Always expect yourself, how can you live a better life?

You're going to college now, right? This shows you know you need self-discipline and want to improve. You know happiness comes from within.

You deserve a happy life. Create it.

The four years of university are precious. I regret not studying hard, not using those four years to expand my knowledge, not taking more relevant certificates, and not practicing my spoken English. I just passed the CET-6, and it was all basic English.

Later, I took the exam for my major. At 36, I took the French exam again. I'm currently studying psychology. I don't plan to change jobs, but I might change careers to make up for wasting time in the past. People always have to keep learning to satisfy themselves. If you don't cherish time now, you will regret it or try to make up for it. It is never too late to learn.

1. Check your class schedule. Decide if you need to preview or look up materials for each class. Print them out to read on your own.

Second, do you need to reserve any skills related to your major? Can you take some exams in advance? For example, if my major is human resources management, I can take the human resources manager exam in advance. Mental health is also very important nowadays. Social work is still recognized. There are no professional restrictions, so you can learn it.

Study hard in English. It will help you in the future.

3. Make a schedule for your professional courses and a plan for the skills or certificates you need before your major. You don't need to buy expensive courses; you can find cheap recorded courses on online shopping platforms.

Fourth, you worked hard to get into the school you want. Don't let down your efforts. Also, enjoy your best years now. You can always study hard in the future, but it will be more tiring then. You will have plenty of time to read novels in the future. You have a stable job and a warm and happy family. Your life may be warmer and happier than in the novels. This is because of the books you work hard to read now and the days you insist on every day.

If you procrastinate because you're a narcissist, accepting it will help you. We all want to be valued and have meaning. If you didn't get that as a child, you'll find it hard to motivate yourself. Self-discipline requires motivation, which you can only get from positive experiences. Similarly, the narcissism you read about in the book is also a way of affirming yourself. You're good at taking care of yourself. At the same time, your inner feelings show your own value. In planning, consider your needs and why the book might help you more than a disciplined life.

If you're a narcissist, you may know that you can plan your life around your needs. Don't force yourself to prove your value with actions. Plan a lifestyle that's right for you. Accept that this is normal. It will give you the strength to choose the right life for yourself.

Hello! I really hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I always look forward to waking up in the morning because I know that this day will be different from the past. I will be diligent and efficient, go to exercise and study, and then have a fulfilling and wonderful day. But the truth is, after finally doing a little bit of work, I get immersed in a novel again. You don't know if you need that kind of virtual happiness or if you are just trying to escape from something. I think if you can explore the beliefs in your subconscious mind, you may be able to understand more clearly where your resistance lies. In fact, at the conscious level, you really want to change, but the truth is that the subconscious mind has a lot of resistance. And when we can find the limiting beliefs in it and make these beliefs visible, we will see our own resistance and understand ourselves a little more.

And there's more! We also need to give ourselves time to change, replacing old experiences with new ones. The great news is that by forming a habit, we can truly become the person we want to be!

I've got some great advice for you!

The benefits of "experience" are different from the benefits of "expectation." And that's a good thing! The essence of change is the need to create new experiences and replace old experiences with new ones. This requires a process and cannot be achieved simply by thinking about it. But it's worth it!

The benefits of "experience" are the amazing things we've done and seen in our lives. Think about the happiness of reading a novel or the comfort of lying down. The benefits of "expectation" are the wonderful things we can achieve when we put our minds to it. Think about becoming diligent and efficient, going to sports and studying, and then having a fulfilling and wonderful day!

The benefits of anticipation are abstract and imagined, and we have not deeply experienced them, nor have they happened. But the benefits of experience are concrete, happening in the present, and can be felt personally! When the two conflict, our rational level wants to seek the benefits of anticipation, but our subconscious mind will unconsciously turn to the benefits of experience. And while we may rationally know that the benefits of anticipation are much greater than those of experience, our subconscious mind is enormous and powerful! So, in order to change, we need to let the benefits of anticipation become the benefits of experience. We can do this by replacing old experiences with new ones.

The process of creating new experiences is an amazing journey of discovery! It requires us to adopt new behaviors, gain new feedback, receive new reinforcement, and actually experience it. This experience of actually experiencing it is packed with valuable insights and is different from the truth we hear. If we keep dwelling on imaginary expectations without bringing about new experiences through new behaviors, it is actually difficult to bring about change. But when we embrace the process and let it unfold, amazing things can happen!

The process of change is an amazing journey that can be as gradual as you want it to be. We can change just a little bit at a time, and it's so worth it! Let me tell you about my experience. I started by insisting on getting up early every day to read for 10 minutes. By insisting every day, I experienced the positive changes that getting up early brought to my body, the positive impact it had on my mental state, and the power of accumulation. Although it was only 10 minutes a day, it allowed me to grow every day and gain new knowledge. Over time, I developed the habit of getting up early. When it becomes a habit, it is not very difficult to persevere, but it is as simple as brushing your teeth and washing your face. Habits become natural, so now I read every morning at 6:30 for about half an hour, and I feel that it is an easy thing to do. Of course, it took me two years to form this habit, and it was so worth it!

2. Uncover the hidden obstacles in your mind, identify your own "limiting beliefs," and transform your outlook by shifting your beliefs.

When you've done a little and then indulge in a novel, you can remain aware of why you're reading it. And it's so exciting to think about what benefit you'll get from reading the novel now!

I'm so excited to find out why I stopped and what my current thoughts are!

...We need to see the inner beliefs, perhaps: I can be this diligent every day; I want to live a great life; I know I can live a wonderful and fulfilling life...

And the best part is, you get to explore it for yourself! Once we're clear about our "limiting beliefs," we can see the resistance and negative impact these thoughts have on us. Then, we get to take back our ownership and see that thoughts are just thoughts. We are the masters of our own thoughts, and we can choose our own thoughts, choose positive thoughts, and choose thoughts that can promote change in ourselves. For example: I believe I can exercise for 30 minutes tomorrow, and I believe I can change. I might not have done it today, but I know I will make some progress tomorrow!

Take it slow, start with a great intention, put it into action, make progress step by step, give yourself time to adjust, and you will absolutely get better and better!

I'm so excited to share this with you! I really hope it helps. Best wishes!