Always feel that there are more evil people in this world, how to adjust?

Dear Question Asker,

The act of embracing oneself is an effective method of self-exploration and demonstrates a capacity for concern and accountability in the present moment.

You have indicated that you frequently observe instances of violence, oppression, insults, and bullying on various applications on your mobile device. I am uncertain as to whether you have previously recognized this phenomenon.

The push notifications that appear on each individual's mobile device are unique, reflecting the specific concerns and interests of that person. After the platform's data is analyzed, the push notifications for each user will be tailored to their individual preferences.

In a painting, one may observe a fisherman in a straw raincoat, white geese in the water, and distant mountains. Each viewer will focus on different elements of the scene, resulting in a kaleidoscope of interpretations. This phenomenon is akin to the multifaceted nature of human perception, where each individual experiences the world through a unique lens, shaped by their unique experiences, beliefs, and perspectives.

From the natural world, our perception will be comprehensive, nuanced, and not unduly preoccupied with immediate details. Nevertheless, if one is not concerned with matters of a violent nature, one may choose to disregard these notifications.

In the future, the number of negative reports on one's mobile device will be reduced.

An analysis of the direction of your focus indicates that you are a person with a lack of security. Consequently, you believe that there are numerous instances in the world where the truth is suppressed and you are fearful of being subjected to such circumstances, despite being powerless to prevent them.

The subject displays a fear of being treated unfairly and a sense of powerlessness in the face of negative events. An examination of the subject's past may yield insights into whether they have experienced such treatment.

At the time, one lacked the capacity to cope with the situation, and thus, it was relegated to the subconscious to minimize its impact. These negative experiences serve as a central anchor, evoking emotions from the past that have yet to be processed. It is imperative not to ignore their existence. Instead, it is crucial to become aware of one's emotions, differentiate between those that are intrinsic and those that are influenced by external factors, provide self-assurance, alter one's perspective on negative occurrences, and rationalize them to prevent secondary distress. It is essential to acknowledge emotions and, when necessary, adopt a flexible and resilient mindset.

The establishment of a sense of security is inextricably linked to one's family of origin and upbringing. It is not a process that can be completed in a short period of time.

It is essential to engage in continuous learning and growth in order to achieve comprehensive development in three key areas: spirituality, intellectual horizons, and physical health. When individuals become stronger, they experience a sense of fulfillment and a corresponding strengthening of their sense of security. The notion that success should be leveraged for the benefit of society, particularly in the form of assisting those in need, is a compelling one.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information is beneficial to you.

I serve as a beacon of guidance, illuminating the path forward for the world. I extend my love and support to all.

Hello, question asker!

I'm Xiaobai, and I'm here to tell you that you can get rid of your worries!

After reading your question, I just want to give you the biggest hug!

I'm excited to offer my views and suggestions, and I really hope they'll help you!

Let's dive right in and analyze the specific problem encountered by the questioner! We'll interpret and analyze it together.

I always see violence, oppression, insults, and bullying happening on different apps on my phone. So I always feel that there are a lot of dark places in the world, the truth is drowned out, and I'm afraid that those things will happen to me, but there's nothing I can do about it. But you know what? I'm excited to see what the future holds! I'm optimistic that things will get better. I'm hopeful that one day, we'll live in a world where everyone is treated with respect and kindness. I'm ready to stand up for what's right and make a positive impact.

❓❓ You always feel that there are more bad people in the world. How do you adjust?

? When there is goodness in your heart, you will see goodness everywhere!

You say you always see violence, oppression, humiliation, and bullying happening. So you feel that there are a lot of dark places in the world.

Do you also see that, in the face of the onslaught of the new crown epidemic, there is a layer of gloom behind every brightly lit lantern during this Chinese New Year? But there's also a whole lot of hope! Countless people are racing against time, supporting each other with their hands and igniting lives with their lives.

The Chinese spirit of support from all sides in times of trouble is truly inspiring! It's a moving experience to read it.

