Are the suppressed emotions and thoughts in your subconscious influencing your actions?

Good day.

I hope you feel better and that you take care of yourself.

From your written responses, I can ascertain that you are already aware of the impact that repressed emotions have on you.

In light of the above, the final recommendation is that you should refrain from suppressing your emotions.

What is the recommended course of action?

The following advice is provided for your consideration:

Please consider the reasons behind your decision to repress your emotions. What are you afraid of when you try so hard to suppress your emotions?

Please identify your primary concern.

Are you concerned about your parents' expectations? Are you worried about how others around you are responding to your actions?

It is important to understand that all emotions are significant and deserve attention.

To gain a deeper understanding of emotions, it is recommended to record your emotions on a daily basis, explore your own thoughts and feelings, and confront your true self.

Joy, anger, sorrow, fear, and surprise are the five basic human emotions, which are innate and present in babies from birth. Each emotion is a valuable asset.

To illustrate, anger serves as a form of protection. When one loses their capacity for anger, they become vulnerable to harm from others.

Furthermore, this will result in self-inflicted harm rather than inflicting harm on others. While there is no outward display of anger towards others, there is a deep-seated anger towards oneself.

The key recommendation is to record any situation that evokes an emotion and to acknowledge the emotion itself. Additionally, it is important to note any initial thoughts that arise in response to the emotion.

By developing an understanding of and ability to manage your emotions, you can effectively address and release any repressed emotions.

Please record the time and event in the appropriate fields.

Emotions and Thoughts

The aforementioned table is headed as follows: "Regarding emotions, you can find more words that represent different emotions."

I hope this information is useful to you.

You seem to be in a contradictory emotional state.

You feel suppressed because you've suppressed a lot of your emotions.

You say you've become used to suppressing your emotions.

You want to release the repressed emotions. You may feel an inner voice telling you to give up.

I think you're surprised when this happens. You don't want to give up, but you feel like you should.

I admire you for asking whether you should suppress or release yourself. It shows you want to understand yourself better.

Try to respect how you feel.

Respect your feelings. Do something based on your true feelings. Then see what kind of feedback you receive. Compare it with when you always repressed yourself. You can do this in the following way:

First, try to see your true feelings and thoughts and respect them. Don't deny yourself or tell yourself what to do.

Be honest about your feelings.

Allow yourself to express your true thoughts and feelings. Allow yourself to smile when you are happy; to be alone when you are sad; to rest early when you feel tired. Give yourself permission to feel your true feelings.

Third, when you do things according to your own thoughts, pay attention to how others feel and see what's different between what they expect and what you do.

What do you think others feel, experience, and think?

Finally, accept yourself and be more tolerant of others' opinions. Being true to yourself makes you feel freer.

If you accept yourself, your emotions will ease.

I hope these suggestions help.

Good luck!

Finally,

Good morning,

Upon identifying the issue, I would like to offer my support in the form of a hug. Regarding the question of whether emotions should be expressed, it is important to recognize that emotions are a form of energy. Like any energy, emotions require flow, transformation, and transmission. I would like to discuss the nature of our emotions with you, Bao. It is essential to understand that emotions, regardless of whether they are positive or negative, serve as messengers delivering information. The interpretation of this information is a personal process.

Understanding Emotions

The experiences we have are simply triggers for emotional responses, while emotions themselves are the most valuable aspect of life. The objective of the emotional journey is to resolve personal issues and enhance one's ability to manage emotions, cope with them, and transform them.

We are all different, with different experiences, traumas, and needs, which affects our experiences. I believe that adults who can express their emotions and cry when they are sad are admirable.

Do not be overly critical of yourself. If you are fatigued, ensure you get sufficient rest. If you dislike certain individuals or circumstances, politely decline their involvement and refrain from allowing such situations to impact your wellbeing. Ultimately, your personal happiness and tranquility are invaluable.

Uncomfortable emotions serve as a testament to the existence of life.

Emotions connect us to the world. Even if they cause discomfort, they demonstrate that life is still present. The outward energy of emotions can direct attention to the factors that evoke negative feelings.

One new practice is to focus inward on the origin of these uncomfortable emotions.

It is beneficial to learn to communicate with yourself in order to relieve stress.

"Why are you reluctant to express your genuine emotions and instead choose to suppress them?" I believe there must be a reason behind this, perhaps a fear of being disliked by others and of being isolated.

However, there is often an unrecognized perspective that manifests as feelings of inadequacy, a lack of social support, and a sense of obligation to assist others while maintaining a facade of composure to avoid negative reactions. These internal fears can significantly influence our actions and behaviors.

Those who are unwilling to try will remain trapped in a vicious cycle of self-doubt and inadequacy.

I firmly believe that you have the ability to create value and deserve to be loved and expected. You are a valuable asset to our organization.

Take action in small steps and try to grasp what I can do. Begin with simple tasks like eating properly and cleaning up, and strive for excellence in all aspects of your life.

Prioritize your own happiness. Doing so will lead to a more fulfilling life.

Books that discuss the importance of understanding our emotional patterns and how they affect our ability to interact with others.

I would like to suggest that you read "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychologist." The main character was initially depressed, lacked interest in activities, and felt inadequate. However, after seeking counseling, he gradually gained insight into his own thoughts and emotions, learned to value himself, and began to understand the patterns he had learned from his parents. As a result, he was able to reconcile with himself and find inner strength. I believe this book could be beneficial for you.

I hope my response is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

Hello, I'm the original intention homecoming.

From what you've said, I get the sense that you're feeling a bit distressed because you've been holding back some of your emotions and needs.

