Be beaten from a young age, as if it were all up to their joys and sorrows?

It's upsetting to see that you've been abused since childhood. This may be domestic violence. It's difficult to grow up under such abuse. Your happiness and unhappiness are tied to them.

Your every word and action is watched. The slightest mistake will result in punishment. This may also make you fear your parents and family. You have your own achievements and talents.

Your teachers and classmates like you, but you don't like going home because your family is scary and your emotions are suppressed. They don't respect you and don't know how to apologize.

You will rebel again, but you will still be hurt. You have already developed some extreme thoughts. You even want to disappear before the college entrance exam. You just want a warm family.

However, your family can't give you that. After a long time in this environment, you may become violent. You are trying to control yourself, to cherish the good people and to have a better life.

If you want a better life, it's best to keep calm and let yourself grow slowly. There are about three years left before you become an adult and go to university. You can make money to support yourself. All kinds of violence from your parents are wrong, but right now you don't have enough energy to resist, so it's best to take a detour and not fight. I believe you will be better when you become an adult, and I recommend that you seek counseling.

ZQ?

Insightful and soulful, sharing becomes a habit! I'm talking to myself, and it feels great!

I recently read an incredible book called "Healing from the Trauma of the Original Family."

I'm so excited to use the original question as a jumping-off point to share a few key points from the book! I really hope that the text will give the original poster something to think about.

1. Understanding the concept of "original family wounds" is a great place to start!

Let's dive deep into the world of parenting! Any behavior or words of a parent towards their child that are not motivated by nurturing or love, or any parent who makes their child feel ashamed of their own nature, we can call it a "primary family wound."

I'm excited to share that there are four types of wounds from the original family:

Physical injury; verbal injury; sexual injury; emotional injury.

Today, we have the exciting opportunity to share about "Bodily Harm."

There is a limit to corporal punishment, and it does not change according to the parents' emotions. When physical abuse is used, the parents' main goal is to vent their anger, and to use "hitting" to tell the child: I am stronger than you, and you must obey me unconditionally. Therefore, the more angry the parents are, the more severe the physical abuse.

It's so important to remember that physical abuse can really damage a child's sense of trust and security. It can be really overwhelming for children when they're faced with a parent who is abusive physically. They often don't know how to trust and rely on an adult who is causing them physical pain and injury. It can also be really difficult for them to adapt to a living environment full of sudden dangers and harm.

Physical abuse also greatly undermines a child's appreciation of their own body. But there is hope! In the face of physical abuse and neglect, children can come to believe that their bodies are worthless and unimportant.

It's only natural that children don't know how to respect other people's bodies. This is why we often see adult children who have experienced physical abuse in their original families being attracted to partners with a propensity for violence in intimate relationships. Or, some adult children, after forming their own families, are unable to control the violence they inflict on their children and partners.

That leads me to my next question:

What can we do to understand our original families better?

As we grow up day by day, we have the incredible opportunity to find reasonable explanations for our parents' actions. By doing so, we can "brainwash" the essence of these actions that have led to the wounds of our original families, and create a new, positive narrative for ourselves.

But remember, confronting the wounds of our original family is not about condemning our parents. It's about helping us sort through our past lives and identify the mental or physical wounds in our memories so we can find ways to heal them! Blaming our parents or trying to exonerate them is not conducive to healing the wounds of our original family.

Today, when I read this passage of yours,

I don't know if you have any real experience, but the language you use could be more engaging.

Have you noticed that you are slowly becoming the person you most want to avoid? It's an amazing process!

It's so interesting how when we try to escape the influence of our parents, we end up getting even more caught up in the quagmire! When we're feeling anxious, angry, or even just a little crazy, we find that we end up scolding ourselves and looking like the person we really want to avoid. And when things are going well, we run in the opposite direction of our parents, but when we're in a hurry, we end up making the same choices as our parents!

This fascinating phenomenon is related to the self-protection mechanism that people automatically activate when they encounter harm. When we were young and unable to resist the wounds of our parents' original family, we had no choice but to obey our parents. Subconsciously, we absorbed some of our parents' character traits and thinking patterns, and through "imitating" our parents' words, deeds, and mannerisms, we adapted better to the environment created by our parents. This is called "internal projection" in psychology, and it's a truly remarkable process!

