Actually, the matter is not as terrifying as it seems, but how can one deal with the anxiety that always comes beforehand?

Hello.

You may feel anxious and afraid in advance of something happening, but it is not as scary as you think. Before something happens, you will think about it without seeing the full picture, which will lead to insomnia and loss of appetite.

It is a common human phenomenon and characteristic that we all feel anxious when something is about to happen and the outcome is still unknown. The degree of anxiety varies from person to person.

We all think and imagine the potential outcomes of a situation before it even happens. This affects our sleep, appetite, thoughts, actions, and emotions.

Those with mild symptoms do not experience insomnia, but their sleep quality is worse than before. They also lose their appetite, but eat less than before.

If the impact is severe, they will not be able to sleep all night and will also have difficulty eating.

Today, I saw some children with colds in the outpatient clinic, having routine blood tests. For a routine blood test, a needle is inserted into the ring finger to collect a few drops of blood.

Some children cried so hard that their parents had to pull them to the blood-taking stool with all their strength, and two adults had to work together to hold down one child. Some children also cried and were scared, but they were able to hold back with the gentle reassurance of their parents and the doctor.

But after a short while, all these children stopped crying.

Let's be real: blood collection is a pretty scary experience. It involves needles and some pain. Before it happens, everyone—adults and children alike—will be scared and anxious.

Some feelings are heavier, some lighter. I guarantee you that after the blood is drawn, you will find that the whole thing is not as scary as you thought.

The pain is not severe and doesn't last long, so there's no reason to be afraid.

Anxiety occurs before something happens. After something happens, our emotions are calm.

Before something happens, we have to make an educated guess. It's because we can't fully and accurately perceive things that we always think things are more complicated and more frightening.

The thing itself is not particularly scary. We imagine it to be scary.

Anxiety is a primitive human instinct. When humans perceive danger, they are always nervous and focused, and their brains are congested, making them more conducive to thinking, more focused on thinking, and more energetic.

This is the state of anxiety. Anxiety means one thing: we need to be more fully prepared, and use this period of anxiety to prepare for the challenge.

Anxiety is an emotional messenger that reminds us to get ready for challenges.

We cannot suppress our instincts. We must allow our instincts and make good use of them. We can also use distraction to reduce anxiety and keep it at a tolerable level.

First, accept your anxious instincts. Distract yourself with activities you enjoy, such as listening to music, reading, talking to friends, meditating, or exercising.

Use breathing exercises and muscle relaxation to reduce anxiety.

If the anxiety is severe enough to prevent you from eating or sleeping, simple distraction techniques won't work. You need to find a counselor to explore your subconscious, see yourself, understand yourself, and reduce anxiety.

The world loves you, and you should love yourself too.

Good day.

My name is Kelly Shui.

[Actually, things aren't that scary, but I always get a bit anxious in advance. Do you think there's anything I can do to help?

You mentioned that you always feel anxious and afraid in advance before something happens. Could you tell me a bit more about when you feel this way?

Could I ask whether it's about everything or just some things?

[About anxiety]

I have also experienced my own anxiety in recent years. You mentioned feeling nervous or scared before something has happened. Could I ask whether this is because it is unfamiliar or unknown to you?

Could you please clarify whether the feeling of anxiety lasts for a few days or is constant?

I have come to understand that my personal anxiety is partly rooted in basic anxiety.

I believe that part of it is basic anxiety, which may be related to early parenting styles and family relationships. Both of my parents were relatively anxious people and had a tendency to say negative things before doing something.

For instance, if you happen to do poorly on an exam, you might say that your life is over.

For instance, if you happen to feel unwell, you might find yourself asking, "What's going to happen?"

It is possible that, if you remain in such an environment for a considerable length of time, you may experience some degree of impact, even if you are not fully aware of it.

It is also worth noting that the collective unconscious can play a role in this. In many cases, in a team setting, it is not uncommon for everyone to experience some level of anxiety, even if they are not aware of it.

It might be said that basic anxiety has a protective function and can be beneficial in allowing us to develop habits of thinking and planning ahead.

It may be helpful to become more aware of the people around you, your relationships, and the kinds of things or people that tend to trigger your anxiety.

This also allows us to differentiate between our own thoughts and external influences.

[Regarding acute anxiety]

It is perfectly normal to feel a little nervous and anxious about something important.

For instance, in the days leading up to my daughter's exam, I found myself experiencing a certain degree of nervousness that made it challenging for me to get a good night's rest. However, once the exam was over, I came to realize that the experience wasn't as daunting as I had initially anticipated.

It is often only after the fact that we realize the value in becoming aware of these things and accepting them.

For instance, when I feel anxious or nervous, I have found that I can distract myself by doing something I enjoy.

I recall that when I was experiencing acute anxiety in the past, I found that engaging in writing or drawing, as well as communicating with others, helped to alleviate my anxiety.

I have also discovered that I am relatively perceptive. It has been beneficial for me to learn that I often find myself daydreaming before anything happens.

As a potential solution, you might consider writing about your feelings of anxiety and talking to yourself about your anxiety if you have trouble sleeping.

In this way, we can gain insight into the underlying fear and how insecurity affects the present by understanding ourselves better.

Some may be early habitual responses or somatic responses. If they are not serious, they may improve within a few days. It may be helpful to view loss of appetite as a form of "weight loss."

Another option to consider is fasting, which can also help to reduce the burden on our bodies. By experiencing our own tension, we can also learn to cherish peace more when we return to our daily lives.

Many of us have different approaches. Some people find that meditation helps them feel much better after a year.

I find it helpful to draw pictures and then talk to myself about my feelings and tensions.

I accept and allow myself to experience feelings of anxiety and nervousness. I will observe these emotions within myself and gradually improve when I refrain from resisting them.

You are perceptive, and with awareness comes change. Practice more!