[Problem description]

"I feel like I've been living a repressed life, with a lot of emotions and thoughts that I've been keeping inside, and it's become a habit. I don't feel much emotion anymore."

Sometimes I feel like my emotions and thoughts are influencing my behavior when I'm not in control. Sometimes I feel like there's a voice in my head saying, "Give up, just let it be."

Should I keep suppressing my emotions and thoughts, or should I just let them out?

(Recently, the questioner has noticed that they seem to have been suppressing their true inner needs, and these thoughts and needs are also affecting the questioner's behavior. They want to control them but can't.)

This makes the questioner feel a bit powerless, and their emotions have become more stable.

These feelings are confusing for the questioner, who is looking for a solution to the problem and a way to balance their inner state.

[Problem analysis]

Freud's theory of personality structure says that there are three levels to the human spirit: the id, ego, and superego. The id is the most primitive and innate part and the basic source of psychological energy.

This psychological energy comes from an excited state within the body and is always looking for a way to express itself and release tension. It's usually unconscious and irrational.

The id is all about seeking pleasure.

If you demand unconditional and immediate gratification, the infant's personality structure is composed entirely of the id.

The id can't interact directly with the outside world; it has to go through the ego.

The ego is a part of the self that has differentiated from the id under the repeated lessons of the real environment. It's the rational and practical realization of the id. It doesn't blindly pursue satisfaction; it strives to avoid pain and gain satisfaction under the guidance of the principle of reality.

The ego represents reality and prudence in the personality structure and sticks to the "reality principle."

The superego, also known as the ideal self, is part of the personality structure that we develop through our families, schools, and social environments. It represents our moral standards and oversees the actions of our ego according to those standards.

Normally, the three parts of the personality structure are in balance, but there are still conflicts. However, when the id's impulses and desires are strong and the superego is harshly critical and pressuring the ego, and the ego is struggling to cope, the individual will experience distress.

[Back to the original question]

It seems the questioner is using the most basic defense mechanism, repression.

Suppression is a key step in the development of all other defense mechanisms. It's a way to reduce anxiety by preventing thoughts that cause anxiety from entering our conscious awareness.

As we mentioned earlier, most of our internal conflicts stem from an irreconcilable clash between our id impulses and the strong superego. This can hinder our ability to function harmoniously.

So, there are three solutions.

1. Be yourself

Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory shows us the hierarchy of human needs, which are needs that most of us have. Meeting these needs helps us grow and discover more about ourselves.

2. Adjust the superego.

The superego has a lot of irrational parts that we need to be aware of and make certain cognitive adjustments to. For example, in China, filial piety is emphasized, and many people who express their true selves and want to seek a fair dialogue with their parents are often scolded for being unfilial and ungrateful.

In future interactions with others, this will lead to a fear of authority. It's important to be aware of this and make adjustments.

3. Improve self-performance

Be flexible and creative, take more notes, and focus on your goals when you're working. Spend time doing things you enjoy with people you like. You'll find that a lot of your instinctive energy will be transformed and sublimated.

I hope this helps, and good luck!

Hello! I see your question. Subconscious thoughts influence behavior, and behavior influences thoughts.

1. Thoughts our subconscious mind suppresses are related to our past experiences.

2. Deal with your subconscious thoughts. You know you're used to pushing down thoughts, so it's important to see how your subconscious reacts.

If you think, "I failed, I'm terrible," it's a bad pattern from the past.

One failure doesn't mean you're a failure overall. Rationalization is important.

3. You said that your subconscious thoughts come up automatically. This is natural! You have tens of thousands of thoughts every day. It's fine what kind of thoughts you have.

It's important to be aware and to understand your own thoughts.

4. Sometimes you hear a voice telling you to give up. How do you react?

Maybe you denied it, so do you want to give up? Think about it, but don't get emotional.

5. Don't suppress your emotions. Look at them objectively and release them.

Read the book Act: Thinking Out of the Mind and Into Life. It's about how we should deal with our subconscious thoughts and emotions.

Let your emotions out, but don't reject them. You can also write to heal, write out your troubles, understand why you're hiding them, and be objective. If you make generalizations from incomplete information, it will only cause problems.

You can improve your thinking habits and subconscious automatic modes with practice. Learn more, share more, and practice more.

That's my answer. Hope it helps!

Hello!

You say that the subconscious mind can suppress emotions and behaviors, which is great!

Human consciousness is truly fascinating. It can be divided into two distinct parts: the conscious and the subconscious. The subconscious is the part of consciousness that we cannot perceive. Isn't that incredible? It makes me wonder: how does the subconscious, which we cannot perceive, manage to suppress emotions and behaviors?

I think it's about using your willpower to suppress your emotions and behaviors.

There's a reason behind the generation of every emotion! Take anxiety, for example. In ancient times, people directed this emotion towards the future. They learned to prepare for winter when they had nothing to eat in winter. Then there's fear. This emotion was directed towards the past when people were once attacked by something like a dragon. They became afraid of the dragon's totem. When you have a bad emotion, you can use your willpower to prevent it from erupting. But here's the catch: the bad emotion still exists and will accumulate in your heart. So, you must use a reasonable method to release it!

The first method is a great one! You can punch a leather punching bag or hit a sandbag, letting your anger release with each blow.

The second method is a great one! It's as simple as humming a song to release the emotion.

And now for the third method, which is my absolute favorite! It's all about releasing those negative emotions through exercise.

And the fourth method is meditation!

I think it's a great idea as long as it helps you calm your emotions!

The world and I love you so much!