After the divorce, my daughter always likes to smell her father's smelly socks. How can I solve this problem?

I think the real issue here is not whether the daughter has a fetish, but why the questioner is not close to her daughter.

Before the divorce, Dad often went out partying and didn't take much care of his daughter, but she always clung to him. The questioner was supposed to be the main caregiver for the daughter, but even if she didn't see him for a month, she didn't want to. After the divorce, the daughter followed the questioner, but every day she missed her father and cried, hugging photos and smelly socks and not letting go.

This is something to think about.

The questioner didn't go into much detail about their relationship with their daughter, so I'm not going to speculate here. I'll just provide some clues in the hope that they'll be helpful to the questioner.

In a family, the father, mother, and daughter each have their own status, and they support each other emotionally and financially. But if there's a problem in one of these relationships, for example if the father and mother don't get along and the mother doesn't get the emotional and financial support she needs from her husband, it's easy for her to transfer this emotional need to her daughter.

She might talk to her daughter about her dad's inappropriate behavior, sharing her frustrations in the hope that her daughter will comfort her and support her in distancing herself from her father. Alternatively, she may direct her anger at her daughter, being strict, criticizing her often, and even beating her, as a way to release her negative emotions.

The father doesn't spend much time with his daughter, and she gets the impression that she's spoiled, satisfied, and close to him.

From her daughter's perspective, she'll probably like her father more.

It's possible that the questioner's relationship with her daughter has been fine, and there haven't been any major issues. However, it's likely that she's unhappy with her father and has been complaining about life in general. Kids are very perceptive, and they can see and feel it.

So, I think this marriage is over and it's had a negative impact on the OP. The daughter is still by the OP's side, so the OP needs to be there for her, both physically and mentally and spiritually.

It's important to keep your relationship with your ex-husband separate from your relationship with your daughter. When you're with your daughter, you should give her your full attention and love. She's your daughter, and you should love her unconditionally.

Hello, host. I'm sorry for you and your daughter. I'll answer your question.

Her behavior is not a fetish, but an emotional attachment to objects based on people.

My daughter and her father had a close relationship from an early age. She was always glued to him and would miss him if she didn't see him for a day. She saw her father as tall and mighty and loved him. She didn't know about his love affairs, drinking, gambling, and whoring. A child of a few years old has no judgment of right and wrong about those things. When you divorced, your child's life suddenly lacked her father. She felt like she had lost her psychological hero. How could she not be sad and upset?

My daughter only finds her father's things at home. She relies on them! It shows how much she hopes to see and spend time with her father.

If you're divorced, don't stop loving your child. Let them spend time with their dad while they're young. Give them a happy childhood so they grow up healthy. If you don't love your child, they'll lack self-confidence. Childhood wounds take a long time to heal!

Greetings! I extend to you a warm embrace from a distance.

It is evident that you are experiencing a range of intense emotions, including unease, heartache, helplessness, and a profound longing for support, when you observe your child exhibiting this behavior.

Firstly, it is important to note that a child's sniffing of their parent's socks is not indicative of a fetish, but rather a manifestation of the child's longing for their parent. The socks, through their olfactory stimulation, provide the child with a sense of familiarity, as they retain the scent of the parent. This olfactory stimulation serves as a reminder to the child that the parent is nearby.

The divorce itself, as well as the ex-spouse's personality and habits, are irrelevant to the child. The parent is still the child's primary attachment figure, regardless of the circumstances surrounding the dissolution of the marriage. The child's emotional bond with the parent is not contingent on the parent's lifestyle. Conversely, the child may experience a sense of abandonment, fear, and insecurity if the parent discards more belongings belonging to the ex-spouse. This may be perceived by the child as a rejection of the father, which could result in a disruption to the child's sense of self.

