After two years of knowing each other, the girl's parents believe we are not suitable and refuse to agree. What should we do?

Dear questioner, I really do understand your current confusion. I hope that my response will be helpful to you.

It's been two years since you started dating, and you've already bought a house together. I think the foundation of your relationship is still good. But when you think about marriage, the other parent's attitude is causing you a lot of distress.

Knowing you can turn to this platform for help is the first step to making a change.

Listen to your girlfriend and find a solution.

Every child obeys their parents and wants to be themselves. Seeing her girlfriend in tears, she's also conflicted inside, not knowing if your lack of attention or negligence has caused the other party's father to object.

We need to look into this further.

You might want to talk to your girlfriend to find out her attitude and feelings. This could be a good place to start. What are the father's worries? Can they be fixed? And how does your girlfriend see your lack of discipline? These are all things that can gradually help to improve the situation.

Your child's happiness is a top priority for you as a parent.

If the father's insecurity isn't addressed, even if you get married, there'll still be friction. This is a one-off chance for you to think about it and adjust your behaviour to get the results you want. It's important to remember that every parent loves their child and is intuitive. Their child's happiness is a priority, but too much interference can also have a negative impact.

It's important to show your love for each other through your actions.

It might also be worth asking yourself whether you really love your girlfriend. Can you share both the good times and the bad times, no matter what happens?

It's more important to be sincere than to say the right words. If you're sincere, truly understand her, and are willing to make sacrifices, it'll show. The other party's parents can also feel it. First, put aside your judgment of your girlfriend's father and truly perceive him from the bottom of your heart.

Are you ready to get married and truly give your heart to the other person? Are you willing to sacrifice for them? Some people measure love in terms of money. They believe that if they are willing to spend money, they love her. Let others exist in their own way.

If you don't take action based on your thoughts, the other person will feel empty. It's good to remember this.

There are so many uncertainties in marriage. My advice is to go with your feelings.

It doesn't matter if the other party's father cares about using money as a measure of assessment. When emotions are involved, words don't matter much. What matters most is what someone does and how sincere they are.

Reality can be pretty cruel, and there's a lot of uncertainty in marriage. Money can give people a sense of security. Taking on the responsibility of being a parent is also hoping that your daughter will have a happy future. Attitude is more important than effort.

Just follow your feelings. It is, after all, a big event in your life. The outcome doesn't matter. It is an experience in your life.

Marriage isn't a game, and your attitude toward it is the foundation of your happiness. I believe you can quickly get out of this state.

Best of luck to you.

I'm really sorry, but there's nothing you can do about it.

I can see how tough this is for you. It's so hard when you relationship-with-no-bottom-line-3378.html" target="_blank">love someone and they don't feel the same way. It all depends on your girlfriend's position. If she says she loves you to death, but in the end she can't make her own decisions and in the end she has to break up with you, it's really tough.

You can get yourself out of it as soon as you can, and leave the rest to time to heal. Love is something that two people share together. If you are all fired up, the other person will be unable to help themselves, and in the end, it might not work out.

I also want to say that if your girlfriend really loves you as much as you think she does, she should be able to convince her father. You just need to be patient and give her some time.

It's so easy to think that what we consider to be the best is going to be the best for us, but it's not always the case.

It's also possible that what you think is the best might not be the best for you. You think she's so-and-so good now, but you haven't really gotten to know her yet. It's likely that you two won't be the perfect match in the future. And it's not easy to get past her father, either.

I can see how you might think you're suffering because you're stuck in a painful circle. I really feel for you.

Take a step back and look at the big picture. You'll feel better! A great romantic relationship isn't something you have to fight for. It's something that naturally happens when you're a good person with positive energy.

So, my dear friend, the best way of life is to be relaxed and let things happen as they may.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello!

I am a heart coach, and learning is the treasure of the body!

From your description, I can feel your inner strength and resilience!

I won't go into the troubles caused by your girlfriend's parents' disapproval of your marriage, but I'm excited to give you three pieces of advice for your consideration!

First of all, I highly recommend that you have a good communication with your girlfriend.

The content of the communication has two aspects:

First, it's crucial that you both stand united!

From your description, it's clear you're both determined to be together. She's under a lot of pressure because her father doesn't approve, but she's still standing by your side. This shows she wants to be with you too! At this time, you need to communicate with her sincerely. While expressing your true thoughts, you also need to tell her you're ready to stand firm because marriage is between the two of you.

