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Am I still afraid of everything at 18, and am I always doing things wrong?

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Am I still afraid of everything at 18, and am I always doing things wrong? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

At 18 years old, I'm still afraid to cross the street, and I dare to cross only when the cars are not within a certain range. I also get scared when I hear the horn of a big truck, and my heart rate will accelerate, and it takes me a few seconds to calm down.

It's really bad. When I go to crowded places, I feel like my mind is blank, and I feel like everyone is staring at me, wanting to find a hole to crawl into.

I get scared when I'm in a place with a stranger and we're the only two people there, and I can't stop swallowing. It feels so rude.

As soon as I see that I have a call on my phone, my whole body tenses up, and I'm afraid to answer even if it's a strange number. I feel that I'm really, really, really bad. I'm aware that this is really not good for me to continue like this, but I'm afraid to do anything, for fear that I'll do it all wrong.

Well, is there any hope for me? (I guess I'm just a green tea bitch.)

Clara Smith Clara Smith A total of 6561 people have been helped

Hello, question owner. I can sense your worry about your current situation and your huge sense of insecurity. You're afraid that you will fall into an unpredictable situation because of your surroundings. I will describe my point of view, and I am confident that my next answer will be enlightening to you.

I'm here to tell you, you've been going for so long, you must be very tired. Take a break. You mentioned that you are a green tea bitch, and you mentioned that these symptoms are the behavior of a green tea bitch, but is that really the case? I doubt it. You seem like a weak child, crossing the street with trepidation, uncomfortable in crowds, afraid to answer the phone.

The good news is that you have the power to reflect on yourself, recognize your behavior is unacceptable, and commit to change. Many people remain in this state until they die, content in their familiar surroundings. This is a behavior that everyone has.

I'm not saying this state of mind is bad. It's just that it's exhausting for you to maintain it all the time.

Many times, our parents' way of thinking and behavior, or values, affected us deeply and invisibly when we were children. If a parent is someone who likes to put others down, the child will develop low self-esteem and a sense of worthlessness at an early age. Do your parents constantly criticize and disapprove of your achievements?

Or, are you afraid of crossing the street? We'll address some specific bad things about crossing the street, which will affect our perception of crossing the street. Then, we'll get to the heart of the matter: Is crossing the street a bad memory for you?

The fear of crowded places is likely caused by a lack of contact with others since childhood. It is a real problem.

As 18-year-old adults, we understand that we have the ability to solve things that we couldn't solve when we were younger. We just have to believe in ourselves. Human development is malleable, so we have to give ourselves enough confidence.

Embrace your imperfections, trust in your own humanity, and recognize that self-awareness is the gateway to self-transformation. When fear arises, embrace it, be patient with yourself, take a deep breath, and allow your emotions to dissipate.

You've got this!

I love you, the world, and I love you too!

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Leander Jackson Teachers are the sculptors of young minds, shaping them into works of art.

These feelings you're experiencing are valid and it's important to address them. Everyone has moments of fear and anxiety, but the fact that you recognize these issues is a step forward. Seeking help from a professional therapist can be beneficial as they can provide strategies to manage your anxiety.

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Zane Thomas Failure is a detour on the road to success, not a dead - end.

It sounds like you're very selfaware about what triggers your anxiety, which is a good starting point for change. Sometimes just talking about our fears can lessen their hold on us. Consider sharing your feelings with someone you trust; it might help you feel less isolated.

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Roberta Thomas The pedestal of a great soul is built on honesty.

I admire your honesty in expressing how you feel. It takes courage to admit when we're struggling. Remember, you're not alone in this. Many people experience similar feelings, and support groups or online communities can offer comfort and advice.

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Alexa Miller Forgiveness is a way to make our lives a journey of love and forgiveness.

You've already taken the first step by acknowledging that you want to improve. That's a significant move towards overcoming your anxieties. Try to focus on small victories, like successfully crossing a street or answering a call, and celebrate each one as progress.

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Dorothy Blake Time is a created thing. To say "I don't have time" is to say "I don't want to".

It's okay to have bad days and feel uncertain. The key is not to let these feelings define you. Look into mindfulness practices or meditation; they can help calm your mind and reduce anxiety. There are apps and resources available that can guide you through these exercises.

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