At work, those who perform poorly often find it hard to accept criticism, which can be quite frustrating.

Hello there!

It's totally normal to get told off by your boss at work. I've been there, and I totally get how you're feeling right now. I'm sending you a big hug!

Let's take a step back and focus on the issue at hand, shall we?

Yesterday, you let the students study for one period and read extracurricular books, which the vice principal happened to see on patrol. You were a little nervous and didn't explain properly, which is totally understandable!

I totally get it. I think you were trying to treat the kids fairly by not teaching a new lesson.

A sore throat is something that should be taken care of by colleagues and leaders. It's totally understandable that you were nervous in front of the leader, though. We've all been there! Unfortunately, your nervousness may have prevented you from explaining yourself clearly. Instead of gaining understanding, the vice-principal, who believes that children should not attend self-study classes, deemed your actions "negligent and inaction."

So, when the vice-principal, in line with her job responsibility of "supervising all the teachers," told you that you could not let the students study on their own, you were so sweet and apologetic, saying, "I'm sorry."

This is the same as not defending yourself, not saying what you think (treating the children equally) and your predicament (sore throat). And this will make the vice-principal think that her own judgment is right, that you are deliberately letting the children study on their own.

(In fact, we all like to think we're right and don't like to be contradicted. The vice-principal is like that, you are like that, and I am like that too. It's just human nature!

I'm so sorry this happened!

So, when she goes back, she might think it's a good idea to remind the whole school that "students should not be allowed to study on their own." She'll probably say that it's important to make sure this doesn't happen again. (This is where her job responsibilities lie, and it's also where she can show everyone that she's right and that her ideas and actions are correct and necessary.)

When I got back to the office, the head of the teaching and research group told me that the vice principal had called to remind him about the matter again.

Hi there! I just wanted to give you a heads-up that at 10:30, the vice-principal mentioned in the group chat that teachers aren't allowed to let students study on their own.

Hi there! I just wanted to give you a heads-up that at 2 o'clock, the school's OA issued a document again mentioning that the administration was required to step up patrols and prohibit teachers from letting students study on their own.

I really thought this matter was finally over, but this afternoon the principal ran into the head of the teaching and research group and asked about it again.

The team leader came back and told me that the principal had come by to ask again.

I'm really sorry to hear you've been through a lot recently. It's a "series" of blows that have caused you to become more and more frustrated.

I just wanted to remind you that it might be helpful to step outside of your emotions and take a moment to notice the "time difference" in communication between the head of the teaching and research group, the OA, the vice principal, and the principal. It's possible that this time difference in communication might have led to them questioning you several times.

I know you've been feeling frustrated, but I really need you to take a step back and look at this matter of "not giving in" a few more times.

I know it can be frustrating when people don't follow through on their promises. It seems like the head of the teaching and research group went along with the wishes of the vice-principal and the principal, who were a few days apart, and acted as a mouthpiece for the two of them. They even gave you a "knock on the chime twice."

The "daily reminders" in the mass group and OA are just a way for the leader to share their thoughts with everyone, and they're not meant to be named.

This shows that you're not alone! As teachers, it's tough when so many kids are out of class. It's natural to want to treat them all the same. We get it!

I just want you to know that the group and the OA aren't "targeting you," they're just notifying or reminding everyone of the fact that "the children cannot study on their own."

So, how you "interpret" an event can really affect your emotions and, in turn, your thoughts.

Your depression and complaining at the office. It's actually all because of your wrong interpretation of the information. I know it can be tough, but I'm here to help!

Oh, everything is just directed at me!

But when you take a deep breath and calm down, you know deep down that

Looking back, I realize I could have been more careful, and I let my frustration get the better of me in the office. I'm so sorry for that!

I can see that you're feeling pretty tired and frustrated right now. I totally get it!

It's totally normal to feel this way sometimes. We all have moments where we feel like we're not good enough, or that we make mistakes at work. It's okay to have these feelings, but it's also important to remember that everyone makes mistakes. We're all imperfect, and that's okay! It's also normal to feel self-doubt, self-negation, and perfectionism. We all have high standards for ourselves, and it's natural to feel this way sometimes. It's important to remember that we're all human, and we all make mistakes. It's also important to be kind to ourselves. We all deserve to love ourselves for who we are, imperfections and all!

I know it can be tough, but I want you to remember that it's not the incident itself or even the vice-principal's "seizure" that's wearing you down. It's your own inner conflict. And you know what? That's okay! It's already in the past.

We all have our own inner obstacles to overcome, and that's okay!

So, what can you do? You can adjust yourself!

In terms of practice, when you encounter similar situations where too many children miss classes, don't worry! Instead of studying on your own, you can attend review classes. When you have a sore throat and don't want to talk, let the children be "little teachers" and go up to the stage to explain the questions. Or, you can write down a few open-ended discussion questions and let the children discuss in groups, and then answer them one by one.

If you know you're wrong, don't be afraid to correct it! We all grow through trial and error, so why shouldn't adults do the same? The concept of "lifelong learning" applies to all aspects of life.

Absolutely! Teachers can learn from their mistakes, grow, and improve. It's so great to see senior doctors always being popular and trusted by patients in our hospital.

Finally, when it comes to that tricky knot of "perfectionism" and "self-attack," it's so important to take the time to understand where it comes from, pay attention to the various psychological problems it can cause, and actively find ways to change this way of thinking.

It's also so important to accept yourself, and you've got to do your homework well!