At 13, have you been lately afraid that your family might suddenly leave?

Hello, classmate. I can see you're feeling confused right now. Let me give you a hug!

You seem to be going through a rough patch emotionally. I'm here for you if you need to talk.

As it happens, since the dawn of time, we've all had to deal with things like birth, aging, sickness, and death.

We're not all going to live forever, so death is a certainty.

Many of us are afraid of death because it's something we don't know much about.

For example, we don't know where we're going to go after we die, or how we'll die.

So, the best thing we can do is make the most of every moment we spend with our loved ones, so that when the time comes, we won't have any regrets.

These days, we can use our mobile phones to take more pictures of our families together.

Another option is to put these photos in a photo album, which can be a great source of comfort and solace after they pass away.

My cousin in London, England, made a family tree for his kids that included several generations of my family. He wanted to make sure that even though many family members had passed away, we'd never forget the teachings they'd given to future generations.

If you create a family tree, you can keep the teachings they passed on to our descendants alive and well for generations to come.

I really regret not listening to my father more often when he was alive and not teaching my mother Chinese pinyin properly when she needed it most.

So my advice to you is this: treat your family well while they're still around. You'll thank yourself later.

I really hope you can find a good solution to the problem you're having soon.

That's all I can think of for now.

I hope my answers above are helpful and inspiring to you. I'm here to help, and I study hard every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love you and the world loves you too! Best wishes!

Hello, sweetheart, I'm your Heart Explorer coach. I'll let you go, provide warm companionship, and I'll listen to your story with all my heart.

I totally get it. I can feel your fear and worry about your loved ones leaving you so suddenly. Let me give you a warm hug first.

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I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help. I've found that behind every emotion is an unmet need.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to remind you that behind every emotion is an unmet need.

Your worries and fears are like the delivery man, delivering an important gift to you. If you don't accept the gift, he'll keep trying to deliver it to you until you do.

Let's take a look at what precious gift is hidden behind the worry and fear of being separated from family.

Let's take a look at what a lovely, precious gift is hidden behind the worry and fear of being separated from family.

I'm here for you, sweetheart. Let's take a look at what precious gift is hidden behind the worry and fear of being separated from family.

1. Take a moment to think back to what has happened recently.

It's totally normal to feel scared when you're faced with something similar to what you've experienced before. It's like the emotions you've buried deep down in your subconscious mind come back to the surface when you're in that situation.

You mentioned that you've been feeling scared lately. I'm so sorry to hear that! What has been going on around you and in your life lately?

You mentioned that you've been feeling scared lately, and I'm here to help. I'd love to know more about what's been going on in your life recently.

For instance, the recent resurgence of the epidemic has led to strengthened epidemic prevention measures across the country and in every city. I'm wondering if this is also the case in your city?

Also, at the age of 13, you should be in junior high school, and facing the middle school entrance exam can also bring some pressure. It's totally normal to feel some pressure when taking tests and preparing for exams.

In ancient times, our ancestors had to be really on their toes to stay safe. They had to be super vigilant every day as they navigated the jungle and fought wild animals, risking their lives at any moment.

In today's world, it's so important to remember that if we stay on high alert all the time, it can really drain our energy. And we all have limited energy, so it's crucial to find ways to recharge so we can do all the other important and meaningful things in our lives.

The fear of fear is anxiety. And the best way to deal with anxiety is to return to the present.

The present is full of action, just like when we watch a football match. The audience gets anxious, but the players don't. So, let's switch from "audience" to "player" (the protagonist)!

I've got a few tips and tricks up my sleeve to help you deal with anxiety.

1. Breathing: Breathing is a great way to focus on the present moment, and it's also a wonderful cure for insomnia!

2. Exercise is a great way to burn off excess energy!

3. Art: Anxiety is a natural part of life, but art is something that makes us feel alive! Music, dance, painting, and other creative outlets help us express ourselves and connect with our emotions in ways that are sometimes difficult to describe.

4. Connection: Make eye contact with others, as when listening to a teacher (talking to someone), and fix your gaze on the other person to connect with them.

5. Cleaning: You know, as long as you focus on one thing, you can relax and experience the present.

?2. Let's take a look at the topic of "life education."

It's so important to make sure that both children and adults get the life education they need. It's such a precious gift, and it's something we should all be grateful for. Have a sense of awe for life, as it is only once in a lifetime, and learn how to live it more vibrantly.

It's not about how long you live, but how you live your life. Find a sense of existence, value, and security in the process of fulfilling your life's mission (parents work to earn money to support the family, create social value, children complete their studies, have successful careers, family happiness, the elderly have a sense of security in their old age).

The ultimate direction of life is death (I'm afraid I'll be blocked). We're all afraid of death because we don't want to be separated.

We all have to face the fact that relationships come to an end. But we start learning about separation from the moment we are born. We have to say goodbye to our mums when we are born, then we have to learn to walk and leave our mums and dads behind. And then we have to say goodbye to our kindergarten teachers, then our school teachers, then our work colleagues, and then we have to start a family of our own.

In the training of separation, we have learned to cherish the present and respect life.

Instead of worrying about the future, let's focus on the here and now. We can make a difference in our loved ones' lives by spending more time with them, doing meaningful things together, and helping them achieve their dreams.

When we feel insecure, it's only natural to feel afraid. But you can overcome this feeling by learning, communicating with your family, and spending time with them.

I really hope the above is helpful to you, and I love you so much, and I hope the world loves you too! ??

