Always feel like something is missing inside, is it love? Not really understanding.

Hello, question asker! I really hope my answer can help you out.

You say that you always feel like something is missing inside you, and you probably know that it's love. You just want someone to love you well. In fact, we all want someone to love us well. I was just like you once, looking and looking for someone outside, and I finally realized that the person who can give you complete love doesn't actually exist. But don't worry, there is still someone in this world who can do it, and that person is you. And when you can love yourself well, you will find that your inner self won't feel like something is missing, and you will feel that the whole world will come to love you.

I'd like to offer you a bit of advice:

1. We often look outside of ourselves for what we lack. Take some time to think about what you might need.

There's a law in psychology that says when something's missing inside us, we'll look for it outside. So when you're longing for someone to love you, it just shows you don't love yourself enough.

You say he is very good, he loves you very much, you tell him something, he is on your side, you can confide in him about your worries, he understands and supports you, he is able to give you the warmth and love you want, right?

It's totally normal to feel like you're lacking in love and support. We all do! It's only natural to hope that someone can give you these things because you don't have them within yourself. And the reason why we don't have them within ourselves is because our parents didn't give them to us during our growth process. We can't feel it, but that doesn't mean you don't deserve it!

We can't change the past, but we can change our attitude towards ourselves from now on. There's no need to look outside for love because it's not reliable. Look within instead and give yourself the love you want. It'll fill your heart!

2. Learn to love yourself well, and I promise you, the whole world will come to love you too!

We all have our own unique journey of growth and learning. I was no exception! My journey taught me that we all have areas that we could improve on. When I saw my shortcomings, I began to seek inwardly, learning to recognize myself and practice unconditional self-acceptance. No matter what situation I encounter, I remind myself, "I'm not perfect, but I still accept and love myself!"

This is my love for myself, and when I start to love myself well, I can also clearly feel that the outside world is also changing for the better! I can feel more of others' recognition and acceptance of me, and I no longer care so much about others' negativity and doubts.

Absolutely! The external world is a reflection of our inner world. When we love ourselves well and give ourselves the love we deserve, our inner world becomes more and more harmonious, and our sense of happiness grows stronger and stronger. The appreciation and love we radiate for ourselves also attracts those who truly love and appreciate us.

I really think you should read "When You Start Loving Yourself, the Whole World Will Love You Back" and Mr. Zhou Fan's self-love course. They're both great and will help you become the amazing person you are!

I hope this is helpful for you! Sending you lots of love and best wishes!

Good morning, My name is Jiang 61.

Firstly, we would like to thank you for placing your trust in us and for providing us with your questions so that we can offer you our assistance. Your question is as follows: "I always feel like there's something missing inside, love, right?"

"I don't really understand." After reviewing your inquiry, I have a clear understanding of the confusion you are experiencing, and we will address this together.

1. Introduction

1. The desire to be loved

You stated, "I consistently perceive a deficiency within myself, and I recognize that it is likely rooted in a lack of love. I aspire to experience genuine love, akin to the portrayal in novels."

This sentiment is quite profound. There is an individual, a male, who holds me in high regard. He is also highly admirable in his own right, yet I am certain that I am not worthy of his affection.

He is so commendable that it is implausible that he would be sincere with me. This feeling is so contradictory that I am unsure if I have a psychological disorder.

Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for your question. I will do my best to answer it to the best of my ability. You have expressed a feeling of longing. This can be caused by a number of factors, some of which may be psychological. It is important to seek professional advice if you feel this is the case. I hope this information is helpful. Kind regards,

A sense of longing

From your initial statement, it is evident that you perceive a deficiency in your emotional well-being, particularly in the area of love and affection. You exhibit a pronounced inclination towards seeking and receiving love from others.

I believe you are currently experiencing the onset of romantic attraction at this developmental stage, which is typical of individuals your age.

To be loved is a fundamental human need.

Your desire to be loved rather than to love others indicates that you are emotionally starved and in need of unconditional love and care.

2⃣️, Thinking

You stated, "At times, I experience a sense of detachment from the world. My thoughts are somewhat unconventional, and I am uncertain if they align with my own beliefs.

I feel detached from the basic thinking of some people, and this feeling is somewhat superior. However, in reality, there is no difference.

I can discern the reasons why they are unable to consider this matter, particularly the desire for someone to love me, convey a message, and confirm their support. This need arises particularly after reading a novel or engaging in general conversation. This need is particularly strong at night.

"

A lack of self-confidence

You desire to be loved by the individual you are interested in, but you are concerned that you may not meet their expectations. It is understandable that you lack confidence in your abilities, which may lead to misguided assumptions.

The subject reports feelings of wanting.

You indicate that you have a multitude of thoughts that seem detached from reality and unusual. In fact, as you note, your thoughts align with those of the general population.

These are all typical behaviors during the courtship phase.

