As a comic artist, it's hard to feel upset when seeing former fans not like my work?

Hello, I am Xin Tan, and I'm here to support you in a warm and sincere manner as you share your emotional story.

It is understandable that you are feeling anxious and fearful because it seems that your followers have blocked you. This must be having a negative effect on your life and work.

It is understandable that you are feeling anxious and fearful because your followers have blocked you. This has undoubtedly affected your life and work.

Let's take a moment to examine where these issues might be arising.

Let's take a moment to examine where these issues might be arising.

?1. "Everything has two sides," which means that even the worst things can be seen in a favorable light.

On a positive note, it's clear that you care deeply about your followers. This shows that you value affirmation, praise, and recognition from others.

Having followers and more followers can give a sense of accomplishment, value, and security. A sense of accomplishment, value, and security can be a person's life capital, supporting us to be hopeful for each day and have more energy in our hearts.

It is important to note that experiencing a blacklist can lead to feelings of doubt and self-denial.

As a result, you may also find yourself expending more energy. Given the finite nature of human energy, it's understandable that there might be less time and energy available to engage in other, potentially more meaningful pursuits.

This can result in a greater overall consumption of energy. Given the limited nature of human energy, it is understandable that there may be less time and energy available for other, potentially more important and meaningful activities.

I believe this could be described as a kind of "internal friction."

I believe this could be described as a kind of "internal friction."

Internal friction can be defined as a situation where two internal forces are in conflict. In this case, the "should be" in your brain (fans shouldn't blacklist me) and the "is" in reality (fans have blacklisted me) are in opposition.

It can feel like a loose faucet at home, constantly draining your energy.

It can feel as though there are two selves within, constantly at odds with one another, with no day or night, and no peace even when you sleep. When you are internally conflicted, it's natural to feel tired.

Could your physical and mental exhaustion be related to work?

I wonder if I might ask why some people have internal conflicts while others do not. Could I also ask what the relationship is between a person's internal conflicts and their self-worth?

Self-worth is a personal assessment that is not necessarily influenced by external factors.

When you have a clear understanding of your own value and identity, do you still place importance on the opinions of others? Even if some people offer criticism or accusations, you will graciously accept the constructive feedback and disregard any intentional or unintentional slander.

When you have confidence in your own assessment, it may be helpful to consider that hiding insignificant flaws is unnecessary.

Perhaps it could be said that covering up is a lack of certainty about one's own value. It may be the case that there is nothing to show off.

It may be the case that covering up is a sign of uncertainty about one's own value. It could be that there is nothing to show off.

It might be said that these disguised behaviors could have the effect of draining one's abilities.

One possible way to stop internal depletion might be to consider internal cultivation, which involves shifting one's focus from the outside to the inside and becoming aware of one's own pattern of "internal depletion."

One possible way to stop internal depletion might be to cultivate the inner self, shifting the focus from the outside world to the inside, and becoming aware of one's own patterns of internal depletion.

?2. Could I perhaps inquire as to how one might stop internal depletion and achieve "internal cultivation"?

?2. Could I perhaps inquire as to how one might stop internal depletion and achieve "internal cultivation"?

There are two possible avenues for pursuing happiness: outwardly (seeking) and inwardly (cultivating).

It is often the case that when a person gains external material and other tangible things, they will feel happy. Similarly, they may also feel happy when they gain the spiritual needs of others' recognition, affirmation, praise, acceptance, and love. These could be considered the sources of a person's motivation.

However, it is worth noting that many of the sources of these outward pursuits are beyond one's control. It can sometimes feel as if the initiative is in someone else's hands and that one is at the mercy of external forces. This outwardly seeking approach could be seen as akin to handing over the remote control of one's life to others.

I believe that happiness is closely related to one's inner motivation.

When one turns one's attention from seeking outside to cultivating within, it allows the initiative to return to one's own hands, as it is then up to the individual to take the initiative.

There are many ways to achieve inner cultivation. One such way is to find your own value, which, according to Maslow's theory, is self-actualization, or what people often refer to as the "mission" of life.

When a person is able to create value for society and others, they may feel a sense of meaning and happiness, which could be considered a kind of mission. For example, if you create comics, more people may be able to gain knowledge and happiness from them.

I believe that the power of inner cultivation is not only powerful, but also joyful.

?3. Identifying your underlying concerns

Perhaps you crave affirmation and approval from others so much that you find it challenging to accept yourself. It's possible that you lack a sense of security.

It could be said that a sense of security is a psychological need for stability and security. It might be perceived as a feeling of confidence and safety and freedom that people experience when they are free from fear and anxiety.

A sense of security can be defined as a feeling of foreboding about possible physical and psychological dangers, as well as a feeling of strength or weakness in dealing with things.

It is not uncommon for this feeling to be expressed as a sense of certainty or control.

When a person feels secure, it allows them the freedom to live in the present.

[How to gain a sense of security]

It might be helpful to consider some external and internal factors that could contribute to a sense of security.

It might be helpful to consider that security can be enhanced both externally and internally.

