Absorbing emotions, lacking self-awareness, living like a fragmented personality, what should a conflicted person do?

Hello, question asker!

I admire your keen awareness. From what you've shared, I get the sense that your emotional center is a bit of a blank slate. A blank emotional center can absorb and amplify the emotions around it, and it's easily influenced by other people's needs, moods, and feelings. The good news is that there's a way to find happiness even with a blank emotional center! It's all about recognizing that the emotions you feel and express don't completely belong to you. As long as you don't equate those emotions with who you are, you can release them and protect yourself.

The OP can learn about the emotional center in the human figure from the internet. From a psychological point of view, this type of person has particularly well-developed mirror neurons in the brain, which is really fascinating!

[Mirror neurons]

In his lovely book, The Ladder to Heaven, the wonderful child psychiatrist Winnicott mentioned that our amazing human brains have a special nervous system that is dedicated to understanding and responding to the social signals of others. This group of nerve cells, called "mirror neurons," inspired our primitive ancestors to gradually break away from apes.

It's a pretty amazing thing, actually. It allows us to reflect the actions of others, which helps us move from simple imitation to more complex imitation. This gradually helps us develop language, music, art, the use of tools, and so on. It also lets us transmit and understand the actions and intentions of others, as well as their social significance and emotions.

People with well-developed mirror neurons have two wonderful characteristics: stronger language skills (as can be seen from the delicate description of the questioner) and stronger empathy. The tear points of this type of person are also lower, which is great!

My emotional center has a color of its own. I'm the one who controls emotions in a group, though. I can get carried away with optimism and get pretty frustrated, too. I can see how that affects the people around me. But I'm also a person with particularly well-developed mirror neurons. I have a strong language ability, and my ability to empathize developed further only after I started learning to be a psychological listener.

I feel so lucky to have this talent, which is naturally born as the chosen one to heal psychological trauma. So, I really recommend that the questioner gets in touch with psychology as soon as possible, whether it is learning or receiving psychological counseling. Both are processes of realizing the blooming of talent through healing trauma.

It seems that high sensitivity and low self-esteem are almost the standard for a pleasing personality, as can be seen from the questioner's description. I really hope that the questioner can go to a psychological counseling room as soon as possible. I'm sure that with a long-term and stable counseling relationship, they'll gradually establish a stable sense of self, no longer be affected by other people's emotions, skillfully use their talents to help more people, and achieve self-realization.

Hi there! I'm Zhang Huili, a psychological counselor. I really hope my answer can help you. If you find it useful, please give me a big thumbs-up!

Good day, my name is Zeyu.

In the questioner's description, I noted the following: "I feel like it's challenging to live my true self. I'm like a piece of someone else's personality." It's challenging to live your true self. Have you considered what your true self might be like?

"Often I feel that I can only temporarily find myself by staying away from other people." After staying away from other people, the questioner temporarily finds himself. We should therefore attempt to identify a method of accessing the true self through the description provided by the questioner.

The questioner indicated that you are highly attuned to the emotions of others and may even absorb them. You feel that you cannot be true to yourself when you are with others, and that people wear masks. What can we do in this situation?

The first step is to maintain self-awareness when interacting with others. This entails paying attention to one's thoughts and actions, as well as being mindful of one's attitude towards the other person. This awareness can help distinguish between individual perspectives. Regarding emotional awareness, it is possible to gain insight by improving one's awareness of the body. When emotions fluctuate, there are noticeable changes in breathing, heartbeat, and even body language. By being aware of these changes, it is possible to connect with one's true self.

Regarding the question of people wearing masks, it is important to note that personality masks exist to a greater or lesser extent in each of us. This includes the emotional problems just mentioned by the questioner. It is essential to understand that everyone has a mask and everyone also has emotions. Therefore, the questioner does not need to focus on this aspect unduly.

The fear of showing one's true self to others implies a sense of self-protection and, in some cases, includes feelings of inferiority or avoidance. In reality, these issues can be overcome, but the key is whether we are willing to show others our imperfect or flawed side. When we cannot accept this openly, we naturally lack the courage to be true to ourselves. The courage to change lies in our willingness to change and our desire to leave the comfort zone.