3. Doubts

You have indicated that you are uncertain about the appropriate response to the ongoing dialogue. You have also stated that you have a specific question in mind, but you believe it is unnecessary to make it sound overly simplistic.

Your primary concern is that you have numerous expectations for the individual who will eventually express romantic interest in you, and you are genuinely interested in being loved. You are currently questioning whether this is a typical situation.

2. The Root Cause of the Issue

1. Sense of Need

A sense of need

The concept of need is defined by the degree to which one party requires the involvement of another. It is a fundamental aspect of human nature.

When engaging with the opposite sex, there is an inherent desire to establish proximity and connection. This behavior can be attributed to a sense of need.

Ideas emerge.

It is evident that in real life, when we seek to establish closeness with others, we are concerned about being viewed negatively by the other person, which gives rise to a series of thoughts, all of which are caused by our sense of need. In other words, when it comes time for people to fall in love, it is natural to have these associations, and this is normal.

There is no need for any undue fuss.

2. The Desire for Love

The desire for love

The desire for love in life is also a need for love, which is the most basic emotional need. In contrast, physical needs are instinctive responses and certain demands in life, such as the need for attention, to be held, and to talk.

It is important to note that love and need are two distinct concepts, though they are often intertwined. While everyone's need for love and need is urgent, the nature of love and need is different.

One is a fundamental human need for emotional fulfillment, while the other is a basic animal instinct.

The circumstances of the individual's upbringing in their original family unit.

The desire for love can manifest at various stages of an individual's growth and development. From the initial inquiry, it can be inferred that you experienced a lack of love and care during your formative years in your original family. Consequently, you may exhibit low self-confidence, a sense of inferiority, and a desire for love and affection.

In particular, if he has experienced a lack of paternal love, he will consistently seek out sources of affection and support.

3⃣️, Sense of Security

A sense of security is a crucial element in any business environment.

A sense of security is defined as a feeling of confidence, safety, and freedom from fear and anxiety. It is the perception of being able to meet one's needs both currently and in the future. It is also a feeling of foreboding about possible physical or psychological dangers or risks, as well as a sense of powerlessness in dealing with them. It is mainly expressed as a sense of certainty and control.

The manifestation of this issue is as follows:

The questioner exhibits a reluctance to socialize with people they like and displays a multitude of concerns. They demonstrate an acute lack of self-confidence. This is linked to the parenting style observed in their original family. Individuals who have experienced a lack of love and affection tend to exhibit insecurity and a lack of confidence. They often seek protection before they feel safe.

3. Recommendations

1. Provide a sense of security.

It is important to love yourself.

Loving yourself is a form of respect and care for yourself, paying attention to and satisfying your inner needs. It is also referred to as self-care.

Specifically, self-love entails recognizing one's value and importance in all situations, maintaining a positive and supportive attitude towards oneself in the face of difficulties and challenges, and respecting and meeting one's own needs, as well as taking care of one's emotional well-being and mental health.

It is essential to establish a sense of security.

When individuals practice self-care, they gain a sense of self-worth and confidence. This is because they are not dependent on others for their sense of value and security.

2. Understand yourself.

It is essential to gain a comprehensive understanding of oneself.

The reason we are hesitant to express confidence in the presence of a person we admire is because we lack sufficient self-awareness. We tend to compare our perceived shortcomings with the perceived strengths of the individual in question. Therefore, if we wish to cultivate a positive relationship, it is essential to gain a deeper understanding of ourselves.

It is important to develop self-confidence.

Knowing oneself entails understanding one's strengths, weaknesses, interests, and hobbies. Once these aspects are identified, one can leverage their strengths and excel in areas that align with their capabilities. This approach not only leads to a sense of accomplishment and self-worth but also fosters self-confidence.

3⃣, Expression of love

It is essential to express love.

It is essential to express love in a way that is clear and understandable to the other party. Otherwise, it will be perceived as idle daydreaming, which is meaningless in terms of your needs.

There are various ways to express love.

It is important to recognize that everyone has a different understanding of love and that the ways of expressing and receiving love are likely to be different. Dr. Gary Chapman has developed a framework for understanding these differences, which he categorizes into five "languages of love": "affirming words," "quality time," "exchange of gifts," "acts of service," and "physical touch."

Questioner, We accept love and recognize there are five forms of expressing love. We choose the appropriate way to express and accept it for ourselves and others. If it is true that the other person has rejected it, there is no need for us to dwell on it and attribute blame.

This simply indicates that the two parties are not an appropriate match.

I would like to extend my best wishes to the original poster for a happy life.

Hello. I can see that you may lack a sense of security and long for unconditional love. You may feel a lack of love inside and hope that an outstanding guy can truly love you, but at the same time you doubt whether you are worthy of him, and feel conflicted.

I can sense your loneliness, confusion, anxiety, and longing for understanding. These emotions may stem from an inner longing for love and recognition, as well as from self-doubt.