Over time, the parts of ourselves that we subconsciously imitate from our parents gradually deepen and become part of our own character traits and thinking patterns. This is known in psychology as "similation," and it's an amazing process!

And now for the final word!

Some say that children are a mirror for their parents, and I think there's a lot of truth to that!

They're actually a mirror for the child!

We are young and ignorant, but we have so much to learn! We learn to get along with others through mutual cooperation with our parents.

And we can learn to view ourselves and the world in a whole new way!

The wounds of the original family have covered this mirror with a thick layer of dust, but there's so much more to discover!

This means that our self-perception, our view of others, and our understanding of the world are all shaped by our parents.

They are incomplete, confused, and distorted—and that's okay!

I have a suggestion for the questioner: if you have time, you should definitely read the book "Walking Out of the Trauma of Your Original Family." I think you'll find it really helpful!

I'm so excited for you! I really hope you can overcome the trauma of your childhood and embrace the sunshine of your own life very soon.

Hello, question asker.

First, I want to give you a big, warm hug! I can see that your current situation is very difficult for you. It's as if I'm seeing you approaching your high school entrance exam, suffering from this kind of distress, in a state of collapse and helplessness. I want to hug you again!

I would like to take this opportunity to share my thoughts with you. I believe that your talent for painting is the reason you should live out your life. It is truly admirable! In junior high school, you were already able to make money online by taking orders, and you made so much money! It is impressive! How many people do you have to compare yourself to? You are really amazing, and I admire you.

It is unfortunate that as children, we do not have the choice of our parents or the environment we grow up in. Despite the challenges we face, we have survived and are now in junior high school, almost adults. It is inspiring to see that you have such talent and skill in painting, which shows that your potential should not be underestimated.

I must admit that I am not particularly skilled at drawing, so I am eager to see your work. Your drawings are truly remarkable! I often imagine what a lovely and serene girl you must be, given your talent for drawing. I do wonder, though, whether your parents made the right decision in entrusting you to your elders.

I empathize with your feelings of resentment. As I mentioned earlier, we don't have the choice of who our parents are, so it's important to face these challenges with resilience. This reminds me of what Mencius said:

Heaven entrusts great responsibilities to ordinary people, but it must first test their abilities, challenge their limits, and encourage them to pursue what they are not yet capable of doing.

Perhaps we could consider that after suffering, there must be great happiness. Besides, we'll be going to high school soon, and we'll be able to earn our own money, so we'll have less and less time with our parents.

As we grow older, our minds tend to improve. For instance, you are now aware that you can seek help when needed. There is a psychological theory that suggests awareness of oneself is the first step towards healing. By coming here for help, you have demonstrated your awareness of yourself, which is an encouraging sign that you are on the path to healing.

This is also a good reason for you to continue living, not to mention that there is the high school entrance exam coming up soon. With your excellent drawing grades, as long as we can maintain a positive outlook, there is no reason why you cannot enter a top high school.

I wonder if I might ask why we are in this state now, feeling a little incompatible with our parents to the point where we can't maintain the superficial harmony as before. Could it be that, in addition to the reasons your parents and the previous generation have given, we are currently under the pressure of the college entrance examination?

In other words, it's not just you who are feeling the pressure of the entrance exam; your parents are also under a lot of stress. The entrance exam is like a fuse, and you are all in this environment together, so it's understandable that you might feel more irritable than usual.

I believe that once you have successfully navigated this stage, you will both gradually be able to stabilize your emotions. In particular, you will have the opportunity to learn a great deal in high school, and you will likely gain a wisdom that surpasses that of your parents. In other words, in the future, you may have to take a circuitous route to deal with your family life.

With your excellent painting skills, I am confident that you will continue to progress in your artistic journey and eventually become a renowned painter. I will be eagerly awaiting your success and hope to hear you say, "I have become a painter."

Don't you think it's worth striving for a brighter future and seizing the opportunity to overcome this challenge? I believe in you! You're still young, and remember that the world and I love you!

My dear child, I hug you!

You really haven't had an easy time over the years.

You're in a good position to get help. I'm here to chat and give you the support you need.

Take care of your emotions.

