After nearly seven years in the IT industry, I feel despair about my career future.

Which work is more tiring? The internet, advertising, smart technology, teaching, and the service industry. If you're in IT, you may have experienced hardships. You've been in the industry for almost seven years.

Happiness is not something you can hear, but despair, fatigue, and anxiety seem to be the most intuitive feelings. The boundaries between your work and your life are becoming unclear. You worry about being eliminated in various ways.

You wanted to get a master's in project management, but you hate project management in real life. All the meetings and clients drain your patience. You've lost your spark.

You're in your thirties and at a crisis point, but don't know what you want to do. Your salary is your only support. Many people have also left this industry or others.

They don't want to work overtime or do things unrelated to their main duties. Many things have caused them pain. You can see their state: pain, sub-health, unwillingness, confusion, and panic. These are common portrayals of modern workers.

You want to escape but you can't. If you have other skills or hobbies, you can learn more about them in your spare time. You can also train in meditation to keep your energy and concentration up. Meanwhile, as a professional heart exploration coach, I recommend that you take a psychological test on your career needs.

ZQ?

Hello, I'm Jinmu's little angel, and I really hope my answer can help you!

1. The poor questioner is going through a lot! From what they've told us, their problems can be summarized as follows:

1. After seven years in the IT industry, I haven't quite reached the level of success I was hoping for. I'm feeling a bit anxious and exhausted, to be honest.

2. Over the past year or two, things have been pretty intense! The pace of work has been non-stop, 24/7, and I've had to juggle work and home life.

3. It can be so tough when you feel like you're stuck in a career rut, when you don't feel like you're as talented as you'd like to be, when you don't love your job, and when you feel like you're in a bit of a pickle.

4. It can be really tough for middle-aged folks to balance family and career.

5. You're ready to make a big leap in your career, but you're not sure where to start.

6. It can be really tough to keep going when you feel resistance and aversion to your current work.

7. They're feeling a bit lost and confused about their career path.

2. Let's take a look at the obstacles the questioner is currently facing and how they can be overcome.

1. How can we work together to find ways to balance the input and output?

2. How can I make the most of my time and get everything done?

3. How can I get unstuck and make some more progress in my career?

4. How can I make sure that my family and my career can go hand in hand?

5. How can we tackle the decline in physical condition and inability to concentrate?

6. How can we find happiness at work and adjust our mindset?

7. How can I ask my inner self and find a career that I'll be excited about for the rest of my life?

I'm here to offer some friendly advice to help you overcome the obstacles you're facing.

1. Be kind to yourself and only compete with yourself.

There's no need to compare yourself to others. It's totally normal to feel a bit lost when you see your colleagues or even your juniors making progress faster than you. It's okay to feel like you're not as talented as they are or that you're not as fast as they are. What's important is that you recognize your own efforts and accept that you're doing your best. Look at how far you've come in the past seven years! You've grown so much, and that's something to celebrate. Just remember to keep pushing forward and make progress every day. You've got this!

2. It's so important to separate your public and private matters and manage your time well.

I would really recommend buying a book on time management. It's so helpful! You can follow the tips in it to plan and adjust your plans, gradually prioritize your tasks, learn to say no, manage your time, and separate your work time from your personal time.

3. Know yourself and learn to diversify your income sources.

With seven years of technical experience, you've gained so much valuable insight! You can even conduct a career diagnosis and career planning in your spare time to see if you should maintain your current foundation and find new skills and ways to make money, or if you should do what the questioner mentioned, such as taking postgraduate entrance exams or professional certification exams. Think before you act, try more, and in your spare time, you can try doing live streaming, recording videos, or writing technical articles. There are so many opportunities in today's society, and the questioner can definitely try on the basis of maintaining their original income.

4. The great news is that you can absolutely start a family and establish a career at the same time!

From what you've said, it seems like you might not have a family yet and might have hit a bit of a snag in your career. But don't worry! These are just minor hiccups. Once you've made time for your family, as we've discussed, you can start thinking about starting a family.

Finding true love and doing what you love is such a wonderful thing!