If you feel it would be helpful, you can also seek professional support.

You might find the following books helpful: "Fearless Anxiety," "High Sensitivity is a Gift," and "Solving Relationship Anxiety."

Hello!

I totally get it. I can imagine how living with constant anxiety and fear in the lead-up to things can lead to a whole series of negative emotional experiences over time.

I'd love to offer you some thoughts to think about.

From what you've told me, it seems like there could be a whole range of physical and psychological reasons behind your feelings of anxiety and fear.

For example, it's possible that you're genetically predisposed to fear certain things or situations.

It's also possible that you experienced a traumatic event in your childhood and were taught to fear certain things during your upbringing. This can make you fearful of specific things, even if these threats or dangers don't really exist.

It's also possible that you're dealing with some deep-seated insecurities through anxiety and fear.

This approach might be a psychological defense mechanism that helps you avoid possible threats or dangers.

Even if these threats or dangers don't really exist, as you said, "things are not as scary when they are resolved."

On top of that, the social or family culture you live in can also affect how you react to anxiety and fear.

For example, some cultures may encourage fear or caution about certain things, while in other cultures, the response to the same thing may be different.

It might take a little time and effort to reduce the negative emotional experience caused by this innate fear and anxiety. Don't worry, though! Here are some methods and measures that may be helpful:

First, give yourself a big hug! Recognize your anxiety and fear and accept them.

It's so important to recognize your anxiety and fear, and accept them for what they are.

This is because, when we try to avoid or deny these negative emotions, they tend to stick around and even get stronger.

The good news is that there are ways to reduce fear and anxiety.

You can learn some lovely relaxation techniques to help relieve physical tension and anxiety, thereby reducing the feeling of fear brought on by physical tension.

Another great option is to learn about gradual exposure, which is a method of gradually exposing yourself to the object of your fear.

You can help yourself gradually adapt and reduce fear responses by gradually exposing yourself to the object of your fear.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to support you. Try to increase your confidence in life. You've got this!

We really encourage you to set yourself small goals in life and then achieve them gradually. And don't forget to give yourself a little pat on the back and a treat when you reach each small success!

This will help you feel more confident and gradually make the fear less overwhelming.

And don't forget to take care of yourself! Get enough sleep, eat a balanced diet, and exercise moderately.

This can really help to reduce physical and mental stress, which in turn can help you to manage your fear and anxiety.

And finally, don't forget to seek more social support!

We're here for you! You can also share your fears and concerns with your family and friends and ask for their support and advice.

Sometimes, just talking to someone new can help you see things in a different way and feel more at ease.

If you're not seeing any improvement after a while, it's still a great idea to reach out to a professional counselor or therapist.

It's so important to get the right kind of help when you need it. Whether you need a diagnosis and healing of traumatic emotions or you need to learn how to deal with negative thinking and change behavior patterns associated with fear, it's so helpful to have the support and guidance of professionals.

I really hope this helps a little!

Hello! I'm Rose, and I'm here to listen.

Your words show that you've been troubled by this problem for a long time. Many people are in the same situation. We worry about everything because our brains are so well-developed. This helps us adapt to our environment and avoid bigger problems.

Anxiety is a feeling of tension that arises when we anticipate an unfavorable situation. It produces unpleasant emotions and is directed towards the future.

Moderate anxiety helps us adapt to our environment. We can prepare in advance and look for ways to prevent problems.

But anxiety can also be excessive and affect our lives.

1. Many things are not as bad as we think. When we're anxious, we can ask ourselves, "What can I do?"

When you're prepared, you can cope with anything.

2. Accept that everything happens for a reason.

If we don't accept reality, we feel bad and lose appreciation for life.

To be happy, we must learn to accept everything. When we accept everything, we will be happy.

3. Look at your anxiety positively.

Anticipating the future shows we are cautious and responsible. Seeing our strengths gives us confidence to face problems.

4. When you're anxious, write down what you're thinking. This helps you release emotions and feel better.

5. Don't avoid it. Just do it, and you'll find it's not that bad.

The world and I love you.

The world and I love you. Best wishes!

Hello, question asker! I'm Jiang 61, and I'm excited to help you!

Thank you so much for trusting us and being willing to tell us your problems in order to get answers! Your question is: "What should I do if I'm not actually that worried, but I always get anxious in advance?"

After reading your introduction, I'm excited to share some thoughts with you!

1. Introduction

You say, "I always worry and fear in advance before things happen. In fact, things are not as scary when they are resolved, but I will start to think about them before they happen, which leads to insomnia and loss of appetite."

1️⃣, anxiety Anxiety is an exciting feeling that comes with facing challenges head-on. It's that rush you get when you're tackling something new and exciting. It's the rush you get when you're taking control of your destiny and making things happen. It's the rush you get when you're pushing your limits and going beyond what you thought you could do. Anxiety is the fuel that keeps you going when you're facing a tough situation. It's the motivation that pushes you to keep going when things get tough. It's the drive that keeps you going when you're facing a challenge.

Anxiety

Anxiety is a feeling of unease caused by excessive worry about the safety of loved ones or one's own life, future, fate, etc. It contains elements of urgency, worry, sadness, tension, panic, and unease.

It's all about those critical situations and unpredictable, difficult-to-cope-with events!

Worries

The questioner is excited to prepare for the unexpected! They're eager to anticipate potential challenges and ensure they're ready to handle whatever comes their way.

2️⃣, risk awareness

Risk awareness

Risk awareness is all about being prepared for whatever the future may bring! It's about being aware of potential loss, harm, disadvantage, or destruction and having a plan in place to respond to any uncertainty. This includes political, economic, technological, social, and natural risks.

?? preparation

Obviously, the questioner has a very strong sense of risk and will do some mental preparation before things happen, so they will think more and pay attention to details. Sometimes they will worry too much, which can lead to insomnia and affect their appetite.