The lack of "boundaries" and the various problems mentioned by the questioner indicate a need for the questioner to connect with others while also desiring acceptance and visibility. The current question from the questioner presents an opportunity for change. Through this question, I see the questioner's determination and courage to change. Then, let me briefly outline the next steps.

First, we must complete the aforementioned questions and attempt to ascertain the answers. Second, we must develop self-awareness to enhance our ability to regulate our own behavior. I recommend that the questioner practice mindfulness meditation and breathing exercises, which can facilitate self-awareness.

The final and most challenging aspect is self-acceptance, which enables individuals to be authentic and true to themselves. This necessitates the ability to accept negative occurrences and then adapt to change what is within one's control while accepting what is beyond one's control.

I hope this response will prove useful to the questioner, and that the questioner will be able to identify a direction and goal for change, and achieve transformation and growth.

Hello, my name is LiY Li.

"I feel like I'm an emotional sponge, sensitive to the emotions of others and even able to absorb them." This is a wonderful quality, but it can also cause the questioner to be hurt.

We suggest that you consider learning about psychology and putting your natural talents to good use helping others. You might say that you were blessed by the gods with the ability to help others, which could lead to a promising career in the field of psychology.

From what you've shared, it seems that you care deeply about what others think and are influenced by their actions. It seems that you often feel unhappy. However, I am very happy that you have a strong awareness. Your high empathy can be a double-edged sword. Fortunately, you noticed in time and sought help.

"I tend to feel most emotions when I'm around other people, and I rarely have emotions when I'm alone. I seem to lack a sense of boundaries and tend to speculate about the motives of others."

It might be helpful to revisit your experiences, starting with your childhood experiences and exploring them. What happened to you? Perhaps it started when you couldn't express your dissatisfaction as a child. You may have only seen the other person's emotions but ignored your own emotional problems, and kept repressing your emotions. Over time, you might have lost touch with your own emotional feelings, and taken the other person's emotions as your own.

It seems that you have accepted the other person's emotions wholeheartedly. I can't begin to imagine how you have managed to survive with so many emotions.

The questioner may wish to consider speaking with a counselor to help release any emotions that are causing distress. This could be emotions that belong to someone else or emotions that the questioner is experiencing. It might also be helpful to speak with a psychiatrist, if necessary, to assess the questioner's physical condition and explore the possibility of medication.

If I might make a suggestion, what we can do now is:

1. You might find it helpful to learn a little bit about psychology. There are many books on the subject that could help you to find ways to relieve your emotional problems.

You might also consider participating in some psychological salon activities, such as book reading and sharing sessions, film interpretation, group experience simulations, and so on. These are often led and organized by professional teachers, and they may help you to identify and understand your own feelings in a constructive way.

2. It might be helpful to consider limiting your time with people who tend to bring you negative energy. Given your high empathy, it can be challenging to regulate and transform your emotions, so it might be beneficial to minimize your exposure to these individuals, which could help reduce some of the harm they may cause.

It may be beneficial to spend more time with people who have a strong positive energy. It is thought that positive energy can help to reduce bad emotions, whether they are from the other person or yourself, which could be beneficial for physical and mental health.

3. Consider keeping a mood diary. You might find it helpful to organize and write in a mood diary every day. It could be beneficial to think about identifying emotions and see which ones are your own and which are others'.

If it is your own emotion, it may be helpful to reflect on what happened at the time it arose. What were your thoughts at the time that led to this feeling?

It may be helpful to remember these feelings. If it is someone else's emotion, it could be beneficial to consider what happened to the other person at that time.

Could you please tell me what you thought and how you felt afterwards?

Take your time to identify whose emotions they really are. If they are your own, try to look for these feelings many times, whether good or bad, and see if you can find them first. Then you can slowly distinguish your own emotions.

I hope that what I have to share can be of some help to the original poster. My name is LiY Li, and I would like to express my love for the world.

Hello.

I am Kelly Shui from Mind Explorer.

