An 18-year-old girl strongly dislikes going to school, doesn't want to move or talk. What should be done?

Hello, young lady. I can see you're feeling confused right now. Let's talk through it together.

You're facing some interpersonal challenges right now. I'm here to give you another warm hug.

Let's take a look at the problem.

1.) Fear of going to school

You were afraid to go to school because you had been bullied by your classmates for about a year.

That caused some psychological trauma.

2.) How the psychological trauma has affected you

You might have switched shifts and no longer been around the same classmates who bullied you, so your situation would have improved.

But it didn't work out the way you hoped.

Why is that?

Since it's still the same school, it'll bring back bad memories of being bullied by your classmates.

3.) Advice

So, what are you going to do now, young lady?

I'd recommend speaking with the school psychologist. She can help you work through the psychological effects of being bullied by your classmates.

Your school counselor should be able to help you for free.

If there isn't a school psychologist at your school, you can also get help from a professional counselor.

Students get a 50% discount. Just fill out a form and submit a school certificate to apply.

4.) Other ways to get help

If you need it, you can also try the new instant counseling room on the platform.

We've got two types of counseling rooms now.

One is a free, one-on-many counseling room.

You could also try a paid one-on-one counseling room.

I've only tried the one-on-many chat room, and it's been pretty effective.

I think you should give it a try.

I really hope you can find a good solution to the problem you're having soon.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

I hope my answers are helpful and inspiring to you, young lady. I'm here to help, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love what we do and we love you. Best wishes!

As an adult, you may still have unresolved issues that require attention. It is understandable that you have a lot on your mind and that you are reluctant to return to school. It is possible that your reluctance is related to past experiences at school.

It would be beneficial to ascertain the duration of the situation in which you have been reluctant to move or speak. It may be helpful to consider your current circumstances and organize your thoughts. You may wish to consult with a psychologist.

If the situation has been ongoing for more than two years, it is likely to have had a significant impact on you. Furthermore, verbal bullying can also have a detrimental effect on self-esteem.

The incident at school has had a negative impact on your well-being, and it is important to address this trauma through the appropriate channels. I advise you to seek psychological counseling, if available at your school, or alternatively, to find a professional counselor.

It is important to consider the impact of past traumatic experiences and those experiences of being hurt by verbal violence. It is necessary to fully acknowledge the impact of these experiences and allow yourself to gradually accept yourself and move on from the past. Everyone has a past, and it is possible to move on from it. The present is a time when you can enjoy yourself, and you can also meditate before going to bed every day.

Please advise.

Hello, girl who asked the question! I'm counselor Will.

After reading your question, I can tell you're feeling really helpless and scared. I'm here for you, and I'm sending you a big hug.

Given the age of the questioner and the situation described, it might be tough for the questioner to get through this on their own or with just family support. So, based on my experience, I'd love to share a few suggestions that I hope will be helpful and encouraging.

(1) Look for a good time to go to a regular hospital for a psychiatric diagnosis.

"As soon as I go back to school, I just can't stop crying... This has been going on for almost two years."

It's been going on for quite some time now, and it's really starting to affect the subject's studies and overall quality of life. There's even a chance that they're experiencing depression.

I really think it would be a good idea to go to the hospital for a diagnosis to determine the severity of your current psychological state.

In this regard, the questioner may need to overcome a certain sense of shame. Nearly two years is not a short period of time. The purpose of going for a diagnosis is to more effectively determine our psychological condition, so that more targeted measures can be taken accordingly. If the situation is not that serious, it will also have a positive effect on one's recovery.

(2) If you can, it's a great idea to go to a school counselor or institution and get some help from a counselor.

"At first, I was bullied by my classmates at school for about a year, which was really tough. It's still a bit difficult for me to go to school, but I'm trying to get through it."

From what the questioner has told us, it seems that they may still be struggling to recover from the psychological trauma caused by being bullied by classmates at the beginning. This could have led to the development of generalized anxiety. Even after changing classes and having no contact with the classmates who bullied them, the questioner still feels a strong rejection of the school as a special place.

If you're looking for more support, your school or teachers might be able to help. You could also try reaching out to a counselor. It's always good to understand how counseling works and to build a trusting relationship with your counselor.

