After five years as a full-time housewife, you wish to step out, but find yourself lacking the courage or strength?

Good evening. I hope you will accept this gesture of goodwill, which I will express in the form of a hug around your entire body.

After reading your question, I'd like to offer you my support and encouragement. I imagine your situation may be similar to that of many women who have left the workplace to raise their children full-time.

When your child grows up, they may feel the need to leave the family, re-enter society, and return to the workplace. However, they may encounter difficulties in finding a suitable job. They may also experience a psychological gap or feel a bit timid, afraid of failure, and so on. These are experiences that many of us can relate to.

Now that we have made the decision to go out, the next step is to consider how we can make that happen.

It seems that you have a lot on your mind at the moment, with many thoughts and ideas running through your head. You may even have some beautiful imaginations, similar to the heroine in a certain movie or TV series.

I must admit, I'm a little stuck on the trigger action of going out. I'll share some of my own thoughts, which you can try out and see if they work for you.

You might consider going for a walk, for instance, after dropping off your kids every day. You could walk in the park or neighborhood.

If you're just starting out, you might want to walk alone at first. It's okay if you get tired—just walk as far as you can and then come back to the market to buy some food. You might find it helpful to go to a farmer's market, where there's usually a lot going on.

You might consider walking the same route every day and going to the same stalls. Over time, you may find that the stall owners will strike up a conversation with you about things other than your shopping.

The main point is to encourage you to get out there. You may be feeling a little apprehensive about interacting with people and are unsure of what to say. In that case, you might find it helpful to just get moving yourself. You don't necessarily need other people for exercise, as long as you can walk.

If I may suggest, perhaps you could go grocery shopping. It's something you probably need to do anyway, right? While you're there, you might like to chat with the owner.

Secondly, perhaps you could try doing something you can do alone that will help you calm down. For example, you might like to read a book and then write down your thoughts and post them on a social media platform.

In this way, you may be able to connect with someone who is on the same wavelength. Reading can be a source of comfort and inspiration.

It would be helpful to make a plan for this, perhaps setting a goal for the number of pages of a book you will read or the number of words you will type in a day. It's not necessary to do a lot at first, just take the first step. For example, you could set a goal of reading 10 pages and typing 100 words a day.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to do this every day.

I believe we should start with these two. As for the results, I'm not sure. These actions may help you get out of the house and spend less time thinking about things that don't matter.

If you really do it, even if it's just a small step, it might make a difference.

I am a counselor who often experiences periods of depression, but I also have moments of positivity. I want to express my love for the world.

Hello!

There are all kinds of people in the world, and they all have one thing in common: they are human beings! Even those who seem more elegant, wealthy, capable, and always look down on others are ordinary people at the beginning. But they have achieved impressive results because they have all chosen to embark on a painful journey...

The first step to changing your life is to accept yourself!

After five years of being a full-time housewife, the questioner gradually began to let go of her connection to society, stopped paying attention to the dynamic changes in society, and gradually drifted away from the mainstream. This is because she stayed at home full-time to take care of the children, but there is also a core reason: the questioner has also taken herself lightly, as mentioned in the text, "I don't want to communicate with others." She has also closed off all channels of communication with information. It wasn't until problems arose in this lifestyle that the questioner had the idea of wanting to change. We must understand that the world is also a cyclical channel, and only by actively participating in it can we receive good feedback and feel good.

Therefore, the questioner's hesitation to take action and a series of anxious thoughts can currently be classified as procrastination habits. What the questioner needs to overcome is not the habit of procrastination, but the need to immediately realize that it is not we who choose the life we want, but the laws of this society that require us to make changes and push us along. This is an exciting realization!

"Let go of your worries and take the first step!"

From the question the author has set out, we can see that the author has fallen into a dead end in his thinking—but there's no need to worry!

Propose an idea – reject the idea – cause anxiety – propose the idea again – reject the idea – repeat the anxiety... But then, you know what? You get to propose the idea again!

