Always think others are right and lack confidence in your own words?

Hello, questioner!

I can see how you described the problem, and I understand your perspective.

We all come across this in our work: when faced with the same thing, everyone will have their own position, and when looking at things from different positions, the opinions will be different.

So, when you feel like "everyone else is always right," you might've forgotten your own position and taken the other person's instead.

At the end of the day, everyone's understanding is shaped by their experiences, learning, and in-depth thinking. What sets opinions apart is the level of comprehensiveness and objective perspective, not right or wrong.

This is why the saying "listen to both sides and you'll be enlightened; listen to only one side and you'll be in the dark" is so true.

So, when you're facing a problem, it's not about agreeing with other people's views. It's about making your own reasonable judgments after listening to other people's views and through in-depth thinking and analysis.

As we go through this process, it's helpful to think about why other people have those opinions. What kind of thinking did they go through?

You can also check out news commentaries to see how people come to their conclusions.

This will help us think more clearly and improve our ability to make our own decisions.

I hope this helps! It's my answer to the above.

I wish you the best of luck!

Just wanted to give you a heads-up: May 31, 2022.

Hello, host! I'm smiling!

After reading your description, I totally get what you're asking! I'm sending you a big hug in the four-dimensional space!

From your description, I can understand your current problem to some extent, so I'm excited to help you solve it!

The good news is that you're not alone! Many people have faced similar challenges in real life, and you've already taken the first step by recognizing your current situation. So, take a deep breath and relax. You've got this!

From your description, I can tell that you are currently in a confusing situation. But don't worry! I'm here to help. You will think about some of your problems a lot, which will also put you in a negative environment. But I know you can get out of it in no time! In this regard, I will give you a warm hug.

The good news is that the behavioral responses you mentioned in the description are also very normal. It's totally normal to feel unsure of yourself when others challenge your point of view. This can lead to more doubts about your own point of view and a tendency to overcompensate for others. But don't worry! This is a natural part of the learning process.

From another perspective, the current situation you are in is largely the result of the way you were brought up by your parents when you were a child. For example, your parents may have rarely allowed you to express your thoughts and feelings. Even if you did express them at first, your parents may have said that you shouldn't have done so and that you should do it this way instead. So, growing up in such an environment, you will become very obedient and rarely express and stick to your own opinions, because only in this way can you reduce some conflicts. But here's the good news! You can change all of that!

I've also put together a few tips to help you out of this pickle! I'm really excited to share them with you.

(1) Take your time and don't put too much pressure on yourself! If you do, it will make the current you feel very uncomfortable.

(2) Stick to your own views! They might not seem reasonable to you, but if you think that way, then there must be a reason for you to stick to them.

(3) You can express your own opinions, so no matter what you say, you are responsible for what you say, and you should not be swayed by other people's opinions.

(4) You are really good! Give yourself some courage and see your value soar!

(5) You are really great! Give yourself more positive self-suggestions because you are absolutely amazing, it's just that you sometimes exaggerate your shortcomings.

The world and I absolutely love you! ?

Take care!

Here are a few suggestions for you:

First: It's great that you think everyone else is right. This shows you are empathetic and accepting of others.

Second: If you agree with someone, you are accepting them. This makes them feel comfortable and willing to communicate with you. Third: After accepting what others say, it is time to reflect on yourself. Thank you for the people around you who often tell you their opinions.

Third: You get stuck when you express your thoughts. When reflecting, you should look at your views and others' from an objective point of view. If you are right, stick to your views. Fifth: What if you stick to your views and others disagree?

If you want to discuss it further, if after discussion you confirm that the other person's point of view is valuable, accept it.

Fourth: If you're right and the other person agrees, they'll support you.

If you still think you're right after discussion, you can maintain your opinion. There's no need to force yourself to agree just to verify your opinion. Give yourself a pat on the back if you're right. Give the other person a pat on the back if you're wrong.

And finally, be kind to yourself. People with character and their own opinions are more worthy of respect. Give it a try.

Hello, question asker! I am Enoch, the person who will be answering your question.

From what the questioner has shared, it seems that they are facing some challenges in holding onto their opinions and consistently seeking input from others. This may be making it more difficult for them to accomplish certain tasks.

It is possible that the following reasons may have caused the problem:

1. The questioner's self-will quality could be more developed. Willpower includes four aspects: self-awareness, self-control, decisiveness, and perseverance. However, the questioner's self-awareness is relatively weak, and often times they don't know what their goals are, so they just go along with other people's opinions. Because other people's opinions may not be suitable for their own situation, they often find it difficult to persevere in the face of facts, and thus lose their perseverance. When influenced by other different opinions, they will overturn their previous practices, which again loses the self-control of self-discipline. Because they often do things aimlessly, they cannot form a better decisiveness to persevere in the end, which causes them to fall into a state of chaos.

2. It may be the case, as the questioner suggests, that the questioner lacks self-confidence, which often leads them to give up on themselves and follow others. Over time, this can create a negative cycle, causing them to doubt themselves constantly, which in turn may further diminish their self-confidence and negatively impact their performance.

It is my hope that in the future, the questioner will consider positive and effective advice in their studies, work, and life. At the same time, it would be beneficial for them to take into account their own actual situation and formulate plans and goals that suit their own situation, which will help them to avoid blind spots. This will be more conducive to achieving success that suits their own actual situation.