2. The causes of excessive worrying

1️⃣, acquired

Acquisition

Acquisition is the wonderful process of learning a new ability, skill, or language in an informal way, in a natural state, subconsciously, or even unconsciously!

Daily habits

A habit is not formed in one day, but over time. This means that the questioner's anxiety today is not something new. It's something they've acquired over time and have become accustomed to!

It's a fascinating process, similar to how children learn their mother tongue. It's a subtle influence that happens naturally in daily life.

2️⃣ The influence of family life

The wonderful, supportive family you were born into!

The original family is the family in which you were born and raised. It's where you learn your values, traditions, and customs. It's where you develop your role in the family and form relationships with your siblings and parents. It's where you become the person you are today!

And the state of life influences!

During the questioner's life in the original family, one of the parents was strict with others and made every kind of preparation in advance, so that the questioner also got used to this lifestyle. The questioner worries about mistakes in everything they have never done before, and they have developed the habit of being best prepared in advance.

3️⃣, personality affects

From the questioner's introduction, it's clear that they're a meticulous, reflective, and dedicated individual who takes pride in their work. I believe they possess a melancholic personality, which adds depth and complexity to their character.

People with a melancholic personality

Characteristics: thoughtful, highly sensitive, idealistic, and in pursuit of truth, goodness, and beauty!

You have so many amazing strengths! You're sensitive, loyal, and reliable. You're also talented and insightful.

Weaknesses: being stubborn, indecisive, self-centered, pessimistic, and passive. But don't worry! These are just a few of the things that make you who you are.

Let's dive into the fascinating world of personality types! We'll explore the intriguing characteristics of those with a melancholic personality type. These individuals are thoughtful, highly sensitive, idealistic, and in pursuit of truth, goodness, and beauty. They're also known for being sensitive, loyal, and reliable, talented, insightful, and strong in their convictions. However, they may also be stubborn, indecisive, self-centered, pessimistic, and passive.

People with a depressive personality type have the opportunity to build their confidence, think in new ways, avoid dead ends, and learn to extricate themselves. When they cannot come up with a good answer, they can choose to let it go, which gives them more control over their rest, sleep, and diet.

Now for the fun part! Let's dive in and see what we can do.

1️⃣, understand yourself!

Know yourself and you'll be unstoppable!

Knowing yourself is an amazing journey! It means discovering your strengths, weaknesses, interests, hobbies, personality traits, ability range, and your goals and potential.

Self-awareness is an amazing thing!

We understand ourselves and gradually form self-awareness. We can recognize our uniqueness and real value, the meaning of our existence, have a correct evaluation of ourselves, manage our emotions well, and have a clear judgment about what we should do. And it's all so exciting!

2️⃣, build self-confidence!

Self-confidence is your key to success!

Self-confidence is an amazing psychological state that involves an individual's trust and belief in their abilities. It's the degree of trust in one's ability to successfully complete a certain activity. This trust is not only an assessment of one's abilities, but also a psychological characteristic that affects an individual's behavior and performance.

And build self-confidence!

The great news is that confidence is built on self-confidence! You can build your confidence by taking a good look at yourself through self-awareness, self-judgment, self-control, self-management, self-evaluation, and self-improvement. You'll see your own abilities and value, and before you know it, your confidence will be soaring!

3️⃣, let go!

Let go!

To let go is to set aside or abandon, to stop thinking, missing, mentioning, or harboring fantasies about it. It's a change of mindset that involves expectations, obsessions, or fantasies about people or things in the past, or about past practices. And it's a kind of psychological relief! By no longer clinging to pain or regret, you can gain inner peace and freedom.

Embrace imperfection!

Letting go is not the same as giving up. We no longer cling to the obsession of being perfect. As long as we do our best and are good enough, that's fine. No one is perfect, and that's okay!

We free our minds, allow ourselves to make mistakes, and then we learn from them! We know how to improve and avoid problems recurring. We can get out of the obstacles we have set ourselves and be able to easily deal with problems that may arise.

Questioner, if you are not obsessed with perfection, understand yourself, and build your confidence, you will be able to deal with the problems you face and get out of the state of "always worrying in advance" that troubles you. You will be able to overcome yourself and become a better person by giving full play to your strengths and establishing your own value.

And finally, I wish the questioner a happy, happy life!

Hello, question owner! First of all, I'd like to give you a big, warm hug. I've been in the same situation as you before, and I know you can get through it!

I'm excited to share with you an effective method I've used myself that I know will have a positive effect on you too!

First of all, it's important to understand that this situation is a form of anticipatory anxiety. Anticipatory anxiety is a psychological state that occurs before facing an important event or challenge. At this time, individuals usually feel nervous, restless, and worried. But there's a positive side to this! It simply means that you're excited about the future and eager to take on whatever challenges come your way.

This anxiety is often a reaction to the unknown and uncertainty, and it can affect an individual's emotions, behaviors, and physical health. But don't worry! There are ways to overcome it.

Now for the fun part! Let's identify the source of pre-existing anxiety:

1. Lack of self-confidence

Self-confidence is an amazing psychological resource for individuals when facing challenges. When individuals doubt their abilities, they tend to feel anxious.

Past failures, harsh self-assessment, or comparisons with others can all affect an individual's self-confidence. But don't worry! You can overcome these challenges and build your self-confidence. For example, a student may experience anxiety due to concerns about poor test scores, which may stem from a lack of trust in their abilities. But there's a solution!

2. Lack of control over the future

Another key factor in anxiety is unpredictability. It's totally normal to feel a bit anxious when you can't accurately predict what the future holds or the consequences of past decisions.

This uncertainty may come from changes at work, turning points in your personal life, or the need to make important decisions. For example, a job applicant about to have an interview may feel nervous because they are unsure of the outcome – but that's OK!