Second, I highly recommend that you let your girlfriend communicate with her father first.

Once you've built up your confidence, you can suggest that she communicate with her father. After all, they're father and daughter, so it'll be easier for them to talk. Chances are, her father will change his mind after seeing his daughter's firm position!

Absolutely! When she communicates with her father, she needs to do two simple things:

First, ask her to put herself in her father's shoes and try to understand him. This is a great way to help her father "hear" her!

You mentioned that her family places a high value on face and etiquette, and that she likes guys who are good at social skills. Perhaps her father feels that such a person is more capable and can give his daughter a better life, or that such a person has a promising future, etc. Of course, saying this does not mean that her father is right to interfere with your marriage, but I really hope that you can put yourselves in his shoes. This will help her communicate with her father, and it will be so great for you both!

Second, it would be great for her to start sentences with "I" and talk more about her feelings. She should also avoid or minimize the use of sentences starting with "you," because the latter will make her father feel rejected and accused, which is not conducive to communication between them.

In short, you need to first communicate sincerely with your girlfriend, and then have her communicate sincerely with her father. Tell her father what she really thinks – that she wants to be with you! At the same time, you should also tell her father what she likes about you.

And that's why communication is one of the most effective ways to resolve problems in relationships!

Second, I highly recommend that you give her father some time and do your own thing in the meantime.

After your girlfriend communicates with her father, he may still be the same and disagree with you being together. But don't worry! You can give him some time. In the meantime, you can focus on doing your own thing, such as getting along with your girlfriend the way you want to. If you can go to her house to see her father, you can also calmly express your true thoughts based on the communication advice I mentioned above. When you show her father that you are happy together and that you have not given up or lost your temper because of his opposition, he will most likely realize that his approach is not appropriate and change his mind!

And when he changes, you'll feel better!

Again, I suggest you prepare yourself for her father's disapproval, and then focus on yourself and live your life to the fullest!

Once you've had a good, honest chat with your girlfriend, she'll have had a good, honest chat with her father. You've also given him some space, and during this time, you've shown him that you're a loving, happy couple. But he still has his doubts, so for now, you'll just have to accept the situation.

It is absolutely wonderful and so fortunate to have the support and blessings of your parents! But it is also completely normal to not have their support and blessings. After all, you are from different generations, and your understanding and expectations of love or marriage, as well as your knowledge of your lover, are likely to be different.

Then it's time to focus on your relationship, find ways to live well, and manage your relationship well!

And here's another thing! When you let go of your obsession with gaining her father's support, he may change instead. It may sound contradictory, but that's the way it is, because change is based on allowing no change.

Absolutely! Equality and independence between the nuclear and extended families is crucial if a relationship is to be long-lasting and happy. The bonds formed by blood ties are natural, but equality and independence are goals that can only be achieved through our own hard work and wisdom. So you need to give your girlfriend confidence and work with her to achieve equality and independence that is all your own!

I really hope my answer helps you! If you want to chat some more, just click on "Find a coach" at the bottom and I'll be in touch!

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

You may feel pain, helplessness, and a desire to be understood, accepted, and supported.

It's true that relationships are between two people, but marriage is a matter for two families. Parents will usually be involved in the relationship and give their opinions and suggestions when it comes to marriage.

It's their right and their obligation because their starting point is their child's future happiness.

So, you need to first accept from the bottom of your heart that your girlfriend's father has the right to get involved in your relationship and that he really does want what's best for his daughter. Only then will you be willing to try to understand why he's getting involved and be more accepting of his actions. What do you think?

If you oppose him from the bottom of your heart and don't approve of his actions, you'll inadvertently have a strong force to confront him. He'll see that you think he's determined to break up the two of you. At this time, you won't treat him as a relative or family member, but more as an enemy who wants to hurt you and destroy your happiness. He can feel your anger, dissatisfaction, and hostility, even if you don't show it in your words or actions.

From what you've said, it seems like you're not totally happy with your current situation and are struggling to accept it. Have you noticed this? It seems like your opinion of her family is influenced by your personal feelings. You mentioned that you wanted to speak with her father, but he wasn't open to meeting with you. Despite this, you decided to meet with him anyway and were initially rejected. However, you continued to see him a second time. If you truly fought for yourself, you could at least feel good about not having his approval because you did your best to do what you felt was right. I'm just concerned that you didn't really fight for yourself because her father is an older man with a lot of life experience. He's worked hard to raise and love his daughter, and now she's about to be taken away by someone she doesn't know, so it's not easy for him to feel comfortable. The deeper his love for his daughter, the more uneasy and worried he'll be, and the more he'll want to properly investigate you on his daughter's behalf.

