Am I traumatized because I'm overly anxious about what I say to myself?

Hello, question asker!

From your description, it's clear to me that the questioner is more cautious and sensitive.

Let's be real, no one has a perfect life. The questioner said that they were once praised for being humorous. What does the questioner think? You can start by noticing the reasons behind what happened.

From the questioner's description, I'm certain that if you say something bad, other people will reply and you'll feel guilty. Dear, when I look at you, I see myself.

Don't pay too much attention to what others say, trying to win their approval, when you should be focusing on liking yourself.

It's okay. The world is big, and everyone has their own problems, but we will get better and better as long as we don't give up.

I don't know your specific situation, but I'm going to give you some advice that I hope will help.

You need to learn to accept yourself.

Psychology says we should accept ourselves, but I believe we all have shortcomings. Does that mean we should ignore these shortcomings?

"That's just an excuse for laziness and a lack of effort to improve."

This is a common misconception about self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance is the ability to embrace all of your characteristics, regardless of whether they are positive or negative.

People can accept their shortcomings without hating themselves and feel that they are "good enough." To "love yourself," you must accept yourself. If you can't accept yourself, you can't love yourself.

② Establish the correct perception.

You are stronger than you think. You have grown up and can survive on your own, even without the support or recognition of others. When you are still feeling anxious over a casual remark from someone else, take a break and remind yourself of who you are and what you can do.

Obviously not. This is why establishing a correct perception is the first step to achieving the ability to not care about what others think.

You need to lower your expectations of yourself.

Everyone has moments when they feel powerless. You may want to succeed at something, but it doesn't always work out that way. From a psychological perspective, every emotion has a positive intention behind it. You need to see beyond your inferiority to your most genuine needs, such as the yearning for a better life and the desire to achieve self-worth.

Everyone is imperfect and flawed. There's no need to feel that inferiority is terrible. Some people get out of the shadow of inferiority by accepting their flaws, lowering their expectations, and finding comfort and reassurance elsewhere.

You have a wealth of knowledge at your disposal.

The more you learn, the more you know. The wider your perspective, the more you can handle anything that comes your way. You can figure out the ins and outs of things with ease. This cultivates a calm and composed state of mind, which helps you deal with any situation calmly.

You have to accept your bad mood and find a way to relieve it.

Everyone gets bad moods. The key is not to let it go on and on, expanding infinitely. You must quickly relieve your emotions in the workplace and restore a calm state of mind as soon as possible.

Relieve stress in the workplace by finding a suitable way to unwind, whether it's having a drink, eating dessert, going outside for fresh air, or complaining to a close friend.

Sigmund Freud, the master of psychoanalysis, was certain that a person's childhood experiences, no matter how much time passes or how deeply they fade from conscious memory, will stubbornly linger in the subconscious and have a lasting influence on a person's entire life.

People who have experienced misfortune in childhood or who have grown up in a repressive environment are more likely to develop a sense of inferiority.

However, you must accept that in adult social relationships, how others perceive and treat you essentially depends on your personal value. Any attempt to ingratiate yourself with others will not only fail to improve your relationship with them, but will also lower your status in their eyes.

Love and respect yourself first. See yourself as you are in your best state.

Dear Host, Your words evoke a profound sense of empathy and understanding. I am moved to extend a gesture of solidarity and encouragement, reassuring you that your intrinsic value is not contingent on external validation. Instead, I urge you to embrace your authentic self and prioritize your own well-being. It is possible that in the past, you may have invested a significant portion of your energy in the emotional and psychological needs of others, while neglecting your own needs. This is a common experience among many individuals, and it is essential to recognize that your worth is not determined by external factors. It is understandable that you may have experienced feelings of inferiority or neglect at some point in your life. These experiences can lead to a sense of doubt about your self-worth and ability to receive love and respect. However, it is crucial to recognize that these feelings do not define your inherent value as a person. It is important to acknowledge that when you doubt your worth, you are essentially placing yourself in a passive, judged position. This can lead to a sense of neglect and indifference, which are not your responsibility to bear. Instead, it is essential to recognize your inherent worth and the need for others to treat you with respect and equality. I encourage you to embrace your authentic self and prioritize your own well-being. Remember that your intrinsic value is not determined by external factors, and you deserve to be treated with respect and equality.

Indeed, this kind of self-consciousness excess—that is, the phenomenon of always paying attention to whether one's words and deeds are appropriate—is quite common in life. It can be described as a pervasive sense of being watched and evaluated, which often leads to feelings of inadequacy. In many cases, this is a projection of one's own inner voice. One possible explanation for this phenomenon is that individuals may have learned from past experiences that love is conditional and that meeting the needs of others is necessary to receive love. This can result in a constant monitoring of words and deeds to avoid losing love. In the words of Rogers, this is "a basic kind of alienation that happens to people." Instead of facing themselves honestly and accepting the natural body evaluation of their experiences, individuals may distort the value they experience and perceive their experiences based solely on their significance to others. This is done to maintain positive attention from others.

One may be considered truly liberated only when one is no longer inclined to judge oneself based on whether one's actions align with a particular standard or whether one's virtues, abilities, or achievements are deemed "sufficient" to warrant self-love and self-admiration.