Are you particularly afraid of others getting too close, and feel extremely nervous when spending time with them?

Hello, question asker!

From your description, I can tell you've been through a lot. You seem to be a very careful person, a kind person, and someone who is full of hope for the future. I'll give you a hug.

The questioner said it's been almost three years. What was the questioner's state of mind before that? What did the questioner do at that time?

Tell me how you felt at the time.

The questioner's description mirrors my own experience. In my junior year, I became afraid of getting along with people and communicating because of a broken heart. I was afraid to walk in crowded places, always feeling uncomfortable. No one would go to the restaurant with me, so I would rather go hungry than eat. Now I have been studying psychology for 6 years. Although I have only changed a little bit, I know it is better to change than to stay the same. What do you think, questioner?

Think about whether there has been any time in the past three years when you have been able to relax. If there has, remember that feeling and keep imagining it inside. If not, that's okay too.

I want to tell the questioner that it's okay. The world is big, and everyone has their own problems.

When you become aware of this and start to think of various ways to find a breakthrough, you are already changing and you will succeed.

I know the questioner has certain expectations. The questioner needs to perceive what their expectations look like. If the way you look is what you expect, the questioner needs to be different.

You will be different. Someone will notice your change.

If a miracle happens and you read my reply and you have changed, become confident and at ease with people, and seem to be enjoying yourself, then I want you to be aware of what efforts you have made to make the miracle happen.

The questioner will find resources in some of my other questions.

I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but they mentioned in the description that they had sought counseling, which is also a good method. While the questioner said it didn't have a great effect, it's because all changes are invisible.

I want to ask the questioner what happened three years ago. Think about it now. How did you feel?

You should talk to a counselor and try hypnosis.

Hypnotherapists open our subconscious minds, allowing us to return to the scene and defeat the bad feelings with the determination and strength to change now.

I have some suggestions for the questioner to deal with some of the anxiety they may feel about starting school again soon. These suggestions will help the questioner relieve some of their negative emotions.

Take a deep breath and adjust your mindset.

Forget about the original poster. I'm nervous too, but we can do this. Breathe in, and then exhale. This will calm you down and help you face your emotions.

② Positive mental suggestion

When we encounter something, our subconscious mind will always tell us, consciously or unconsciously, "Oh, I'm so nervous. What should I do? Will others be bothered by me?" In fact, many times it is what we think ourselves. What we think is not what is real. We can use positive mental suggestions to tell ourselves, "It's okay. Don't be afraid. It's actually not that scary. Just be yourself. You can do it. Look, I've lasted a little longer than yesterday, haven't I?" By giving yourself positive suggestions, cheering yourself on, making it a habit, and exercising your courage, you will get better and better.

You must learn to release your emotions.

We are often asked to be emotionally stable. We must overcome our fear of expressing negative emotions and learn to suppress and hide them no longer.

Emotional energy that is suppressed and accumulated in the body will turn inward and attack the body's organs.

Traditional Chinese medicine states that many physical ailments are caused by psychological factors.

Fear harms the kidneys, sadness harms the lungs, thinking harms the spleen, joy harms the heart, and anger harms the liver.

Every emotion is worthy of your attention. Learning to properly release emotional energy is especially important.

Exercise produces more endorphins, which relieve bad moods and maintain a happy mood. It also strengthens the body and regulates tense emotions. Exercise releases emotions, improves our psychological state, maintains energy, and allows us to devote ourselves more fully to work and study.

Believe in yourself. Release yourself. Face it bravely.

I know it's easier said than done, but I can tell you now, dear questioner, you're not going to keep going like this.

Choose to believe in yourself. Find a way to break through your limits. Shout in a remote place until you feel comfortable and happy. Then go to the park and actively greet others. Exercise your courage. You will become more and more able to break through your own limits. Look up examples online. You will find that many people have exercised their courage in parks and on the street.

Distract yourself.

You have so many negative emotions because you focus too much on your feelings. You analyze them, dwell on them, and then amplify them, which eventually becomes a weapon that crushes you. You need to distract yourself by doing something else that interests you. Focus on other things and forget about these bad feelings. The questioner can try this.

You're already thinking of ways to change. Persevere and don't give up, and things will definitely get better.

We are the source of the problem and the answer is in us. We are the experts in solving our own problems.

You've got this! The world and I love you!