Always feeling "marginalized," no one cares, lonely, should I die?

Hello friend! From reading your description, I can feel your loneliness and helplessness, but I also see that you are actually a proactive person and one who is happy to communicate with others. This is a very good quality! In response to your description of the problem, I can tell you for sure that you have to live well in order to feel more good. We can explore the following aspects:

1. You can feel that you are actually influenced by others a lot, which is totally normal! You just need to ask yourself what the purpose of your contact with others is. Is it to get attention?

Or is it to chat with others? Or is there some other reason?

This is a really important question! If you can tune in to your own inner desires, you'll gain a deeper understanding of yourself.

2. If you have needs, you can talk about them with the people around you. If there is no suitable person around, you can go to major video platforms to communicate your problems with other people. Listen to other people's ideas and suggestions. There are so many socializing opportunities! If you want, you can also plant some flowers or something to cultivate your sense of happiness and make yourself feel valuable.

3. You may feel that your energy is relatively low at the moment, but you can absolutely make yourself better and your energy stronger! The first thing you can love about yourself is your body, and the second is your feelings. Feelings are your own, so you can see them and see yourself. You can see yourself, and you can see the good things in life! In psychology, the first thing to love about yourself is to be aware of yourself, feel yourself, and make friends with yourself.

And finally, I wish you a healthy, joyful, and worthwhile life! I absolutely believe you can become a winner in life!

Come on, my friend! Let's do this!

I empathize with your current circumstances and emotional state. It is undoubtedly distressing to feel marginalized, isolated, and unvalued. However, it is imperative to underscore that you are not an inconsequential or dispensable entity. Your existence and intrinsic worth are beyond question.

We will now examine potential avenues for resolving this dilemma.

It is of the utmost importance to communicate with one's husband. As a couple, it is essential to provide support and understanding for one another, rather than creating a sense of isolation and neglect.

It is possible to express one's feelings and needs in an honest manner and inform one's partner of the desire for increased care and support. It is plausible that the partner in question is not intentionally ignoring the other, but rather lacks awareness of the feelings of the other person. Communication may potentially enhance the quality of the relationship.

Effective communication with one's spouse is a crucial aspect of maintaining a positive and stable relationship. The following suggestions are designed to assist individuals in communicating more effectively with their husbands:

First, select an appropriate time and location. Ensure that there are no potential distractions and choose a time when both parties are relaxed and comfortable.

One may opt for a tranquil setting within the home or a secluded moment while traversing the outdoors to engage in discourse.

It is imperative to remain calm and rational in all subsequent interactions. This applies to both the expression of one's own feelings and the act of listening to the other person.

It is inadvisable to make impulsive decisions or utter impulsive statements when one is emotionally distressed, as such actions may serve only to exacerbate the problem at hand and negatively impact the relationship between the two parties.

Thirdly, it is essential to listen to the opinions and feelings of the other person. Effective communication is a two-way process. It is not sufficient to merely express one's own thoughts and feelings; it is also necessary to actively listen to the opinions and feelings of the other person.

It is essential to demonstrate respect for each other's opinions, refrain from interrupting or criticizing, provide sufficient space and respect for each other, and ensure that the other person feels understood and cared for.

Fourth, it is advisable to utilise "I" language in lieu of "you" language. When expressing one's own opinions and feelings, it is recommended to employ "I" language in order to circumvent any potential feelings of accusation or attack experienced by the other person.

As an illustration, one might opt to preface their assertion with the phrase "I feel..." as opposed to "You always..." This approach can facilitate the acceptance of one's viewpoint by the other party.

Ultimately, the objective is to identify solutions. Communication is fundamentally about resolving issues and enhancing relationships. Therefore, it is essential to concentrate on discussing solutions and strategies during the exchange.

Alternatively, one may seek external assistance and counsel in order to arrive at a mutually satisfactory resolution.

It is similarly crucial to expand one's social network. Even if one is not particularly acquainted with one's colleagues, it is advisable to attempt to initiate contact with them and foster additional connections.