It is therefore important to understand that the decision to divorce is a matter between adults. It is crucial to ensure that children do not lack love from the other parent as a result of the divorce. The more negative feelings and criticism directed towards the other parent, the more loyal the child will be to that parent in their heart. The child will do everything possible to maintain a close relationship with the other parent, as they will always be seen as the best parent by the child.

Consequently, when a child exhibits such behavior, it is recommended to first calm down and then sit down to inquire about the child's feelings regarding his father. If the child indicates a desire to see his father, an arrangement can be made for a visit.

It is important to note that the love of a parent does not diminish with the physical separation from another. In fact, the opposite is true: the love of a parent increases when they are apart. This is because the love of a parent is not contingent on their physical proximity to their child. It is not affected by the circumstances of their living situation. It is a love that is unchanging and eternal. Furthermore, the love of a parent for their child's other parent does not diminish with the physical separation of the parents. In fact, it increases. This is because the love of a parent for their child is not affected by the circumstances of their living situation. It is a love that is unchanging and eternal.

My name is Lily, and I am the young woman who serves as a listener at the Q&A Museum. I extend my love to you, and I hope that you will reciprocate.

Thank you so much for your question!

Divorce usually means we can get away from a failed relationship, which is a great thing!

We usually think that child-is-12-years-old-and-wants-to-know-the-reasons-for-our-separation-how-should-we-explain-it-13303.html" target="_blank">divorce means we can escape a failed intimate relationship, which is great!

But here's the good news! The child is keeping the memory of the father in your lives, which makes it a little more challenging for you, but it also makes it easier to truly sever the relationship.

The good news is that there are ways to help your child through these changes! Even if your child is showing attachment issues, there may be separation, loss, an inability to understand the changes, or even feelings of loneliness and being ignored, etc.

Even if the socks stink, she doesn't mind! This shows that the child has a lot of needs, which is great because it means she's a very active and in-touch child.

It's clear that your daughter was once the apple of her father's eye. This makes the sense of loss from the divorce all the more understandable.

She was always glued to her father, so she's going to have a hard time adjusting to this new situation.

The daughter is testing your limits, which gives you the chance to show her what she's missing out on!

So, divorce may seem like an adult matter, but it's so much more than that! Children are very much involved, and they have a lot to teach us.

This is an amazing story about loss that takes place in the child's inner world. How can we help the child resolve it in the best way possible?

The first ending is: Can we avoid losing each other? It means that the marriage is dissolved and the couple is free to go their separate ways.

The first ending is: Can we avoid losing each other? It means that the marriage is dissolved and the couple is free to go their separate ways.

But the child is still the father's child! How to keep the child's inner world connected to the father may be the perfect solution.

The second ending is to face the pain of separation together with the child. It's a great idea to tell the child about the father's departure, even if it's something the father may find difficult to talk about.

Show your child deep understanding and acceptance of their pain, and let them know that you're always there for them when they need you.

The third ending is a great one! It allows the child to temporarily remain with dad, and it also has a sense of ritual. You can allow the child to have this transition, but you can also do something constructive together with your child to create a sense of ritual.

The third ending, keeping dad's belongings, also has a wonderful sense of ritual, allowing the child to temporarily remain with dad. Allow the child to have this transition, but you can also do something constructive with the child to create a sense of ritual.

In a better way, keep the thoughts of the substitute father inside—and let them inspire you!

The fourth ending is that you get to be a mother who can take care of the child! It is important not to let the child share your grief and anger for you, otherwise the child's love will intertwine with your hatred. It is difficult to put in words, but it's an amazing opportunity!

Or maybe there is confusion and complexity in your needs and your child's needs, which means there's plenty of room for improvement!

It's a challenge being a great mom, and it's even more rewarding to overcome the hurdles of raising a child on your own!

I really hope this helps a little! I know that separation can be tough, but you can get through it!

If you're still having trouble, don't worry! You can also try psychological counseling, which can be a great option.