It's clear that the questioner's thinking logic is flawed. But there's no need to worry! There is a better way to solve problems. It's time to embrace a new logic:

Propose an idea, weigh it, test it in practice, revise the plan, and implement it again!

It's so clear! The key factor the questioner is missing is "practice." He always hopes to avoid risks and pains in his mind, but he hasn't yet realized that he can improve his abilities. Once he does, his sense of anxiety will surely decrease!

A person's weak abilities are not the biggest problem. The biggest problem is that the person does not realize that their abilities need to be improved. But there's no need to worry! The addition of "practice" will allow a person to escape from subjective thinking and find the right way to help them improve their ability to perceive problems and solve problems through the process of solving practical problems. Then, even if she is anxious, she will also grow in a spiral.

Here's a suggestion for you! It's time to let go of those insipid concerns that trouble you. We're talking about concerns about face here. Step outside your room and screen the types of work that match your abilities. Then, gradually screen the ones you can handle, recommend yourself, and strive for a job that is most suitable for you at the moment. Don't focus on whether you hate it or not. Focus on what you love!

[Interest is the best teacher, and work needs to be loved]

If you have work experience before becoming a full-time housewife, then the best choice for you right now is to return to the industry in which you were previously employed. This is the perfect way to start your journey back to work! Not only can you let go of unnecessary anxiety, but you can also re-examine your abilities. If you are competent, you can improve your abilities in other areas and choose a career again later.

However, if the original poster has no previous work experience and has instead directly married and had children and become a full-time housewife, I would suggest not aiming too high. Any occupation has its nobility, and since there is no previous work experience, the scope of career choices has become wider in disguise. You can start with your interests and find something you love as a career. As the saying goes, "Interest is the best teacher." What it means is that with a strong heart to "strive for" and devote yourself to a career, your ability to improve will be more dynamic, and this vitality will dilute the mood of depression and lethargy, and you will devote more energy to your work.

Don't worry about what other people think! Just do your own thing in the present and have fun!

As I said at the start, nobody has an easy ride. Nobody gets to the top without a fight. We've all felt pain like this. But we can get through it. We can do this! You have the power to make your mark on the world. Do it with passion and dedication. Then you'll be stronger than most people. You'll be better than most people. You'll be the best at what you do. And you'll be able to help others without needing anything in return. That's the mark of a truly great person.

People must learn to see through things. Now that you have become a mother, you must see through the meaningless things even more. Don't let yourself be trapped by insignificant things. Don't be afraid of others and don't dare to get close to them. Why should you be afraid of other people? After all, you haven't borrowed a single brick from them. You have fought for your goals with your own strength. You should feel proud of your bravery for yourself, not boost the morale of others at your own expense.

Sometimes, taking a step back is the best way to achieve your goals!

Wishing you the very best!

Moving from being a full-time mother to going back to work requires adjustment. It's important to stay connected to the workplace and society, and to engage with others. Here are a few suggestions that will help you ease the transition and rediscover yourself:

1. "I'm 31 years old, have been a stay-at-home mom for four years, and I'm ready to go back to work."

You can take care of your child full-time for four years. Being a mother is not easy, and raising a child is even more difficult. Every mother is great.

A mother's job is just as challenging as any other job in the workplace. Don't doubt your abilities. Raising a child well is a skill that can be developed through experience.

Many jobs in the maternal and child industry are eager to welcome this new era of women with experience as a full-time mother. Pay attention to employment information in these areas and make good use of your four years of experience as a full-time mother. Transition smoothly into the workplace.

2. "I don't know what to do when I go out to work. I can't do big jobs, I'm too proud to do small ones, and I don't know what to do with myself..."

You have been out of the workforce for four years, and you are not used to many things anymore.

You are not ready to go back to work. Instead of suffering from the pain of "high expectations and low skills," ease the transition.

You don't have to rush back to work. If you can handle the pressure of family life, there's no need to jump back in too soon. Your child is 4 years old and should be going to kindergarten. You have more free time, so find something to occupy yourself with. Otherwise, you'll feel empty inside.