Put another way, her father's disapproval is really just a test of whether you truly love his daughter. If you truly love his daughter, what is a little test like this? If you back down, it means that you are more worried about your pride being hurt by being rejected than your daughter's. How can you really trust your daughter with you?

This is the only thing a father can do for his beloved daughter. You'll only truly understand your own father's intentions when you have your own daughter.

No parent wants to see their child sad or upset. If their child is truly in love, no parent wants to separate them and ruin their future happiness. As long as it is good for the child and related to their happiness, parents will always compromise.

If you truly love each other, that love will give you the confidence, courage, and encouragement to go all out for your true love. Best of luck!

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.

Hello, my friend. I can sense your anxiety and reluctance. It seems you're seeking a way to improve the current situation, but you're unsure of where to begin.

Marriage is a significant step, and it's understandable that you and your girlfriend have been together for two years and are eager to take the next step. However, there seems to be an obstacle in the way. I'm here to help you analyze the current situation and explore potential solutions.

First, let's take a moment to understand the current situation. You and your girlfriend have been dating for two years and are now at the stage of discussing marriage, but she has unfortunately been rejected by her father.

You have a good understanding of the type of person her father likes, and it seems that you are not that kind of person. It's also evident that you have had contact with your girlfriend's family over the past two years, and the other party's family may have formed a certain impression of you. With increased understanding and some friction during contact, they have come to the conclusion that you may not be the ideal match for their family.

Your girlfriend may be a good girl who is reluctant to disobey her father's opinion and may only be able to end the relationship in tears. However, you are determined to maintain the relationship you have worked hard to build and believe that there is still a good future ahead for you and your girlfriend.

You would like to speak with your girlfriend's father, but he has not yet agreed to meet with you. Your girlfriend continues to see you, but she is still struggling to move forward. This has caused you to feel uncertain and anxious.

Perhaps it would be helpful to do some soul-searching.

Your girlfriend's father seems to prefer people who are sophisticated. Their family values face and etiquette, and it's not uncommon for families to hold such beliefs. Chinese people often prioritize face, and Chinese etiquette can vary depending on the region. This is reflected in the saying, "When in Rome, do as the Romans do."

You have expressed that you perceive the other person's father to be somewhat self-centered and that he may sometimes make decisions for his daughter that are driven by a desire to maintain appearances. From this, I understand that you may have some reservations about your girlfriend's father. Is that correct?

You may feel that the issue of face is inconsequential, but in her family, it is a significant matter that you are not fully aware of.

From your conflicts, it seems there may be some differences in values between you and her family. It's natural for parents to want their children to be happy. Even if it means that someone else's children are suffering, parents will always hope that their children are happy.

It seems that her father's decision may have been influenced by his desire to ensure a bright future for his child. Given his age and experience, he may have perceived certain incompatibilities between you and his family. It's understandable that he's concerned about potential challenges that might arise after marriage. After all, the union of two individuals is a joining of two families.

As long as there are differences in your views, your girlfriend may find herself in a somewhat challenging position. From her perspective, the difference between a short-term pain and a long-term pain may be that if you were to break up with her, it would be a relatively short-term pain, but if you were to marry her, it could potentially be a longer-term pain.

How might one approach a conflict with her father?

It seems that the question is simply a matter of who will give in, you or her father. From your perspective, you feel that her father is being unreasonable and selfish, and you are unsure how to proceed.

Perhaps it would be helpful to speak with her father. What might you discuss?

It may seem simple, but it is not straightforward. There is a challenge in this change. Her father's opinion is firmly held: he does not approve of you. From his comments about you, it seems that you may have done something that could be perceived as lacking etiquette, or that you have not given them face in some situation.

You say you are open-minded and not fussy, and that's fine. The issue is that your type may not be well-received by her family. Would you be open to considering some changes to better align with their preferences?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you would be willing to at least act in a way that her family likes in the future. It is often the case that as people get older, it becomes increasingly challenging to change their personality. If you would like to be with your girlfriend, it might be beneficial to think about how you could make this happen.

I would also like to add that relationships are a matter for two people, not a battle for one person. It is important to recognise the role that your girlfriend plays in this situation and to consider her perspective.