? Shakespeare said it best: "There is no such thing as good or bad in the world, only what you think." It's all in your mind! When we believe in kindness and goodness, we attract more of the same.

There are no absolute bad guys or good guys in this world. The great news is that as long as you are kind-hearted, you will be closer to happiness!

The world is absolutely beautiful and worth fighting for! Change your mindset, be kind, and everything will seem beautiful.

Don't overthink it! Since ancient times, good has always triumphed over evil.

Justice may be slow in coming, but it will definitely come! The wicked will eventually be punished. And there are definitely more good people than bad people in the world!

❤️Explore more beautiful things, and show more care and help to those around you. Distract yourself and do something meaningful, such as visiting children in a nursing home; visiting children in an orphanage; feeding stray animals...go and feel the beauty of the world!

In summary, these are some of my views and suggestions, and I really hope they'll be of some help to you!

I am Xiaobai, and I love you all! Don't worry about anything, because the world is a wonderful place, and I love it too!

Hello, host! I'm smiling.

From your description, I understand your question. I'm here to give you a hug in the four-dimensional space.

From your description, I can see that you have a certain understanding of dark places, which is why you think you might become powerless if you encounter such a thing yourself. Let me be clear: you will not become powerless. In this regard, I'll give you a warm hug.

You think this way for two reasons. First, you lack a sense of security, so you always feel that something bad will happen to you.

The second reason is that you, the host, did not develop a sense of trust well between the ages of 0 and 2. Psychologist Erik Erikson was clear that the main task of infancy (ages 0-2) is to develop a sense of trust, overcome distrust, and experience the fulfillment of hope. Babies experience physical well-being and feel safe from the satisfaction of their physiological needs, and thus develop a basic sense of trust in their surroundings. Conversely, babies develop a sense of distrust, or suspicion, towards their surroundings.

It's normal to have doubts about the world right now. But it's also good that you're aware of your situation. Don't worry, but relax. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

The truth is, there are still plenty of good people in this world. This is the era of good people, after all. So, stop worrying. Our world is still a place where the rule of law reigns and a country with a relatively high sense of well-being. Even if something bad happens to you, believe in our country's laws. They will not wrong a good person nor let a bad person go, as the saying goes.

I have also summarized some methods to help you solve your current problems, and I am confident they will help you to some extent.

(1) Relax, give yourself more confidence and encouragement, and stop allowing yourself to be in a negative state of mind.

(2) If you think something bad is going to happen to you, you can learn self-defense techniques like judo or taekwondo to protect yourself.

(3) Distract yourself. Do something you like. It'll relieve your overstrained state of mind.

(4) Forget the negativity and encourage yourself with positivity instead. You can handle whatever comes your way.

(5) Have more trust and confidence in yourself, and believe in our country. The light will eventually shine on these dark places.

The world and I love you.

You've got this.

To whom or to what should one adjust?

The questioner's perspective aligns with my own in that they perceive a prevalence of malevolent individuals in the world.

If the questioner believes that these unfortunate events have truly occurred, they may feel a sense of helplessness. It is worth noting that not many individuals would hold this perspective.

It is not a natural state of being to feel comfortable with negative circumstances.

No one would choose to experience such a situation.

If another party is at fault and has committed an offence, and you are still required to make adjustments, is that not

Do you believe that self-punishment for the actions of others is an appropriate response?

There is no need to be concerned about this.

From my own perspective,

It is imperative that we possess the ability and expertise to safeguard ourselves.

There was a time when arguments in favor of or against victim-blaming were prevalent.

It is regrettable that you ventured out in the middle of the night, dressed lightly, and that even some hotels that were secretly photographed can be held responsible for how you live outside. You are aware of how to study and have learned that the skills of being secretly photographed are not conducive to success.

I must confess that I am at a loss as to what they are trying to convey. Are they truly more important than the main point?

It is not implausible that some of their statements are reasonable.