It may be possible to identify common ground through discussion of topics such as work-related matters or the growth of one's children. Furthermore, participation in social activities or joining social groups may facilitate the expansion of one's social circle and the formation of connections with individuals who share similar interests.

On a spiritual level, one may attempt to alleviate feelings of loneliness and emptiness through various means. For instance, engaging in activities such as reading books of interest or watching movies or television series that appeal to one's personal preferences can foster a sense of joy and contentment.

Furthermore, numerous social platforms and forums are available on the Internet, which provide the opportunity for users to engage in communication, share their emotional states and sentiments, and connect with individuals who share similar interests.

It is of course imperative to exercise caution when communicating online, ensuring one's safety and exercising discernment when interacting with strangers. This is to avoid the potential for harm or exploitation.

It is also important to plan for one's future. In addition to caring for one's children, it is beneficial to cultivate personal interests and pursue career goals to enhance one's overall sense of fulfillment and purpose.

The acquisition of new skills, participation in an interest class, or the establishment of one's own business are all potential avenues for the discovery of direction and purpose in one's life. With the requisite dedication and resilience, any obstacle can be surmounted, and a life of happiness and fulfillment is attainable.

Hello, question asker! I am Rose, and I am here to listen and support you.

My dear, I can see how helpless and in pain you are. That sense of loneliness is overwhelming, and it's clear you feel alone with no one asking after you or caring. You're also making yourself feel bad, unworthy of care and even unworthy of living.

I want to say, "My dear, your very existence is the most beautiful and worthwhile thing. You deserve to be loved and to have all the good things you want."

You need to live a better life. You haven't experienced enough of what love is, you haven't felt the happiness of growing up with your children, you haven't even experienced the feeling of being loved by a man who truly loves you, and you haven't experienced the wonderful and carefree feeling of living your life as a ray of light.

You need someone to keep you company and make you feel loved and warm. These are all needs you should have. Maslow, the founder of humanism, believes that people are born with five needs: physical and safety, to belonging and love, to respect, and finally, self-realization.

Once our physiological and safety needs are met, our need for belonging and love will become obvious and strong. This need is like your desire to integrate into the group of colleagues at work. It is a sense of belonging, as well as wanting the care of your colleagues, and wanting the love of your husband, and even the care of your mother-in-law. You have this need, and you are not wrong.

My dear, it is okay to feel and have any needs. You must allow such a self to exist. It is precisely because you are denying such a self that you feel even more helpless and miserable, and even think that you should die. That is not the case.

And, darling, you are a mother and a mother who loves her children very much. We are mothers, but first and foremost, we are ourselves. Then we are wives, and then mothers.

You should think about how to be yourself and love yourself.

A person can only learn to love others, including their children, when they learn to love themselves.

Love yourself. Recognize your feelings and emotions, accept yourself, and see what you need. Satisfy yourself. Give yourself a small gift, your favorite food, a walk alone, etc. Do the things you like.

You will have more beautiful experiences and feel the power and warmth of life when you have a sense of self-existence.

Love is something you seek both inwardly and outwardly. If you cannot obtain it, you are disappointed; if you obtain it too many times, you despair. Your life does not just mean being loved; more importantly, you must love. When you love, you can truly feel what it is like to be loved.

If you want to find a friend to talk to, talk to a professional counselor. They will give you appropriate emotional care and companionship. You can also pay to join the circle you like. This will improve your abilities and help you make a lot of like-minded friends.

You are unique, and so are you. You will meet someone who will see your good points, appreciate you, and become a true friend.

If you want to talk to someone but can't find anyone, write. Keep a diary and write down your feelings and thoughts. It's a great way to talk things out and heal.

Dear, I still believe you are a beautiful being. It's just that at this stage, you are in emotional isolation and you don't get care or warmth. But you can come here and we can meet, and I know this is a very beautiful fate. I feel honored to be able to read your story and to be able to accompany you.

My dear, I am certain that you are a wonderful being. You are simply experiencing emotional loneliness without care or warmth. However, you came here, and we met. I believe this is a wonderful fate. I am honored to read your story and to accompany you.

You deserve all the good things in life, and the world and I love you.