You mentioned that your girlfriend tends to shed tears and seems reluctant to let you go, even though she respects her father's opinion. Has she ever expressed her concerns or ideas about what you could improve upon?

It might be helpful to consider whether changing yourself for the relationship is worth it. Your girlfriend's attitude is very important. In the future, if you do get together and her family has any complaints about you, could she mediate so that you are not put in the difficult situation you are in now?

It's worth noting that their expectations aren't particularly high, and making changes is often manageable. It's often easier to prioritize face and etiquette than it is to prioritize making money. Of course, if they're expressing these concerns because they feel your income is below their expectations, that's a different matter. However, you mentioned that your girlfriend earns a salary comparable to yours, which suggests that your income may be suitable for her family.

I hope the following suggestions will be of some help.

1️⃣Take a moment to calm down, collect your thoughts, and allow her father to do the same. Initially, her father expressed opposition to you, and your girlfriend often became distressed, which caused her father discomfort. It might be helpful to give things some time and space, and perhaps her father will have some new insights.

2️⃣ Reflect on how you can embrace her father's values, which include showing respect and maintaining social norms. Consider these values from your heart, even if it means making compromises for your girlfriend. Allow these values to guide you wholeheartedly, and when your heart changes, your actions will naturally follow. This will help you become the person her father respects.

3️⃣Take the time to gradually enhance your own qualities, allow them to witness your progress, and cultivate a sense of ease in entrusting your daughter to you.

I hope these suggestions have been helpful. It can be challenging to find the right person, and it often requires perseverance to overcome obstacles. I believe that with dedication and hard work, things will improve. I'm grateful to have been able to offer some guidance. I wish you the best!

Hello, question asker! I am the answerer, Enoch. From the question asker's description, it is clear that the question asker and his girlfriend like each other and both want to stay together for life and get married. However, the girlfriend's father is preventing them from doing so. The girlfriend is very sad, and the question asker does not want to give up on the relationship, but he also wants to make changes. The girlfriend's father must meet with the question asker immediately.

Let's analyze the different needs, expectations, and views on marriage of each person in this relationship.

1. The questioner's needs, expectations, and views on marriage

The questioner knows that he and his girlfriend have regular jobs, a stable income, and a house that meets the financial requirements for marriage. They also have a good relationship, which meets his expectations for marriage, and he is certain that he will marry his girlfriend. However, his girlfriend's father does not want to accept the questioner because he prefers someone who is more sophisticated. The questioner is confident that his girlfriend's family is too selfish, and that they are only concerned about saving face and do not consider their daughter's feelings.

The questioner is confident that he is not fussy about small matters, that his own thoughts and ideas are relatively open, and that his heart is also extremely pure. He firmly believes that one should be true to oneself and that there is no need to compromise oneself to cater to others. He is determined not to give up this relationship just because of his girlfriend's family's obstruction and will not cater to their feelings and thoughts. He is even more convinced that his girlfriend's family is interfering with his girlfriend's freedom and that they do not consider the pressure caused to their child for the sake of their own satisfaction.

2. The girlfriend's family's needs, expectations, and views on marriage are as follows:

My girlfriend's parents want their future son-in-law to be well-versed in the ways of the world. They pay a lot of attention to interpersonal relationships in their own lives and care about face and the opinions of others. They want to be in a position of control in various relationships, so they'll be watching how their daughter's marital relationship plays out. They may feel they can't control other relationships because they're not family members. But they have the right to interfere with their own daughter and can do so according to their own wishes. After all, their daughter won't fall out with them over this or cause them any loss. They may even feel this is for their daughter's own good. If their daughter marries such a person, she'll be able to be in a position of control in future interpersonal relationships and won't be in a disadvantaged position in her relationships.

They place far too much emphasis on this and ignore the other excellent qualities in the questioner, such as persistence, composure, and loyalty. They also seem to think that personality is difficult to change. Their daughter is looking for a boyfriend with superior financial conditions in all aspects, and she has also met a golden son-in-law whose personality they are satisfied with. They are unwilling to give up this kind of demand and expectation, so they use the method of refusing to meet to express their own non-acceptance and disagreement, so that the questioner and her daughter will give up this relationship on their own initiative.