5. Stay active, take care of your health, and keep your energy up!

As we all know, as people get older, their physical condition inevitably declines. But don't worry! There are ways to slow down or adjust this process. The questioner can start exercising for half an hour every day to keep their cells active. And they can also pay attention to keeping warm and drinking more hot water with wolfberries to maintain their peak condition. If you want to study and are worried about memory problems, you can try to change your memory method by telling stories, drawing pictures, etc.

6. Take a deep breath and find joy in the midst of hardship. You've got this!

I can see that you're going through a lot of pain in your heart. It's so hard when we're in a state of internal conflict, isn't it? I'd like you to try to think about two things:

1) It can be really tough when we're in a position where we have to take someone else's money and share their misfortune. It's so important to remember that we're all human and we're all in this together. Try to think of yourself as an actor, taking your fee and playing your role.

2) If it's true that the boss is taking advantage of the employees, it might be a good idea to look for a new job.

When we're in a situation where we can't change things, it's important to remember to adjust our mentality. We can't control everything, and that's okay! A day is a day, and it's up to us to decide whether we're going to be happy or not. We shouldn't punish ourselves for other people's mistakes.

7. By the time you're 30, you should have a good grasp on your career, your family, and who you are as a person.

The questioner is in his 30s, feeling a bit lost and confused, and hasn't yet found his true heart's desire. Why not take a chance, take some time off, work through your feelings, go on a trip, and ask yourself: What kind of person do you want to be? What is the career you want to strive for your whole life?

I'd love to know what kind of family you want to build!

I really hope Jinmu's answers can help the questioner, and I wish the questioner all the best!

Good day. I perceive a profound sense of helplessness and despair in your demeanor.

I am currently experiencing a state of stagnation, as though I have fallen into a quagmire from which I am unable to extricate myself. I lack the necessary direction and sense of purpose to move forward.

However, the questioner should not be unduly anxious, as such circumstances are not uncommon during the course of personal growth.

Therefore, our current state is also a normal state, and it is also an opportunity for us. We are dissatisfied with the status quo, we desire change, and we have analyzed every aspect of ourselves. This is a positive indication.

The most challenging aspect of personal growth is identifying a viable change strategy. The most effective approach to problem-solving is to enhance one's own capabilities.

Accordingly, the questioner may continue to identify the optimal course of genuine transformation and complete the process of transformation through this period of reflection.

In his book, Born to be Remarkable, positive psychology guru Vishen Lakshari posits that a person's life can be distilled to three core activities:

1. Experience

The only thing we have left when we leave this world is our experiences. Some people may have lived for decades, but if they fail to make each day unique, they will have no memorable experiences to reflect on with regret.

Some individuals undergo significant transformation on a daily basis, persistently exploring and challenging their own boundaries. Ultimately, they accumulate a substantial reservoir of memories and experience a life that is, on the whole, profoundly fulfilling.

2. Growth

Our entire life course can be conceptualized as a process of growth and development. A substantial body of research has documented the benefits of lifelong learning, a concept that has been espoused by numerous esteemed scholars.

Humans are innately predisposed to learning. Infants and children, in particular, display a remarkable aptitude for acquiring knowledge and a keen intellectual curiosity.

Nevertheless, in adulthood, many individuals cease to pursue learning. It is worth considering the length of time that has elapsed since they have felt a desire to explore, which may contribute to a sense of meaninglessness in life.

3. Dedication

In what situations do individuals receive the greatest respect and satisfaction?

The greatest inspiration that Academician Yuan Longping has bestowed upon us is that of dedication.

It can be posited that the more individuals one assists, the greater the return one receives, both in terms of spiritual fulfilment and material gain.

One can ascertain the extent of one's contribution to the world, which serves as a reflection of one's value.

It is recommended that the questioner consider ways of effecting change in themselves through learning and dedication.

At times, it is necessary to engage in a particular action and continue doing so. It is possible that this action may lead to the discovery of the beauty of life and the realization of the value of one's existence.

It is my sincere hope that my response will prove beneficial to the inquirer and that they will soon overcome their current state of confusion.

I would like to express my gratitude for your consideration. I am Jiusi, a resident of Yixinli. I extend my sincerest regards to you and the world at large.

Hello, question asker! I'm happy to answer your question.

From what the questioner said, it seems like they're going through a rough patch at work. With a lot of new people coming in and a competitive environment, it's no surprise they're feeling the pressure.