The world and I love you, and you deserve all the good things in life.

It's tough to hear that things are tough, but don't lose hope. Here are some tips to help you get through this rough patch:

Seek support: Stay in touch with your mother-in-law and let her know you need a little time to adjust to your new environment and work. Try to build a friendly relationship with your colleagues by starting conversations with them and sharing your experiences.

If you can, find someone you trust to talk to about how you're feeling.

It's also a good idea to find some activities or hobbies that interest you in your spare time. This will not only help you to enrich your life, but it will also help you to make new friends.

There are lots of great options for you here. You could join social activities, volunteer, or even take part in some cultural activities with the locals.

Stay positive. Try to stay optimistic and positive. When you encounter difficulties, try to look at things from a different perspective and find positive solutions.

Remember, you're not alone in facing difficulties. There are always people who are willing to listen and support you.

If you feel like you need some help dealing with your negative emotions and stress, you might want to think about talking to a mental health professional or social worker. They can provide you with the support and guidance you need to get through this difficult time.

It's important to communicate with your husband. Talk to him openly about your feelings and needs. Let him know why you feel lonely and helpless, and how you want him to support you.

If you communicate well and understand each other, you can work together to find better solutions that will improve your lives.

It's important to take care of your health. Eating right and exercising regularly is essential for your physical and mental well-being. And don't forget to get enough rest and sleep!

Caring for your body can help you feel better overall.

Remember, you're not alone. There are people who are willing to listen and support you.

Keep the faith and stay strong. You can get through this.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

If we know what we want but not how to get there, it can be hard to move forward. As they say, "Two heads are better than one." Sometimes, working together is more effective than going it alone.

We all have to deal with a variety of challenges in life.

The questioner, whose child is only ten months old, has already started working normally. The questioner's husband works in his hometown, and the questioner is in a foreign land with her mother-in-law and child. As a stranger in a strange land, whenever she encounters difficulties, she feels down due to a lack of a sense of belonging.

In terms of relationships with colleagues, I don't know them well and I don't understand the local dialect, so I'm often ignored at work. Sometimes I really want to chat with others, but when I try to find someone to talk to, I find that there seems to be no suitable person around. Everyone is busy with their own things and gives perfunctory replies for other reasons, which makes it hard for the person asking the question to confide.

At work, the questioner doesn't get along with their colleagues for various reasons, which also affects their work progress and causes frustration. They know why, but there's nothing they can do.

In a family, the husband and wife are separated by distance, which can have an impact on their relationship. Different environments and people they come into contact with give each spouse different insights and ways of thinking, which can affect the couple's relationship.

Feeling like you don't belong or like you're not wanted.

Everyone has their own life issues to face. Not everyone needs us, but we need to be here for ourselves. Learn to see ourselves and affirm ourselves.

☀️Expand social circles: The questioner reached out to their existing friends, but found that some were busy and some responded to them perfunctorily for various other reasons. This so-called interaction made the questioner feel uncomfortable.

We often think that relationships can stay the same forever, but the reality is that they change without us noticing. People move on for various reasons, and once we neglect a relationship, our feelings for others also become indifferent.

The original familiar feelings are gone. The questioner can decide which feelings are worth nurturing and which relationships are suitable for casual encounters based on the situation. In reality, when they encounter people with similar worldviews, they can also take the initiative to make friends with them, expand their social circle, and get along with people with similar worldviews. The questioner will also find that in maintaining these relationships, they can feel more free and relaxed.

It's important to distinguish between what's important and what's trivial. The questioner and her husband have different views. From the letter, it seems that when the questioner confided in her husband, he didn't understand her feelings and didn't offer her comfort. Instead, he lectured her, telling her that she should be considerate of others. Distance can still affect the relationship between husband and wife without them realizing it.

Take some time to think about what matters most to you and what you truly want for yourself. What are you and your family trying to achieve in this situation? Are you making progress towards your goal, or are you falling behind?

The questioner can figure out what's important and what's not, decide if they should make changes, find a way to live their best life at their own pace, identify problems and work through them.

