about what you really want. This is your chance to gain a life where you call the shots!

Wishing you the very best!

Hello, host!

It's not just you. Lots of people are confused about what to do with their lives.

Most people like this don't know what they want and don't know what they don't want either.

At the end of the day, life is about making choices and then living with the consequences.

First, you've got to have confidence in yourself and give yourself a boost with some positive suggestions.

If you feel negative emotions, you'll end up in that situation.

So don't doubt yourself. Believe in your abilities and in your ability to succeed.

Regarding the issue of not having the courage to take the initiative:

You can start with small things. If you succeed, you'll feel a bit of a sense of accomplishment, and then you can move on to the next level.

If you don't give it a go, if you just keep on being afraid and holding back, without taking any practical action, you won't get anywhere.

It's also about direction and preparation.

Nothing happens until everything is ready. Once you've set a goal for the general direction of the future,

Start with small tasks and complete one thing every day. As you do, you'll gain clarity on your next steps.

But rather than just thinking about it, you need to accumulate enough inspiration so that it comes naturally. You won't gain any experience just by thinking about it.

Many of us are big thinkers but small doers.

Luckily, after recognizing this weakness in myself, I took some time to think it through.

Once you've made up your mind about what you really want, it's time to take action.

As for whether the result is good or bad, just let it be.

It doesn't mean just sitting back and letting things happen.

It's more about having the right mindset, not getting too attached to the end result, and just doing your best.

We might spend our whole lives looking for our talents. Some people may find them early on.

And some people find it in their middle age. It doesn't matter when we find it.

We can enjoy the hard work and find meaning in it.

Do what you can do, live your value, and embrace your unique qualities!

You don't have to be exactly like everyone else!

Be brave and find your strengths, and believe you can do it!

I'm sending warm regards to you, June, and to the world at large!