You are experiencing intense emotions now, likely due to prolonged repression.

Your parents may love you, but

Their violent behavior has caused you great harm.

Their patterns will affect you, and you need to be aware of it.

First, hug yourself properly to let your emotions have an outlet.

You're doing the right thing by coming here to talk about it.

If pent-up emotions are not allowed to flow, they will erupt.

You want to destroy everything right now to let your emotions out.

This is not a good way.

Think of other ways to make yourself feel better.

You should consider hiding from your parents for a while. Are there any other relatives you can go to?

You should talk to a teacher you trust about your problems.

You could have calmed down, but it's difficult when your parents scold you and kick the door to scare you. It's challenging when external stimuli are always present.

Ask them what they would do if they didn't hit or swear at you. That's the only way to stop them.

Ask them directly when they're not hitting or swearing at you what you can do to stop them.

Tell them you're preparing for the entrance exam and expect them to be more understanding.

2. You must separate from your parents.

2. You must separate from your parents.

Self-differentiation is the ability to distinguish between what belongs to oneself and what belongs to others in the process of interpersonal interaction, maintain independence and autonomy, and at the same time coordinate reason and emotion.

You have been hurt too much in this family.

Parents have limitations.

We can build a psychological boundary to protect ourselves.

I know it's hard, but you can do this.

You're on the right track. Keep up the good work.

From now on, don't suppress your negative emotions. Take better care of yourself and find out what makes you feel comfortable.

Don't pretend to be happy. Show your true self. All pretense is stressful.

I need someone to protect me.

We cannot change our parents, so we must accept the situation. We must then find ways to cope with it and reduce the harm it causes us.

In a family, everyone has energy.

Your strength is growing, and your parents are not adapting. They are using their strength to resist you and suppress you.

Take responsibility for what you can do.

You must take care of yourself first.

3. Restructure a story.

3. Restructure a story.

Narrative psychology definitively states that everyone is the narrator and creator of their own life story.

Narrative psychology definitively states that everyone is the narrator and creator of their own life story.

You can get out of a difficult situation. All you have to do is change the story.

Narrative therapy is clear: separate the person from the problem.

"People are not the problem, the problem is the problem."

Change the story in your own head.

My parents were moody and I was often beaten.

I have always tried to grow up well, even in such an environment.

I have a good relationship with my classmates and teachers, but I am not afraid to admit that I have a lot of inner suffering.

I have always found a way out, grown up slowly, and faced them in a more suitable way, even if it was difficult.

Caring for yourself and treating yourself well is a skill.

Find your own resources.

Don't hurt yourself.

For example, I can paint, I can make money online, and I have good friends.

Write down everything you've done right.

Tell your teachers or classmates. They can help relieve your inner pressure.

If you can, go to the hospital. You might need medication to help you adjust.

Take control and calm yourself down.

Get help from all sides.

You will get through this.

You've got this!

The world and I love you!

Hello, I am Gu Yi. I tend to be modest and self-effacing, and I try to be consistent in my approach.

You may find it helpful to be your own hope.

I believe that as long as we have love in our hearts, we will be loved in return.

After reading your description, I've been reflecting on it for some time. This is a challenging topic. As someone who is not directly involved, I may not fully comprehend the nuances of your experience. However, it is evident that your classmates, teacher, and school hold a positive regard for you, which suggests that despite the difficulties, there are still elements of positivity in your experience.

I believe that this is the kind of love from friends, classmates, and school that fills your life with reasons to work hard. As a result, when everyone in the original family is emotionally normal, we seem to others to be a very nice and harmonious family.

This beautiful illusion has piled up and nurtured the seeds of love in your heart. Perhaps now is the time for that love to take root and sprout in our hearts as well.

We have already survived the most challenging times, and we have gradually built up our resilience. As you mentioned in your description, perhaps we did not have this awareness before, but now we can be aware of it, and we will demand an explanation and seek an apology.

This is our soul and dignity. We are gradually becoming more aware of our rights and are working towards a resolution.

It might be helpful to give yourself a little strength.

As you prepare to enter high school, you may be aware that many schools have policies requiring students to live in school dormitories. This could be a time when you might consider temporarily living in a dormitory, which could help you to live more harmoniously with your biological family. However, it's important to remember that there is a boundary between us and our biological families, and that crossing this boundary could cause difficulties for the other party. It's therefore helpful to observe where this boundary lies.