3. Fear of negative consequences

We all worry about possible negative consequences from time to time. It's only natural! But when we focus too much on the what-ifs, it can lead to pre-emptive anxiety. So, let's shift our focus to the positives!

For example, an entrepreneur may experience anxiety due to fears of project failure, which may affect his decision-making and execution abilities. But there's no need to worry! There are plenty of ways to overcome these fears and become a more confident and capable entrepreneur.

Now, let's dive in and explore how we can effectively tackle pre-emptive anxiety head-on to help individuals conquer this negative emotion!

1. BOOST YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE!

Boost your self-confidence through positive self-talk, self-affirmation, and practical actions! Set small goals and achieve them gradually to rebuild your trust in your abilities.

2. Embrace the unknown!

Embrace the unpredictability of life with confidence! Believe in your ability to adapt and thrive in the face of change. Relaxation techniques, meditation, and cognitive restructuring can help you embrace the unknown with ease.

3. Get ready to make some magic happen! Develop detailed plans and solutions.

It is a great idea to develop a detailed response plan when faced with situations that may trigger anxiety. Listing possible consequences and response options is a fantastic way to help individuals feel more in control of the situation, thereby reducing anxiety.

4. Get the support you need and start feeling better!

The good news is that there are ways to cope with pre-anxiety! Sharing your concerns and confusions with others and seeking support and advice are two effective strategies. Sometimes, external understanding and support can help individuals see problems from a different perspective and reduce anxiety.

It's important to understand that pre-existing anxiety not only affects our mental health, but it can also have a negative impact on our lives and work.

A constant state of anxiety can lead to some pretty big problems, like depression, difficulty concentrating, and self-doubt. But we can beat these mental health issues and take back control of our lives!

We may respond to early anxiety in some surprising ways! We might engage in avoidance behaviors, experience difficulty making decisions, or over-prepare. These behavioral responses may increase our stress, but they can also affect our social interactions and relationships in unexpected ways.

The great news is that we can take control of our physical health too! By tackling insomnia, indigestion, headaches and other physical problems, we can break the vicious cycle of anxiety.

So, let's get planning! We can make our work and lives better with some simple, practical solutions. When we have control over everything, anxiety will naturally be alleviated. Even if we can't control everything, we can still predict the consequences and be mentally prepared.

Hello. Your experience involves several important concepts in psychology, especially anticipatory anxiety. This is a kind of worry about future events, even though these events may never happen, or the results may not be as bad as you think. This anxiety may be related to "catastrophizing," which is mentioned in cognitive behavioral therapy. This refers to an individual's tendency to expect the worst and constantly mentally rehearse these negative scenarios.

The generation of anticipatory anxiety is likely related to the overactivity of the brain's "threat detection system." This system is an evolutionary adaptation designed to help us prepare for potential dangers. However, in modern society, it sometimes overreacts to normal stresses and challenges in daily life, leading to unnecessary anxiety and panic.

Furthermore, your situation may involve the concept of "self-fulfilling prophecy." This means that when an individual holds certain expectations or beliefs, their actions may unconsciously lead to these expectations or beliefs becoming reality. For example, if you expect something to fail, you may unconsciously take actions that ultimately lead to a failed outcome.

You can cope with these anxieties by taking the following measures:

1. Cognitive restructuring: Identify and challenge negative thinking patterns that cause anxiety. Transform these thoughts into more positive and realistic perspectives through cognitive restructuring techniques.

2. Exposure therapy: You must gradually expose yourself to situations that cause anxiety and get used to them. This will reduce your fear response to them through exposure therapy.

3. Develop specific coping strategies for possible situations. This will help you gain control and reduce anxiety caused by uncertainty.

4. Learn and practice emotion regulation skills such as deep breathing, mindfulness meditation, and relaxation exercises to help you stay calm when feeling anxious.

5. Use social support. Talk to friends and family about your feelings and seek their understanding and support. This is crucial for relieving anxiety.

6. Seek professional mental health services. If you find it difficult to cope with these anxieties on your own, you must seek help from mental health professionals.

7. Face challenges gradually through small steps, accumulate successful experiences, and improve self-efficacy. You can cope with the challenges in life.

8. **Lifestyle adjustments**: You can improve your mood and reduce your anxiety by maintaining a healthy lifestyle. This includes getting regular sleep, eating a balanced diet, and exercising regularly.

You can gradually learn to manage your anxiety and reduce its impact on your daily life. Remember, changing thought patterns and emotional responses takes time and patience.

You can overcome these challenges and create a more peaceful state of mind for yourself with sustained effort and the right strategies.

Hello, host! It's understandable that anxiety about the unknown is a common human psychological reaction. This anticipatory anxiety often stems from uncertainty about the outcome and fear of potential failure or difficulty.

It is worth noting that you are not alone in experiencing these feelings, as they are quite common. We hope that the following suggestions will be helpful in managing and reducing this anxiety:

1. Cognitive restructuring: You might find it helpful to challenge your negative thoughts. When you notice yourself engaging in catastrophic thinking (i.e., assuming the worst), you could stop and ask yourself if the thought is reasonable and if there are more positive possibilities.

2. Mindfulness meditation: Some people find that practicing meditation helps them stay present and reduces their worries about the future. Mindfulness meditation teaches you to observe your thoughts and feelings without reacting to them.

3. It might be helpful to make a plan for how you will respond to possible events. This could help you feel more in control and prepare you with solutions for problems that may arise.

4. Distraction: When you find yourself caught in an anxiety cycle, you might consider doing something that will help you focus, such as reading, exercising, or engaging in a hobby.

5. Relaxation techniques: Learning relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or yoga can be helpful in calming down when feeling stressed.

6. If you feel you would benefit from additional support, you may wish to consider sharing your feelings with a trusted friend or family member, or you could consult a mental health professional.

