At 20, how can one handle being sensitive when interacting with the opposite gender, and becoming less natural?

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First of all, for young men and women in their 20s, it is a stage of strong hormonal secretion and a strong desire for emotional love. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having this thought and experiencing it!

The good news is that you've already taken the first step by recognizing that you've had some challenges when it comes to connecting with the opposite sex. It's likely that your upbringing may have played a role in this. For instance, if you didn't have much contact with boys growing up, it's understandable that it might have made it a bit more difficult for you to feel comfortable in that situation. There are so many ways to overcome this! One simple yet effective solution is to start building connections with boys in your life. You can start by introducing yourself to boys in your family, for instance. Or, you can reach out to boys in your community or even in your school. You'll be amazed at how quickly you'll start to feel more confident and comfortable in these situations.

Don't worry, there's absolutely no need to fret!

Second, you want the opposite sex to like you, to be jealous, etc. These are all signs of wanting love and attention, and they're totally normal! Don't feel confused or different—it's a natural part of growing up. It might have something to do with the first time you had a crush on a boy in middle school?

Or could it be that you're feeling a bit restricted by certain factors in your past? It's time to reflect and see what you can do to break free!

Third, to improve, you should definitely become good friends and close friends with female classmates who are good at dealing with boys. Learn from them, communicate with them, and even interact with boys together! It'll be a great experience. The second is to make use of and improve your hobbies, music, sports, etc. and enter some circles, so that you will have the opportunity to meet the opposite sex.

And the third most important thing is to understand and know yourself! Once you understand the internal reasons for your shyness or timidity around boys, you can start to slowly improve!

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Hello, dear girl!

You're right to be aware of this.

I will be happy to go through this with you, and I am confident that you will find it enlightening.

1. Understand our mentality when it comes to our first time.

At 20 years old, we are eager for love and the opposite sex.

If you've never been in love before, it's normal to feel sensitive or nervous around the opposite sex.

As with many of life's firsts, we will be unusually sensitive and think more.

I am certain that when you think about it like this, you will feel better.

We also have a deep impression of the first time.

From what you've told me, it's clear you've never been in love before.

When interacting with the opposite sex now, they will amplify some words and deeds, and feel some strange thoughts.

The more relaxed we are, the more we know this is just a phase. We're getting to know the opposite sex and things are not going well.

We must examine these issues and improve.

2. Sort through your past experiences.

Let's be clear: many young people at this stage have a strong desire to get close to the opposite sex but also anxiety as a result.

Let's be real. Many young people at this stage have a strong desire to get close to the opposite sex but also experience serious anxiety as a result.

This is very common.

We must look at our own upbringing.

For example, I want to know if our parents were very strict with us and if they didn't allow us to fall in love at an early age, or if they unintentionally instilled in us unhealthy ideas about sex.

Our parents' excessive interference, guidance, or criticism of our interactions with the opposite sex may have made us overly sensitive when dealing with the opposite sex.

We had plenty of opportunities to interact with male classmates during our upbringing. I'd like to know how you interacted with them back then.

You had no experience in this area because you had less contact.

Once you've sorted things out, you'll understand yourself better.

We can improve a little.

3. Accept yourself and practice a little.

We can accept our current situation and allow ourselves to be a little unnatural sometimes, knowing how we came to be.

Everything is normal for now.

You will gain experience and become less sensitive if you interact with more people.

You can also think of it differently. Actively look for the opposite sex you like without guessing whether he likes you or not.

You don't like him, so why are you asking for his favoritism?

Think about why you like being favored.

Do you want others to affirm your value?

Look at your thoughts and don't fight them.

Then you will no longer be affected by such thoughts.

You said, "You will look at every move and word we exchange with a magnifying glass." We can do that, but we won't judge ourselves. We'll encourage ourselves instead.

We are worthy of love and we know that the real us is inherently lovely.

At that point, we will be unnatural no more.

This requires practice, but you can do it. Record your successes in chatting or socializing with the opposite sex.

Your self-confidence will be enhanced, little by little.

Every day, you should seek out more opportunities to interact with the opposite sex. Take part in more activities and gain more experience in interacting with the opposite sex.

Ultimately, in this process, we all come to know ourselves better, gradually become less sensitive, and slowly enjoy interacting with the opposite sex.

Just share these.

Just share these things.

Watch "The Love Lesson" if you're interested.

Best wishes!

It is not uncommon for individuals to exhibit a keen interest in forming relationships with the opposite sex at the age of 20. You have indicated that you closely scrutinize every word and action between you with a discerning gaze.

This is, in fact, an external manifestation of the subconscious mind's concern about one's image in the other person's mind. There is an excessive preoccupation with how the other person perceives one, and there is a fear that one's every move will lead the other person to form a negative opinion of one.

An additional concern may be the fear of being involuntarily drawn into a romantic relationship with the other person, which could result in significant psychological distress.

To address this issue, three key actions must be taken:

First and foremost, it is imperative to enhance one's self-awareness.

It is imperative to adopt an objective stance with regard to the present circumstances. It would be beneficial to pursue further reading on the subject of interpersonal relationships.

This will facilitate a more nuanced understanding of the etiquette of interpersonal relationships, which in turn will enhance one's capacity to navigate social interactions with greater ease and effectiveness.

Furthermore, one will gain a more accurate understanding of how they are perceived by others and develop a more accurate and objective self-image. This will lead to a notable increase in confidence.

Furthermore, this will facilitate a more nuanced understanding of the appropriateness of one's actions, thereby reducing feelings of uncertainty.