However, some individuals may lack the requisite care and attention to fully comprehend the situation.

It is in everyone's interest to avoid being hurt, and those who have been hurt wish they had been stronger to deal with the situation when it arose.

It is impossible for anyone to fully comprehend the extent of pain experienced when one is hurt.

There is no issue with acquiring more knowledge, information, comprehension, and expertise for the purpose of personal protection.

It is advisable to avoid testing human nature or placing undue pressure on yourself.

The establishment of a sound and comprehensive system often requires the joint efforts of many people and the willingness to endure some degree of collective suffering and pain.

In light of the anticipated positive outcomes from those in positions of authority, it is my hope that we, as individuals, will not be subjected to any form of victimization or injury.

It is evident that there are individuals in the world who exhibit negative behaviors. However, this does not imply that everyone possesses the audacity to engage in such actions. In reality, they are often unable to do so.

For example, individuals in positions of authority may be less inclined to engage in corrupt practices due to the potential for significant negative consequences, including the loss of their reputation and future prospects.

For example, an individual in a disadvantaged situation is unlikely to resort to theft as a result of the benevolence and acceptance demonstrated by those who provide them with assistance.

For example, an individual with malevolent intentions may attempt to engage in unscrupulous behavior, but circumstances may prevent them from doing so. Even if circumstances were to align in their favor, they may still be unable to carry out their plan of action.

Just a few hours ago, I observed an individual scratching another person's parked vehicle and subsequently contacting the relevant parties to inform them of the incident and assume responsibility for the damage.

On occasion, I have observed pedestrians allowing vehicles to proceed through a crosswalk and vehicles stopping to allow pedestrians to cross.

Furthermore, during the pandemic, many individuals volunteered their time and resources, demonstrating a commitment to supporting their communities.

It is not a given that individuals with questionable ethics will refrain from engaging in unscrupulous activities. Similarly, those with a reputation for integrity may, on occasion, engage in questionable actions.

It is possible that one day, it could even be you, me, or anyone else.

Not everyone is able to resist temptation when faced with competing interests.

It is therefore advisable to establish a clear position and to be assertive in pursuing it.

Do not engage in polite discourse with those who engage in unethical or immoral behavior. Instead, take a firm stance and advocate for your position. If necessary, take the initiative to report such individuals or actions.

In the context of communication, it is important to maintain a firm stance and avoid compromising too easily.

There is no issue with taking prompt action to address problematic situations.

If you truly wish to be kind, it is also based on the need to protect yourself and to be worthy of yourself.

Kindness is a virtue.

Do not allow others to betray your trust when you have invested significant effort to support them. Provide all parties with an opportunity to resolve conflicts amicably.

Kindness should be reciprocated with kindness, and evil should be met with a similar response.

This is the standard to which all individuals should aspire.

The complete sentence of the ancient people is, "How can you repay kindness with hatred?"

It is a rhetorical question, with the hope that you will not take the suggested course of action.

Please do not limit your consideration to the initial portion of this message.

The above is for your reference and may be of benefit to you.

Hello! I'm going to give you a warm hug from afar first.

You can and should feel and see the unease and fear that these negative messages generate within you.

Accept that you will have these uneasy and fearful emotions. Then, embrace them. Know your emotions, experience them fully, and understand what they are trying to tell you. Look beyond the surface and identify the underlying feelings, such as anger, sadness, helplessness, and a sense of powerlessness.

The famous Murphy's Law is a clear reminder of what you pay attention to in your life. You are likely to be attracted to this part of the information, and it is probable that these parts will happen in your life.

Our cognitive patterns directly affect and suggest the way we behave. When we are not clearly aware of our inappropriate patterns, we may behave inappropriately.

We can't control everything in life, but we can find the certainty in the uncertainty and focus on ourselves instead of worrying about what we can't change.

Focus on the present. Meditation, deep breathing, and keeping an emotional diary will help you perceive your emotional state better.

I am Lily, the little listener at the Q&A Pavilion. The world and I love you.