3. The girlfriend's family has certain needs, expectations, and views on marriage.

The girlfriend has likely been controlled and interfered with by her parents since childhood, and has always tried to do everything to please them. Therefore, when the girlfriend meets someone like the questioner, who is very self-reliant and carefree, she feels that life can be like this without constraints. She is attracted to the questioner's character traits, and at the same time, being with the questioner, she doesn't have to ask him to make any changes, and she also gets the respect she deserves. Therefore, the girlfriend really likes being with the questioner, and may also want to get married. However, her parents are blocking her own affairs, which makes her helpless. This has led to her sadness and upset. But she has long been obedient to her parents in the family, and besides, the questioner doesn't want his parents to be sad, so the girlfriend doesn't know what to do, and perhaps she doesn't have the courage to rebel against her parents.

I have some suggestions for the questioner that I believe will be helpful.

1. A clear and objective analysis of the impact that continuing the relationship will have on your future marriage.

A marriage blessed by parents is happy because it allows for various life relationships in the future to be smoother and more harmonious. The couple will receive support from their parents in all aspects of life, and they will also avoid conflicts caused by family members. However, not every marriage can be supported by parents. Such a marriage requires less contact with parents in the future. When problems arise in the future, it may be difficult to get support from parents. For example, parents may be reluctant to give financial support when they are in financial difficulties, and they may be reluctant to help with childcare and children's school after having children. Picking up and dropping off children, and such obstruction will make the girlfriend's relationship with her parents become more distant, and they will be in a helpless situation on their mother's side. The questioner may have to take on more responsibilities in their future married life.

2. Make the necessary changes to coordinate your relationship with your girlfriend's family for the sake of your own marriage.

Everyone makes changes in their lives when they make important life decisions. The first decision you make is about your studies and major. You need to make changes and choices based on your own wishes and your parents' expectations. The second decision you make is about your job. You also depend on your own analysis and your parents' help in analyzing and making changes and decisions. The third decision you make is about choosing a partner and getting married. You need to make changes to enter marriage based on your own expectations and those of your family for marriage and the expectations of the other person and their family for marriage. The fourth decision you make is about dealing with failure in marriage and career. You need to make changes to live a better life.

If the questioner wants to continue his relationship with his girlfriend and enter into marriage, he must make some efforts and changes. Everyone's values are different, and marriage requires the integration of two people and two families. The questioner must make flexible changes in behavior during his time with his girlfriend and her family. He must take care of their emotional and other needs without losing his moral principles. This will help him integrate into their family.

I am confident that the above suggestions will be helpful to the questioner.

From the comments, it is evident that your relationship with your girlfriend is profound, yet it is being obstructed by her father. The relationship is confronting a significant challenge, and even the prospective trajectory of your relationship is uncertain.

From the comments, it is evident that you are experiencing a state of confusion, helplessness, and hopelessness. Not only has your girlfriend been subjected to significant pressure during this period, but you have also been undergoing a challenging time.

This kind of barrier from a loved one on one side is tricky and difficult. For individuals who are not selective, mustering the strength to engage in discourse with the girl's father represents a significant effort.

This kind of barrier from a loved one on one side is tricky and difficult. For individuals who are not fazed by minor social conventions, mustering the strength to engage in communication with the girl's father is, in itself, a noteworthy effort.

Despite the lack of direct communication between the two parties, this also serves to reinforce the value of your relationship.

What alternative strategies might be employed to facilitate the functioning of this relationship?

The following contribution is intended to facilitate a broader perspective and provide inspiration.

The following contribution is intended to facilitate a broader perspective and provide inspiration.

Firstly, it is imperative that you and your girlfriend stand together and agree on all matters.

One of the challenges of romantic relationships is the potential for interference from family members. It is crucial for partners to be able to navigate difficulties together.

This is a particularly challenging issue for you and your girlfriend. The father's obstinacy can be attributed to a combination of worldly prejudices and a desire to exert control over his daughter.

In this situation, the use of persuasion or compromise is an ineffective method for expressing one's views. This is because it tends to reinforce the parent's own perspective from another angle, particularly for parents who seek to establish a sense of authority.

In this case, persuasion or compromise is an ineffective method of expressing one's viewpoint. This is because it tends to reinforce the parent's insistence on their own point of view from another perspective, especially for parents who wish to establish a sense of authority.

It is currently more important to first be concerned about your girlfriend's situation and agree with her on your views and the next steps. It is likely that any individual action will cause unnecessary misunderstandings.