The new media era has created new opportunities for work that don't necessarily require a 9-to-5 office job. You can work part-time from home or start your own business. There are many options, including micro-businesses, purchasing on behalf of others, live streaming, and more. Talk to friends or colleagues you have already signed up with, and you will find a direction that suits you. You can find things to do for yourself without having to work full-time.

3. "Every day I have a whole bunch of ideals, but I just can't get them off the ground. I hate myself for this, but I'm going to change. I feel like I have anxiety, but also like I'm depressed.

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Anxiety comes from wanting too much, from having too many desires, and from seeing that other people are doing well at everything while you are not. This is the anxiety caused by comparison, the feeling that you are not as good as other people.

Lower your desire level. Find the small things that bring you satisfaction and start with them first. Let yourself find a sense of accomplishment. Only when you really put your heart and soul into something will you know if it suits you and if it is what you want.

Your abilities are not what you see on the surface. You don't know yourself very well, so only those on the sidelines (the people who arrange the work) know what you're capable of. Let yourself do one thing first.

Hello!

If you let go of the identity of a full-time housewife, you will find that many people who are not full-time housewives also experience poor sleep quality, anxiety and depression, and confusion and disorientation about career choices.

1. Examine yourself as a human being.

The identity of a full-time housewife is a resource and a bright spot, despite the questioner's concerns.

Women are human beings first and foremost, in addition to their roles as daughters, wives, and mothers. The expression "thirty and established" refers to having stable values within, and then exploring the embodiment of those values in many things as time goes on.

You can find a neutral point in a harmonious way when things happen. Stand firm in the present and create a better future.

If you want your children to see you as a role model and you're motivated to keep learning, you can make parent-child interactions enjoyable all the time. It's not about doing it for your kids, but doing it for yourself. You have to want to do it, and you have to do it for you.

2. Talk to yourself and identify the root cause of your concern. Then tackle the issue head-on.

You could go on forever listing all your worries.

You want to find a job that you are more comfortable with to gain social recognition and a social attribute.

But is it to satisfy social expectations? No. You set off with the accelerator without knowing which way to go because you are so confident in your ability to navigate your own path.

You need to put on the brakes and talk to yourself: "Am I doing what I like just to prove myself? If I can bathe in the sunshine every day, listen to the rain from time to time, and see my child's face filled with the same smile as mine, isn't this sense of satisfaction irreplaceable?

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3. Manage your marital relationship with a combination of love and tranquility.

As a married person with children, the relationship between husband and wife is above that between parent and child. You will naturally be less distracted if you can count on your husband's support and understanding when dealing with things.

If you need to communicate with your husband emotionally, do it.

Be yourself and see what you can do.

Hello, dear question asker!

After reading your question, I really understand your dilemma. First, let me give you a warm hug!

I can see you're facing some challenges right now. It's totally normal to feel this way! The problems you're dealing with are:

1. You're married and have been a full-time housewife for four years. You want to go out to work, but you're also afraid.

2. You're not going out much, and you're avoiding socializing. You know you need to study, but you're not taking action. It's okay to feel lost about your future plans!

3. You're feeling a bit bored and anxious about the daily life of a housewife, and you're not quite sure about your own position.

4. You're feeling a bit depleted mentally, and you're overthinking things. But there's no point in dwelling on it.

Let's take a look at the question together.

1. The questioner has been married and a housewife for four years, and has been out of touch with social and career development for several years. It's totally understandable that finding a job will be challenging, and employers will have lots of concerns. What the questioner is really afraid of is not the work itself, but the panic of being unable to start over again, or a lack of courage.

It's great that you're thinking about making a change! It's always good to reassess your own conditions, though.

2. It's important to remember that avoiding social interaction doesn't solve any problems on its own. It's just a way of avoiding facing up to your own anxiety. If you don't face up to the problem, any avoidance is just a temporary way of coping. It won't help in the long term.