7. Good habits: It may be helpful to maintain a regular routine, eat a healthy diet, and exercise regularly, as these can contribute to overall health and mental wellbeing.

8. Consider keeping a diary: Writing in a diary can be a helpful way to organize your thoughts and identify and deal with situations that trigger anxiety.

If these methods do not effectively relieve your anxiety, or if it begins to seriously affect your daily life, it might be helpful to seek the guidance of a professional counselor or doctor. They can provide more in-depth guidance and support, and may even recommend appropriate treatment options such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) or other forms of psychotherapy.

Hello, my name is Coach Yu, and I would love to chat with you about this topic.

Let's start by chatting about anxiety/the-cause-and-improper-handling-of-emotions-between-both-parties-have-further-exacerbated-negative-feelings-how-should-one-deal-with-such-emotions-3943.html" target="_blank">emotions. Emotions are made up of special, personal experiences, external signs, and physical responses. Each emotion might be a need that our inner selves have that we haven't met. When we don't get the promotion or pay raise we were hoping for, we feel sad. When we lose something we've cherished for a long time, like a beloved pet or a treasured possession, we feel angry.

It's totally normal not to remember every experience we've had. But when we find ourselves in a similar situation, our body often has a strong reaction, even if we don't realize it. This is a kind of somatic memory, and it's totally natural!

It's so interesting how our memories can affect our behavior in ways we might not expect. Even if we don't remember something clearly, it can still have an impact on us. It's like it's stored somewhere in our minds, waiting to be recalled. And when it does, it can show up in surprising ways, like an emotional or physical memory. It's like a reminder that something happened, even if we don't remember it in a conscious way. I totally relate to what the questioner wrote. I always start to daydream before something happens, and it can lead to some not-so-great sleep and a loss of appetite. It's like my mind is racing with thoughts and ideas, and it can be tough to relax. But it's also a reminder that my mind is active and thinking about things, even if I don't realize it.

Let's ask ourselves: what does it mean to imagine things before they happen? How does our heart explain this?

We can also ask ourselves some other really interesting questions, like: What is the inner need for anxiety? And what is the inner need for fear?

We can also ask ourselves, "What do I want to achieve to make myself happy? What can I do to achieve this?"

Our thoughts and emotions are always active, interpreting what's going on around us. It's like they're building a reality of their own! We can try to record what our feelings are at the moment.

Your writing is just for you, so please feel free to be honest and write about your feelings. This will help us understand the causes and effects of emotions and help us clarify the root of the problem.

We can face our fears and anxieties head-on, my friend. When you are worried, you may find yourself noticing some things in the world around you that you find disturbing. You may as well face them head-on and gradually get rid of them.

It's okay if you can't escape for a while. You can still live a normal life. You don't have to wait until all your fears and anxieties have disappeared before you try again. It's impossible to live without anxiety, but you can keep it under control within a relatively tolerable range.

On a more positive note, anxiety can sometimes become a powerful driving force, prompting us to take action and engage more with the outside world. We can trust the people around us to understand and accept us, which is a great way to break free from our established patterns of behavior.

If this thing bothers you, don't worry! It's totally normal to need help sometimes. You can always talk to a family member or friend you trust. Or, if you feel the need, you can also find a counselor. It's important to release emotions to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

We can also try to accept ourselves. Worrying won't change anything. But, you know what will? Accepting ourselves unconditionally, even if we make mistakes and are not perfect. It's the first step to making a change. And, at the same time, we should remain curious about the outside world and others. Don't just care about our own feelings. Be interested in the people and things around us. Engage with and communicate with the real world.

You've got to give yourself a break. You're an adult now, and you can live with problems, face them, and solve them slowly.

I'd highly recommend reading "Fearless Anxiety" if you get a chance!

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first!

I'm thrilled to have seen your request for help! I'm excited to share some support and help. I admire you for recognizing the emotional state of excessive anxiety and unease you feel before doing something and for choosing to come here for help.

In fact, moderate anxiety helps us to put in more effort and preparation for the things we want to do and the problems we face. But when this part of anxiety is excessively unbalanced, it may affect the way we do things, because our energy and energy will be consumed by this part of excessive anxiety. What do you think?

The good news is that you can change! All you have to do is accept yourself. So, when this part of yourself with excessive anxiety appears, don't avoid it, but try to get along with it, explore it, and become aware of the needs hidden behind it. For example, you might need affirmation, recognition, and encouragement, and you might also have a fear of being rejected, denied, and criticized.

Once you can perceive the needs behind your anxious and restless emotions, you'll be amazed at how accepting and understanding you can be of this part of your emotional state! You'll then be able to respond and satisfy these needs in an appropriate way.

You can do deep breathing in the moment when you feel anxious and restless to better feel and perceive your emotions. It's a great way to effectively reduce the intensity of emotions, which will help you better explore and sort out the needs hidden behind this part of your emotions.

Emotions are neither good nor bad, right nor wrong. And that's a good thing! Behind emotions often lie unseen, unresponded to, unmet needs. So, let's embrace our emotions and respond to them in a positive way, especially when they're negative.

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!

Hello! I can see that you're feeling a little confused. You say that things aren't actually that scary, but you always get anxious in advance. What can you do to help yourself feel more at ease?

It sounds like you've been through something similar to a lot of other people. It's totally normal to feel the way you do, especially with the poor sleep quality and loss of appetite.

It's totally normal to feel anxious and fearful when we don't have control over things before they happen. It's only natural that fear arises when we're faced with uncertain things that we have no control over.

I know it can be tough, but I promise you'll find that once you've solved this, it'll be just like that, not scary at all. It's not the matter itself that's scary, difficult, or uncontrollable. It's our "catastrophizing thinking," which ultimately comes down to a lack of self-confidence, a doubt in our abilities, and fear that naturally leads to anxiety. And you know what? Moderate anxiety and fear are actually a good thing! We need to accept this way of thinking in ourselves, not fight against it. Appropriate anxiety will cause you to pay attention, which is a good thing!