At this juncture, it is imperative to prioritize your girlfriend's circumstances and align with her perspectives on the matter at hand, particularly with regard to the subsequent steps to be taken. It is crucial to recognize that any individual action, regardless of its intent, has the potential to give rise to unwarranted misunderstandings.

It is essential to confirm each other's determination to move forward and to work assiduously, taking responsibility from the depths of one's heart for the happiness of the two of you. This is a fundamental aspect of the agreement that must be reached before taking any action.

Secondly, collaborate with your partner to utilise the insights she has gained about your father.

As an external party with no familial ties to the subject in question, it is challenging for you to navigate the complexities of this situation independently. Your girlfriend, on the other hand, has a more intimate understanding of her father's perspective.

Once a consensus has been reached, the two parties will have formed a community of interests. As a member of this community, the girlfriend can provide the male partner with further knowledge and understanding of the father, thus enabling him to find a way to deal with his objections.

In the event that your father is genuinely "impenetrable," the only means of safeguarding this relationship is through a unified effort on your part and your father's.

While the Romeo and Juliet effect, which emerges from familial constraints, ultimately culminates in tragedy, it also illustrates that nothing can impede the bond between two individuals who are genuinely in love. The only force capable of surmounting all obstacles is the indivisible connection between two hearts.

It is not my intention to delve into the intricacies of human nature; rather, I am merely a therapist who is concerned with the well-being of the human heart. I extend my best wishes to you.

One may fall in love with a girl, but ultimately, it appears that her family has the final say. This is because the groom-to-be must meet their demands before he can marry the bride and bring her home. This kind of demand is a hallmark of sophistication.

It is evident that not everyone possesses the same level of sophistication and worldly-wise discernment. The act of being worldly-wise is often perceived as a burdensome endeavor, necessitating constant contemplation and awareness of numerous factors, many of which are beyond one's immediate control. It is also discernible that one's preferences are not overly selective.

The parents of the young woman in question expressed disapproval of her having been acquainted with the man from the county for a period of two years.

♣The salary of a regular worker is not substantial. The family has already purchased a residence.

♣Her family places a particular emphasis on face and etiquette.

The importance of etiquette in social interactions cannot be overstated.

These considerations are taken seriously.

While one may possess autonomy, it is imperative to recognize that matrimony entails a union of two families, particularly when young individuals are prone to parental influence. This can potentially lead to missteps.

The intersection of young people's personal romantic lives and their parents' involvement

It is evident that the subject displays a lack of worldly-wise qualities, as well as a lack of consideration for the opinions of others. Additionally, the subject displays a lack of consideration for the opinions of others, as well as a lack of consideration for the opinions of others.

One must decide whether to acquiesce or to advocate for the autonomy of the younger generation.

Some young people are constrained by their parents' expectations. Couples who are, for the most part, sincere have been separated as a result of certain demands made by their parents. They may experience feelings of regret and sadness about this for many years to come.

Your perspective is commendably pure, yet her father deems this personality unsuitable for his family, which is truly perplexing. There are innumerable personalities, and while young people's values may diverge from those of their parents, it is optimal if their values align.

If one is unable to relinquish the relationship, it is advisable to persevere with the partner in question. Should both parties be resolved to remain unmarried, it is possible that their elders may perceive this resolve.

Additionally, it may be beneficial to consider making certain compromises in order to demonstrate a willingness to gain a deeper understanding of human relationships. It is important to recognize that the concept of human relationships is inherently subjective, dependent on the individual's perspective and values. One potential approach could be to initiate communication with her family through written correspondence.

Locate additional familial members' contributions to persuade her father. Prior to the ultimate outcome, it is imperative to exert one's utmost effort, avoiding any remorse. Each individual must consider their unique responsibilities. It is advisable for the two of you to unite and strive diligently.

Please clarify the question.

Good day.

I have carefully reviewed your situation and understand the challenges you are facing. You desire to be with the person you love, but you are encountering obstacles, primarily related to the other person's family.

I appreciate that this is a challenging situation for you, but we must address this issue. Regardless of the approach we take, we will need to make a decision.

In the words of the renowned humanistic psychologist Alfred Adler, "All human troubles originate from interpersonal relationships."

The most straightforward and effective solution to alleviate the current challenges is to terminate the relationship. This will eliminate the immediate pressure and future uncertainties, including potential conflicts arising from the forced cohabitation.

It is evident that the questioner is currently reluctant to concede. From the description provided, it is clear that the primary challenge we are facing is to resolve the relationship with the other party's father.

