After graduation, I discovered that I had seriously changed mentally and was reluctant to communicate.

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Hello, I'm a mindfulness coach. I can see how tough it is for you, going through these big changes in your mind since you started working. It's totally normal to feel like you can't communicate and be in your own world. It's even normal to worry that this will lead to self-isolation.

Take a deep breath and calm your mind. With enough meditation, you can rekindle the wisdom that is originally yours.

Let's take a look at what's really going on, my friend.

1. Change is a form of growth, my friend!

Everyone grows and changes throughout their life, no matter their age, gender, or financial situation. I remember watching the family sitcom "Growing Pains" when I was a kid. It was about Mike's journey through life, and it was so relatable!

Growing up is a natural process that can bring out all kinds of emotions. If you're feeling confused or lost about your current state, or if you're rejecting or excluding others, these are all normal stages in the process of growing up.

When you were at school, you were such a cheerful, outgoing person! But now you're quiet and don't want to communicate with your parents or friends. You prefer to be alone, to think alone, and to spend time alone. You feel that this difference in your personality is abnormal, and I can understand why.

It's totally normal for a person's state of mind to change over time. Things like age, environment, experience, knowledge, and perception all play a part. So, take a step back and look at your changes from a different perspective. You're not communicating as much because you've started to have your own thoughts. And you've become prudent, reliable, and trustworthy. That's a great sign of maturity!

It's great that you have such a good relationship with your girlfriend! It just shows that you're doing really well in your interpersonal relationships. The only thing is, I can understand why you're having a bit of trouble adjusting to the difference between school and work. But I'm sure it won't have much impact on your work or life.

I'd love to share with you the difference between loneliness and isolation. Loneliness is a feeling of being isolated from the outside world and from other people, which can make you feel lonely and afraid. The difference between loneliness and isolation is whether or not you connect with other people, and it all depends on whether or not you connect with yourself.

It's so hard to give yourself a good review, and it's even harder to give others a good review. This makes it really difficult to experience the joy of getting along with others. When your heart is lonely, it can make you feel lonely in general.

?2. As our social circles change, we also change as individuals.

As we get older, we'll find that friends and classmates who we had a blast with at school will gradually become less connected after we start working.

It's not that the relationship has faded, it's just that the respective circles, experiences, and encounters have changed. Over time, we naturally find ourselves growing apart from our previous friends and classmates. Different circles mean fewer intersections and common ground, and when we're not in the same circles, it can feel like there's less resonance when we communicate. It can feel like there's growing estrangement, but it's not that the relationship has faded. It's just that the respective circles, experiences, and encounters have changed.

As we journey through life, we'll meet different people at different stages. Some will come and go, while others will stick by our side for the long haul.

Growing and gaining from your relationships with others is also a great way to show your love and appreciation for those connections. You can share your thoughts and feelings with your girlfriend, and seeing you from her perspective will give you a new insight and help you make sense of your situation.

I really think you'd benefit from reading "Rebuilding Your Life" and "You Have to Believe." They're great books that'll really help you increase your life capital and strength.

I really hope this helps you, and I love you so much! ?

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Hello, question owner! It's like meeting someone in person when you read their words. I am Hezhu 00072. I can feel your inner pain and confusion from your words, and I'm here to help! I will describe my point of view. I hope my next answer will be helpful and inspiring to you!

You mentioned that your personality has changed a lot, and the watershed was graduation. Before graduation, you were an outgoing person, but after graduation, you became less sociable and didn't like to share your interesting things with others. Then you may need to ask yourself, after graduation, when you were looking for a job, what kind of people did you meet and what kind of things happened to you?

As the book A Sentence Is Worth Ten Thousand points out, we spend our whole lives looking for someone to talk to. And then, when we finally find someone to talk to, we realize that it's not always easy to find the right person. Many times, we quietly endure things on our own.

You can feel your inner depression and pain, but you can also try other methods to relieve your inner pain and helplessness! Try meditation, drawing, or exercising, and you'll produce dopamine in your body, making you more calm and natural!

You can try something really cool. Take your time to communicate about small things. Write down five things that make you feel grateful. Write down small things that make you feel happy. Before you know it, this situation will have less of an impact on you. You can do it!

You can do it! Try to resolve your inner thoughts and convince yourself to communicate with others. People are social animals, and you are no exception! If you don't communicate with others or express your inner emotions, you may not have a very appropriate way to resolve your emotions, which will naturally affect your daily life. But you can change that!

If you feel like you're not communicating well with your family, why not try communicating with the author of the book? It could really help to calm you down!

Wishing you the best!

I love you, world!