(3) While being aware of and paying attention to your psychological state, try to take more positive actions. You've got this!

This could include learning a little bit about self-help, including the fact that you came to the platform to ask questions, which is really admirable! You could also read some books or courses on psychological healing.

The platform's newly launched counseling room is also something the questioner can try. While talking to someone (the platform will keep it strictly confidential), you can let it all out and get those negative emotions out of your system.

I really hope the questioner can recover soon and be happy with how things are going.

I love you, world! And I love you, too!

Hello, question asker!

You're in your second year of high school now, right? From your description of the problem, it can be seen that you may have been in a bad mood since you started high school. You have really had a hard time over the past two years or so. You have really suffered. But you're going to get through this! Hugs!

High school is such an exciting time! It's a period of adolescence, and emotions are unstable during this period. This is true for you and also for your peers. I don't know how you endured the difficult year when you were being verbally bullied. It is obvious that you did not seek help at the time, and just let things take their course. Did you change classes, or was it your parents who intervened?

I think it's possible that you haven't been able to get over that hurdle, which might explain why the past two years have been a bit unsatisfying. But if you really find this person, we're going to be in a totally different place now! You say that your family doesn't understand you, but I don't know how well you communicate with them.

I always feel that if you say that your family doesn't understand, it might be because you don't really see the adults' understanding of you either. Since you haven't described a specific incident, I'd love to hear what the adults think and what they do!

I'm excited to tell you that although adults obviously care a lot, they may not be able to show it in the right way, and so what they do may not be helpful.

To make sure this doesn't happen, I think you should pay closer attention to your parents. Ask your friends and family if they really don't care about you at all.

I don't understand how you feel at all, but I'm excited to help you figure it out! Sometimes, we may get stuck in our own thinking, unable to see the situation around us. We always focus on our own little problems, which is like spinning our wheels. For example, if you look back, you can see what your mother said and did for you.

I absolutely believe that as long as a mother can cook you a comforting meal once and see that you are unhappy, she can say to you, "Why don't we improve the meal, or go somewhere for a walk?" Do you need to buy something?

If anyone in your family or circle of friends speaks to you like this, it's a great sign! It shows they care about you and want to help. Even if what they say isn't what you need right now, it's still a good thing.

So I want you to try something. First, think outside the box and see that other people care about you. This is what I think. If you can see that other people don't think you are unimportant, you will feel better. And if you feel better, you won't be so sad. You also said that you feel at home, and it is not that difficult, so I thought, "certainly at home will give you warmth." If this is the case, then your family is also concerned about you, and that's great!

With the support of your family, that is, with the backing of your family, what about you now? Take a closer look at your family members and appreciate their care more. Then, you'll be ready to take on the world!

Once you walk into the school, you'll just use this method?

Also, take a look at your classmates and teachers. You've made so much progress! You can't see those classmates who bullied you anymore. This situation has been avoided. You've grown up a lot more than you were two years ago. We know that our growth is based on the previous pain. You came here for consultation today, which shows that you want to change. This is the beginning of your healing and the beginning of your growth!

We all know that life is full of disappointments. You said that going to school can be difficult sometimes, and I can really sympathize with how you feel. This is because of your situation. After all, you have been in this situation for more than two years, and it is difficult to change it suddenly. So, for now, don't fight it. Just accept it. Go to school and get your keys! If you want to cry, you can still let your emotions out. But after we let it out, we also have to think about whether we still feel warmth at home. Then, gradually, can you feel something at school that you couldn't feel before?

But if it's really hard, you can also find a piece of paper and a pen to write it down, and then come back here to talk about it when you have a chance to go home. Tell us all you've been thinking, all the things you've been experiencing, and get it all out in the open! As long as you get it out, we know that in psychology, speaking and writing it out are the beginning of healing. We must speak our minds, and we can do it together!

Of course, if possible, are you in school? I want to go out and write on my own. In the future, I really have to try to find a good friend and go out to dinner with them as much as possible!

And you can also communicate with each other! With the help of friends, I know I'll feel better.

Just do this: go to school, then, try your best to write down your feelings, then, make friends. You've been in this school for more than two years, so I know you'll find a way that suits you!

And finally, I know you can do it! When I think about it, there are so many people at school who are waiting for good news from you. You can do this! The world and I love you!