Security can be enhanced in a number of ways, both externally and internally.

External factors that can contribute to a sense of security include a sound social security system, wealth, or power.

Inner: People with a high sense of self-worth tend to be confident in the future and believe in themselves.

A person with a high sense of self-worth may be able to live a carefree and stylish life even without social welfare protection.

I would like to return to the topic of self-worth. It seems that enhancing a sense of self-worth also enhances a sense of security and self-confidence. Perhaps self-confidence could be defined as having faith in oneself and being confident in the future.

It may be helpful to consider that behind every emotion is an unmet need, and that a lack of security can be healed in a number of ways, either through self-healing or through psychological techniques such as hypnosis and Gestalt therapy.

It would be beneficial for you to take some time to identify what your deep-seated fears are and why they arise. It's possible that your emotions are hidden by the subconscious mind, and that once a similar situation arises, this deep-seated fear will be activated again.

Emotions can be compared to a delivery person delivering an important gift to you. If you choose not to accept the gift, the delivery person will continue to try to deliver it to you until you do.

It might be helpful to spend some time with this fear and sense of powerlessness. You might like to feel them, stay "aware" of them, see and understand their character traits, so as to effectively manage them and become the master of your emotions.

You may find it helpful to refer to my article, "It turns out that the root cause of psychological problems is it," which you can view on my personal homepage.

If I may make one more suggestion, I believe that the following could also be helpful.

I hope the above is helpful to you. With love and best wishes,

If you would like to continue our conversation, please click on the link in the upper right corner or at the bottom of the page. I would be delighted to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

If you would like to continue our conversation, you are welcome to click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I would be delighted to communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Greetings, question asker.

In perusing your missive, I was prompted to recall a popular aphorism that has gained currency on the internet: "I'm not a yuan bill, so I can't make everyone like me!"

Although it is merely a jest, the sentiment expressed therein is, in fact, accurate. It is not possible to gain the approval and satisfaction of all individuals.

Even the Chinese yuan is only accepted by the Chinese.

It is presumed that the aforementioned rationale has been previously encountered and comprehended; however, the question remains as to why this distressing sensation persists.

In light of the aforementioned considerations, it is my opinion that

First and foremost, upon reading your message, my immediate response was that you have exceedingly high expectations of yourself. You place a considerable value on the opinions of others.

In your past life experiences, you have consistently striven for perfection and anticipated universal approval of your work.

At an intrinsic level, humans are driven by an innate psychological need to be perfect and to be recognized and supported by others.

It is possible that past life experiences have instilled the belief that a lack of goodness or diligence will result in a lack of parental love and popularity.

The aforementioned life experience has been carried over into the present, resulting in the belief that the negative feedback and criticism from one's followers is indicative of one's inadequacy. This leads to the perception that others have ceased to love and accept one, and that they are now hated by others. Consequently, the fear of fear has become a significant concern.

The issue may be traced back to the life experiences accumulated during childhood. While these experiences provided a sense of protection during our formative years, they have remained largely unchanged as we have grown older, rendering them increasingly unsuitable for our current circumstances.

The question thus arises as to how one might extricate oneself from this predicament.

One can begin the process of self-discovery and acceptance by turning inward.

When one experiences sadness due to the lack of approval from one's followers, it is possible to discern the underlying emotions. What are these emotions? The assertion is that the emotion in question is fear. Consequently, it is essential to identify the source of this fear.

It is possible that the underlying fear is a sense of personal inadequacy.

Indeed, the aspect of the self that evokes the greatest trepidation is the heart and its inherent imperfections.

It is therefore necessary to have the courage to accept this fact and to accept one's imperfections. Furthermore, one must allow oneself to be imperfect.

Opening the door to face one's inner self allows for the development of knowledge, understanding, acceptance, and comprehension of the self.

It is important to recognize that we all have limitations.

Additionally, our works will elicit a variety of responses.

It is a fallacy to believe that any work of art can be considered perfect.

The objective of our work is not to seek recognition or perfection.

It is merely an expression.

It is beneficial to express one's own ideas and opinions.

The remaining aspects are open to interpretation.

In this manner, we may also permit our admirers to decline our work.

In my estimation, a meritorious work of art is an emotional output and expression.

The true value of a work of art can only be appreciated by those who are able to emotionally resonate with the author and understand the author's means of expression.

One may return the focus to the emotions one wishes to express, thereby creating works that will resonate with a broad audience.

The aforementioned constitutes my response.

It is my sincere hope that this will prove to be of assistance.

I wish you the best of success.

The date is April 6, 2022.

The OP is great!

Your career allows you to communicate with others through your paintings.

It hurts when a former fan doesn't like you. And you're scared to see people on Weibo hurling insults.

We must address the problem of online violence.

Some literary and artistic workers have encountered online violence, which has caused them to close their Weibo accounts and reduce interactions with boring and rude people. It is normal to experience discomfort and fear in such situations.

If you hear a critical voice inside yourself, you must step on the brakes. Being harsh on yourself will only deepen the hurt.