This is indeed a challenging situation. An individual's behavior is influenced by their beliefs, which are shaped over time. It can be difficult to alter deeply held beliefs.

It may be inferred that this father has a mental image of his son-in-law in his mind, and that the questioner may not quite meet his standards.

While some may argue that marriage is a personal decision, it is also important to consider the impact on the wider family. For instance, it would be beneficial to ascertain whether the girlfriend has been loved and cared for by her parents since childhood and whether she has a strong bond with them. If we proceed with the marriage, we must ensure that we do not cause distress to the girlfriend's family.

It is important to recognise that love is just one of many key themes in life, with family ties and friendships also playing a significant role.

If the questioner has considered all of this and still wants to stay with the woman, I recommend that the questioner exert maximum effort and courage in pursuing this goal.

It is imperative that we gain acceptance from the girlfriend's parents. I believe that, provided we are sincere, we will be able to meet the other person's parents. Furthermore, if we are willing to change and take action, the other person's parents will be able to see this.

The only constant in this world is change. As long as the questioner is willing to adapt his behavior to suit his girlfriend's preferences, she will reciprocate. The question then arises as to whether the other person's parents will alter their perceptions when they see this.

I hope this information is useful to the questioner.

Thank you for your time. I am Jiusi, on Yixinli. Best regards, Jiusi

Hello, dear question asker!

Hi, I'm Yi Ming, your heart exploration coach.

I've read your question carefully, and I really feel for you in this situation.

I'd absolutely love to chat with you!

I really hope this helps and gives you some comfort and inspiration.

1. Take a deep breath and take a moment to see what's really going on behind his father's expression.

You know your heart, and the two of you have always had a great relationship for two years.

I have a feeling that your girlfriend doesn't want to leave you either.

I'm so sorry to hear about this. When did his father find out about your relationship?

I'm just wondering if he disapproved from the beginning?

I'd love to know more about her family! Her father values face and etiquette and prefers people who are well-versed in the ways of the world. He also thinks I'm not a good match for her family, which is totally fine!

I'm so curious! Did your girlfriend tell you much about her family?

When it comes to marriage, we'll definitely take the parents' opinions into account, even though it ultimately depends on what the two of you want.

I'd love to know what my girlfriend was thinking at that moment, apart from crying sadly.

I'd love to know what her father's exact thoughts are.

Even though her father said he valued face and etiquette, could it be that he resents the fact that you don't earn as much?

Or are there other aspects we can work on?

What can we do to make things even better?

I really think you should stick with your girlfriend, even if her father has a narrow-minded personal concept.

It would be great if you could find a way to deal with her father's opposition.

2. Happiness is something that two people have to fight for together!

At the end of the day, marriage is a decision that two people have to make together.

I think it's so important for parents to respect their children's decisions in this matter.

When we're confident in our stance, parents are often willing to make compromises.

When we become adults, we love and respect our parents, but we also have the courage to stand up for ourselves and our choices.

We can decide who we want to live with and who we want to marry.

I know it's tough, but we all want the love and support of our families.

This is exactly what we're here to overcome!

For example, "Her father thinks I'm not suitable for her family." If you have the chance, you could ask, "In what way, exactly?"

It's not always necessary to argue about right and wrong in a family. I can see that her father's approach wasn't the best, but we can also try to understand.

On the one hand, it's about his face, and on the other hand, he wants his daughter to be happy, too!

I'd love to know more about your girlfriend's relationship with her family.

We can definitely look into this more together!

It's so interesting how different families have different ideas about happiness!

We all have different ideas about what's important. Some people value face, while others pay more attention to their own feelings and care less about what other people think.

So, it's really important that you both stick to your guns and stick up for yourselves in the face of opposition.

Don't worry, everything will work itself out!

3. Let's find a more effective way to communicate!

Her father is very determined, so at times like this, we try to communicate more with our girlfriend. We really want to support her!

We try to be supportive of our girlfriend while also maintaining our own relationship. We don't want to put too much pressure on her, but we also want to keep our own relationship strong.

I'd love to know more about what her father did to oppose it.

I wonder if there's a way we can be less affected by this?

Don't worry, everything is slowly handed over to time.

You know what they say: slow is fast!

Let's try to be a little more understanding. Instead of hastily blaming "her family for being selfish," we should try to understand her family's needs, consider her girlfriend's point of view, and try not to put pressure on her girlfriend.