It can be challenging to feel loved and treated well in the present moment. It's natural to seek an outlet for our emotions, even if it manifests as yelling or screaming at home. However, it's important to recognize that everyone loves differently, and the outcome of love may vary from person to person.

It is therefore important to protect ourselves, seek out as much sunshine as possible, and work towards a healthier mental state. As we grow up, we gradually take more control of our lives, and it is beneficial to love and care for ourselves, which can help us to have a better future.

If I may make a suggestion, it would be to remember to love and cherish the life within yourself.

I wish you the best.

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

Gently touch the questioner's head and hope that they can feel a little warmth. The bullying by family members has made the questioner feel desperate, lonely, and bipolar.

When you feel helpless, lonely, or despairing, suicidal or destructive thoughts can arise. It's like being bullied at home, surrounded by despair and unable to see a way out.

The questioner might think that suicide is the only way to escape these overwhelming feelings, but there are actually many ways to cope with them. Even if the student currently feels that this is simply impossible, I want to assure you that with the help of mental health professionals, you can definitely heal your mind and regain joy.

If the questioner still feels there's something in this world they value or something they haven't finished, and they're considering suicide, here are some ways I know to help. If the questioner has problems in life, at home, or if they want to commit suicide, they can call the national helpline 400-161-9995. This is a 24-hour helpline, open all year round.

You can also call these professional operators, who can help you work through your suicidal thoughts through conversation.

Make sure you're safe and create a safe space.

Find a place where you can get away from your parents, like the questioner's bedroom or a corner of the house. You can even go to a friend's house or somewhere else you feel safe and separate from your parents.

When things get tough, find a quiet spot where you can take a moment to calm down. Choose a place where you won't be disturbed or bothered by your parents.

It's not a good idea to use the living room or other shared spaces as safe spaces.

If things get out of hand, it's best to give your parents some space.

If your parents want to scold you, find a safe space and don't argue with them. When the conversation gets intense and hurtful, don't fight back. Just leave the place.

There's no need to put up with hurtful remarks. If the situation becomes unbearable, you can even go to a friend or relative's house.

It's not productive to respond impulsively when your parents attack you.

However, an impulsive response might make things worse in the long run. It's best to respond to the other person in a polite, neutral way that doesn't make you feel bad about yourself.

For instance, you could say, "I know you're trying to do what's best for me, but could you please not resort to violence?" Or, "I'll wake up if you call me. If you think hitting me is more effective, you can hit the pillow I'm sleeping on. I'll wake up."

"If you really love me, please support me and be gentle with me."

Dealing with these painful memories

The parents' and family elders' beatings have really affected the questioner's sense of self-worth and made them feel insecure. It would be helpful for the questioner to try to understand why they were treated this way.

Could it be some kind of male-supremacy concept that makes them feel that the questioner deserves to be treated this way? These distorted concepts were probably instilled in them by their elders since childhood, and they were even treated this way since childhood, so they are treating the questioner this way now. Understanding their motives is not about asking the questioner to forgive them, but about allowing the questioner to face them more calmly and understand why they were treated this way.

This will help you to let go of your emotions and deal with what has happened to you in a more composed manner.

These relatives and elders may have been given the wrong ideas since childhood, which can affect how you see yourself and distort your self-knowledge. It's important to remember that your self-worth isn't determined by your parents' or elders' opinions.

It doesn't matter what your grades are or whether you like to draw in your spare time. You are a wonderful and valuable person. You can tell yourself, "My personal value is not defined by my grades."

"Even if I'm not good enough for my parents, I'm good enough for myself, and that's what matters."

Get some professional help.

Sometimes suicidal thoughts can feel overwhelming. You don't have to deal with them alone. Just call an emergency number or a suicide crisis intervention hotline for professional help. The operators at these hotlines are trained to answer your call at any time.

Suicidal thoughts and related impulsive behaviors often lead to serious consequences. If you can get help in time, it shows you're strong and brave.