You want to be noticed by others, but you're also afraid of being rejected. These feelings can lead to insecurity in your relationships and self-worth.

We all want to be loved, especially in relationships. When we meet someone who can warm our hearts, we're often willing to do anything to love them. The more secrets a person has, the more eager they are to confide in someone. If they can find someone who understands them, it can make all their troubles seem to disappear.

We all want to be loved, but not everyone can experience truly pure, selfless, unreserved love. We all have different expectations of love, but we all also hope to receive the most sincere love.

It's not unusual for girls to have fantasies.

Often, it's not a lack of ability that makes us feel inferior, but a lack of self-confidence. Try to cultivate an internal sense of self-worth and believe in your own value. Even if you feel uneasy at times, don't question yourself.

It's important to learn to love and accept yourself and others, forgive your own imperfections, and tolerate the flaws of others. We all have to accept the challenges of growth, strive to improve ourselves, and believe that the future will be better. That way, you'll be happy and successful.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, dear questioner!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling a bit confused on the inside. But you're also aware of what's going on and you're brave enough to face up to this uncomfortable feeling.

From what you've told me, I can totally understand how you're feeling. It's clear that you're looking for love and a sense of security, and you want to find someone who can love you. But it can be hard to know what kind of person you should look for and how to go about it. Is that right?

I really want to tell you that it's not your fault. It might have something to do with the environment you've lived in and the things you've experienced, but when you become aware of it and come here, you're already on the path to change.

All problems are our resources. We are experts at solving our own problems! Based on your description, I have some suggestions for you. I really hope they can help!

First, just try to be more aware and clarify.

All problems have a root cause, and they can also help us grow. But to do that, we need to sort through our emotions and figure out what we really need.

Let's find a way through this together!

Secondly, I want to tell you to learn to love yourself.

I don't know what happened to you, but it's totally normal to feel like you really want to be loved from the bottom of your heart. We all need it! But here's the thing: we have to learn to love ourselves when no one else does. If we love ourselves, we'll have so much strength inside and we'll be able to support ourselves. And only when we learn to love ourselves can we have the ability to love and be loved.

And then, look for all those lovely, positive experiences!

When we're lacking something inside, it's only natural to keep looking outside. But this can lead to internal conflict and make it hard to see ourselves clearly. It's so important to look within more! We can connect with our inner selves by seeking positive experiences, positive mental suggestions, and meditation exercises.

You've got this! Find the strength within.

And finally, don't be afraid to seek help from external resources.

If you're struggling to adjust your state of mind on your own, don't worry! You can always seek help from a professional counselor. Let them use their professional skills to elevate the root cause of your subconscious and adjust your perception, understand your inner self, and give you the courage to face this problem. You've got this!

And finally, I just want to say that life will heal you if you're willing to be healed. As long as you don't give up, you will find a way out. You can find happiness in little things. I can love myself more and make my life more relaxed and happy.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am writing to express my interest in your quiz, which I have been participating in daily throughout 2022. After a year, I am returning to the quiz and am particularly drawn to your question about this mood story. Best regards, [Name]

The subject of "lack of love" and the term itself evoke a profound sense of distress. When we reflect on our lives and life experiences, we feel a sense of helplessness, and at times, the pain even diminishes our capacity to respond.

The term "lack of love" is used to describe deep-seated emotional distress. It is not a subjective evaluation that can be made from an external perspective.

It is my hope that you will gradually be able to find love again, including but not limited to the courage within you to love yourself.

You referenced the male protagonist in the novel. The human spirit is inherently rich and colorful, and your imaginative space is deserving of respect and recognition.

The value of a novel is in understanding different types of human lifestyles through the lives of others. Some classic novels are timeless.

While it is not possible to replicate this approach in the real world, the emotional and spiritual nourishment it provides is invaluable.

With regard to the reference to "detachment," there is also a sense of resignation after a struggle with reality, born of a life that desperately wants to respect its own will. It is as if a part of yourself has been shaped by the important others in your life, perfectly molded, deprived of the possibility of embracing your own will.

"Detachment" provides the opportunity to connect with, understand, and accept another aspect of yourself. It can be a cathartic experience.

Perceiving oneself as unworthy is a significant self-awareness. Additionally, there are concerns about the ability to be transparent and authentic in emotional interactions, and concerns that even if these issues are addressed, there may still be underlying challenges. These are all the emotional difficulties that are worth addressing.

This sadness is not unwarranted or inappropriate.

As you spoke, you began to question whether this was, in fact, a question. It appeared as though you were not only asking yourself questions but also answering them.

You have the option to stop and attempt to answer your own questions and resolve your own issues. Additionally, you may utilize a reasonable amount of space to share some of your psychological activities and multi-level feelings. This demonstrates your courage and adventurous spirit, as well as your desire to break free from some constraints and explore new horizons.