Hello, host! I'm thrilled to answer your question. From what you've shared, it's clear you're feeling a bit anxious about your daughter looking at her ex-husband's photos and smelling his smelly socks. In the past, your daughter and her ex-husband had a great relationship, and he was very affectionate with her. Now that you're divorced, your daughter will miss her father very much.

Absolutely!

A seven-year-old girl is still learning to distinguish between the whole and the parts, so she will invest more of her affection in her father's past belongings. She will satisfy her inner longing for her father by looking at photos and smelling his smelly socks, imagining that he is by her side—and that's a wonderful thing!

Your husband is rich, but in your eyes, he is not a good husband. Your daughter is seven years old, and she has so much to learn about what makes a good husband!

Fathers usually spoil their daughters a bit, which is great because it makes them feel loved and secure.

Seven-year-old girls already have a clear sense of gender, which is great! Learning how to communicate normally with the opposite sex is a basic skill that he must learn, and it's a wonderful opportunity for him to develop some essential skills. Some skills are best developed with the father as a participant, which is a great chance for him to bond with his daughter.

Perhaps you don't approve of your ex-husband's character, but who will fulfill the duty of nurturing normal communication and interaction with the opposite sex? If possible, you should definitely create more opportunities for your daughter to get in touch with her father more often! The court awarded custody of your daughter to you, but it did not give you the right to block your daughter's communication with her father.

If your daughter really misses her father, you can give her your husband's tie clip or cufflink, but something more meaningful would be even better! This is sometimes more meaningful than a photo or a smelly sock, and it won't make people feel so awkward.

Mothers often take their daughters to school, but many teachers are women, so girls rarely have the chance to interact with adult men. But there's a simple solution! You can ask the child's uncle or other adult male relatives to accompany her, so that she knows that there are not only fathers but also other types of adult men in her life.

This is a great way to help distract her from missing her father!

As a mother, I made the choice to divorce my ex-husband, and I'm excited to give my child the best possible upbringing! I'm looking forward to reducing the negative impact of divorce and the lack of his father's company. I'm thrilled to have an appointment in 1983. The world and I love you!

Dear Question Asker, My name is Enoch, and I am the designated answerer.

I can see that the questioner is concerned about her daughter's development. However, I hope that the questioner can relax and not worry too much about her daughter's situation. Although her daughter misses her father very much and treasures the things he once owned, she has not yet reached the level of a fetish.

The husband of the questioner may have been emotionally unfaithful to the questioner, which has caused her harm and affected the family. However, he treats their daughter very lovingly, so in her eyes, he still plays the role of a good father. Relationships between people are relatively complicated, and children's evaluation, understanding, and judgment of people are rather naïve and immature.

It is therefore essential that the questioner assumes the role of an adult and provides guidance to their child in a constructive manner.

In general, the effects of divorce are significant and detrimental to children, given their age, dependency on their parents, and limited psychological resilience.

The child is experiencing significant distress due to the separation from her father. Given her previous dependence on him, this separation has resulted in feelings of profound sadness and confusion. She is expressing her longing for her father through his belongings as a means of coping with the pain of being separated from him.

In this case, the questioner can provide guidance to their child, emphasizing that while they may feel a sense of longing for their father, these socks and shoes do not represent him. They cannot bring their child anything, and even keeping them may be detrimental to their well-being. The child should be taught to treat these objects with care.

Furthermore, following a divorce, the parent with custody often expresses a reluctance to allow the other parent to see the child. While this sentiment is understandable, it is ultimately detrimental to the child. If feasible, it is recommended to reassure the child of future opportunities for contact, such as scheduled visits at specific times, such as the weekend or the end of the month. This approach can help to alleviate the child's distress and foster a sense of hope.

It is my hope that the questioner will provide the child with the necessary care, comfort, and guidance. Furthermore, I hope that the questioner will have a better life and that the questioner's child will grow up healthy and happy.

The questioner is distressed. Her daughter is looking at a pair of smelly socks all day, which is unsightly and unhygienic. She can't stop her from doing so. She's worried it will affect her daughter's future. This is understandable.