Emergency numbers and suicide crisis intervention hotlines are free and anonymous. The state also keeps a close eye on students' psychological safety. Most schools have psychological counselors on staff. If you feel like committing suicide, you can ask a teacher you trust for help and ask the school's psychological counselor for counseling.

They can also show you some useful ways to cope, so you can feel more at ease at home. You can also talk to any adult you trust, such as a nurse, teacher, or school administrator.

Make a list of the people you love.

To help you cope with suicidal thoughts, try making a list of the people and things you love. Start with your best friends and favorite people. Then, think about the places, music, movies, and books that have really touched you and brought you joy. Don't forget to include the little things that make you happy, like the food you love to eat and the sports you love to do. And don't be afraid to list your super hobbies that make you obsessed and crazy—like painting.

You can also list the things you like about yourself. For example, your personality, appearance, past achievements, or things you're proud of.

You can also list the things you want to do. For example, places you want to go, places you want to go with a kitten, someone you want to love, things you've always wanted to do but haven't had the time.

When you're depressed or anxious or thinking about suicide, it can be hard to see the good in yourself. That's why it's a good idea to have a friend or colleague with you when you make this list.

Jot down a few emergency contacts.

The list should include at least five trusted people, with their names and contact details clearly marked. If you have suicidal thoughts, call them right away.

It's a good idea to include as many people as possible on the list, because even if you can't get through to someone right away, there are still other people to choose from.

If the questioner has spoken to a school counselor, add their name and contact details to the list. Also, if there's an organization that can help, include the name and number of the person to contact there.

And don't forget to include the suicide crisis intervention hotline 400-161-9995 and the help line 12338 for domestic bullying in your list so you can get counseling or shelter services.

Asking for help because a family member is bullying you and you want to commit suicide is not a sign of weakness. It shows you're resilient and value yourself, and you're actively seeking a way to survive. Find the things in your life that are worth holding on to: your cat, the paintings you've done, the classmates and teachers who like and protect you.

Don't worry about asking friends and family for help causing them trouble. They really care about you and are happy to help.

I'm pleased that the questioner is reaching out for help, which shows they're actively seeking a solution.

It might seem like everything is terrible and there's no way out for the current questioner, but there will always be someone on this earth who will love you as much as ever, even if you can't feel it right now. Don't let negative energy blind your heart and prevent you from seeing your own beauty. Fight against fate to the end and never give up.

I hope my answer helps the person who asked the question.

I appreciate your support. I'm surprised that anyone would care about me.

I started to cry again.

I've never been told this before. I don't know how to thank you. It's not easy for anyone, but you were willing to encourage and comfort me. This has never happened before. Thank you. I don't know what to say. My parents will check my payment records and everything. Sooner or later, it will be revealed here.

It's not a big deal. Take the beating. I've called the police countless times in my dreams and chopped them up with a knife countless times. It's just a dream. Reality can't change anything.

I just got my phone stolen, and I almost exposed myself in the same place.

After I die, they will have another child, and he will become the next me. They will never change, they are always right. The whole family is twisted and dark like maggots. I will become such an adult in the future, and my child will become me now.

It's as if that's just how they are. I've decided I'm not going to end this vicious cycle. I just want to avoid going to prison or a mental institution. I'd rather be dead than not free.

Tears are useless. I never cried in front of outsiders, and they all thought I was amazing. I didn't think there was any need to cry, whether I didn't do well in an exam or got scolded by a teacher in elementary school. When I got home, I still didn't get the encouragement and reasonable dialogue I wanted to hear, only endless verbal abuse and physical violence.

My father called me a stupid idiot. My mother couldn't take it anymore, and he cursed even more enthusiastically.

My room was secretly fitted with a surveillance camera, and I knew exactly the sound of the tiny mechanical movements. I listened to it all night long, wondering what use it was. I changed in my room every day, so it didn't matter anymore.

I bought a new mosquito net, and I used clips to attach blankets around the edges (so that I couldn't see inside). I was scolded again and told I couldn't do it.

It doesn't matter.

There is no difference between living and dying now.

The one thing I am grateful for is being able to go to school and pet cats.

It will collapse one day.

It doesn't matter. I'm not going to cry.

Good day, colleague. I can see the confusion you are facing.

I have carefully reviewed your correspondence and empathize with your circumstances. Please accept my sincerest condolences.