A brief communication via the written word.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first!

I'm thrilled to have read your request for help! I'm excited to share some support and help. I also applaud you for being so aware of your state of extreme lack of love within yourself.

From your description, I can tell you have the potential to love yourself more! It's clear you have some self-rejection, dislike, and harsh judgment of yourself, but you can change this. You just need to start giving yourself love and kindness through your own efforts. Once you do, you'll see how much better you feel.

You have imagined a perfect self and a perfect partner to establish a perfect intimate relationship! This is your way of making up for a lack of love and care during your growth.

It's time to embrace the truth: there's no such thing as a perfect you or a perfect partner. But there is a perfect you, and you can create that! Start by withdrawing your expectations and desires for your partner and intimate relationship back to yourself. Treat yourself the way you want to be treated, and learn and grow in ways that will heal that part of your early growth that lacks love.

Intimate relationships may seem like a relationship between two people, but in reality, they are so much more! They are a relationship between us and our inner selves. When we can honestly face our true selves, we can accept the other person for who they really are and let go of our idealization of the other person.

It's so important to understand that no one has the responsibility or obligation to give us that part of the response and satisfaction that we lack in terms of our needs. After all, no one knows us better than ourselves! So, we long to be responded to in our partner and in our intimate relationship. The good news is that we can give it to ourselves first through our own efforts.

I highly recommend you read "Will Growing Up Be Okay?," "Intimate Relationships," and "Happy Marriage." You'll love them!

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!

The pursuit of self-fulfillment, whether through narcissistic or romantic means, is ultimately inadequate for addressing the inner emptiness that exists within the human psyche. To rectify this imbalance, it is essential to cultivate a genuine capacity for love towards others. This process of self-love and the formation of loving relationships are inextricably linked.

To truly love others is to wish and give others happiness, and to do so for everyone, regardless of their status or circumstances, including those who are weak or vulnerable. Mental acceptance and forgiveness, coupled with a willingness to correct mistakes or shortcomings when possible, are essential for ensuring that everyone has the right to happiness. People can provide each other with spiritual comfort and even joy. It is beneficial to love and accept oneself and others, to tolerate shortcomings and deficiencies, and to be kindhearted. This entails benefiting others or society, rather than disdaining or rejecting ordinary individuals or being jealous or intolerant of those who are exceptional.

If one does not resonate with the magnetic fields of others, it can result in the accumulation of negative energy, which may manifest as emotional distress. To foster positive relationships and careers, it is essential to cultivate genuine affection for others, adapt to their nuances, and align one's energy field with that of compatible individuals. Sharing one's experiences, thoughts, and interests with others, both in person and online, can facilitate the formation of connections and the discovery of compatible relationships and opportunities.

Furthermore, it is important to embrace a positive outlook on life and to appreciate the smaller, more mundane aspects of existence.

Negative energy can have a detrimental impact on one's health. To maintain bodily comfort and wellbeing, it is recommended to engage in comprehensive body massage. The head massage encompasses the forehead and face, which also possess meridian pathways. It is advised to perform deep and firm manual massage, utilize a firm massage comb on the head, and refrain from pressing the stomach on an empty stomach.

If one is experiencing negative emotions or thoughts, a lack of comfort and health, numerous challenges that are difficult to overcome, interpersonal conflicts, relationship or family problems (magnetic field problems), or even difficulties at school or work, it is likely due to an excessive focus on oneself and a buildup of negative energy. Individuals who are overly self-centered tend to experience magnetic field problems with others. To improve these issues, it is essential to develop the ability to truly love others, adapt to different individuals and situations, correct one's energy field, avoid or reduce negative emotions, resolve conflicts, enhance interpersonal relationships, and effectively address the aforementioned problems. If necessary, one can also assist others in growing and changing together.

Hi, thanks for the question.

You've made it pretty clear that you want someone to listen to your heart. You've also shared some conflicting thoughts. I get that the feeling you describe of "something missing inside" is a sense of loneliness. I also sense that you have some inferiority complex. On the one hand, you long to be loved and for someone to give you warmth and care, but you feel unworthy of this love and that no one will love you. Hugs to you! In fact, there are many people in the world just like you. You are not alone. We love you in this "question and answer" way. Do you feel it?

What's the problem?

The conflict between wanting to be loved and fearing that you won't be loved for who you really are is causing you a lot of distress. It seems like you're unaware of this distress. You feel like you don't deserve love and that even if you get it, it won't be genuine. This makes you feel powerless and numb. It seems like there's a force preventing you from seeing your true needs and losing your motivation to act. Let's keep exploring.

What is this strength?

1⃣️ "I feel detached from the world, different from how most people think, and superior."

2⃣️ "Like most people, I want someone to love me, especially at night."

