About to graduate, shy and anxious, my inner self is the exact opposite of my outward appearance. What should I do?

What is the questioner afraid of or anxious about? It seems like they're unsure of how to talk to their leader.

Tell me, are you still worried that if you leave this job, you will lose it? Or are you afraid of going back to work on your graduation project?

Or are you afraid that you will only be able to live in a "closed" state after returning to school?

You say that your inner and outer selves are just the opposite of each other. Please clarify what you mean by "just the opposite."

"I've just been sent on a business trip, and I need to communicate this kind of thing to the leadership here. It seems that the questioner is worried that after he leaves his job, no one will immediately take over his work, and that his work will be lost because of your circumstances, which is the last thing he wants to see. This is for the sake of the unit and the work.

"In fact, maybe as soon as I finished talking about this, the leader over there found someone to replace me." The questioner is clearly worried that "someone will immediately take over his or her job." This could result in the questioner losing his or her job, or perhaps admitting that "he or she is not as irreplaceable as he or she thinks."

This is your perspective and your thinking.

The questioner's worries and anxieties are likely caused by something inside that they cannot bring to the table. This thing the questioner wants, but is afraid of being judged if it is revealed, so they are trying to win in disguise by "working very hard" and at the cost of not being able to complete the graduation project.

Not choosing is also a choice, so the questioner still has to make some trade-offs. If you can't make a decision, you can and should express your conflicting thoughts directly to your leader or colleagues. They will give you suggestions for your reference.

This step can't be avoided. Let's solve it now. Procrastinating is a waste of your energy!

I am certain that the parts of my reply that help you will be of benefit to you. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, your answerer. From your description, it's clear you're facing an exciting challenge: balancing your internship with the graduation design. You're aware of the importance of the graduation design, and you're eager to make the most of your current internship opportunity. You're also looking for ways to communicate with your leader effectively, which is a great step forward.

Now, let's dive in and analyze the root cause of this situation!

1. The questioner is so excited about the graduation design that he's a little overwhelmed. He's looking forward to the future and is a bit nervous about the present, but he's confident that everything will work out.

It's true that taking each step steadily at every stage of life is the best way to build a stable and beautiful future. For students like the questioner, the main task is to study hard and get excellent grades. This will open doors to better companies and better positions in the future. The questioner is also thinking about the internship, which is a great way to gain experience and stand out from the crowd.

In an exclusive interview with the media, Wang Luodan revealed some exciting news! Every graduate of the Beijing Film Academy will have the incredible opportunity to participate in and complete a graduation drama. This drama will have a significant impact on their graduation and future acting career. "Struggle" was her graduation drama. During this period, she received many scripts but rejected them all because she felt that acting her graduation drama well would be more conducive to her future acting career and also help her graduate with honors. And it turned out that her choice was spot on! She became famous overnight in "Struggle" and became one of the four young actresses in the hearts of the people. Wang Luodan's subsequent acting career is a shining example of her careful choices. The roles she has taken on and the roles she has played are all very weighty. She has always pursued the quality of her work rather than just the quantity. Since her debut in the entertainment industry, she has had very few scandals.

So don't worry about the future! Live each day to the fullest, take each step carefully, and good opportunities will naturally come your way.

2. The question owner is eager to take on new challenges and has a lot of ideas, but could benefit from some guidance on how to coordinate them all.

Gu Ailing is a great example of an exceptionally talented person. She's a popular athlete who can participate in many sports events at the same time and win medals in many of them! She's truly a rare talent, but such people are in the minority. On top of that, she has very good family genes and also has family members to help and guide her on how to coordinate various exercises.

However, from the questioner's description, it seems that the questioner is facing some challenges at work, and the leader is providing guidance and support. The questioner is eager to contribute to the team's success and is motivated to overcome these challenges. Coupled with the graduation design, the questioner feels a sense of urgency and excitement to deliver results. The questioner is open to communicating with the leader to find solutions and is confident in their ability to succeed.

This incident is a great opportunity for the questioner to reflect on how the unit leader is handling the pressure of the academic workload. It seems that the leader is pushing the questioner to take on important work and results, and that if he fails, he will find someone to replace him. This shows that the questioner's work environment is not very friendly, and that the leader could benefit from some guidance on how to manage the team more effectively. Is it worth it for the questioner to affect his graduation for such work? Absolutely not! The questioner should devote himself wholeheartedly to his studies, obtain results and certificates, and change to a better work environment in the future.

3. The questioner has the opportunity to develop a sense of security and independence.

From the questioner's dependence on the current environment, it can be seen that the questioner has a deep sense of insecurity, worrying about losing their current job and having slim chances for the future. Sometimes, even in a bad environment, the questioner is unable to stop relying on others. This is an excellent opportunity for the questioner to become more independent and stronger! It's also a chance for them to fight for better employment opportunities.

We're thrilled to offer the following suggestions to the questioner in the hope that they will be helpful!

1. Take your analytical and judgmental abilities to the next level so you can make the right decisions!

It is highly recommended that the questioner be able to correctly identify various factors and balance the pros and cons in his or her future studies and work. This will enable him or her to avoid many detours and steadily reach the shore of success!

2. Take your coordination and communication skills to the next level!

If the questioner wants to take care of several things at the same time, it is recommended that the questioner have a thorough understanding of several things and be able to form their own unique way of thinking and methods of problem solving about their abilities and how to coordinate these things well. This will help them avoid getting themselves into chaos and losing control, and it will ensure that their emotions don't collapse along with them. They can truly be able to plan several things at the same time!

I'm sure the questioner will be able to calm down and make an informed decision and coordinate as soon as possible. Then they'll have time to do their graduation project really well!

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From the story you just shared with us, it seems that our recent anxiety/how-to-reduce-emotional-distress-at-work-4642.html" target="_blank">emotional distress may be mainly anxiety. Is that something you've considered?

Anxiety can be a positive emotion. In ancient times, it was because of anxiety that people knew they could store as much food as possible in the fall to get through the winter. So people who were anxious survived in the end through natural selection.

Anxiety can be a useful emotion that helps us survive.

As you mentioned, I'm feeling a bit anxious about what might happen if I ask my boss for time off and he decides to bring in someone else to fill my role. Do you think there might be a positive side to anxiety?

I believe that your anxiety may have helped you get the position. It seems that anxiety can still be useful in certain situations.

Secondly, anxiety is directional. It is focused on the future. As you mentioned earlier, I am concerned that if I take leave, my boss may find someone else to do my work, which could potentially lead to losing my job. Has this occurred?

I believe the answer may be negative. It seems that anxiety points to the future.

Thirdly, anxiety is a form of uncertainty because it points to the future and has not yet occurred. It is not certain that if you take leave, your boss will definitely find someone to replace you.

This is still uncertain. It has not yet occurred. Rather than dwelling on an unresolved issue in the future, it would be more constructive to focus on the present and consider two possible courses of action.

I believe the first aspect is to communicate reasonably with the leader. On the other hand, I wonder if it might be helpful to communicate with the teacher to see if there's a way I can complete the graduation thesis and graduation defense without returning to school.

I would like to suggest that we consider this here and now.

I hope this is helpful. I wish you all the best in the world.