I believe you possess unique qualities, including artistic talent, and have the potential to excel in a first-category high school.

It is likely that your parents will adopt a similar approach, resorting to physical punishment and verbal abuse. This may be influenced by their own upbringing.

In their parents' generation, that was probably how they were raised. They believed that a firm disciplinary approach was necessary to ensure proper upbringing.

Therefore, they erroneously believe that this is an appropriate disciplinary approach for their children, thereby perpetuating this flawed methodology among their peers.

You may feel that your current situation is untenable due to the influence of your parents in your original family. This is understandable, given your relative youth and the limitations this places on your ability to protect yourself.

However, at some point in the future, you will reach adulthood and may pursue a career as an artist, thereby becoming financially independent.

At that time, you will be in a position to move out and avoid the negative influence of your parents.

However, should you elect to depart from this world prematurely, your aspiration to become an artist may not be realized.

If the current disciplinary approach of your parents is not to your liking, you are encouraged to communicate your thoughts and feelings to them in a frank manner.

It is important to remember that parents are not mind readers. They will not be aware of your concerns unless you communicate them to them directly.

In the event that you are experiencing suicidal ideation, I advise you to contact the national 24-hour crisis intervention hotline.

I hope you will be able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing as soon as possible.

These are the only suggestions I have at this time.

I hope my responses above will prove helpful and inspiring to you. I am the solution, and I study diligently every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our best wishes to you and the world.

Dear Classmate, After reading your description, I am compelled to extend a gesture of support and understanding. It also brings to mind a saying that resonates with me: "Parents are sick and still taking medicine."

This is a common practice among families who homeschool their children. The importance of homeschooling will be discussed further on.

First, let us examine your upbringing in your original family. This is particularly relevant in the case of parents of the older generation, who would inflict severe physical punishment with a clothesline pole and then act as if nothing had happened after expressing their anger.

This is a typical response.

Reading this text, I can also visualize the scene. I can only imagine how frightened and vulnerable you must have felt.

As you mature, you will likely engage in rebellious behavior. If your elders resort to physical violence, you will respond in kind, though this will only exacerbate the situation. From this passage, it is evident that you are aware of the wrongfulness of your elders' actions but lack the strength to take action.

I would like to extend my sincerest apologies and offer my support in the form of a warm embrace.

Secondly, you indicated that you prefer school and its teachers and classmates, and that you utilize it as a means of avoiding home. You expressed dislike for returning home.

You have indicated that you do not wish to return home. Your current situation at school provides you with a sense of warmth and comfort, and I am led to believe that your teachers and classmates are also very kind to you.

We hope you enjoy this wonderful time at school.

With regard to returning home, it would be beneficial to consider alternative approaches to the communication environment at home. It is important to recognise that the older generation is accustomed to a parenting style that may have been prevalent during their own upbringing. This approach could potentially involve physical discipline.

Therefore, they are compelled to replicate their parents' parenting style towards you, as they lack more optimal alternatives.

Then, how should this issue be addressed? With the passage of time, you will gradually become more mature.

Your knowledge and abilities will continue to develop, and you will eventually communicate to them in a professional and respectful manner that they have matured and are now of an age where they should be treated as such.

Finally, when the day comes that you have achieved academic success, that is, when you are in a position of strength, it may be possible to take action.

Perhaps the best course of action is to focus on building your strength and resilience.

Additionally, you may opt to document your upbringing and share it with others when you have attained academic success. This could potentially prevent other families from making the same misguided parenting decisions that can be detrimental to children. Are you open to this approach?

Let's proceed.

Hello.

Host:

I am Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I have carefully read the post, and I can clearly see the pain and hardship you have experienced. At the same time, I also notice that you have bravely expressed your innermost feelings and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help you better understand and recognize yourself and your family, and thereby adjust your state of mind.

Next, I will share my observations and thoughts from the post, which will help the poster view the situation from a more diverse perspective.

1. Express your emotions reasonably.

From the post, it's clear the poster mentioned your experiences growing up. After reading this, I'm certain the poster needs a hug.

You have also suppressed a lot of emotions, including anger and hatred.

These emotions have clearly been suppressed.

