Are you prone to losing your temper and being unable to control yourself whenever someone gets close to you in an anxious state?

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to you today to inquire about your recent query. Please let me know if I can be of further assistance. Best regards,

I am Dr. Sunny, a medical doctor and counselor. I am grateful for our meeting.

The subject of the inquiry is an individual's experience of anxiety when in the presence of others, accompanied by a desire to lose control and become irritated. This may be indicative of a need for greater attention to physical and mental well-being, and the necessity for personal growth.

From your question, I can discern that you are aware of your own emotions. You have identified that you are experiencing an anxious state. Could you clarify whether this is due to a fear of intimacy or a tendency to lose control? Additionally, I would like to understand the duration of this anxiety.

My primary concern is the potential impact of interactions with these individuals. It is possible that these apprehensions may stem from a deeper underlying issue.

I would like to take this opportunity to share some of my reflections and thoughts for the questioner's reference.

Let us first clarify the particular circumstances outlined by the questioner and then proceed to interpret and analyze them.

I am currently taking antidepressant medication.

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Please describe any significant changes in circumstances, relationships, or work-related stressors that occurred prior to starting the medication. Has the "depressed state" mentioned by the questioner been diagnosed and clarified in a regular hospital setting?

In general, it takes more than two weeks for the correct antidepressant to take effect. Did the questioner notice any change in her condition before and after taking the medication? What kind of change did she perceive, physical or mental?

❓ My illness manifests as a tendency to become tense and irritable when someone gets close to me.

The questioner indicates that they experience feelings of nervousness when approached by others. When did this situation first arise? Are you concerned that these individuals may cause you harm or create an unfavorable situation?

— Could you please clarify which individuals you are referring to? Are they people you do not know outside of your immediate circle, family members, or people in your vicinity?

The questioner indicated that he was experiencing a strong emotional response, which he described as anger. Could you please elaborate on the specific actions of the individuals in question that led to this intense reaction?

Has the questioner ever displayed a loss of temper, and were the results in line with the questioner's expectations?

❓ Occasionally, when I am in possession of an item, I experience an urge to discard it, which hinders my ability to work. I am seeking guidance from the instructor to better understand this phenomenon.

When the questioner is in possession of an item, does he or she feel inclined to discard it? What constitutes the majority of these items?

Or are you considering discarding any items in your possession? Are these items or the questioner themselves unwanted?

Please describe the nature of the questioner's current work. Does the questioner mean that the work he is doing is unproductive when he says that he is unable to work?

Or is it that the questioner's current employment situation is untenable due to the actions of their colleagues?

Please clarify.

Based on the information you have provided, we suggest the following course of action:

[1] Accept the current situation, continue to take the prescribed antidepressants, and observe the changes in your body and mind. Is there any difference before and after taking the medicine?

[2] You may wish to consider consulting with a psychological counselor. This could be an effective way to gain insight into the underlying causes of your feelings. It is often the case that people or situations that cause us distress have previously caused us harm, or perhaps we have encountered challenges when we were vulnerable.

Or could it be that the issue stems from certain "setbacks/pressure..." encountered in reality? Is there always a "source" that deters us?

Is this the aspect that requires our attention?

[3] Could there be an unresolved issue in the questioner's heart that has been hindering progress, leading to the perception of a personal challenge? Could this be a crucial factor in the questioner's professional growth?

[4] When anxiety strikes, it is important to learn to control and manage such emotions. There are a number of resources available to assist with this, including books such as "Managing Anxiety" and "Anxiety First Aid". If this is not effective, it may be necessary to seek additional support, such as psychological counseling.

In summary, this is my understanding and response to the question. I hope it will prove beneficial to the questioner.

I am a person of strong beliefs and values, and I am dedicated to spreading positivity and love in the world.

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post, I could feel the anxiety of the poster from the content. At the same time, I also noticed that the poster bravely expressed his distress and actively sought help on the platform, which is a great start! I'm sure that by sharing his experience, the poster will be able to better understand and understand himself, and thus adjust himself.

Now, I'm thrilled to share my observations and thoughts from the post, which I truly believe will help the poster gain a deeper understanding of themselves.

1. Anxiety, or a kind of protection for oneself

From the post, I can clearly see that the poster is feeling anxious. When someone gets close to them, they want to lose their temper and throw something! I can feel the anxiety and anger from this.

Then the host may want to ask himself, "Why do I behave this way?" It's so important to understand that our actions are an external manifestation of what is going on inside us.

By taking the time to understand our own actions and thoughts, we can gain incredible insights into our hearts and minds. This can help us to better understand and understand ourselves. We can gain a deeper understanding of our own anxiety and anger.

When we understand our emotions, they may evaporate! Here I will talk about my thoughts because there is not a lot of information in the post, so I will make an association.

I think the poster has also heard of the field. It's fascinating how each person has their own magnetic field!

This is like our own room! This room is all our own, and when someone approaches our room and is someone who could potentially cause harm to us, then what kind of reaction would we have?

Are you feeling worried? Or perhaps you're feeling angry?

And these emotions are trying to protect you! Understanding your emotions is the bridge to your heart.

2. Find out why you are the way you are — and get ready to be amazed!

Once you realize that your anxiety and anger are actually protecting you, you should thank them for it! At the same time, you should also think about what has shaped you into the amazing person you are today.

I'm excited to hear your thoughts on this! What do you think is related?

It's amazing what you can learn about yourself when you ask these questions! Seeing what kind of images these questions bring up in your mind can help us better understand and know ourselves.

Often, these experiences are related to our growth experiences. This is a great opportunity for the original poster to review their own growth experiences from an adult's perspective!

Let's examine whether these experiences are reasonable. If they're not, let's replace them with a reasonable point of view! And as for the present, let's consider whether the person close to us is really harmful to us. Is this an objective fact or just what we think?

If it's not true, we can also reassure that little voice inside us, telling us not to worry, that everything's going to be okay!

So don't be afraid! I'll be with you every step of the way!

If it's an objective fact, we have the power to choose to stay away from it. If we have the ability to protect ourselves, then we should also tell that little scared child inside us that we will protect it well!

I absolutely believe that by reviewing past experiences, we can adjust our unreasonable beliefs. And on the other hand, rational thinking starts from reality and is practical, so our anxiety will be much better!

3. Learn some small exercises to relieve anxiety!

It is so great to see that the poster can really tune in to his anxiety and anger. This is a fantastic skill that will undoubtedly help him manage these emotions better. There is a really interesting theory in psychology that our muscles cannot be tense and relaxed at the same time, but are either tense or relaxed.

And guess what? This is also used in psychological techniques to relieve emotions!

Guess what! When our emotions arise, our bodies often have a corresponding reaction. For example, when I am anxious, I feel discomfort in my heart area and my heart rate increases.

At this time, I focus my attention on this part, let this part relax, imagine that this discomfort can flow, let it flow in their bodies, and even flow out of their bodies. It's amazing how quickly I feel much calmer!

You can also try this method, and some counselors will use breathing to relieve anxiety. It's a great way to relax! First, breathe in slowly, drawing the air into your stomach.

Breathe in until you can't breathe in anymore. Then hold your breath for 5 seconds, and then exhale slowly from your mouth, slower and longer, so that your body relaxes as you exhale. You'll feel your body unwind with each exhale!

Guess what! Doing it a few times in a row often relieves our emotions.

I really hope these tips have been helpful for you! My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a psychological counselor.