Am I wrong to suspect my pain, with such internal conflict and distress, how can I change?

Dear one, your suffering is not a mistake. It is a process that allows us to see if our suffering is necessary or not. And the good news is that we can choose to grow and learn from it!

The great news is that how long we need to remain in this pain depends on how much we have grown and how deeply we have grown!

The great news is that depression is not a lifelong mental illness. It can be changed!

The great news is that it can be changed and adjusted in physical (adjusting the levels of relevant hormones – for example, exercise), psychological (changing perceptions or the internal self-image) and spiritual (meditation, mindfulness) ways. So there is hope for this!

Second, in your description above, it says that it is easy to get angry, which means that it is easy to lose your temper.

Let's dive deep and get to know our emotions better! They often bring us gifts. Take anger, for example. It actually brings us a lot of positive meaning!

For example, when we cannot express ourselves, we have the incredible opportunity to become angry and thus enraged. This is our chance to embrace our desire to be seen and to fight for our own rights!

For example, when it comes to evil, anger is our ally in the fight for justice!

It's also really important to view your emotions correctly!

I don't know what your specific situation is, but I see two fantastic things about the anger here! One is that it can't be expressed internally, and the other is that I'm excited to get help!

The great thing about professional psychological counseling is that it goes beyond just chatting with friends. A counselor can see the inner logic and emotional needs behind our words, which is something ordinary friends don't have the ability to do.

She said, "It's just a narrow-minded person." That's her opinion!

This may feel a little uncomfortable at first, but it's a great opportunity to learn more about yourself and grow. It's okay if you can't seem to argue back — we all have different ways of processing things.

There's an internal thought process going on: you're afraid she'll say, "I'm afraid she'll say, 'I'm telling the truth, you did act narrow-minded'." She might also say, "I just feel that I cannot have my own opinions."

Similarly, I can't express my own sense of powerlessness. But I do know that I can have my own opinions! I just have to be brave and speak up. She might say even more, like, "You are just narrow-minded."

As you said, negative emotions cannot be expressed, and the pressure of emotions builds up internally. But guess what? You can burst that pressure cooker! It's going to take some time, but you'll get there. And when you do, you'll feel so much better. You'll become irritable and angry, and you'll express your anger.

So what you need to do now is not argue with your friends, because they don't have this ability. But you can talk to your counselor, or you can talk to me! We can go and get to know the inner part of ourselves, and we can really see these things. Depression can be healed!

Let's dive in!

Blessings!

Hello!

It's hard for you to tell this story because it's been over-evaluated. You even typed it out, which may have made you accept this over-evaluation. You want to deny this unfair evaluation, but you've also picked up the label from the person who labeled you.

You're brave for sharing your thoughts. Let's follow our hearts.

"Doubting that your own suffering is wrong" shocked me. It raises a philosophical question: is there such a thing as right and wrong suffering?

If pain has been caused, there must be a cause and a sufferer. The pain is inappropriate.

When suffering arises, it needs to be fixed and you need to think in a new way.

Comparing yourself to a moral standard will overwhelm you.

These are just my thoughts. I hope I'm objective and don't evaluate you.

The word "narrow-minded" has been used a lot.

Was Lin Daiyu kind? Did she have what it took to manage talented people?

Would you make friends with Lin Daiyu?

I'll answer your question. The answer is yes!

Cao Xueqin didn't finish Dream of the Red Chamber, but Lin Daiyu has been in people's hearts for a long time.

Daiyu is seen as narrow-minded and deeply affected by her mother's death and her large, feudal family.

Baoyu's feelings for Daiyu weren't love. He said, "My dear sister, don't worry."

It's full of empathy.

If you change how you view making friends, you'll meet new friends and grow together.

Your ability to empathize will be tapped by yourself. This is powerful.

You're stuck in the past and self-attacking. This is affecting your health.

Many people are currently depressed.

Today, we can always read a book we want to read. It has nothing to do with social class, industry, or age.

It's about choice and conviction.

Don't be afraid. Storms are good for you. Life also needs storms. After the storm, the sun always shines.