It seems like the questioner is worried about what other people think. They might feel like they can't find a sense of belonging or people who share the same values and ideas. It's possible that they feel like others won't understand their pain and thoughts.

3. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being unable to do big things and unwilling to do small things! We all have different drives, and everyone is driven by the desire to seek benefits and avoid harm and pursue something better. However, it's really important for the questioner to recognize the conditions that the current environment has given them, which are already very different from the conditions they had before getting married. These differences can be reflected in terms of age, energy, fertility, work ability, value brought, employee stability, and so on.

It's totally normal to have trouble finding a job when you can't recognize your position or assess your own conditions. When reality and personal expectations don't match up, it's only natural to feel anxious.

4. If you're not sure what to study, take a deep breath and start by taking a good look at yourself. Think about your own unique set of skills, experiences, and interests. Then, use this information to make an informed decision about what to study and how to study. Remember, you've got this! Sometimes, the gap between hard work and ability is our living space. When our current circumstances aren't ideal, it's time to take a step back, assess our situation, and then take the next step.

I'm so happy to share the analysis and solution with you!

(1) Take a deep breath and try to organize your emotions, accept your experiences and state of mind unconditionally. Remember, everything is difficult at the beginning, but as long as you take that first step, things will get better and better!

(2) Don't be afraid to socialize! It's a great way to meet people in similar situations who can offer helpful advice and job opportunities. If you avoid it, you might miss out on some great opportunities.

(3) Take a good, honest look at yourself. Think about your skills, the kind of work you enjoy, and what you're interested in. You can even write it all down! Then, look for job opportunities that match what you've written.

(4) It's time to stop the meaningless internal mental depletion of the self and stop overthinking. You've got this!

(5) Why not distract yourself by doing some homework, going for a walk, reading, or taking care of flowers?

(6) Once you've taken a moment to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses, you can start to think about where you'd like to focus your energy. Online courses are a great option, as are in-person classes. And don't forget that you can often find great learning materials and videos on different platforms, which can help you save money while still getting the support you need.

I really hope my answer helps! I wish you all the best in getting through this tough time and welcoming love into your life. The world is rooting for you ?

Hello, I'm Strawberry!

It's so inspiring to see how you've been a full-time wife for five years! It can be said that in these five years you have given up a lot, your social circle has shrunk, and you have become disconnected from society. But now that your child is four years old and old enough to go to kindergarten, you can freely arrange the time when the child goes to kindergarten.

I can really relate to the questioner's situation! A few years ago, I was in a similar spot. I was a full-time wife for ten years, and I was devoted to my family and children. In the first six years, I was basically a stay-at-home mom, and I felt a bit lost. I had always wanted to learn to dance, so I decided to make a big change in my life after the kids started kindergarten. I started studying, dancing, and exercising. I didn't take on too much at once because I was afraid that the pace of life would change too much at once and I couldn't accept it.

We're so used to the carefree lifestyle of a full-time wife that we might be a little hesitant to get to work right away. It's also understandable that we've lost confidence in ourselves after being out of touch with society for so many years.

Every day, I have so many ideas, but I just can't seem to get them off the ground. I hate that I can't do it, but I don't know how to change.

Let's start with a small plan!

From what you've told me, it doesn't seem like you need to go out to work right now. It seems like you're looking to go back to work because you feel like you should be part of society again and find that confident self you once had in the workplace.

It's been a while since you've worked, so it's totally normal to feel a bit of pressure. Let's not overwhelm ourselves with too many plans and just take it one step at a time. For instance, you could start by changing your current living situation. When you have free time, plan out your day: how much time to spend studying, how much time to spend doing other things you're interested in. Once you've got into a routine and gotten used to it, you can slowly make adjustments and add other plans.

I really think the questioner should try sports! Exercise is a great way to boost our energy and vitality. It also helps us see things differently and gives us a new perspective. Plus, it shapes our bodies and boosts our self-confidence.