☀️Rearrangement: Even though the couple works in different places and it's easy to communicate online these days, the distance between them will make it hard for them to maintain a stable relationship. There's also less effectiveness in communicating across a screen than in communicating face-to-face.

I'm not sure why the questioner is separated from her husband, but it seems like her current work, colleagues, and life aren't what she wants. She has to spend a lot of time adapting to the environment and socializing, which takes a toll on her spirit and emotions.

It doesn't matter if the future is going to be better or worse than what she's giving up now. Either way, she's already wondering if she should give up.

Instead of letting the status quo bother you, is it possible to switch to a job that's closer to your husband, even if other jobs have better prospects? I think what the questioner wants most is to live happily with their family, to prove what they can do, and to find a pace of life that suits them.

I hope my answer is helpful to the questioner. Best of luck!

Hello, question asker!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling a bit confused and helpless. But you're also very good at recognising that you're feeling uncomfortable, and it's great that you're facing up to it!

After reading your description, I totally get where you're coming from. You just had a baby, you're working away from home with your four-month-old, you might not get along with your colleagues, and your husband sometimes struggles to support you emotionally, so you're feeling some anxiety and helplessness, as well as some grievances. Is that right?

All problems are our resources. We are the ones who solve our own problems. Do you agree? Based on what you've told me, I have some suggestions that I hope will help you.

I think it would be really helpful for you to try to adjust your state of mind first. I know that life can feel meaningless and lonely sometimes, but it's so important to remember that how we perceive it and what we give it will determine what it becomes. When we feel lonely, uncomfortable, or at a loss for what to do, it can be really helpful to try to adjust our state of mind, learn to get along with ourselves, and learn to do our own thing. This will help us to relieve these uncomfortable feelings.

Second, when we have these uncomfortable emotions, we can also try to keep a diary or talk to someone. You can also talk to a counselor, a friend, or write an emotional journal to vent that uncomfortable feeling in your heart. This way, in our future interactions and interpersonal interactions, we'll be able to express our feelings without getting overwhelmed by them.

I also think it's a great idea to work on becoming the best version of ourselves. We can learn some communication skills to help us feel more in control of our emotions.

Hello, question asker!

You are a new mother with a 10-month-old child. Your child is 10 months old, which is an amazing time! You have the opportunity to go to work and meet new people. You might be in a new place, but you're learning the dialect and making new friends. You've been having some challenges at work, but you're handling it like a champ! The sadness and loneliness you're feeling is something that others can't fully understand, but you're doing great! Hugs to you!

You are so much more than an unwanted marginal figure! You are a precious gift from God. You are loved and needed by your child. A ten-month-old child needs a lot of motherly care, and you are the most central figure that the child needs very much. Think about it, and let that sink in!

I totally get why you feel this way! You're longing for friendship, family affection, and camaraderie with your colleagues. It's totally normal to feel lonely sometimes. It's actually pretty common for the three of you to stare at each other: mother-in-law, you, and the child. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most challenging in the world. The child is young, and your husband is the one who is most disappointed. He even said those things, which completely broke your heart. It's tough when the child is young, but you're doing a great job! Hugs to you again!

I know what my husband said might have been a bit uncomfortable, but I could sense your kindness. You can still appreciate that my husband is also very busy at work in his hometown, which means that he is also making sacrifices for this family. Have you ever thought about it? Your mother-in-law is helping to look after the children with you in a foreign place for the sake of the children. In fact, at her age, she is not happy being away from home. Let's say we don't know our colleagues well and things aren't going well at work, we can still go to work and interact with our colleagues. But the mother-in-law who is looking after the children is feeling lonely, so she needs a little bit of support from us, doesn't she?

If you can try to think this way, and consider that it is not easy for your mother-in-law, then you will understand the situation where you two just stare at each other. Then, you can allow and accept this situation of staring at each other. It is not easy for the child, the mother-in-law, or you. This reminds me of an incident I encountered the other day. It was evening and I was taking a ride in a taxi. Since the driver was a woman, and she was carrying a five-year-old boy, I immediately said that it was not easy for the child, so young, to be in a car with her until after 11 o'clock at night. The woman driver immediately said that it was not easy for me to raise her. I feel the resentment of the woman driver in my heart from this comment. Of course, I understand that it is not easy for the woman driver. She also said that if there was a way, she would not have to drive with the child in such a hurry. This incident is really hard to explain, but it was a great learning experience! Anyway, after hearing about her situation, I felt extremely uncomfortable.