I am certain that all of this has been very depressing and hard for the original poster! The solution is simple: we can try to express these emotions reasonably and allow our emotions to flow, which will undoubtedly make the original poster feel a little more relaxed.

The original poster should express their emotions. Writing is a common method in psychology.

Express your feelings, thoughts, and anger. This is the only way to make sure our emotions are heard and expressed, and to alleviate them.

You can also use this method in a diary to express your emotions. This will make the host feel better.

2. These experiences are not the whole of our lives.

You have experienced a lot since you were a child. It's not easy, but it also proves your bravery.

You got through it, no matter how hard it was. Many people cannot do that.

The experiences we have had since childhood have been mostly negative, and they have caused us a great deal of harm.

I want to be clear: these injuries are not all you are. I have observed that you are now in the third year of junior high school, and you are slowly growing up. And as you grow up, you will be able to take more and more responsibility for your own life.

You are in control of your life. It may take on a different form, but you are the one who decides.

So, despite all the pain, I want to be clear: these pains are not the whole of your life. The exciting part of your life is when you grow up and take responsibility for your life and be yourself.

3. Look for the positive in every situation, even the bad ones.

Let's be real. Your living environment has given you a lot of pain, and it's a fact. I know you've wanted to give up many times because of it.

The good news is that the host has not given up on himself and has sought help on the platform. This undoubtedly also shows that there is still a glimmer of hope in the host's heart.

We can't change the past, and that may make it hard to let go. But is there really nothing we can do?

I am certain that there is still some light in our lives. We can and should try to change our perspective on past events. We must find some positive meaning in the bad experiences.

This will help us change our perspective. Things always have two sides.

They may hurt us and cause pain, but we have developed the ability to endure and even learn to live with it.

I am certain that these abilities will help us in the future as we grow up. They will even allow us to reap more benefits in the future.

If we stretch the timeline, we will see that what we lose now will be gained in the future.

4. The light in life

The post is about your bad experiences. You also mentioned that every teacher liked you and that you liked learning and your teachers and classmates.

I am certain that the affection of your teachers and classmates also gave you a sense of warmth! I am sure you also had touching moments in your interactions with them.

These moments are undoubtedly the light in your life. You also have artistic talents that have nourished you.

They have also brought you a lot of joy.

This means you still have plenty of strength to draw on. I hope this is helpful and inspiring for you.

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from a distance.

The experience of being subjected to unreasonable abuse at the hands of those closest to you can evoke a profound sense of being unloved, disrespected, and unwanted.

It can be observed that there is a clear perception that violence against oneself by one's family is unacceptable. Additionally, there is an evident capacity to appropriately resist this form of deeply hurting oneself in order to better protect oneself. However, there is a notable increase in discomfort when one's own actions are taken into account, particularly when the emotional behavior of the family member in question returns to a state of normalcy. This phenomenon can be seen as an indication that there has been an internalization of the family member's treatment of the individual. It is possible that this internalization may be driven by a sense of inadequacy, a belief that one has done something wrong, and a subsequent need to take responsibility for the emotional behavior of the family member, rather than recognizing the influence of their own actions.

This is an example of the instinctive loyalty and love of a child towards their parents. Children often evaluate and define themselves through their parents' words and actions. If parents provide excessive affirmation, encouragement, praise, and support for their children, the children will become more confident and convinced that they are good and deserve to be loved.

Conversely, when parents employ a disproportionate amount of negative reinforcement, including scolding, criticizing, and harsh treatment, children may develop into individuals who exhibit low self-esteem and a strong sense of self-rejection.

The manner in which an individual is treated can significantly influence their own self-treatment and their interactions with others. The motivation behind parents' seemingly harsh disciplinary actions, such as scolding and physical punishment, is not necessarily a reflection of the child's inherent worth or wrongdoing. Rather, it may stem from the parents' own experiences of being treated similarly by their own parents, resulting in a sense of unworthiness and deprivation during their formative years. Without a clear understanding of the parenting style they were exposed to during their upbringing and the absence of an alternative model for nurturing a healthy parent-child relationship, parents may unintentionally perpetuate the same patterns of behavior they experienced from their own parents.