You have some confusion around the following issues. We see that you are willing to seek help when you encounter problems, so we have taken the first step. Let's address your desire to change.

Let's be real, nobody is perfect.

I'm going to make a bold assumption.

1: Absorbing emotions

This is a problem that friends often tell me about.

It's easy to be affected by the negative emotions of others and to become plagued by all kinds of anxieties and worries. This leads to a poor state of mind and affects one's work or study efficiency, preventing one from getting things done.

I am certain that this is a common problem that many friends encounter.

In today's digital world, external factors abound. Without a resilient heart, it's all too easy for our state to be affected.

Here's my advice:

1: When you see a problem, face it head on. If you feel the same way, remind yourself, "Am I focusing on other people again? Is this kind of attention meaningful?"

What are the benefits? I need to understand why his mood affects me.

I will identify these feelings and their common roots in my past experiences.

This is awareness.

2: Train yourself consciously.

There will always be times when we are in a low mood and not in a good state.

For example, we will undoubtedly feel frustrated when someone else, a parent or a teacher, belittles, criticizes, or rejects our efforts, such as when we are drawing, studying, or working very hard.

When you see others having these emotions, it will trigger your past experiences.

3: It could also be anxiety, with the mind filled with all kinds of distracting thoughts. You can't concentrate, so you pay attention to what's going on outside or to the emotions of others. The more you pay attention, the more anxious you become.

It could also be boredom or a lack of interest in anything.

Read some books you like. Enjoy a life of focus.

If these feelings have persisted for more than two months, you should visit a regular hospital to rule out depression.

Speak to a professional counselor.

4: "Growing in relationships" allows us to explore ourselves in relationships. There's no doubt that behind emotional sensitivity is a need to see one's own emotions.

Other people are mirrors.

2: Lack of self, living like a personality fragment

Each of us has different roles. When you are with other people, you are not yourself—you are someone else.

You are afraid to show your true self to others.

Think back and ask yourself if you've been unable to show your true self since childhood.

Some parents are strict, and when their children are young, they try to please them. It's human instinct. They hide their true character.

The school of society teaches us to be good children.

We do the same thing at work. Interpersonal interactions are wearing some kind of mask, and it's clear that we need to be confident in ourselves based on our own uniqueness.

You do the same.

This is called projective identification.

2: Lack of self. If you want spiritual freedom, you must understand the real you. Be confident in yourself based on your own uniqueness.

Read "The Courage to Be Disliked."

3: We all learn about boundaries.

Boundaries make us think about who we are and which emotions belong to other people.

If you want to distance yourself from people who make you feel a certain way, you have the freedom to do so. You can choose to reject people like that.

Boundaries are essential for understanding our own and others' limits.

4: Read the book "High Sensitivity is a Gift." You rarely feel emotions when you are alone. This kind of relationship is a relationship with yourself. It makes you feel comfortable and nourished.

You must be true to yourself. This means you no longer blindly follow others. Instead, you dive into your inner self and do the things you really like, not what you think you like. You are no longer constrained by worldly conventions.

Reject ineffective socializing.

You must also give up some illusions and expectations, allow others to be different from you, and accept the real you. This is how you find a new and unique place in the world for yourself.

The process of finding oneself can be lonely and empty for a while. This is because it is a process of reconnecting with oneself, of retrieving that part of oneself that one has avoided and denied, and of touching one's innermost self when one is alone.

Explore yourself.

Our lives are a process of constant self-improvement and self-discovery.

The first stage is when you are not yet aware of the differences between yourself and others. You think you are one of the mainstream population.

The second stage is to become aware of the differences between yourself and others.

Once we enter adolescence, we typically begin exploring ourselves. We pay attention to others and ourselves in solitude while reading.

The third stage is about suffering and struggling with contradictions. You construct a new life story about yourself, and you do it in a state of contradiction and struggle. You don't know whether to embrace yourself or go out into society.

I have experienced this period myself and I chose to be myself.

Stage 4: We will seek answers to our questions, for example by studying or talking to a counselor. The counselor helps us see a different side of ourselves, and as we grow, we will also establish new connections with the world.