If it affects your sleep, you might want to think about changing your diet. You said yourself that it's not that scary, so try to dwell on that feeling of not being so scared and strengthen your belief that it's not scary and you can handle it. Over time, this kind of thinking will replace your catastrophic thinking, and you'll feel less anxious or scared.

That's all I can think of for now! At Yixinli, the world and I love you ?, come on!

This is a common experience that can be classified as anticipatory anxiety. It may result from an excessive focus on potential outcomes or a lack of confidence in one's ability to manage challenges.

To enhance this situation, one can endeavor to recall past experiences upon the onset of daydreaming, recognizing that circumstances are frequently less adverse than initially perceived. Additionally, one can document their concerns and subsequently examine each potential outcome and the corresponding response strategy, thereby fostering greater assurance.

Additionally, relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and listening to music can be employed to alleviate anxiety. Engaging in regular physical activity has also been shown to improve sleep and appetite.

Have these methods been previously attempted?

Should these measures prove ineffective, it may be advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified psychological counselor. Such professionals employ a more systematic and targeted approach to addressing anxiety.

Furthermore, establishing a consistent schedule for oneself, including fixed wake-up, sleep, and mealtimes, can contribute to greater order in one's life, which in turn can facilitate the adjustment of one's physical and mental state.

As an alternative, one might consider developing a new hobby, such as painting or handicrafts, as a means of redirecting one's attention toward engaging activities prior to the occurrence of a stressful event. This approach may help to prevent the onset of anxious thoughts. What are your thoughts on these suggestions?

Hello! From your description, I can feel your conflict and helplessness, but I can also feel your resilience and strength!

I'm a psychological counselor, so let me share my insights from a psychological perspective!

Your problem is that you are always anxious and afraid in advance before things happen. But here's the good news: things are not that scary when they are resolved! You just need to stop thinking about them before they happen, and you'll be back to your old self in no time.

First, get to know yourself! From your description, I can tell that you are suffering from generalized anxiety disorder, which is something you can overcome!

It's characterized by two main things: 1. Anxiety, tension, and fear are the main manifestations. 2. It is accompanied by symptoms of the autonomic nervous system and motor restlessness.

3. Anxiety is not appropriate to the situation, so let's change that! 4. Subjective feelings are very painful, but self-awareness exists, so let's embrace it!

Second, accept yourself! Anxiety comes from the conflict between the id's sexual drive and the superego. It is a challenge for the ego to resolve and reconcile, but you can do it! The resulting protection of the individual's face from shame and self-blame triggers somatic symptoms, but you can overcome them.

This is where the magic happens! It requires assessment and diagnosis, exploring unconscious conflicts in a safe and stable counseling relationship, in order to find the knot, adjust the way to deal with problems, accept one's limitations, and also accept anxiety, and together find a sense of relaxation that will make you more comfortable and relaxed.

Third, it's time to focus on yourself! Turn those external evaluations inward and start loving yourself. What are your interests and hobbies? When you're feeling nervous or worried, express those inner feelings! By speaking out, you'll be seen, heard, and understood. Then, you can seek out resources to help yourself. You can also name your emotions, feel that fear and unease with curiosity, and talk to yourself. Reconnect with yourself!

The world and I love you! You can learn to love yourself, too. Every unconscious conflict behind a symptom has a language. Explore yourself with curiosity, awareness, and reflection. You can also seek help from a professional counselor. In a safe and stable counseling relationship, you can soothe your inner sense of powerlessness and grow into a strong and stable person. You can do it!

Hello! I'm listening with you.

Anxiety: This emotion is all about the future. It's often accompanied by feelings of fear and dread. It's important to remember that the source of anxiety isn't the event itself, but the fear generated by the emotion.

This has led to some physical symptoms in your body, like a loss of appetite, an upset stomach, and poor sleep.

2. Every emotion has a reason for appearing. You can regard anxiety as a friend and say hello to it. It is trying to convey a message to you, and you need to listen.

If you're feeling stressed about an upcoming exam, it's natural to want to cram as much revision as possible into the time you have left.

3. Our minds are pretty amazing, but they can only handle one emotion at a time. It's like trying to be happy and sad at the same time — it's just not possible! So, if one emotion takes over, the other emotions will disappear from your mind.

If you're feeling anxious, it's probably because you've been thinking about something scary. Don't worry, we've all been there! At this point, I'd like you to take a deep breath or two and focus on your breathing. Now, imagine something you've done well in the past, or something that makes you happy. See that image in your mind and let it lift your spirits. I know it's tough, but I'm here to support you.

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1. Are you feeling anxious about everything, or just about things you can't control?

2. I'd love to know what you think of when anxiety strikes, or what happens to you then.

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a rough time. I don't know what happened, or what you're going through, but I'm here for you. I don't know what time, place, people you met, or what happened. I don't even know what the thing is that you find terrifying. But I do know that I'm here for you, and I'm here to listen.

Dear Questioner, I'm great.

It's clear you're preoccupied with the idea of "preparing for the rainy days." This kind of anxiety and fear in advance is very disturbing and can even affect your daily life and health.

This kind of anxiety and fear often comes from a sense of uncertainty about the unknown and a lack of control. We always want to be in control, but reality is often full of variables.

Our brains begin to imagine all kinds of possible outcomes when something has not yet happened. This imagination is biased towards the negative and pessimistic.

Avoid this kind of emotion and catastrophic thinking by asking yourself the following questions.

What is the absolute worst that could happen? First, imagine the worst possible outcome of what you are worried about.

It is important to note that this is only a hypothetical thought process. You are not being asked to believe or accept that the worst outcome will definitely happen.