I really hope this has been helpful for you, and for the world. And I love you so much! ?

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Hello, Peilü here.

Hug!

Fear of family members leaving suddenly.

Daydreaming often.

——Data interpretation——

The questioner said he's been thinking a lot about the future and worrying about his family leaving. He's afraid of them leaving, even though they're healthy now. I understand your pain and worry. These thoughts often occupy your mind, making you worry and not knowing how to relieve them.

Causes

At 13, you're leaving childish ways behind and entering adolescence. You're at a critical point of transition from childhood to adulthood. As you grow, your life becomes more complex. You start thinking about things like society, relationships, and life. You also start taking on adult responsibilities. But adolescents are still less mature than adults. Rapid growth can affect their physical and mental health, causing problems like distress, low self-esteem, anxiety, and bad behavior.

Thinking about loved ones leaving and future worries is a sign of adolescence.

Think about if there have been any recent events that have made you think about life or health, or made you focus on your family and loved ones. Also think about if you are under too much academic pressure, which might be making you feel depressed and negative, and unable to think about anything else.

Advice for yourself

Keep an open mind, accept your emotions, and try to relax. Exercise and meditation can help you vent your emotions.

Talk to your family and show them you care. "The tree wants to be still, but the wind won't let it. The son wants to be filial, but his parents are no longer there." This teaches us to enjoy time with our family while we still can.

Life is fair. Birth and death are the beginning and end of each of us. We cannot choose to be born again, but death is something we must learn to face. A proper attitude towards death can teach us to face life's challenges calmly and bravely, and to appreciate life.

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I love you, world.

Hello, question asker!

From the description of the questioner, I understand your sadness, helplessness, and feeling of being at a loss. I also understand your desire to change the current situation. I am confident that my analysis will answer your questions and concerns.

(1) From the questioner's description, it's clear this is a happy family. Despite being in different places, they often miss each other. Affirming the questioner's proactive approach to recognizing and changing their situation is key. Let's now focus on the root cause of this concern.

(2) First of all, let's focus on a time node. School has been crazy for the past few days, with classes going on for seven days in a row. The questioner has focused on their concerns and worries about their family and neglected their most basic need, which is to go home. Especially in the context of the epidemic, being confined to one environment for a long time is not conducive to physical and mental development. An environment like school is even more so. The questioner urgently needs to go home and relax. If they cannot take leave to go home, they should find other ways to relax, such as taking a walk after dinner every day, playing ball games, or chatting with friends. Don't limit yourself to the classroom. This will only make the questioner feel more sad.

(3) Next, we will continue to analyze why we worry about family members who are healthy and afraid of losing them.

(3) We must now examine why, despite the family's apparent stability, they remain anxious and concerned. Is it a fear of losing?

It is clear that the family and elders care deeply about the questioner. This makes the questioner think of and rely on others unconsciously in a stressful environment. At the same time, the thought that losing the other person means losing everything (the good) arises. This makes them especially afraid of them getting sick.

The questioner must also realize that one day we will grow up and leave the protection of adults. We must establish a sense of self-worth and cherish the time together.

They can become their umbrella in the future, right?

(4) Finally, we will discuss birth, aging, sickness, and death with the questioner. The questioner may find this topic unfamiliar and heavy, but it is a topic we cannot avoid or escape.

(4) I will now discuss the inevitabilities of birth, aging, sickness, and death with the questioner. This topic may initially seem unfamiliar and heavy, but it is one that we cannot avoid or escape.

Many young people today are in their prime years but don't try to do something worthwhile. They waste and consume their lives, smoking and drinking, not doing their proper work. But many people who are about to burn out their life candles and experience old age, illness, and death hate to divide their time into moments to spend. They understand the meaning of life even more precisely because they are about to face death. This is also the meaning of death, which makes us cherish every moment of life even more. But death is not something we can plan and arrange, and it is not for us to constantly worry about our own life and death, being afraid of everything.

But it also makes us more vigilant about actively doing everything we want to do in the present, loving our family and friends, working hard, and being serious about life.

The topic author is a wonderful child, and he will undoubtedly grow up well and become an outstanding adult, bravely caring for and loving the people you love.

My answer will help the questioner.

My answer will help the questioner. Come on~⛽⛽⛽

I'm so happy for you! It's great that you're already thinking about this topic at such a young age. Many of our families don't have the chance to learn about "death education." Parents and the elderly all hope that their children will be healthy and live a safe life. But even if they do talk about death, they might not know how to explain it to their children.

So don't worry, these things are totally normal, but we just have to face them!

First of all, birth, aging, illness, and death are things that we all have to face. It's just part of the cycle of life, and the birth of a child is a wonderful continuation of life. Our purpose in society is to realize our own value and to love and appreciate ourselves.

Secondly, your grandparents are currently in good health, so this situation will not happen to them for the time being. But if one day you really face death, what would you like to do?

This is something you can think about now. It also shows that you're a kindhearted child who hopes your family will stay healthy, safe, and live a long life.

If death is inevitable, then just face it, my dear. The departure of loved ones is a matter of time, and there are so many ways to remember them.

For example, from now on, save their beautiful life photos and videos. Spend as much time with them as you can, and don't let yourself have any regrets later.

What do you think?

Finally, from now on, you should study hard and exercise regularly. It's so important to take care of yourself first, because then you'll have more opportunities to take care of the people around you. Don't you agree?

Come on, let's get moving!