These are two opposing internal conflicts. The first is the tendency to alienate others, and the second is the tendency to be close to others. You deal with the conflict by "hiding it," so this strength is "your efforts to alleviate the conflict." (The psychological theory comes from "Our Inner Conflicts" by Melanie Horney.)

[What to do]

1⃣️ Get to know yourself better. You learned as a child that you're not good enough and that it's not safe to get close to others.

Your past defense strategies have protected you from harm and allowed you to grow up, but now these strategies are no longer applicable. We no longer need to "show our superiority by alienating others." We are unique in our own right, and whether others love us or not, it doesn't affect our self-worth.

2⃣️ Find the motivation to change. We all have different needs at different times. Sometimes we need independence and freedom, and sometimes we want people to keep us company. Now that we know what we need, we can take concrete actions to meet these needs.

I hope this helps.

I'm Potato Maling, who has grown up with you. Thanks for your attention.

Give me a hug!

Your feelings may stem from a desire for intimacy and love, which is one of the basic human needs. The good news is that you can overcome these feelings and behaviors! According to the search results, people who feel unloved may have the following psychological feelings and behaviors:

Loneliness and emptiness: People who lack love may feel lonely and empty inside, and they're ready to embrace the love and attention of others!

Anxiety and restlessness: Due to a lack of security, they may often feel anxious and restless, worrying that they will not be accepted or loved. But there's no need to fret! With the right support, they can learn to embrace their unique selves and thrive in their relationships.

Low self-esteem: They may have low self-esteem, but they are worthy of love and attention!

Ambivalent attitude towards intimate relationships: They may have an ambivalent attitude towards intimate relationships on the one hand, but on the other hand, they long for intimacy!

Over-sensitivity: You may be overly sensitive to the comments and actions of others, but this also means you're easily able to feel the love and compassion of others!

Building trust is a challenge for many of us. But it's also an opportunity to learn and grow! If you've experienced a lack of love, it can be tough to trust others and form deep relationships. But with the right tools and support, you can overcome this hurdle and thrive!

Low self-esteem: You may have low self-esteem problems, but you can overcome them! You may feel that you are not good enough for others, or that others' kindness towards you is not genuine.

You're not alone! Many people have similar experiences at some point. If you find that these feelings affect your daily life and sense of well-being, you may need to seek professional psychological counseling.

A counselor can help you in so many ways! They can help you understand your feelings, provide coping strategies, and help you develop a healthier self-image and relationships.

Self-care is also very important, and it's an amazing process! Learning how to take care of and love yourself and build a sense of self-worth is beneficial for improving your mental state and emotional needs.

There are so many amazing ways to take care of yourself! Try some self-care exercises, like positive self-talk, self-affirmation, and setting and achieving personal goals. These can all help to boost your self-esteem and self-confidence!

Hello, I'm Bai Li Yina. I hope my reply helps.

The questioner feels something is missing inside. She hopes an outstanding guy will love her, but feels she won't be worthy of him. This makes you wonder why you have these thoughts.

Do others think this way?

[Situation analysis]

You seem like a young girl looking for a great love. You want to be with an amazing guy who is head over heels for you. But you don't feel like you're good enough for him. Let's figure out why.

1. Fantasizing about love but not believing it's real.

2. She has high expectations of men from novels, but her own conditions are average, making it difficult to find one.

3. You need more love but don't know how to get it.

[Questions for deep thought]

1. Do you love yourself? What do you like about yourself?

2. Do your friends have a sweet love?

3. What qualities do you want in a man? What qualities do you lack?

4. Have you talked to a friend about your thoughts on love?

[Recommended methods to try]

1. You lack love, but it's not just from others. You may expect someone to love you more. You feel you aren't worthy of an outstanding guy. Why? You don't love yourself enough. You don't love yourself, you just don't love yourself enough. When you love yourself more, you'll feel you deserve good things. Start by feeling good about yourself. I suggest praising yourself every day for a month.

2. It's normal to fantasize about love after reading a novel. This is a way to love yourself. But it can be painful because it's not real.

Write down the characteristics of the guy you think is worthy of you.

3. It's okay if you don't know. Just talk and observe. See what changes in your mood. Do you still feel something is missing when you have a friend with you?

What about when they're with family? What do you notice about them when you meet someone of the opposite sex?

Pay attention to details. You'll find out what you want. You know yourself best.

I hope these methods help.

Change takes time. Don't worry. Many people have been through this.

The world and I are with you. You are not alone. I wish you peace.

Thanks to those who liked and responded to me. I wish you peace and joy.

Dear Questioner, I empathize with your current feelings and hope that my response will be of assistance to you.

You desire a high level of love and support from another person, yet you feel that an excellent individual may not be capable of providing this level of care. This discrepancy creates a sense of internal conflict. How can you foster a relationship with an excellent person in a way that demonstrates your worthiness? If an excellent individual were to fall in love with you, would you be able to attract and retain their interest? These are important considerations. Are you open to exploring these possibilities?