There's no right or wrong in this matter. I just hope that when the female driver is tired, she can smell her emotions and not take it out on the child. I also hope that the child can behave and give the female driver a break. Life is really hard, but it's also really exciting! Everyone has a hard time sometimes, but we can get through it together.

There are so many different kinds of life, and we definitely won't be the ones suffering the most. I think that, since we're living away from home and my mother-in-law comes to visit and look after the baby, this is better than if we looked after the baby ourselves and hired a nanny, right? My husband is busy at work over there, which means he can earn money and our family's financial situation will improve. Anyway, let's look on the bright side and remember that difficulties are only temporary.

Look at our baby now! He's ten months old, it's springtime, and he'll be walking soon! He's already so careful, and he smiles all the time. He's getting sweeter and more adorable every day. And our feelings for him are growing too! At first, he was a bit of a handful, but now we love him to bits!

And then there's work. Don't worry, we'll get there! The dialect will gradually become easier to hear, and we'll quickly get used to it. We'll also get familiar with the work. I saw you say you feel marginalized and ignored, and I get it. But being ignored is actually a good thing for the child! Our child is still young, so if it means we can spend more time with him, that's a great thing, right? As we watch our child grow up, where will our time go? We'll work more, and our mood will become more and more open. Our work efficiency will definitely improve!

Take your time, put your heart into the baby, and watch the baby change day by day. Write about the baby's changes and think about how you can grow up through the baby's growth and get through this difficult time. Then, in the future, you can also help people who encounter this situation with your own experience! Look at it this way, and you may well become the need of people who encounter this situation in the future.

And there's another thing! You have another need.

Because I don't know your specific situation, I can't say there are many. But I know there are! Think about it from many different angles and dimensions, and you'll find many places that need you. I said it before, and I'll say it again: You were born with your talents for a reason!

Live your life with joy and excitement, dedicating yourself first and foremost to the child who needs you. Let your love and care help them grow up quickly and healthily. The world and I love you!

Dear Questioner, I can tell how tough your situation is, but please don't lose hope. Here are some tips that I hope will help you get through this rough patch:

Seek support: Stay in touch with your mother-in-law and let her know you need a little time to adjust to your new environment and work. Try to build friendly relationships with your colleagues, even if they're not very friendly back yet.

Take the initiative to greet them, discuss work issues or share experiences to gradually break the ice.

It's also a good idea to find new friends. You can do this by joining social activities or interest groups. You can also try to find local friends or volunteer organizations through social media or online platforms.

Stay positive. It might be tough right now, but believe in your abilities and worth. Set small goals for yourself every day and achieve them gradually.

You'll feel more confident and motivated when you see progress.

If you feel like you need some extra support to cope with the situation, you might want to think about speaking to a psychologist or other professional. They can give you more specific advice and assistance.

It's important to communicate with your husband. Talk to him openly about your feelings and needs. Let him know you feel lonely and helpless and that you need his support and understanding.

It would be a good idea to set a common goal and timetable to help you balance your work and family responsibilities better.

Treat yourself too: While you're looking after the kids, don't forget to look after yourself. Get a good work-life balance, make time to rest and relax, get enough sleep and eat a balanced diet.

It's also important to get regular medical check-ups and personal care.

Remember, you're not alone in facing difficulties. There are plenty of people who are willing to listen and support you.

Keep hope and courage in your heart and believe that you can overcome these challenges and succeed.

Dear questioner, I understand you're confused and alone in this difficult situation.

You are not alone. You are not on the margins. Your value is not determined by others.

You're doing great working away from home with a ten-month-old. Your strength and perseverance are admirable.

Getting along with your mother-in-law and children is part of life. Be patient and understanding.

At work, it's hard to feel ignored and marginalized. But remember, your value isn't defined by others.