A healthy and upwardly mobile online environment for nutrition requires philosophical depth of thought that can face pain and suffering, as well as an open mind and humanistic thinking. The current social environment is moving in these directions, and it is clear that this is the direction we need to be heading in.

However, there are still people who lack self-education. Let me be clear: if you keep unhealthy words about this group of people in your mind, you are putting yourself in a low position and looking down on the uneducated.

2. Career development

As a cartoonist, you must read widely to nourish your creativity. Alternatively, you can draw the inner world with a paintbrush.

Be visible and let those who are on the same wavelength as you see you.

Investing your energy in further education and development will reduce the inappropriate influence of others on you. Human potential is unlimited, but the resources of the brain are limited.

Allocate your mental resources with mindfulness.

If you're still feeling flustered when opening your Weibo account, get a trusted friend to accompany you.

I will be there to support you at the beginning, and once you feel ready, you can take the lead. You can operate a Weibo account and develop new traffic independently.

You have fans who appreciate you. For their sake, you should cheer up. Then you can read the words of encouragement they have given you, but maintain a sense of restraint and self-reflection. This will help you identify with yourself and discover your shortcomings.

GROW WITH YOUR FANS!

You can't count on likes. They can change at any time. Don't let your mind be burdened by clinging to the appreciation of others.

Treat relationships with a calm mind because they come and go.

Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach on this platform. I've read your post and I understand your emotions.

You have also expressed your distress and sought help, which will help you understand and recognize yourself.

Next, I'll share my thoughts from the post. They might help the poster see herself differently.

1. Deal with your emotions first.

The poster will feel bad when they are blocked by their followers and when they are scolded by people they don't know. I understand their feelings.

The original poster is unable to calm down because of these emotions. We can deal with our emotions first and then deal with these matters.

The more emotions we have, the less we think clearly. The original poster might be able to express these emotions in a reasonable way.

I don't know how the host wants to express his emotions. Here's a way to express emotions in a reasonable way.

The host is a cartoonist, so they can express their emotions through cartoons. This will help them relieve their emotions.

2. Find out what you need.

The host may want to explore the needs behind their emotions. Our emotions are messengers from our hearts. If we understand the messages, we can feel better.

So you can explore why you feel sad.

Being blocked by a fan or scolded by someone can be annoying. What needs are behind these emotions? What does it mean to you?

Are you feeling rejected? Do you feel unliked? Do you feel unworthy? Think about these feelings.

This helps you understand yourself better.

3. Accept yourself.

In the second step, we explored our needs. Why do these needs seek to be satisfied externally?

Why do you need others to affirm and recognize you? Often, our needs aren't met when we look inward, so we turn to others.

But seeking outside can lead to uncertainty. We can't control other people.

As a public figure, he can't please everyone. This can make us feel uncertain.

Our emotions are no longer in our control. We can still focus on ourselves and meet our needs.

Affirm, like, and approve of yourself. When we have our needs met, will we still care about what others think?

How do you affirm yourself? Accept yourself, your good and bad parts, and your strengths.

The more we accept ourselves, the more confident we are and the less we care what others think.

4. Look at things differently.

The post reminded me of a story. A writer had a problem like yours.

Someone insulted his work and he was angry.

His friend wrote back, "Thank you for your anger. It makes your work vivid and emotional."

The writer stopped worrying about this. The original poster should try looking at things differently.

If you have so many emotions, can you use them in your work?

5. What difference does it make?

The poster can also say, "So what if a follower blocks you?"

Life is about gathering and letting go. What if a stranger scolds you? You can't please everyone.

I don't need to prove myself to anyone. I believe in myself and accept myself.

If we keep using this sentence, we'll see that these problems aren't a big deal.

I hope these help and inspire the poster. Change takes time, and the poster will keep learning and improving.

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It is not uncommon for fans to switch allegiances in this era of highly connected networks. The attitudes of fans can also evolve. In particular, those who are highly engaged may shift their loyalties daily. It is evident that only passive fans are not easily disengaged.

To maintain their following, many grandma owners or various illustrators and cartoonists must also cater to their fans' interests. As long as the fans like it, they will try it. It is also very fulfilling to see that more fans like you.

There is no judgment implied in this assessment. It is also a matter of interpersonal relationships. If a former fan does not like you, it will make the individual feel very uncomfortable and sad. You have already invested a great deal of time and effort, but the result is not a positive outcome for you.

It is important to note that this can be a very uncomfortable situation for the individual being targeted, and in some cases, it may result in the individual being blacklisted. This may be an even more serious issue. It is clear that the individual is experiencing pain and trauma as a result of online violence, which has caused fear and other psychological effects.

I am reluctant to open the Weibo app. It is inevitable that we will encounter many types of people in our lives, and it is unfeasible to expect that everyone will like us for the rest of our lives. This is unlikely. If other people are causing you distress, you should not allow this to continue. Do not devote excessive attention to the unreasonable requests of certain fans. Focus on your own work and manage it with a clear conscience. This is highly commendable. I recommend that you discuss your recent feelings with the Heart Exploration coach.

Please clarify what you mean by ZQ.