Next, assess the actual probability of this worst-case scenario.

Our worries often stem from an exaggerated fear of uncertainty, when in fact the probability of many things happening is not high.

What evidence is there to support my concerns? There must be hard evidence or facts to support your concerns.

Your worries are often based on uncertain information or one-sided views. Examine the evidence to assess whether your worries are justified.

What factors could prevent or mitigate this worst-case scenario? There are undoubtedly positive actions or measures that could prevent or mitigate the worst-case scenario you are worried about.

You can take action by preparing in advance, seeking help, and adjusting your mindset.

Finally, we can try some mindfulness meditation. This will help you learn to focus your attention on your current breathing and feelings, rather than being troubled by memories of the past or worries about the future. Take a few minutes each day to meditate and you will see a reduction in anxiety and fear.

Anxiety and worry are normal, but excessive anxiety and worry are not good for our physical and mental health. Look to the future and seize the moment.

Hello! I'm a psychological counselor at Yixinli, and I'm so happy to connect with you on this platform. I've read your description and I can see that you're feeling anxious. It's totally normal to worry after something happens, even if it's not as bad as you thought it would be. This anxiety can affect your life in ways you might not expect, like your diet or sleep.

You've already taken a good look at the situation and realized that things aren't as bad as they seem. But, worry is a natural part of the human experience, and it can still creep in.

Anxiety-related repetitive worries are a way for us to cope with problems and work through them. When this approach is excessive, it can definitely affect our lives. Since I don't know much from your description, I can't determine what your specific anxiety involves.

When does it usually happen? Is there something in particular that you're worried about?

Or is it something you're dealing with in all areas of your life and work? Does this anxiety have a way of popping up in your thoughts and make you worry on one hand, while trying to control yourself not to think on the other?

I know there are some small methods that could help, but I'm not sure if they're the right fit for your situation. These methods are related to coping with anxiety.

If you're feeling overwhelmed by worry, it can be really helpful to choose specific times of the day when you can focus on your concerns. You might find it useful to set aside 10-30 minutes in the morning, afternoon, or evening, depending on your schedule. During this time, you can give yourself permission to have any worrying thoughts that come up. You can also use your usual methods, like writing things down on paper or recording them on your phone, to keep track of your thoughts. Once you've finished, you can move on to other parts of your life and work. After you've recorded your thoughts, you can look back at your notes to see how accurate they are. This can help you understand your worries better and give you a sense of control over them.

Second, if there are things that worry you more, you can also use the "my script" method to turn your worrying thoughts into words. It's just like writing a movie script! You can use your imagination to deduce these worries. Don't try to control yourself, even if you imagine a very scary and bad outcome. That's okay! Imagining is safer. At least in imagination things do not really happen and develop. You can try to complete the worst predictions in your imagination and record them to form your own script. Then you can review these scripts at a time when you are not disturbed and feel what kind of feelings and thoughts you will have.

And there are other ways to cope with anxiety that you can learn about by reading. I'd highly recommend "Living without Anxiety," which has lots more great advice about coping with anxiety and sleep. I really hope it'll be helpful for you! If self-adjustment over a long period of time doesn't work for you, you can always seek help from a professional counselor.

Hello! If you're feeling anxious and afraid of things that haven't happened yet and think the outcome is going to be terrible, it's time to make a change! Here are some tips to help you adjust.

You start worrying about the worst outcome before something has even happened, and you always imagine the consequences of things in a very serious way, which leads to feelings of worry and anxiety. But why do people think catastrophically? Because the logic of such people is: if I anticipate failure, then I won't be disappointed.

This is actually a great way to protect yourself! It's like you're saying, "I've got this! I've already planned for the worst, so I won't be surprised by failure or mistakes."

If you are always worried about the various things in life and always think that a trivial matter can ruin your life, you will have a strong sense of insecurity. But there is a better way! You can live a life that could have been easy and enjoyable with great care, as if you were walking on thin ice.

How do we overcome catastrophic thinking? We need to realize that where there are people, there will be conflicts, and that as long as we do things, there will be success and failure. If something is simply unavoidable, there is no point in being afraid or worried. But there is a point in being excited about the journey ahead!

When we let catastrophic thinking control our lives, we'll find that the driving force of life no longer comes from a sense of meaning and value, but is driven by fear. We'll no longer do anything to become a better version of ourselves, but to prevent bad things from happening. And these so-called bad things are often the product of catastrophic thinking being infinitely magnified. As a result, we'll live in a state of stress for a long time, driven by fear while also constantly depleting our energy. But there is a way out!

Once you realize that conflicts are inevitable when getting along with others and that there is always a risk of failure on the road to growth, you'll be ready to face the consequences of things with an open mind!

Conflicts and mistakes are actually great! They help us face problems, deepen our understanding of human nature, and make us mature quickly. If we can't focus on the summary of life experience, we'll miss out on so many opportunities for growth. What do you think?

Hello, I am Xin Tan, coach Fei Yun. I'm here to help you bloom, not to be appreciated.

Anxiety is normal. It's our nervousness about the uncontrollable things that may happen in the future. A certain amount of anxiety can motivate us to prepare better and do things better. However, your anxiety has affected your eating and sleeping. You need to improve your emotional state. Let's share and explore together.

1. Let's get to know anxiety.

Anxiety is an emotion that arises from possible future threats. It is a fear of the future that drives us forward. However, if we are in a constant state of alertness, it will drain our energy.

Let's examine human anxiety from an evolutionary standpoint.

Ancient humans lived in the jungle, constantly facing sudden dangers. Some were more safety-conscious, paying closer attention to potential threats like lions, tigers, poisonous insects, and snakes. When they focused on these dangers, they were on their guard.

Another type of person assumes that focusing on the good things, such as flowers, beautiful scenery, and delicious food, makes people happy. This is wrong. It is the type of person who focuses on dangerous things who is more likely to survive.