The questioner said her daughter's behavior is a fetish. I don't think it's a fetish based on the information provided. A fetish usually refers to a person satisfying inner needs by collecting objects and experiencing pleasure when they're with these objects.

The daughter doesn't have sexual impulses, so her fetish doesn't define her. She previously received a lot of attention from her father, and she wants more. She thinks her father is good and loves her, and she is also good.

The child feels her mother is "bad" and doesn't love her. She also feels bad about herself. She is more willing to be close to her father than to her mother. This is her instinctive reaction of self-protection.

Her parents got divorced, and she had to go with her mother. This meant losing her father's attention, love, and care. Her mother didn't love her, and she felt very lonely and afraid. So she needed to be "accompanied." Her father's clothes and shoes became an emotional link between her and her father. Being with these things made her feel loved and safe.

The questioner needs to treat their child with more patience and gentleness. This includes not scolding or yelling at their child for sniffing their father's smelly socks. Instead, they should ask their child why they do this. They should also have more physical contact with their child. This will help the child to accept their mother.

I extend my utmost support and empathy to you.

From the description of your question, it appears that you divorced your former spouse due to your inability to tolerate his undesirable habits. It seems that your seven-year-old daughter also followed you in this decision.

Prior to the dissolution of the marriage, the child's father was financially secure and demonstrated a proclivity for lavishing the child with attention. Consequently, the daughter was profoundly attached to her father. However, following the separation, the child exhibits no discernible signs of longing for the father even after a month.

From the brief description, it can be seen that during the child's growth, her father provided her with a great deal of company and love, and the father-daughter relationship was relatively harmonious. It seems that the mother-daughter relationship is not as strong as it could be, given that a seven-year-old child does not want to be apart from her mother for a month.

It is unclear from the available information whether there was a positive relationship between you and your ex-husband prior to the divorce. However, it can be seen that perhaps he was not an optimal role model as a husband. Nevertheless, he should be considered a good father.

Thus, when the divorce occurred and the father departed, the daughter lost an important figure and, potentially, the sole significant other in her life.

Significant others are individuals who exert a considerable impact on an individual's psychological and social development.

In general, an individual's life is shaped by four significant figures: their parents during early childhood, their teachers during childhood, their peers during adolescence, and their romantic partners during adulthood.

In the case of a seven-year-old child entering primary school, the significant others in question are the parents. In the case of your daughter, her significant other is her father, and she is unable to find another significant other.

Furthermore, it was a significant and disruptive change.

It is not a mere fetish for a child to constantly look at his father's photos and smell his smelly socks. It is imperative that we consider not only a child's outward behavior, but also the underlying psychological needs that may be driving it.

With regard to your daughter's behavior, it is likely that you are correct in your assumption that she is merely longing for her father's presence.

Regardless of the circumstances surrounding a divorce, children are invariably the innocent victims.

It is this author's recommendation that

It is important to communicate with your child and inform her that the divorce of her parents is a reality that cannot be changed. While the marriage is over, her father and mother will continue to be her parents, and their love for her will not diminish.

It is recommended that you discuss with your former spouse the possibility of him spending more time with your child. It would be optimal if he were to give the child a gift, such as a soft toy, and explain to the child that the toy will keep him company when he is not around. The father's smelly socks symbolize the connection with the father, and this kind of connection is beneficial for the child.

It is therefore recommended that the father give the child a gift that represents him, as forcing a separation is not beneficial to the child.

In addition, it is possible that you may require assistance in processing the distress caused by the dissolution of your marriage. This could facilitate more effective parenting and enhanced quality of interaction with your child.

It is recommended that you consult with a counselor.

I am a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes espouses the view that the world and I love you.

Hello, question asker! I am Shushan Wenquan. Perhaps we could try learning to be our own spiritual gardeners and waiting quietly for spring flowers and autumn fruits?