Sometimes, time is the best medicine, my friend.

You can show by your actions that you are the masters of your own lives, my friend.

There's absolutely no need to rush into making a decision right now.

I really think it'll work out better for you!

I'm sure you'll be able to find a way that suits you after this little hiccup.

I would love to recommend the book "Nonviolent Communication" to you!

I'd love to know what situations you find work well with non-violent communication.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, host!

I understand your situation, and I believe the key to resolving it lies in your girlfriend's attitude.

I have had two relationships similar to yours. I am also the type of guy who is calm, introverted, and has no feelings for the ways of the world. I had a particularly good relationship with both of my girlfriends.

My first relationship was my first love. We were high school classmates and were together for eight months. Her father approved of my character and my feelings for his daughter, but believed I was not suitable for their family. He wanted a boy who was easygoing, lively, outgoing, and eloquent.

My girlfriend was influenced by her father and relatives, who convinced her to agree with their arguments. We were forced to separate, and we haven't seen each other for ten years.

I recently heard from other classmates that she got married early on, bought a house in the provincial capital, and got a stable job. She must be quite happy.

She was right to leave. My values and personality are incompatible with hers and her family's. I would be unhappy staying together against my will.

The other relationship was my current marriage.

When my wife and I fell in love, it happened to be at the lowest point of my life. I was facing graduation from university and didn't know what to do in the future. The two of us lived in cities 1,000 kilometers apart, and we also had many differences in personality. It was much worse than your situation. But we had one thing going for us: we had a very good relationship and highly consistent worldviews.

My girlfriend had one thing she did every time she went home: she described to her parents how good I was to her.

We moved to many cities, and she followed in my footsteps the whole time. I especially cherish and care for her dedication. In the end, we both realized that the opinions of our families no longer mattered. After all, it is she and I who will be living together for the rest of our lives, and we are ready to stand together against anything.

Now, we are married, have children, and live a happy life together, looking forward to the future with anticipation and confidence.

I have always believed that marriage, like love, is not a matter of two families, but a matter of two people. It takes courage from both. The decision to get married is yours and yours alone. You must take responsibility for your choice and your marriage.

If you ask what you can do now, I'll tell you.

From now until the end of the relationship, you need to be twice as good to your girlfriend. Give her all the love and security she needs so that she has the courage to stand by your side and fight against these disgusting social conventions.

I wish you all the best.

Hello, question asker!

I understand your feelings and situation very well. The two of you have a good relationship, but the other party's family doesn't approve. Let's take a look at the following:

The father does not approve for several reasons.

The woman's father did not agree because her family places a particular emphasis on face and etiquette, and prefers the kind who are adept at the ways of the world. I am not one of those people. I do not pay attention to small details and have relatively open-minded views and an extremely simple mind.

There are undoubtedly other reasons, but for some reason it is inconvenient to say it explicitly. Instead, "face" or "etiquette" is used as an excuse. For example, family members often worry about points such as "being good to the woman," "having good financial conditions," and "being successful in their career."

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether there are any additional reasons. You can inquire with the daughter's mother, siblings, or relatives, or you may discern some indications in everyday life.

You need to communicate.

Communication is key.

Communication is crucial, whether it's with the woman or her parents. Learn to listen, not just to what's being said, but also to what's not being said. Pay attention to her inner world.

Communication is crucial, whether it's with the woman or her parents. Learn to listen. Don't just hear what the other person says. Listen to their inner world and what is meant between the lines.

Furthermore, it is essential to hone your communication skills, adopt a empathetic mindset, and view things from their perspective. Let's take an example. Parents disagree because they want their daughter to marry someone who is genuinely good for her and who can offer her a better life. They may have their flaws, but they love their daughter unconditionally.

Additionally, it is crucial to hone your communication skills, empathize with others, and adopt a more objective perspective. Parents often disagree because they genuinely want the best for their daughter and believe she deserves a better life. Despite their imperfections, their desire for their daughter's well-being is unwavering. When you demonstrate this understanding, parents will be more likely to trust you with their daughter.

Make changes.

The questioner is clearly troubled and worried, and feels helpless. There is not much practical advice to be had here. It's like she wants to talk to her father, but he won't see her. She's stuck in her thinking, and anticipating that her father won't see her. She needs to start by doing what he likes and improving the relationship.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the questioner. Best regards!

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to the original poster.