Once you've grown up, you start thinking about your new self, how you should connect with the world, and how to integrate into the world with a new you.

The fifth stage is about returning to the source. Being yourself is the ideal state, and you are driven by a sense of mission that is in line with your talents.

For example, we should be ourselves and do what we love, tapping into our potential.

Your life will feel meaningful.

We all go through this in the process of growing up.

If you're indifferent or even uncaring towards others, it's a sign that you have a passionate heart.

We must decide who to care about: ourselves or others? We cannot rely on others to care about us.

Choose to love yourself. Know yourself and others. When you do, you'll find true soulmates—friends who share your values and outlook on life.

Relationships are mutual. We cause trouble for others and friends so we can understand who our true friends are.

Love yourself. It's the first step to growth, and we grow together. Accept who you are, right now.

Best wishes!

I am a questioner who is acutely aware of my own identity but lacks the capacity to resolve the issue at hand.

In light of your message, I am compelled to acknowledge the profound emotional distress you have endured, which has led to a nuanced self-examination. As this introspection intensifies, it is likely that feelings of powerlessness, helplessness, and despair will also intensify. It may be beneficial, at this juncture, to temporarily suspend our rapid cognitive processes and adopt a different perspective on our lives.

One may attempt to create a list of one's emotions and basic needs. For instance, one might list preferred foods, desired flavors, and experiences such as sports or crafts. One might also list desired destinations. For basic needs such as eating, drinking, and sleeping, one should record these and set aside time, such as once a week, to fulfill these needs. This process helps individuals establish a strong connection with their current lives. By fulfilling basic needs, individuals can gain practical experience and a sense of self-love.

In response to your inquiry, you have indicated that your emotional state is susceptible to external influence, that the majority of your emotional experiences are shaped by the actions and interactions of others, and that these experiences are often fragmented and difficult to integrate. I can relate to these feelings you describe. I have previously experienced similar emotional states and have felt a sense of powerlessness, helplessness, and fear, worrying that I would remain in this state indefinitely. Even now, I have not fully recovered from this emotional state. Based on my personal experience, I would like to offer you some advice and hope that it can provide you with some perspective.

First and foremost, it is important to recognize that the emotions we experience are a result of our own projections. Our minds are filled with a multitude of scripts that dictate our emotional responses and interactions. To illustrate, I once held the belief that I would never meet someone who truly loved me. This conviction was repeatedly validated as I encountered numerous instances where my expectations were not met. Similarly, I also held the belief that I did not deserve a partner who was genuinely kind and caring towards me. This belief shaped my experiences and interactions with romantic partners, leading to a significant conflict and the subsequent verification of this belief.

From my own experience, it seems reasonable to suggest that a greater focus on the self may be beneficial, accompanied by a reduction in the importance attached to the opinions of others.

In the event of becoming emotionally entangled, it is possible to disengage from the situation by engaging in either written or verbal self-communication. The following steps may be employed:

1. The following was observed:

2. I became aware of the fact that I was experiencing these emotions.

3. It became evident that these thoughts were occupying my mind:

4. It was observed that at the time, the body also exhibited these reactions:

5. These experiences are referred to as "mind and body experiences."

This method will facilitate more rapid recognition of the phenomenon in question upon its subsequent occurrence.

6. It should be noted that these inner experiences are a typical physiological response to external stimuli.

Such experiences arise naturally, remain present, and then dissipate.

At this juncture, it is appropriate to express gratitude to the brain and body for their provision of this information and these experiences.

It is recommended that the subject be permitted to remain for a period of time with an attitude of acceptance. Following this, the subject should resume engagement with the present.

The act of recording one's emotions in this manner serves to create a distance between the self and the emotions in question. Persistence in this endeavor will reveal patterns in the self, expectations of others, and one's own desires. During the process of maturation, the needs of the self were either unmet or were not permitted expression. In order to mitigate the pain associated with these unmet needs, the self chose to suppress, avoid, and isolate, gradually concealing the true nature of these needs. However, this aspect of the self will persist in seeking outward expression through the unconscious.