2. Don't be afraid to take action when you have an idea!

As a full-time wife, your days can be hectic, but it's also easy to lose track of time. After taking care of the kids and household chores, it's tempting to relax on the couch and scroll through our phones. This kind of rhythm can be hard to maintain, and it's easy to get caught up in the day-to-day. When we spend less time engaging with the outside world, we also tend to feel less competitive and less motivated to accomplish other goals.

So, after you've got an idea, if you want to get yourself out of the house and study, you can go to a bookstore or library. If you want to work, you can first figure out what job you're good at and plan it all out step by step. When you're ready, just go for it!

3. Give yourself time to adapt, my friend.

From being single to entering into marriage, and then having children and raising them, the questioner also had no experience. But you've done it! You've adapted. Now you need to adapt to a new environment and a new social group. I believe that if you give yourself time, you can overcome it.

It's totally normal to feel anxious when we're trying to organize our lives, think about the unknown, and feel like we're losing control. The good news is that by following the advice I've shared, you can take the time to arrange the pace of your life and slowly find the life you want. This will help you feel more in control and less anxious.

I really hope my answer helps the questioner. All the best!

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can tell you're anxious and uneasy. You don't feel good about yourself right now.

First of all, we have already identified our problems and know exactly what we need to do to change them. This is something we should be proud of.

Humanistic psychologist Adler was right: what matters most is not what has happened, but how we interpret it.

We have been housewives for five years and are disconnected from society. This is a fact.

It's only natural that we feel anxious and impatient when we want to go out now.

We must also accept that rapid change is unlikely. Everything has its own rhythm, and we cannot rush things.

And although we don't know what to do next, that's not a problem. It shows that we still have many possibilities.

We have to move forward with our pain, even though this is the low point of our lives. Everyone carries a heavy load.

If you live a comfortable life, there are two possibilities. Either you are truly living a good life and are one of the few successful people in the world, or you are self-deceived and self-satisfied, thinking you are already good enough while others sneer behind your back.

You will face darkness and pain before you succeed.

I have seen this analogy before, and it is true: on the way to the top of a mountain, the further we go, the more difficult it gets, while on the way down, we get more and more comfortable.

But remember, while you enjoy the comfort on the way down, you are still going downhill.

You're in the same situation we were in at the foot of the mountain. We didn't know which mountain to climb, but we knew it would be worth it.

We will climb this mountain or that mountain, but we will definitely choose to climb upward to the peak that is ours.

The questioner must first let go of the burden in their heart, take action, and believe wholeheartedly that they will go out and realize their dreams.

You will thank yourself for your hard work today and for the trials you have endured today when you succeed.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

Thank you for your time. I am Jiusi, representing Yixinli, World and I Love You.

Hello, I see your question and I empathize with you on this issue. I've also had a long experience of raising children. Yes, raising children is hard, with hardships and even the family's lack of understanding.

Because for a long time, the world has been full of dealing with children, which may cause us to change the way we work. It is normal to feel a bit uncomfortable at first. Dealing with people and the differences in various aspects of the environment are indeed a challenge for us.

So, understand our own difficulties and unaccustomedness, and only then will we be ready to face the future.

The physical and mental exhaustion caused by raising a child for a long period of time requires us to take a little break. It's like a mobile phone that has been working all the time—it actually needs to be repaired. If you keep trying to get it to work when it's almost out of battery, it's likely to crash.

I think it's important to remember that in times of anxiety, it's ok to stop and take a step back. It's natural to want to move quickly, but if you slow down and take a moment to pause, you'll be able to make more thoughtful changes. The more you want to be fast, the slower you'll be.

So find a way to relax first. This is what your body and mind need right now. Meanwhile, tell yourself

I deserve to be treated well.

I need to recharge my batteries before I can move on.

I'm sure I'll be able to adapt to the new environment, even though I'm expecting there'll be a few hurdles along the way.

I'm confident I can overcome them.