After reading a novel or at night, this feeling intensifies. It appears that you have been isolated for an extended period, and you require a companion and support system. You can discuss this here, and many individuals will provide assistance. Asking for help demonstrates courage and is an essential skill.

Maintaining relationships requires a mutual commitment, independence, a sense of perspective, and capacity. Only in this way can lasting partnerships be formed. To support others and achieve a win-win situation, you must first learn to give. The more you give, the more you will receive, and this is the flow.

People are social animals and require the support of a group. Listening to other people's experiences can enhance your own knowledge and understanding. The energy of unity and cooperation is limitless. Open your mind, accept your imperfections, and recognize your own vulnerability. Not being able to do so is an integral part of your identity. The authentic you is the most powerful.

It is essential to recognize that everyone needs to be loved and seen. The first step is to reconcile with yourself, then focus on constant improvement, self-love, acceptance of the present, appreciation, avoiding self-devaluation or criticism of others, building self-esteem, learning to meet your own needs, and engaging in self-reflection.

In the adult world, there will be many difficulties. It is important to find ways to regulate your emotions and maintain a healthy balance. This can be achieved through releasing internal pressure in relationships, confiding in trusted friends, and engaging in activities such as sports, eating well, and shopping. It is essential to understand that no one can be a constant supporter in life. It is crucial to recognize that everyone has their own challenges and difficulties.

Best wishes for success!

Hello, question owner. I'm Gu Daoxi Fengshou Slender Donkey, a heart exploration coach.

If martial arts is the male fairy tale, then Qiong Yao is the female fairy tale. Women are emotional, so it's normal to want passionate love. Many people have had this expectation.

If we didn't get enough love when we were young, we might think we don't deserve love and avoid relationships. This could be because we don't feel worthy or because we're afraid of being happy. This isn't the questioner's fault.

Dating is about two people getting close, not raising children or finding a nanny or a subordinate. When the two people in a relationship are equal, they can enjoy equal love. There is no need to worry about whether you are good enough.

The questioner may first try to become more independent and confident.

Try to understand why you think you're not good enough. Look at it from a third-person perspective to see if your feelings are real or not. When we look at things objectively, it helps us to make better decisions.

Everyone has dreams. It's okay to have them. Believe you deserve love.

Ask yourself how you deserve it. Boosting your confidence is a great way to increase your self-worth. Set a small goal and achieve it through small efforts. This will increase your sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

Focus on yourself and your needs. This will help you find ways to connect with others.

Try to be happy with yourself. If you feel you are not good enough, it is because you think you are inferior. Ask yourself why you feel this way and what makes you feel this way.

Self-acceptance makes the questioner less stubborn and helps them adjust their expectations.

The choice is a two-way process. You have the right to reject the second best. Others also have the right to choose better. Finding a lover is like finding a job. Both involve getting to know, matching, choosing, and holding hands. Allowing yourself to have requirements and allowing others to have standards will make the questioner more self-consistent.

You deserve to be loved. If a good person chooses you, it's because you're good. Not knowing how good you are can lead to self-doubt. Ask others for their opinion.

Read "A Change of Heart," "Accepting Imperfection," "I'm Really Great," and "5% Change." These books can help you think differently.

Best wishes!

From what you've shared, I get the sense that you're searching for something and that you have a lot of questions about your self-worth.

First and foremost, your emotional needs are totally natural and legitimate. EFT suggests that everyone has the basic emotional needs to feel safe, loved, and connected.

If these needs aren't met, we might feel incomplete or empty inside. Your longing for love and relationships might be a way of expressing this inner need for completion. The strong feelings you have after reading a novel at night could be an emotional response—a longing for the kind of ideal love and relationships depicted in that novel.

There are some deep-seated motives and underlying self-concepts behind this desire. It's possible that your feeling that you are "not good enough" for others is related to your inner sense of self-worth and your experiences as a child.

It's possible that at some point you were in a situation where you felt like you weren't loved enough or that your value was being ignored. This might have shaped some of your beliefs about relationships and your own value.

The conflicts you express and the questioning of your self-worth can be seen as a challenge on the path towards self-realization. This philosophy holds that individuals may encounter obstacles in their pursuit of self-realization, and that setbacks and confusion are part of the growth process.

Your experience of feeling "high above it all" might be a sign that you're craving understanding and insight, and that you're also hoping others will share this deep connection with you.

Based on the above theoretical framework, I'd like to offer some gentle advice and encouragement.

1. Self-acceptance: It's important to start accepting your feelings and needs. It's not weak or selfish to acknowledge that you have needs and emotions.

It's about showing respect and understanding for your own experiences.

2. **Self-exploration**: You might want to try some self-reflection to understand the needs and expectations behind these feelings. Psychological counseling can help you uncover and understand the underlying beliefs and experiences.