The manner in which others interact with us, evaluate us, and whether we are perceived and loved unconditionally by others. This aspect of our experience may have originated in early childhood, when we were neglected by our mothers, who may have provided an emotionally abusive parenting style, which may have led us to believe that we are undeserving of love and that we are inherently flawed.

Our survival was contingent upon our acute sensitivity, which enabled us to survive. However, the very skills that benefited us in our early years now result in greater distress.

Such a change may be necessary when the time comes for us to alter our behavior.

It is recommended that the individual begin the process of self-love and self-care. This is an action in itself. Now that the individual is an adult, they can serve as their own parent and meet their own expectations. The most effective way to love oneself is to meet one's instinctive needs.

There is no more effective method of facilitating self-awareness and self-care.

It is also recommended that a professional counselor be sought to provide guidance and support during this challenging period. While you have a profound understanding of yourself, if we merely identify problems without the capacity to heal and integrate, the more profound the awareness, the more distressing the experience may be.

The counselor provides a safe and supportive environment, allowing individuals to gradually reveal their repressed difficulties in a non-judgmental setting. This process, while challenging and potentially painful, is beneficial in facilitating healing and growth. I recall numerous sessions during which I experienced prolonged periods of crying in front of my counselor. I have a multitude of grievances and emotions to process. It was a cathartic experience, akin to shedding skin, and I have emerged from it as a transformed individual.

Furthermore, I recommend the following resources: "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist," "Life Script," and "Will a Child Who Has Grown Up Bruised and Scratched Ever Be Normal Again?" It is my hope that these materials will provide you with supportive and healing information before you decide to start counseling.

In conclusion, it is important to note that trauma does not only result in pain; it also offers the potential for discovering hitherto untapped resources within the pain itself. Best regards,

Hello, host! I'm smiling.

After reading your description, I have a better understanding of the question you want to ask, so I'll give you a hug in four dimensions.

From what you've said, it seems like you're currently processing how you've interacted with yourself in the past and present in interpersonal situations.

You say you absorb other people's emotions and lack self-awareness, living like a personality fragment. This also shows that you're suppressing some of your current feelings and thoughts about yourself, which is why you feel like you lack self-awareness.

Right now, you tend to prioritize the feelings and thoughts of others over your own. This can make it feel like you're living as a kind of accessory to others, rather than focusing on your own needs.

In this regard, I have also put together a few tips to help you deal with the current situation better. I hope they'll be useful for you.

(1) At the end of the day, your feelings and thoughts are the most important. That is to say, you should always put your thoughts and feelings first, not the feelings and thoughts of others.

(2) It's important to express your feelings and thoughts more often because you are also an independent individual. Don't repress your true thoughts and feelings too much. Know that your thoughts and feelings are also very important.

(3) Try to set clear boundaries and don't overthink why others do what they do. It's not your concern. Your job is to focus on your own work and not worry about what others are up to.

(4) You can focus more on yourself than on others because you don't need anyone else to be yourself.

(5) I suggest the host read a book called "The Courage to Be Disliked." I think it will help you understand your own psychology and behavior better.

I just wanted to say that I love you and the world loves you too!

Wishing you the best!

I need to know how to stop absorbing other people's emotions, become more self-aware, and live as my own person.

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I am an emotional sponge, sensitive to the emotions of others and even able to absorb them. When I'm with other people, I am not myself; I am someone else. I am not afraid to show my true self to others.

I believe that interactions between people are all wearing some kind of mask, and I do the same. I often can't tell who I am and which emotions belong to others.

I choose to avoid people who make me feel emotional. I experience most of my emotions from other people, and I rarely feel emotions when I'm alone. I have a tendency to lack a sense of boundaries and over-speculate about the motives of others.

I am a collection of other people's personalities. I lack a strong sense of self when I do something or say something. I overinterpret other people's words and am easily influenced by others.

I am a collection of other people's personalities. I am like a fragment of someone else's personality. I often feel that I can only find myself temporarily by staying away from other people.