Talk to your colleagues, share your ideas, and show them what you can do. Learn new skills to help you do your job better.

Everyone feels lonely sometimes, especially when they're facing challenges. But you're not alone.

Join some groups or activities and make friends. Find topics to talk about with your mother-in-law and children.

I also have some specific suggestions for you:

Set small goals for yourself every day, like reading, learning a new skill, or exercising. These goals will make you feel accomplished and more fulfilled.

You can also get help from a counselor or psychologist. They can help you with your emotions and find ways to cope.

Life will always have ups and downs, but you can face and solve any difficulties you encounter. Your value is not determined by others, but by your own hard work and dedication.

Believe in yourself and face life bravely. You will find happiness and satisfaction.

In the days to come, may you find peace and strength to face life's challenges. Every effort is worthwhile, and every moment is precious.

You can do it!

Hello! I'm happy to answer your questions and hope my suggestions help.

You seem confused and insecure, and like you don't know what to do with your life.

Our child is now 10 months old, which means we have been postpartum for 10 months. We must pay attention to our health, sleep, appetite, and emotions. If we are depressed, we should go to the hospital and seek help. Our health is the most important thing!

Everyone needs you, you need you, your parents need you, and your children need you. Don't hurt yourself. Find someone close by or a professional to help you get through this difficult period.

Second, we're unsure of our direction and having trouble adjusting to our new environment.

Moving to a new city can cause us to lose social connections. At work, we also feel strange, and at home, we don't have someone to talk to.

We can also get help from professionals to share our feelings and get positive feedback.

In our new city or new flat, we can slowly build new social relationships.

We need to feel secure and be brave enough to socialize and express our feelings. This will show others that we like them and want to be friends.

We can also get help from a psychologist to sort out our feelings.

I hope that with the help of a professional, you can become more aware of yourself, find a way to socialize that suits you, and if necessary, you can also do counseling with your husband. Even if you are in different places, you can also find a way to get along in your marriage.

Love you!

Good morning, my name is Xin Tan and I am Coach Fei Yun. Life is a journey, and it is important to appreciate the opportunities that arise along the way.

You experience feelings of loneliness and a sense of worthlessness. You lack colleagues with whom you can form a relationship and confide in.

Upon returning home, she has no communication with her mother-in-law or her 10-month-old child. When she attempts to communicate with her husband, he is also under significant pressure at work and has no time to care about her emotions and feelings.

Every day is a challenging experience, and there is little to look forward to. Please accept this gesture of support and understanding.

1. You desire to establish connections with others and to be heard and understood.

It is our hope that colleagues, in-laws, and husbands alike can see us, hear us, understand us, and accept us.

However, due to competing demands on their time, others are unable to provide the emotional support and understanding you require, which in turn leads to feelings of frustration, boredom, helplessness and worthlessness.

The inability to connect with others results in feelings of loneliness, unacceptance, and a lack of appreciation.

The underlying cause of this sense of isolation is an inability to provide oneself or others with a positive assessment. Consequently, the opportunity to interact and connect with others is lost.

Even in a social setting, you may still experience feelings of loneliness.

2. Identify your own sense of worth, sense of existence, and sense of security.

A person's sense of worthiness, existence, and security is the foundation of a fulfilling life. To live a meaningful life, one must work hard and navigate challenges.

You have the support of your mother-in-law and the prospect of your children to look forward to. It is important to note that your husband's mood is not directed at you. He is also facing his own work and life pressures, and may not have an outlet for expressing his emotions. This could potentially lead to frustration being directed towards you.

You may utilize readily available resources, such as preparing a tasty meal to reward yourself and your mother-in-law. Creating a straightforward floral arrangement can enhance the ambiance of your temporary residence with a sense of warmth and joy. You may also opt to capture your child's growth through a video and share it with your husband or even take advantage of the pleasant spring weather to take a stroll with your mother-in-law in the neighborhood.

In short, one's mood is a function of one's own actions and mindset. When one makes changes, it is likely that those around them will also notice and respond positively.