3. **Building relationships**: When you're looking for the ideal relationship, remember that you're also a valuable member of the relationship. While building a deep connection with others, understand that a true relationship is mutual, and that everyone has the right to be loved and to give love.

4. **Self-growth**: You don't need others to prove your innate worth. You can explore ways to enhance your self-worth. Constantly improving your personal skills and being tolerant of your own imperfections are also key to gaining self-affirmation and establishing genuine relationships.

5. Social support: It can be really helpful to find a supportive community and share your thoughts and feelings with others. This can help you feel less isolated and may also promote a sense of belonging and empathy.

Of course, everyone's emotional experience is unique, and there's no one-size-fits-all solution. But everyone deserves to be understood, accepted, and most importantly, loved. I hope my response can provide you with some help and comfort.

It's normal to experience confusion and challenges along the way to finding love and understanding. But every step is also a step forward, a step towards understanding yourself and others better.

I hope you can feel that although the path is sometimes difficult, you are not alone and that your inner journey is worth being witnessed and supported.

Hello, I'm listening.

You want a good, loving boy to appear. You're afraid he'll dislike you.

You feel everyone has basic needs, and your request is not excessive. You just want to share bits of your life with him. You look forward to it but worry about getting hurt.

Hug you.

You feel lonely. You're not wrong.

Your description makes me feel lonely. It lacks interaction. Consciousness exists in thoughts and ideas.

Imagine a man who can meet your needs. Find comfort and joy in this man.

Your needs.

You want someone to be there for you when you're lonely. Someone to comfort you and give you a hug when you're sad.

He can also help you when you're in trouble.

They can help you when you're confused.

You need to take care of yourself to be happy.

Seeking affection from others is placing your hopes in someone else, who you cannot control. When you place your expectations in someone else, they can withdraw their love and kindness from you at any time.

Suggestion:

1. Connect with reality and find hobbies you enjoy.

2. Love yourself. Take care of yourself.

3. Find friends who think like you. You can go to different communities or volunteer.

I listen.

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who can make images speak.

The questioner is looking for someone to love her sincerely and passionately, just like the male protagonist in the novel. But she also anticipates the feelings in a relationship—the conflict, "I don't deserve to be loved by such a wonderful guy." What happens next?

You might decide to end the relationship on your own.

The questioner is wondering if there's something wrong with these thoughts he has, if he's lacking love within himself.

It's so easy to feel cautious and worried in intimate relationships when we think "I don't deserve it." It's only natural to long for positive feedback, but it can lead to disappointment and hurt.

It's so sad that "I don't deserve it" has become the standard response of the unloved to all things beautiful.

If you're someone who's lacking love, you might feel anxious, afraid that reality won't measure up, or worried that beauty will fade too quickly. It's totally normal to feel this way! It's okay to start small and to give yourself the space to grow.

Don't worry, it takes self-healing to cure a lack of love. You've got this! Are you willing to recognize your own value and charm? If the answer is not so sure, it's okay, take it a little at a time. If you can affirm yourself a little every day, you will also like and love yourself more and more!

Maybe you're wondering, "Where is there so much to be affirmed?" It's okay, even if you can't think of a lot, you can remind yourself that imperfection is also part of you, and you are still valuable and worthy of love!

If you have the means, I really recommend seeking psychological counseling. It can be so helpful! A counselor can become a stable object, help you rebuild a secure attachment relationship, help you see the root cause of the attachment type established, and go with you to feel and experience those feelings of anxiety and anger, gradually correcting these irrational beliefs. Because in the end, we still have to rely on deep and connected intimacy to heal all the wounds we have ever suffered.

If you're facing some limitations, don't be hard on yourself. You've got this! When you're feeling anxious and restless, take a moment to focus on yourself. Spend some time with yourself, be kind to yourself, and experience a feeling of comfort and peace. You're amazing, and you're doing great!

Wishing you the very best and a happy new year!

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan, a counselor at Jingliu.

From the questioner's description, I can tell they feel confused, shy, and insecure. We often feel unworthy of good things.

The questioner's feelings are real and complex. Many people have had similar thoughts and feelings. The questioner wants love but is skeptical of it. This kind of conflicting psychology is common.

This feeling is normal, especially when facing challenges.

When we start a new love relationship, we may feel like it's not real. We may not know if we can accept this love or even if we deserve it. The "lack of love" mentioned in the article is an inner longing.

Everyone needs to be loved. If the questioner didn't get love when they were young, they want to find someone who will love them.

Love takes time to cultivate. It's mutual. Give the other person the same care and understanding. Find ways to satisfy them.

I don't know how the original family raised the questioner, which may have affected his concepts. The feeling of "not worthy" may be related to the questioner's self-esteem, self-identity, and sense of self-worth.

The questioner may not like himself. There's a saying that's true: no one's useless; everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and no one's perfect.