These self-suggestions are really important, and you'll see even better results if you feel strong after making corrections.

I hope this all makes sense to you.

Hello, question asker!

From your words, I can feel a strong sense of confusion and uncertainty, which I know we can overcome together! I can see that your mind is full every day, but this feeling does not bring you fulfillment, but rather a strong sense of discomfort.

I also saw that you mentioned "having a lot of ideals, but just can't get things done." It's a challenge, but you can do it! I can feel that you have always kept yourself very busy, but you are beginning to feel even more tired. Let's find ways to recharge!

Regarding the problems you have raised, I think we can definitely sort them out! I'm excited to share some of my own thoughts and provide you with some different perspectives.

Let's dive right in and see what's happened!

I've seen some of the encounters you've expressed, and I think we can make a lot of progress if we list them!

After four years of raising a child, you're ready to go out to work! You're excited to tackle new challenges, even if they're big or small. You're embracing the opportunity to grow and learn. You're embracing the chance to interact with other people and make new connections.

Every day, you have the opportunity to lock yourself at home, avoid going out, and communicate with others at your own pace.

You know you need to study, and you're excited to get started!

Every day, my head is brimming with ideas and possibilities!

Every day, I have a whole lot of ideals, and I'm excited to make them happen!

? Let's dive in and explore the amazing world of feelings!

Every experience is accompanied by corresponding feelings. Perhaps some of these feelings are ones we have been avoiding, but they are meaningful. Let's look at the events we have sorted out and see what feelings we have experienced!

Facing the situation of wanting to find a job after four years of raising a child, I see that you express fear in your writing, and when it comes to the mismatch of work content, you express disgust.

Facing the situation of shutting myself at home every day, not going out, and not wanting to communicate with others, I think this part of the feeling is also inseparable from the previous part of the fear. But I'm ready to face it head on!

I'm excited to learn more, but I haven't taken action yet. I feel a little confused, as if I'm facing a dilemma with a goal but no path.

When I'm faced with situations where my mind is full of uncomfortable feelings, I know I can handle it because I'm already feeling relatively high levels of stress.

Facing the gap between ideals and reality, I feel a strong sense of loss. But I also feel excited to bridge that gap!

What can we do about it?

Once you've been through a long period of social isolation, it's only natural that your social skills will need a little TLC. It's totally normal to feel a bit out of your depth when it comes to dealing with people in mutually beneficial interactions, and to feel a little resistance and discomfort in noisy places. But don't worry, there's only one way to solve this, and that is to "do something", even if it is just doing something!

It's not realistic to expect yourself to immediately return to a state of adaptation. That's okay! It's natural to feel unfamiliar and fearful when you're adapting to something new. Setbacks are a normal part of the process. The key is to not let them cause further loss of confidence.

So, why not start with something simple and fun to help you get back into the swing of things? I know that a short and simple job may not be your idea of a good time, but it's a great way to ease back into social life.

But I want to say that these simple tasks are not the goal of work. They are just a means to an end, a stepping stone! When you feel that reintegration into society is no longer scary, your new goal will naturally appear.

Although reintegration takes time, I think it would be a great idea to complete career planning before that time. So, let's dive in and explore some things about career planning!

The main steps of career planning are an exciting journey that can be roughly divided into several parts. First, recognize your own characteristics. Then, understand the current situation of the career environment. Finally, combine the two for analysis. You'll determine the career direction and career goals, and then formulate a detailed plan to achieve them. These steps may seem simple, but it still takes some time and effort to do them well.

After all, for people who have been away from the workplace for a long time, there are bound to be many exciting opportunities for growth and understanding in their self-analysis and understanding of the professional environment. They can choose a direction first, devote themselves to their work while updating their knowledge and correcting their career path to ensure that they are on the right track—and it's an amazing feeling to be back in the game!

Career planning is an important matter, and I wholeheartedly believe that you should embrace it with enthusiasm! Here, the issue of time costs comes into play. Appropriately conducting a career planning assessment is a convenient shortcut.