I would like to recommend the movie "Groundhog Day" to you. It illustrates that life can be beautiful, and that this is dependent on one's thoughts.

I hope these suggestions are helpful to you. Best regards, [Your name] [Your title]

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Hello, I'm Coach Yu, and I'm thrilled to discuss this topic with you!

First, let's talk about loneliness. Deep down inside, we are all living in constant anxiety and fear. But there's so much more to it than that! We are also afraid of loneliness, death, and any situation we don't want to see.

But here's the good news: people are born alone and they die alone. The ability to enjoy loneliness is actually a reflection of one's inner strength!

As the questioner said, every day is an opportunity to embrace solitude, reflect, and recognize that I am not an unwanted outsider.

We can ask ourselves, "What do I think when I can't understand the dialect and my work doesn't go well? What feelings and emotions does it bring me? What do I think when I initiate a chat with someone but get no serious response? What feelings and emotions does it bring me?"

I called my husband, but I didn't feel like talking. What were my thoughts? How did it make me feel?

And we can also ask ourselves what our inner needs are when we hope that a friend will contact us. What are our inner needs when we long for a serious response from others?

Feeling marginalized, no one cares, what is it that you want? If loneliness could talk, what would it say to you?

We can make peace with our emotions! When our sense of loneliness strikes, we can shout "stop" to ourselves in time and try to say to ourselves, "What am I worried about? What does this remind me of?"

This is not a fact! By confirming your own thoughts, you can relieve anxiety and let emotions flow.

Another great way to beat loneliness and suffering is through writing therapy. Writing and drawing out your emotions is a fantastic way to find an outlet and release them.

There are so many ways we can try to be open-minded and cultivate our interests and hobbies! We can read books to converse with the ancients and feel their open-mindedness, or converse with entrepreneurs to feel their wisdom. We can even learn some aerobics through videos to exercise the body and feel happy! And we can participate in some community activities to gain more interpersonal experience.

Let's dive back into the topic of security! Maslow's theory offers a fascinating perspective on this concept. He defines security as a sense of confidence, safety, and freedom from fear and anxiety. But it doesn't stop there! He also emphasizes a sense of satisfaction with one's current and future needs.

If we grew up in an environment where we never felt secure, where there was a lot of dislike, hatred, accusations, and neglect, and where we could not rely on or trust anyone, and where there was a lot of hostility, then we will always be affected by these experiences. These experiences will continue to affect us until we grow up, and they will spread to all kinds of other relationships, making us worry all the time and even feel insecure in our relationships. But here's the good news! We can choose to turn these experiences into positive lessons that will help us grow and thrive.

Our feelings about relationships are often influenced by how we feel about ourselves and others. When we feel that there are many things about us that are not good enough, or even that we are bad in many ways, we can easily worry that other people don't like us and hate us. But there's no need to worry! We can take control of our feelings and change our mindset.

When we suppress these emotions and don't allow ourselves to feel and express them, we feel uneasy. But there's a solution!

As the questioner wrote, I always feel marginalized and no one cares. But guess what? That's about to change!

Absolutely! We can and should try to objectively evaluate ourselves, record our strengths and weaknesses, praise our strengths, and accept our weaknesses.

We also have to tell ourselves that we have grown up, because ultimately, we are the ones who can give ourselves a sense of security. As the brilliant psychological master Adler said, past life experiences are not of much use to us, and what is decisive is the perception and meaning we give to the experience.

We've been trying to communicate with my husband, and it's going well! Recently, we've been considering whether we can get together on weekends or our days off, so that we can find a sense of companionship, create opportunities to communicate face-to-face with my husband, express some of our thoughts and needs, release our pent-up emotions, and enhance our intimacy.

Absolutely! We can definitely seek help because if this thing bothers you, it's totally normal to need a little help to overcome it. Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to. If you feel the need, you can also find a counselor because emotions must have an outlet to relieve the heaviness and blockage in our hearts.

We can also try to enrich our inner selves and discover our unique value. When your core is strong, you'll be able to show yourself and those around you what an amazing person you are!

I'm so excited to recommend this book to you all: "Where Does Strength Come From?"