So, no matter how long you've been in the industry, it's tough to stay calm and it's only natural to feel pressure and anxiety. Having a sense of crisis isn't necessarily a bad thing, though. It just means you have high expectations of yourself and hope to become a better version of yourself in the future.

It's not clear that the person asking the question wants a better future just because they're applying for a master's in management. So, a sense of professional crisis can also be a driving force that spurs us on.

I think the problem is more a sense of burnout caused by the pressure of the questioner. Shouldn't the questioner face the problem now without getting a master's degree in management? If the questioner shows a strong academic background and expertise, will that help them convince customers and colleagues more convincingly?

So, how can we avoid being stalled by the double-edged sword of a career crisis and make it work for us instead?

Keep an eye on things.

American organizational psychologist Tasha Eurich says that self-awareness is all about understanding who you are and how others see you. Studies show that people who know themselves better can make better decisions, build stronger relationships at work, advance their careers, and feel more confident.

How can we keep a good handle on our own self-awareness?

Tasha Eurich thinks that practising mindfulness can help us understand ourselves better in the moment because mindfulness is about seeing ourselves and the world in a new way. How does it work?

First, stop overthinking, relax, and experience the present moment. Then, become aware of what you are thinking, feeling, and doing in the present moment without judgment. Spend a few minutes every night before bed practicing mindfulness. This will help you stay in a state of heightened awareness at all times, which will make you more alert and less easily deceived by your surroundings.

Focus on the positive and successful aspects.

People in a professional crisis tend to be anxious all the time, worrying about things like losing their jobs or not doing a good enough job. This can really affect their confidence and self-esteem. In fact, these thoughts are very harmful to people's psychological well-being and career development.

A study by the University of California, Berkeley, found that if people in a state of excessive anxiety want to improve their judgment, they need to focus on the right things, rather than on negative thoughts or past mistakes. The cognitive behavioral school of psychology also believes that by focusing on past successes rather than failures, decision-making ability and confidence can be improved.

If you're feeling a lot of anxiety about your career, it might be worth focusing on your strengths and successes to help you feel more confident.

Keep learning.

For folks who are feeling the crunch, learning new things, coming up with new ideas, and taking in new information can help them feel less stressed and more in control. It can even turn that sense of crisis into something that drives them forward. The questioner's application for a master's degree in management is also a great way to level up.

Because learning new things helps you spot problems before they become crises and gives you the tools to handle them when they do arise. So, how do you learn?

First, you need to know your strengths and weaknesses. If you're not sure, ask yourself the following questions:

What kind of work do you really enjoy and feel good about doing?

2. What tasks do you love doing and where could you improve?

3. What work do you really excel at, but not so much enjoy?

4. What tasks do you not excel at and dislike?

Once you've gone over these points, you'll have a good grasp on your own strengths and weaknesses. Then, you can take targeted steps to shore up your weaknesses and become even more competitive, all while staying calm in the face of a crisis.

In short, the sense of crisis in the workplace is not as scary as it seems. As long as we view it rationally and make scientific use of it, we can use it to get rid of the bottleneck period and reach a higher level!

I hope my answer helps the person who asked the question!

The Chinese have a saying: "Misfortune lies in the balance of good fortune, and good fortune lies in the balance of misfortune." This is undeniably wise.

I've had a similar experience. I invested a lot of time in a job, but due to changes in the industry, it's becoming increasingly difficult to move forward.

Furthermore, you find it challenging to change careers and are experiencing depression. However, you are determined to find a breakthrough.

You tried a new direction, naturally starting part-time. You quickly got the hang of it, even surpassing people who had been doing it for ten or twenty years. You then realized you were actually very talented in this direction.

Take a career aptitude test. Find out what your career inclinations are and what you prefer to do. Life is long. Many people feel that it's just about over when they reach 40.

However, the exciting life of some people is just beginning. A classic car may be worth very little if sold on the general second-hand market, but it will exceed one million if appraised by a car dealership specializing in antiques.

You are an antique car, worth far more than a million. You just haven't found the right place for you to shine.

You will know when you've found the right place for you. It will make you feel at home. You will be happy and engaged, even though you are tired. You will also feel a great sense of accomplishment. Finding the right position is very important for a person.