Furthermore, the subject will no longer experience nervousness for no apparent reason; instead, they will feel in control of the situation.

2. It is essential to differentiate between the concepts of liking and being liked.

It is a natural consequence of one's inherent goodness that others will gravitate towards them. Similarly, when one is drawn to another individual, it is a reflection of one's own positive attributes. When one is able to establish rapport with others and foster positive sentiments in them, it is an indication of one's personal appeal. There is no cause for concern or apprehension in these circumstances.

The underlying cause of concern regarding another individual's affinity for you is the potential for emotional distress associated with the prospect of a romantic involvement. However, if you have attained self-awareness, as previously discussed, and have a well-defined strategy for maintaining a healthy distance in your relationship with this person, then even if they do express interest, it is not a result of your misguided actions, and there is no need to feel burdened by this.

3. Properly address the issue of jealousy.

It is a fundamental human trait to experience jealousy. When an individual observes another person displaying a greater degree of favoritism towards an individual of the same sex, the observer may subconsciously perceive a sense of inferiority.

This emotion has the potential to cause feelings of distress and unhappiness. Furthermore, it can be identified as the root cause of jealousy.

It is therefore imperative to establish a clear understanding that the capacity to experience positive affect towards others is not in conflict with the capacity to experience positive affect towards oneself.

This type of affection is not exclusive to romantic partners and therefore should not elicit feelings of jealousy. It is therefore inappropriate to feel jealous when another person displays affection towards other women.

The fact that one desires to be the object of another's favoritism, yet does not genuinely hold affection for that individual, indicates a robust sense of self-esteem and a desire to occupy a central position within the social hierarchy. Once this is recognized, it becomes possible to address the issue in an effective manner.

Therefore, it can be concluded that the aforementioned issues are a consequence of an inherent desire to be liked by others and to stand out.

It is important to note that there is no inherent problem with the desire to excel above others. It is unnecessary to experience excessive psychological pressure as a result of this.

It is important to recognize that the other person is not your boyfriend and therefore does not have an obligation to be faithful to you. There is nothing inherently wrong with him being nice and enthusiastic towards other people. It is essential to approach this situation with an open mind.

It is important to recognize that, as long as a relationship has not been formally established as a romantic partnership, the other person is free to pursue other romantic interests. Once this fundamental truth is accepted, it becomes possible to engage with the relationship in a more direct and honest manner.

It is imperative to eradicate this form of jealousy that is rooted in self-esteem.

The following advice is intended to facilitate harmonious interactions with individuals of the opposite sex.

1. Adopt a natural and generous demeanor.

In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, it is important to be authentic and express one's true feelings and emotions, including laughter, without resorting to coyness or pretense. When there is no intention of developing a relationship with the other person,

When interacting with the opposite sex, it is important to maintain a similar demeanor and conduct as when engaging with individuals of the same sex. There is no need to be excessively self-conscious about one's actions or verbal expressions.

It is not uncommon for individuals to perceive others as being similar to themselves, and thus, not worthy of special attention.

Thus, at times, an excessively analytical mindset can lead to difficulties.

2. It is essential to be clear about one's attitude.

In the event that the opposite sex demonstrates interest and a willingness to pursue a relationship, it is advisable to provide a clear indication of whether you are amenable to the prospect or not. Conversely, if you do not wish to pursue a relationship, it is prudent to maintain a certain degree of distance.

In the event that one does not wish to pursue a romantic relationship with the other person, it is imperative to avoid allowing the relationship to become ambiguous. Additionally, it is advisable to maintain a physical distance.

It is advisable to avoid going on dates alone and to limit discussions to non-personal topics.

3. Conduct oneself in an appropriate manner.

It is often unclear at the outset of an encounter with a potential romantic partner whether the other person is suitable as a partner.

This will place the relationship in a state of ambiguity. Nevertheless, at the same time, neither party will explicitly state that this is a phase during which both individuals are evaluating each other in the initial stages of the relationship.

At this juncture, it is imperative to ascertain whether the other individual is a suitable partner. In the event that they are not, it is essential to gradually disengage from the relationship, limiting the potential for private interactions and solo outings. Conversely, if the other person is deemed an appropriate partner,

One may choose to clarify the nature of the relationship with the other person, or alternatively, indicate a desire to become more involved by scheduling additional meetings and social engagements.

In essence, the primary reason for heightened sensitivity regarding the other person is a lack of understanding of how to interact with the opposite sex. Concurrently, there is a dearth of clarity regarding one's own needs.

Furthermore, you are overly concerned with how others perceive you.

It is my hope that the aforementioned text will provide some insight into how to interact with the opposite sex. I wish you the best of luck in your future endeavors to find your ideal partner.

A word of comfort.

The questioner's description

At 20, when making friends with the opposite sex, you always look at their words and deeds closely. You want love, but you can't let go. You think a lot, you get jealous, you're unhappy, and you want to be his favorite, but you don't really like him.

For same-sex friends, I feel uncomfortable too, but not as much.

The questioner is confused.

I don't know what to do to change and improve.

Words to the questioner

It's confusing to say you're in the early stages of love.

They want to be intimate with the opposite sex.

They also worry about whether they're showing their best selves and doing well.

Also, jealousy and selfishness are more common during this stage. I hope I can be the one who is cared for in relationships, even if you and the other person are not intimate.

I hope the OP can get through the early stages of love quickly.

Everyone has friends they like. Everyone has something to admire about each other. I hope the OP can realize this soon.