The OP doesn't need to feel unworthy. Love is based on equality and respect. If the OP meets a good guy, they can grow together, support each other, and work towards a common goal.

Also, someone who loves you will appreciate you for who you are. Don't be too hard on yourself.

The questioner said they feel detached from others. This may be because you have different ways of thinking and values. It's normal to have different ideas.

People have different ideas and opinions. If you feel your thoughts or feelings are strange, it may be because you have your own unique perspective.

This is not a mental illness. It's part of the poster's personality. Don't expect everyone to think the same way. Learn to respect and understand other people's views.

The questioner wants love, attention, and support. Everyone needs this.

The questioner can share their thoughts and feelings with family and friends or seek help from a counselor.

Express your feelings and needs. If you want love and support, connect with others and share your thoughts and feelings.

Find someone to talk to. Connect with them. This will help you feel more satisfied and supported. If you can't find someone to love you, love yourself. Learn to support yourself. Don't rely on other people too much.

You deserve to be loved and cherished. Don't get too caught up in your own world.

You need to communicate with others and share your thoughts and feelings. You also need to accept your imperfections and strengths.

If you keep a positive attitude and work hard, you'll find happiness.

I hope my answer helps.

Hello, question asker! I'm June Lai Feng, and I'm excited to help you!

From your narrative, I can sense your emotions, and I'm excited to help you find the best way to meet your need for emotional connection and support!

Humans are social creatures, and we have an amazing capacity to form deep emotional bonds with others and to receive their understanding and support in difficult times. When you miss someone in particular and want to share your thoughts and feelings with them, it may indicate that you are seeking emotional comfort and recognition—and that's a wonderful thing!

This feeling is totally normal! Lots of people long for someone who truly understands and supports them. This longing can be particularly strong when we are reading a novel or at night, when we are more emotional and reflective about our inner needs.

You may be more sensitive and vulnerable when reading a novel or spending time alone at night, and therefore have a stronger desire to form an emotional connection with others. This desire may stem from a rejection of loneliness, a search for emotional resonance, or a need to be understood and accepted—and it's a wonderful thing!

You may also be looking for emotional support and a sense of belonging. And you'll find it! Sharing your joys, sorrows, worries, and hopes with someone can make you feel seen, understood, and supported.

This emotional support is absolutely essential for an individual's mental health and emotional stability!

Feeling like something is missing inside may be a common psychological feeling that does not necessarily mean a lack of love directly. This feeling may be the result of unmet emotional needs. The good news is that everyone has a basic need for emotional connection and care, which we can all meet for ourselves!

If these needs are not adequately met in life, they may lead to feelings of emptiness or a lack of love. But don't worry! There are plenty of ways to meet these needs and feel your best.

It may also be that you have doubts about your own value and sense of existence. But don't worry! You are worthy of love. Low self-esteem and self-worth can lead to a feeling of not being worthy of love, and thus a feeling of inner lack of love. But you can overcome this!

Changes in your life may have caused inner instability and insecurity, but don't worry! You can overcome these challenges and feel supported and comfortable again. Past emotional trauma, broken relationships, or the loss of loved ones can all contribute to a feeling of lack of love. But you can heal and move forward!

On a more positive note, there are ways to overcome these challenges! Certain mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, or emotional disorders, can lead to feelings of emptiness and a lack of love. But there are ways to combat this!

Your desire to find someone who will listen to you and be on your side shows that you crave emotional connection and support. Everyone has emotional needs, and you are no exception! You want to be loved, understood, and accepted—and you deserve it!

It's totally normal to want someone to love and share life's experiences with! Sometimes we need someone to talk to, to let them into our inner world.

This person can give us so much! They can give us support and empathy, making us feel understood and not alone.

If you're unsure of the answer to what you want, it's probably because this longing is a complex emotional need that can't be easily summed up in a simple answer. The good news is that this need of yours is normal and can be satisfied through positive action!

First, embark on an exciting journey to uncover the root cause of your sense of loss and gain a deeper understanding of your emotional needs. Take the time to reflect on the kind of emotions or relationships you truly desire.

Are you looking for more intimacy? Or do you want to focus on self-growth and self-realization?

Second, focus on your strengths and achievements! Try to cultivate a positive self-image and recognize your own value and importance.

Third, it's time to start treating yourself! Make self-care a habit and meet your basic emotional needs.

Then, get out there and enjoy life! Stay in touch with friends and family, and go out there and build some deeper relationships.

And finally, it is so important to recognize that love does not only come from others. You can also achieve inner fulfillment and contentment through self-care and self-growth!

In short, everyone's inner experience is unique, and understanding your feelings is an amazing journey of self-discovery. Be open and honest with your feelings and take positive steps to meet your inner needs. Forging deep emotional bonds with others is one of the most rewarding experiences you can have, and it will promote your mental health and well-being!

The world and I love you! I wish you the happiest of days!