After achieving the highest score in every essay, how to cope with the increasing pressure?

Hello!

"Every time we had a basic writing class, we had to hand in an essay, and I always wrote it very carefully. I wanted to be seen and praised by the teacher.

"If you work hard and get praise from your teacher, you deserve it. I applaud you for it."

"My roommate's score was lower than mine. I got full marks, and I'm proud of it."

"Are you happy that you think you have worked hard to get praise from your teacher, or that you have a higher score than your roommate? If it's the former, I'm certain it's a normal state of mind, while the latter is a bit dark.

Let's take a moment to reflect on this and compare these two attitudes.

It is a normal state of mind to write excellent compositions through hard work and effort and to receive recognition and praise from the teacher. This is the expectation of most students in your class. Therefore, everyone will write their compositions seriously, and the scores will vary. Some will get higher scores, while others will get lower scores.

Anyway, you have made progress as long as you have tried your best and made an effort. Everyone is competing with each other to create a positive and motivated learning atmosphere, and everyone has made progress.

I am confident that most of you in the class think this way.

Now, let's talk about the second mentality. You're happy to see that your roommate's score is lower than yours. How did you come to this conclusion? It's because people are narcissistic. They think, "I hope I'm the only one."

Everyone wants to be the best. You're happy when your score is high, but think about your roommate's perspective.

He's jealous. Your roommate and the other students are likely to be indifferent and not care.

Pay attention and observe.

"But at the same time, I'm very scared, and I suppress my joy. I'm not arrogant or superior to my classmates. I congratulate them sincerely on their writing and tell them what I think of it.

"Then, while observing your own competitive desire, you feel very painful." You have written a very realistic description of this paragraph. You have fear in your heart, and your competitive desire is so strong that you may imagine others as being just like you, with a strong competitive desire, and may be jealous of you, right?

Your fear may come from two sources. First, you may be afraid of being compared to others and being seen as inferior. Second, you may be worried that if your composition score is not the highest, the teacher will no longer share your composition. So what does that mean?

Ask yourself these questions: If the teacher no longer shares your composition, does it mean that the teacher and classmates no longer pay attention to you? If you don't get the envy and recognition of your teachers and classmates, what does that mean to you?

When you think back to your childhood, you'll remember the days you spent with your parents. You had to perform well to gain their praise and recognition. We work hard, want to come first, and want to be recognized because we want to gain our parents' love.

Now you understand yourself, and you know why you are so obsessed with getting the highest score in composition and are worried about being compared to others. It is only normal to write a good composition through your own efforts and receive praise and recognition from your teachers and classmates.

You don't need to be afraid. Even if you write a good composition, you're not the best at every subject. Other students have their strengths, and everyone is unique with their own talents. You're in the same class and school, working hard together, learning from each other's strengths, and making progress together. You're better today than you were yesterday.

I am confident that this answer will dispel any doubts you may have, and I look forward to hearing from you.

Hello!

I just wanted to say that I think you've been really serious about writing every time, looking forward to praise from your teacher, which is great! It's so important to take things seriously and do them perfectly.

And when our writing is recognized professionally, we'll be super motivated! We'll love writing even more and get even better at it.

But I think that grades are not the be-all and end-all when it comes to judging whether someone is a good writer or not. Perhaps the teacher feels that a certain student used some great writing techniques in this piece and deserves a bit of encouragement, so they'll give that student a relatively high grade compared to the student's past grades. But if you care too much about the grade, it can actually put a lot of pressure on you.

What we need is a positive learning atmosphere, an attitude in which everyone will gradually improve in writing. I'm sure you'll all do your best in writing again and again, and I believe you'll definitely pay more than other students in this area and take writing more seriously. We just need to compare ourselves. Let's pay more attention to whether we have gained more in this lesson, whether we have learned some writing skills, and whether we have learned a lot from everyone's essays. But it's not about the high or low score this time.

There are a thousand Hamlets in a thousand minds! The true meaning of writing is to touch the reader with your words and give them strength. Maybe on a particular occasion, the teacher gave you a score that was not as good as you thought it was, but that doesn't mean it's necessarily bad. So as long as you pour your heart and soul into your writing, you will definitely get satisfactory results!