Hello. I am a heart coach. I will be your ally, listening to you with warmth and sincerity as you share your emotional story.

I understand your feelings. Some negative influences in society have made you feel bad. Your heart is full of worry and fear. You are afraid of these bad things happening to you. You even have anxiety, accompanied by a sense of powerlessness.

?1. The optimistic and pessimistic patterns

"Attention is strengthened." It's a simple fact that when we focus on something, we become more aware of it. Take driving a Golf, for example. I see a lot of other Golfs on the road.

A classic example is when someone is faced with a glass of water and says, "Why is there only half a glass of water?" Someone else might say, "Fortunately, there is still half a glass of water."

A person who focuses on what they have will express gratitude and is therefore happy and optimistic.

A person who focuses on what they don't have is likely to complain. When a person always complains, they not only lose more, they also lose what they already have. There's no doubt about it.

Everyone has their own inherent patterns, and they bring these patterns into their various relationships. There's no question about it. Take "optimism" and "pessimism," for example.

A person who sees only the good side is happy. A person who sees only the negative side is sad and depressed.

The answer is simple: it's evolution.

Ancient humans lived in the jungle, constantly exposed to sudden dangers. Some were more safety-conscious, paying attention to potential threats like lions, tigers, poisonous insects, and snakes. When they focused on dangers, they were on their guard.

The other kind of person is certain that they should focus on the good things, such as flowers, beautiful scenery, and delicious food. Such people seem happy because they are surrounded by good things, but which kind of person is more likely to survive? It is undoubtedly the person who focuses on dangerous things who is more likely to survive.

However, any behavior requires a specific time frame. In peacetime, when material and social security systems are so well established, it is simply not conducive to life to focus on the "lack of" and live in the "anxiety" and panic of the past.

2. Live a little happier. It's simple: look at what you have and express gratitude.

People who can do this are called "optimists," while people who always focus on dangers and deficiencies are called "pessimists."

Seligman, the father of American psychology, discovered through extensive research that there are significant differences in the thinking patterns of optimists and pessimists. The two differ in terms of time frame, uniqueness and universality, behavior and traits:

Pessimists:

1. They view difficult and unfavorable things as long-term and permanent, while they view good things as temporary.

2. They view difficulties as the norm and good fortune as exceptional.

3. They believe that achievements are the result of doing something right, not because of talent. They also believe that mistakes are caused by human problems and that they are not capable enough.

Optimists do the opposite.

1. Treat difficulties and unfavorable things as temporary. Treat the good things as long-term and permanent.

2. Difficulties are isolated and exceptional, while good is the norm.

3. I recognize my abilities as sufficient for achievements, and I give myself credit for them. Mistakes, on the other hand, are just accidental events that have nothing to do with my abilities.

If you want to start living happily from now on, try the following exercises.

1. Compare Seligman's research to see if you are an optimist or a pessimist. Be honest with yourself and acknowledge your results.

2. It doesn't matter if you're an optimist or a pessimist. It all comes down to your sense of security. If you feel insecure, you need to admit it. Then, you need to heal.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you, and I love you and the world.

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The world is not black and white. It is gray. We must recognize the limitations and irrationality of individuals. We cannot create an artificial and complete rule environment for the complex social system because it would be too expensive. We must accept defects and disadvantages, but our humanity can make up for this. Our original question is whether we think the world is good or evil. The answer is that our world is not divided into good and evil. It is in a state of interaction. Everyone has a good or evil part. We are in a balanced state. As long as we are not in an extreme state, we will adapt well to our society. Our most important psychological quality is adaptability. When we learn to adapt to the world, we will understand the objective laws of everything. Understanding the world we are facing from a higher perspective is more conducive to our survival. Instead of understanding good or evil, we should think about what we are good at and how we can adapt. Once we understand these principles, we will have a better way to understand the laws of change in the life and world we face.

We must understand things around us dialectically to understand the laws of things.