Career planning assessments are a great way to find out what your interests are, what your career personality is, what your strengths and weaknesses are at work, and to clarify your career planning ideas. There are so many different career assessments out there, but just be careful of those free online tests that claim to be authoritative.

The results of those free tests are often inaccurate or not indicative, so it's best to trust professional institutions with your career planning!

Mothers face two incredible pressures: family and society. It's always a challenge, but you're not alone! There are so many enthusiastic little ones ready to walk through the difficult times with you. Plus, there are tons of amazing professional listeners and counselors who are ready to give you the support you need.

By the end of this series of explorations, you'll probably have your own answers!

I'm so excited to share these insights with you! I really hope they can accompany you through this difficult time.

I really hope everything goes well for you and I wish you the absolute best!

The world and I love you so much!

Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I read your post and I can feel your anxiety and unease.

You have also shown courage in seeking help. This will help you understand yourself better and become a better person.

I'll share my thoughts from the post, which may help the poster see herself differently.

1. Deal with your emotions first.

The poster has been a full-time parent for four years and now wants to work, but has problems. There are practical and emotional problems.

I understand your situation and emotions. Many mothers have had similar problems.

We can deal with our emotions first and then with things.

If we have too many emotions, we can't think clearly. So, we should express our emotions in a reasonable way.

Write down your feelings and thoughts. What are you afraid of?

What are we worried about?

Exploring and expressing helps us think more rationally. We can then face reality more calmly.

2. Try more and find your passion.

The poster doesn't know what he wants or what to do. I understand.

It's hard when you feel lost. Think about what's best for you.

Try more!

If we take action without letting emotions get in the way, they'll calm down.

Maybe trying more will help us find our passion.

3. Break down your goals.

The poster wants to go out but can't. He has many ideals but can't put them into practice.

Can we write down our ideals? Then use the elimination method to cross out things we can't do.

Until there's only one left.

We can also break down this ideal. How many steps are needed to achieve it? What step can I do now?

If we break down this ideal, we can know what to do now to achieve it.

4. Learn and grow.

The original poster may be resistant to this. I have observed in the original poster's posts that you want to study, but you keep putting it off.

Often, we don't take action because our hearts are full of emotions. When we express these emotions reasonably, we become calmer.

If we learn, we're more likely to succeed. And we don't have to spend a lot of time learning.

When you can learn, you should act and learn. We will become more interested and calm.

I hope these help and inspire you. Click Find a Coach if you have questions. We can communicate one-on-one to support and grow together.

Hello! It seems that your anxiety is related to social disconnection, which is totally normal. Your longing for a better life in the future and your lack of confidence in your abilities are the real problems you are facing, but you can overcome them!

As for full-time work, I personally don't think it's a good option. But if it's unavoidable, you can make it work! Have a good conversation with your partner about how working at home is also work and requires dedication.

If there is no such agreement, one party will feel superior because of their financial income, while the other party will gradually lose their say because they have no income. The comment "If I don't earn any money, what would we eat?" can shut up the complaints of a full-time housewife.

As for your confusion about anxiety and depression and whether you have a disease, of course you need a professional diagnosis. But in terms of emotions alone, they can coexist and be the cause of each other, which is great because it means you can work on them separately!

It's totally possible that anxiety has led to depression. And it's also possible that depression has led to anxiety.

In your current situation, the first step is to go out of the house! You can start with individual sports such as running. If you exercise enough, your depressed mood will subside.

Second, you need to start learning something you are interested in or good at, whether it's cooking or flower arranging. It's much easier to get started and gradually move on to other things.

Third, I highly recommend going to a location a little further away from home or simply studying online. This will help you avoid the current discomfort of directly facing others. And of course, in the long run, returning to society is a must! It'll be an amazing experience.

If you're still struggling to find the courage to come out, I've got great news for you! There are experienced counselors out there who can help you. I'm here to support you in taking that first step!