From your description, it seems as if I can see the energy flow and relationship patterns in the family of three. First of all, from your perspective, meeting such an unreliable person is indeed quite challenging.

When you feel you've reached your limit, you may decide to divorce. You've experienced challenges too, so it's important to take care of yourself.

Secondly, it is important to remember that divorce is just one outcome of a complex situation. I imagine that you have discussed this issue on numerous occasions throughout the process. Due to the circumstances, it is possible that your daughter's father may feel a sense of guilt and involuntarily transfer his love to your daughter. Conversely, it is understandable that you might transfer your dissatisfaction with her father to your daughter.

As a result, we are seeing different relationships between fathers and daughters and mothers and daughters.

This kind of emotional thing is very subtle, and I may not be right in my judgment. You can sense it, so I'm open to your thoughts on this. It seems that it may have caused the daughter to have a stronger attachment to her father and a bit of estrangement from her mother.

From your description, it seems that she gave her daughter to you because her father had bad habits. It may be the case that you feel less attachment to the child than you would like.

In light of your daughter's diverse responses following the divorce, I perceive a sense of composure in your writing. I must admit, I find it challenging to grasp and accept that my daughter displays a fondness for her father's pungent socks.

I recognize that many respondents have already provided emotional explanations and descriptions of this behavior. I respectfully acknowledge their contributions and will offer one additional point for consideration.

If the child has a habit of liking to smell smelly things, it might be helpful to consider whether they could be deficient in trace elements. It could be beneficial to suggest that they go to the hospital for a check-up. I have observed this behavior in others, including a young nephew who loved to chew his toes for a while.

Sometimes when she is with adults, she accidentally gets her toes nibbled. It's not an easy topic to think about, but it seems that he may be lacking something inside.

I believe things will improve after a while.

If this behavior is only present during this period of time, it could be a normal manifestation of the child transferring this attachment emotion to objects after leaving the attachment figure. It's also possible that the smelly socks were the only thing she could find.

As a mother, you have already taken on the responsibility of raising your child. It is likely that you also want to bring up your child well. At this stage, you can help your daughter deal with the separation from her father while establishing a new, secure mother-child relationship with your child. You might like to consider the following suggestions:

1. It would be beneficial to communicate with your daughter in a sincere manner and explain what happened at home in a way that she can understand. Although she may not fully comprehend the situation between her parents, it is important to formally explain things to her.

For instance, going forward, she will be residing with her mother, and how frequently will she be seeing her father? As you are also maturing, it would be beneficial for you to learn how to do certain things.

2. It might be helpful to allow your daughter to go through a process of separation from her father, and to accept her reactions and emotions. There are indeed hygiene issues with smelly socks. Perhaps you could help her find some alternative clothing or other items that are less hygienic?

If it is possible, it might be helpful to let her express this kind of missed emotion through video or in person, or by having her draw pictures and write letters.

It may be helpful to allow your daughter to express her emotions rather than suppressing them. If emotions are suppressed, they can often become stronger over time. It's also important to remember that she is still young, and if unresolved, these emotions could potentially lead to some challenges down the road.

3. If it is of interest to you, you may wish to consider working on a number of areas with your daughter in order to foster a close and loving relationship between you. This will help her to feel secure and at ease with you, and to feel understood and accepted. Some areas you might like to focus on are:

It would be beneficial to pay attention to the motives behind what she says and does.

It would be beneficial to maintain a positive attitude and show interest in your daughter's performance.

It may be helpful to establish a tacit understanding with your daughter and accept her kindness to you.

You might consider developing a hobby with her, such as watching movies.

It may be helpful to offer her emotional support when she does something right.

It might be helpful to encourage her to do what she likes and is good at.

In the process, you may find yourself needing to take the initiative to give more, but a good mother-daughter relationship can nourish both sides, which is beneficial to you and your daughter. I hope these suggestions are helpful to you!

I would like to extend my warmest regards to you and the world.