This principle of evolutionary psychology proves that our ancestors focused on dangers, which is why we are alive today.

Our genes are naturally programmed to focus on danger, so it is human instinct to focus on the negative and dangerous. In a jungle society, those who focus on danger and inadequacy are more likely to survive. When we focus on danger and inadequacy, our nerves become tense and we remain vigilant of our surroundings, which is more conducive to our detecting danger and our probability of survival is higher than those who focus on the good things.

We have survived until now because our genes have internalized a program that allows us to thrive in any environment. While this is useful in the context of the jungle, it is not the optimal way of life for us today. To survive and thrive, we must adapt our way of life to suit our modern circumstances.

You can feel happier and more relaxed. Focus on what you already have and look at the positive things. That will make you happy.

2. I'm going to tell you how to deal with anxiety.

Animals have "fear," but they don't have "anxiety." Fear is not a problem. The fear of fear is the problem, and that is anxiety.

Deal with anxiety by going back to the present. This is the best way to do it.

Bring the anxiety back to the present moment, where there is action. An animal in fear will keep running, so do the same.

Ask yourself, "What can I do now to prevent this danger?"

Take action. All anxiety is imagined by the brain.

Watch a football match in real life and you'll see what I mean. The spectators get "anxious," but the players don't, because the players are in action and fully concentrated on the game. If you want to deal with anxiety, transform yourself from a "spectator" to a "player" (i.e., take action).

The following specific methods can and should be used:

(1) Breathing: Pay attention to the present moment by breathing. Meditation is a good practice for this.

(2) Exercise: Burn off excess energy.

(3) Art: Anxiety is logical, art is illogical, music, dance, painting.

(4) Connection: Make eye contact with others, as in listening to a teacher (or someone else speaking), and fix your gaze on the other person to connect with them.

(5) Cleaning: Focus on one thing and relax. Experience the present.

Read the book Dive into Life. It will teach you how the brain interferes with our learning and life, and provide specific solutions.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. I love you, and I hope the world loves you too.

If you want to continue communicating, click on my personal homepage, "Heart Exploration Service." I will communicate with you and help you grow one-on-one.

I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

It's worth noting that many people do this. Before studying psychology, I did this too. This is because we humans are naturally anxious and worried about the unknown, about things that haven't happened yet. However, at a rational level, we all know that things are not actually that scary when they are resolved. This kind of premature fear is always based on speculation, and it can even affect sleep and appetite. The reason is that we tend to follow the thinking of our brains into the future, instead of living in the present.

If we can find a way to pull ourselves back and immerse ourselves in the present moment, we can become relaxed and escape from our minds, allowing ourselves to become immersed in life.

If I might offer you a suggestion, it would be:

It might be helpful to think of understanding oneself as a normal process that many of us go through.

It could be said that humans have come a long way since ancient times. Our ancestors had to face a very dangerous environment, with floods and fierce beasts, as well as competition among humans themselves. It seems that anxiety is something we have always carried in our genes. When faced with all kinds of dangers, the brain needs to review previous experiences and also calculate future risks, and ultimately come up with an implementation plan that allows us to more safely avoid risks and survive and reproduce. It could be argued that although society is very safe nowadays, at least in our country, our anxious genes are still there. When faced with the unknown, we will be anxious, worried and afraid, which is perfectly normal. This is because we follow our minds into the future, but the future is uncontrollable. Sometimes we may exaggerate our anxiety. As you said, in reality things are not as scary as they seem. It's just that our minds think it's a very scary thing. It's like when we actually just meet a kitten but our mind thinks we've met a tiger. At this time, we may benefit from being aware of ourselves, stopping following our minds into the future, which hasn't happened yet, and returning to the present, to the here and now, because real life is actually only in the present. We may find that we can only control the present, and that's where we should focus our attention.

2. Be aware. When you notice that your thoughts have drifted into the future and you begin to feel fear and anxiety because of the unknown, you might consider using the "323 method" to pull yourself back. When we can step outside our heads and immerse ourselves in the real life of the present moment, our anxiety may ease. Long-term practice could potentially enhance our ability to live in the present moment and make our minds increasingly peaceful.

I have found that when faced with things that need to be dealt with in the future, including some more important things, I am able to remain calm because I live with mindfulness. This does not mean that we cannot plan for the future or set goals for ourselves. When we have made plans and set goals in advance, all we need to do is to devote ourselves to taking action in the present moment and get things done, without following our minds to engage in anxiety that doesn't make much sense. This may not be the most beneficial approach, as it can lead to internal conflict and entanglement.

If you notice that your mind has wandered into the future and you start to feel anxious about it, you can gently call out to yourself to stop and use the "323 method" to bring yourself back to the present. Specifically, you can do the following: first, use your sense of sight to pay attention to and observe three things around you, describing their shape, color, material, etc.; then use your sense of hearing to listen to two sounds, for example, the sound of cicadas outside my window and the sound of the air conditioning blowing inside the house; then pay attention to the feelings in three parts of your body, such as your shoulders, head, and soles of your feet.

Repeat this cycle three times, and you may find that you are able to return to the present moment. At this time, you may also find that you are able to escape from the anxious thoughts in your mind and return to your real life. Then, you can go about whatever you need to do. If you are eating, you may find it helpful to anchor yourself with your sense of taste and savor the flavors of your meal. If you are sleeping, you may find it helpful to anchor yourself with your sense of breathing and focus your attention on your breathing. You can also take a few deep breaths to relax and activate your parasympathetic nervous system.

You are welcome to try it out. If you are interested, you may wish to read "An 8-Week Mindfulness Journey," "Mindfulness: The Moment Is a Flower," "The Power of the Present," and "Dive into Life, Out of Your Mind."

Please feel free to refer to the above as you see fit. Wishing you the best!