I don't have emotions. Sometimes I get so caught up in my own world that I become indifferent or even uncaring towards others. I want to connect with others, but I'm not afraid of causing trouble. I'm a contradictory person. I feel like a container, holding other people's things.

Hello, question asker!

From the questioner's words, I can tell that they are easily sensitive to the emotions of others. I was very sensitive too when I was in school!

Whenever classmates whisper together, I know they're talking about me! I'm overly concerned about other people's feelings and thoughts, and because I care, I get nervous and panic.

There are many reasons for this situation. I will now present my analysis and suggestions.

1. You may often be rejected and criticized, so you are afraid of negative emotions from the outside world. You are also worried that other people's unhappiness is caused by your own inadequacies. Don't brood over these concerns. Instead, ask in a joking tone. The gap between what you think and reality may be a bit far.

2. If you lack confidence and fear being ridiculed, you will behave cautiously in public. If others do something that makes you uncomfortable, you will immediately assume there is something wrong with you. I recall reading a short story: A self-conscious girl kept her head down when walking on the street. One day, she saw a beautiful hairpin in a shop and bought it to wear in her hair. She walked happily on the street, and everyone praised her for being very beautiful. However, when she passed by a glass window, she noticed that the hairpin had fallen off her head.

- Quoted from "Confident Beauty." This story makes it clear that we must have confidence in ourselves. There's no doubt about it: confidence makes us more beautiful.

3. Don't be overly concerned about what others think. In fact, we may not be as concerned as we think we are in the eyes of others.

I remember once I went to school wearing my clothes inside out, and I noticed it on the way to class. I felt embarrassed, but I didn't care. I waited until the end of the school day and slunk away. The next day, I went to school and asked my classmates, and I realized that they hadn't even noticed.

You can learn to ignore emotions from the outside world. There is no need to overinterpret them. Over time, you will care less.

4. Find something you like to do. Immersion will calm your chaotic emotions. When you are alone without outside distractions, reflect on the problems of getting along with the people around you and how to adjust.

5. I highly recommend that you learn something new and become an expert in something. Expertise will boost your confidence and build a strong inner core, so that you will no longer be sensitive and suffer from anxiety.

Best regards!

Topic author:

Upon review of the question, it appears to be a rather complex matter.

It is reasonable to conclude that the subject's normal life has been significantly impacted by a series of unfavorable emotional experiences in interpersonal relationships.

I will endeavor to analyze and describe it as follows:

1. Individuals lacking a sense of boundaries may overinterpret the actions and words of others.

Those lacking a sense of boundaries are psychologically dependent on others and seek external validation.

Has a strong desire to share and will overinterpret and rely on other people's input to support their own decisions.

As the questioner notes, the subject is highly attuned to others' emotions and can even absorb them.

"Over-interpreting other people's words and being easily influenced by others."

2. Those with borderline personality tend to display emotional instability.

Individuals with borderline personality tendencies are driven to seek care and reliance.

They exhibit a high degree of variability in their interactions and emotional states.

One moment they feel they cannot live without the other person, the next they feel they must terminate the relationship.

As the questioner describes, "I feel like I'm a collection of other people's personalities. I lack a strong sense of self-identity when making decisions or communicating. I tend to overinterpret the words of others and am easily influenced by external factors."

"When I'm in the presence of others, I often feel as though I'm not being my true self."

"I seek to distance myself from individuals who evoke strong emotional responses. The majority of my emotional experiences originate from external sources, and I seldom experience such sensations when isolated."

3. Identity Disorder with Borderline Personality Tendencies

Individuals with borderline personality tendencies often exhibit a lack of clarity in their self-image, purpose, and goals, as well as an inability to identify with a consistent sense of self over time.

When they are confident, they believe they can accomplish any task. However, when they feel inferior, they doubt their abilities and experience significant personality fluctuations.

As the questioner describes, "I feel like I have no emotions. Sometimes I become overly focused on my own world, indifferent and even uncaring towards others. I long to connect with others, but I'm afraid of causing trouble for them. I'm just a conflicted person."

