As a freshman, I always yearned to attract others' attention, did I have a bit of a twisted psyche?

It is a normal psychological phenomenon to desire the attention and approval of others; therefore, there is no cause for concern.

The receipt of attention from others is a source of value and satisfaction. This is a universal human experience, yet some individuals crave it more than others. The willingness to accept such attention, rather than suppressing it, indicates an attitude of self-acceptance, which is a crucial aspect of maintaining mental health.

The assertion that a lack of attention from others results in feelings of imbalance may be indicative of a history of neglect within the individual's previous environment. Such experiences may have resulted in the development of an aversion to being ignored and a heightened need for attention. Alternatively, the tendency to seek and receive intense attention from parents or other significant figures during childhood may contribute to a continued reliance on external validation and a discomfort in the absence of such attention.

In the absence of any negative impact on daily life, there is no urgent need to address this need for attention. Indeed, it can be seen as a positive motivator, encouraging individuals to become better people. As we are all more likely to pay attention to those who are good, this desire to gain attention can be harnessed as a driving force for personal growth and positive change.

If this mode of thinking has a detrimental effect on one's well-being and causes distress, it is possible to attempt a shift in perspective. Attending to the needs of others may prove beneficial. In the process of focusing on the needs of others, one may discover that, at times, shifting the center of the world to others can alter its perception. This may result in feelings of relief, as when the self is placed at the center of the world, a state of tension may ensue, leading to feelings of exhaustion. There is no inherent problem with occasionally assuming the role of an audience.

An additional method is to transform one's needs into alternative objectives. It can be observed that as one pursues these objectives, the significance of the attention of others is diminished, and inner sufficiency and satisfaction can substitute the necessity for attention from others.

It should be noted that the aforementioned suggestions merely present alternative ways of thinking. Ultimately, the decision rests with the individual in question, given the inherent differences in circumstances and needs. It is my hope that this information proves beneficial.

Hello, host. I hope my answer helps.

I felt this way before. I was self-conscious and looked for recognition from others. I realized that when we become confident in ourselves, these problems will disappear.

Building up inner confidence is the key.

Here are some tips:

The first step is to accept yourself. Accept your character and imperfections. See your strengths and weaknesses.

The first step to becoming confident is to accept yourself.

Accepting yourself is hard, but you have to keep trying. When your inner voice is negative, keep practicing acceptance. You have strengths and value, and you can live a good life with your shortcomings.

When you accept yourself, you can live with your shortcomings.

Many people are imperfect but can live well with their shortcomings. Accept your imperfections and live a carefree life.

The second step is to recognize your strengths and value yourself.

If we support ourselves, we will become more confident.

If we lack something, we look for it outside. But what's outside is unstable and beyond our control. We can only control ourselves.

If we need external recognition, it shows we don't approve of ourselves. We need to practice approving and encouraging ourselves. When we do, we won't care about other people's approval.

When you accept and recognize yourself, others will also recognize and believe in you.

We are the source of everything. Changing ourselves changes our world.

We also need to build self-confidence and feel secure. We should work to improve our abilities and knowledge.

Confidence comes from hard work. When we become someone we approve of, we become more confident and feel more secure.

Set yourself goals and work towards them one step at a time. This will improve your abilities, knowledge and experience. You will feel more secure, have more control over your life and become more confident.

The right goals are moderate. If the goal is too small, you'll feel unchallenged. If it's too big, you'll feel too much resistance. Moderate goals stimulate motivation. When we work hard to achieve them, we feel a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence.

If you walk 4,000 steps a day, aim for 4,500-5,000 instead of less than 4,000 or more than 10,000.

Set goals that are right for you. Persevere and take action. This will help you overcome difficulties and see your own value.

Keep encouraging yourself, believing you can do it, and giving yourself positive mental suggestions.

We also need to treat other people's comments right.

We're all different and have our own standards.

We like and support people who meet our standards. We dislike and doubt people who don't.

If we meet someone else's standards, they'll approve of us. If we don't, they'll disapprove.

So, whether the other person recognizes you or not doesn't affect your relationship. It's about whether you match their evaluation criteria. But we can't control other people's thoughts and actions. We can't always meet everyone's evaluation criteria.

Life is hard for everyone. We should not try to be like other people or force others to be like us. We should not need others' approval.

We don't have to sacrifice ourselves to gain the approval of others. Being liked or disliked is not that important because there will always be people who like you and people who dislike you. What's important is whether you can accept this self that is both liked and disliked.

We don't live to please others. If we seek approval and care about what others think, we'll live according to their expectations. This will make us lose our true selves. This is not the life we want.

Take back the right to evaluate yourself. Treat yourself as someone else and evaluate yourself comprehensively, objectively, and truthfully. Know yourself better and know what you want. The evaluation of others is less important.

When you live your true self, your relationships improve. Bad relationships end.

When you accept and recognize yourself, your inner strength and heart will become stronger. It takes time, so be patient.

Best wishes!

Hello, I'm Liang Ning, Xinqing's assistant. You always want to attract attention and care a lot about what others think of you. If they don't pay attention to you, you'll try to get their attention.

If you have five or more of the following seven situations, you don't need to try the following methods. 1. You feel uncomfortable if you're not the center of attention. 2. You change quickly and show superficial emotions. 3. You try to attract attention with your appearance. 4. You speak in an exaggerated but hollow way. 5. Your emotions seem dramatic. 6. You're easily influenced by others or the environment. 7. You think you're closer to others than you really are.

Think about how you feel when you care about what others think of you and what they bring you. What other ways can you get the same feeling?

Next time you need attention from others, use an alternative method. Gradually reduce your dependence on attention from others.

You can reduce your dependence on attention from others by using alternative methods to satisfy your needs and giving yourself a reward when you do so. Likewise, you can weaken your dependence on attention from others by punishing yourself when you rely on others to meet your emotional needs.