Once the underlying reasons for one's parents' actions are understood, it becomes possible to accept and understand their behavior, thereby facilitating the healing of one's own trauma. This understanding can prevent the recurrence of traumatic experiences.

What are your thoughts on this matter?

One should endeavor to convey, in a sincere manner, the physical and mental harm caused by their parents' actions of beating and scolding them for no apparent reason. It is essential to express the longing for a different form of treatment. It is crucial to refrain from judging the actions of one's parents but rather to express the genuine feelings and needs from the depth of one's heart. At the same time, it is vital to convey the profound love one has for them. One has the option of sharing this letter with one's parents or not. The objective is to facilitate the acknowledgment, expression, and resolution of the emotional and psychological trauma caused by one's parents' actions of beating and scolding them when they were young. This process marks the initial step in the journey towards reconciliation with one's inner self and one's parents.

Subsequently, one should endeavor to cultivate an idealized parental figure within oneself and endeavor to reclaim the emotional and psychological needs that were previously unmet within the familial unit. This can be achieved by respecting one's authentic physical and mental sensations and striving to express one's emotions and necessities in a courageous and sincere manner. Additionally, responding to one's emotions in a timely manner through avenues such as pursuing interests and passions, maintaining an emotional journal, engaging in discourse with supportive individuals, meditating, and other techniques can be beneficial.

It is imperative that one is treated with respect and consideration by oneself and others. It is my hope that my contributions will prove to be a source of support and assistance to you.

The world and I extend our love to you.

My child, you have been wronged, but there are so many reasons to go on living! For example, the fact that your classmates and teachers like you shows that you have obvious strengths. Otherwise, why would they like you? You must affirm your own advantages and strengths!

The results of the third year of junior high school might not have been the best, but there's still a chance for art students to go to high school! With a high school enrollment rate of only about 50%, there's plenty of room for you to get in. All you need to do is get into high school and keep up the hard work in your major. Then, you'll be set for college as an art student! And who knows, you might even get into a great college. This is one of the reasons to live, because you have a bright future ahead of you!

In fact, many parents only become parents after giving birth to their children, and they have the incredible opportunity to learn how to be parents and teach their children.

I don't know about your life or upbringing, but from your description, it sounds like your parents still hold onto the same educational values they had as children. Maybe that's how they were brought up, so they don't realize what the right way is—but you can show them!

Your spirit of rebellion is absolutely wonderful! If a person is afraid to speak up for themselves, then this pent-up emotion will distort their character over time.

Maybe a different approach is just what you need! You and your parents are in a state of confrontation. Your parents think that children should obey their educational methods unconditionally, and if they disobey, they are disobedient. They should use strict methods to correct and maintain their authority as parents.

This behavior is a sign of a lack of self-confidence, which is something we can easily work on together! They don't know what is right and what is wrong, what is right and what is wrong, and what the correct way of communicating with children is. They simply and rudely inherited the practices of their previous generation, but we can help them learn new ways to connect with their kids!

The support that the times give to each person is different. Your parents may have grown up in a poor family when they were young, and your grandparents were too busy making a living to pay much attention to their children's thoughts. Disobedience would delay them from working hard for a living, so they could only give their children a beating. But times have changed! We now have the opportunity to embrace a new way of thinking.

But times have changed, and we pay more attention to spiritual communication. It's time for your parents to catch up with the times! To suffer less physically and mentally and to better seek to be understood, accepted, and seen at home, we must first soften ourselves. As the saying goes, "A smiling face never hurts." Don't express your dissatisfaction in a confrontational manner. Change your approach so that your parents can also see that you are a child of the new era and that you have your own methods for resolving conflicts.

In the new era, you are the one leading the way! If they cannot support you in the spiritual world, you will support yourself. The reason for living is to show your parents your excellence and prove them wrong with your actions. Now that you are still immature, it is pointless for you to talk to them about confrontation and rebellion. You are ready to take on the world!

Any kind of bitterness is strong as long as we can walk past it with ourselves. But you're still liked by your teachers and classmates! That shows you're capable of handling things and relationships with flexibility and resilience. You can gain the strength to be recognized from harmonious social interactions. Live well, and you'll have a real chance to talk to your parents. You can tell them they were wrong, and you can even ask them for an apology, an embrace, and understanding and acceptance!