"I feel like it's challenging to live my true self. I'm like a piece of someone else's personality. I often feel like I can only find myself for a short time by staying away from other people."

4. A few suggestions for effecting change in your current situation:

(1) Do not be a passive recipient of information; rather, be an active reflector.

If we continue to absorb other people's information without question, as the questioner suggests, we will gradually be influenced by them and even believe their views.

The recommendation is to act as a mirror, reflecting negative energy back by stating opinions in a confident and clear manner.

(2) Establishing clear boundaries can influence interpersonal dynamics.

The suggestion question primarily emphasizes your right to establish boundaries, including the right to protect your privacy and refuse unreasonable demands from others.

Furthermore, it is important to gradually establish a set of principles and boundaries that are unique to you and align with your personal values and goals.

It is important to learn to affirm yourself, trust your judgment, make decisions independently, and take responsibility for your life.

(3) Treat yourself with respect and accept yourself.

It is not realistic to expect universal approval.

It is recommended that the questioner be true to themselves, respect their own feelings, and recognize that the opinions of others are not important. It is most important to accept and love yourself.

It is possible that the process of change may present some challenges, but ultimately, it will result in a more robust sense of self.

(4) It is advisable to seek professional assistance.

It is recommended that the questioner engage in one-on-one psychological counseling on the platform to receive more targeted and professional psychological assistance.

It is important to understand the root of the problem and to seek professional counseling and training in order to find a solution.

I hope you find the above information useful.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I am grateful for the opportunity to assist you. I hope that my guidance will provide you with the support and assistance you require. I commend you for recognizing the challenges you face when your emotions are easily triggered by the feelings of others in a relationship. Awareness is the first step towards positive change.

If you cannot be true to yourself in a relationship, express your feelings and needs honestly, and are extremely sensitive to other people's emotions, you will undoubtedly be influenced by other people's emotions. This is the result of extreme inner self-rejection, low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and a low sense of self-worth. When you don't have a good awareness of this part of your inner self, you will unintentionally project the emotions of inner self-rejection onto the people around you, thinking that the people around you will not accept such a self either.

You are afraid of being rejected, of being hurt by being isolated and rejected. This makes you choose to suppress and hide your true inner emotions. Instead, you identify with and internalize the emotions of others. This is so you can gain acceptance and recognition. Therefore, your extreme sensitivity towards the emotions of others in relationships is more of an unconscious form of self-protection.

You must understand that your inability to be yourself and express yourself in a relationship stems from a deeper desire to be affirmed, accepted, and approved, as well as a fear of being rejected, disliked, refused, and isolated. Once you grasp this, you will be able to accept your contradictory behavior of both desiring and avoiding relationships.

You can't tell the difference between your emotions and those of others because you lack awareness, understanding, experience, and feeling of your own emotions. You need to learn to perceive, understand, experience, and feel your emotions and sort out the hidden needs behind them. Take a deep breath in the moment to relieve the intensity of painful emotions. This will help you feel, experience, and sort out your emotions.

You can also improve your emotional intelligence by meditating, talking to yourself, keeping an emotional diary, and other techniques that help you understand, experience, sort through, and respond to your emotions. When you understand and express your emotions appropriately, you won't be carried away by them and you'll be able to respond effectively, especially when you feel hurt.

You must be aware of your own emotions, understand them, and respond appropriately. This will help you understand and perceive the emotions of others and respond appropriately, too.

It is crucial to understand that how a person is treated determines how they treat themselves and others. The reason you get overwhelmed by other people's emotions and cannot be true to yourself in relationships stems largely from your attachment relationships in early childhood. In your early mother-child relationship, your mother always substituted her emotional feelings for yours and fed you, rather than taking your needs and feelings into account. This part is remembered in your young body and mind, and when this part of the trauma in your early attachment relationship is not well perceived and healed, it may be unintentionally brought into your adult relationships.

When you are aware of your own inappropriate behavior in relationships, you can use this awareness to heal the wounds of your early years through active learning and growth.

You need to read "Why are my emotions always influenced by others" and "Primary Mother Love."

Be true to yourself. You will reap the rewards of nourishing relationships!